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RE: https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:le2wpa4thsenaojqrnh2hvo3/post/3mbevxshq7k2z

One of my new favorite adoptee activities is occasionally taking a silly selfie and sending it to one or both of my known siblings. We don't live near each other so it's the closest I can get to sneaking up on them, scaring them and running away giggling... I'm the eldest & raised as an only child.

Here's tonight's treasure[?] or whatever...

#adopteelife #actuallyadopted #adopteevoices

#AdopteesofMastodon #adoptee #adopteevoices :

Do you speak up about adoption online? If so what is it that you're attempting to share or teach other humans about adoption?

So often on mainstream social media, I see my fellow adoptees speaking out. I applaud them. I believe their experiences are 💯 valid no matter how they choose to present it, or whether I agree with them; however, in checking in with myself after reading their posts, I often feel a sense of negativity -- as though I'm walking away from a toxic exchange. I'm uncertain if this is merely social media somehow tainting their message, or if the individuals are simply so hurt by their experiences that the telling of them is a bit much, even for a fellow adoptee.

I wonder if any others are like me in that they believe it entirely possible to share negativity without requiring others to drink the same poison, in a sense??

Would love to see a discussion on this if anyone's open to it.

The family reunion [for my adoptive family] is this weekend. The last time I attended a reunion was probably in 2007. I got married in 2008. I never had a spouse or boyfriend or friend to attend with me. Cousins within my age bracket rarely ever attended & if they did, they either hid away reading a book or were very much better than I at small talk, connecting with distant relatives they probably won't see again till next year. My grandmother was alive & I attended most of the reunions with her. I wanted to. Reunions were typically held at a state park where I could go on brief walks, hikes, play with a camera without making others [or me] feel weird. Late last year, I learned I have biological half-siblings... I'm not going to the a-family reunion this year, though it's been years... it somehow seems so wrong that I would be attending yet another family reunion without my siblings.

#adopteevoices #adoptees #adopteefam #justthoughts #braindump

I finally got 'round to updating my Substack and going to work on posting there more often now.

I've been marveling at how much easier it is to get things done without Meta-based brain clutter.

I've not left Meta -- I may eventually hop on & deactivate accounts. But for now, I've backed away quietly. A big part of this is the fact that I'm in recent reunion with my biological family. I'm an #adoptee -- so not only am I recently in reunion, but several have added me on Facebook & it makes me sad to think of leaving the platform totally behind... feels a little like severing those relationships without giving them half a chance, even though that's not what I'd be doing at all. I will be inviting some of my newly-acquainted first family to other apps where we can do the same things as on Facebook, but I'm taking my time to figure the best way to phrase those invitations.

#adopteechallenges #adopteevoices

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First of all: to get a post into the feed, it needs to include at least one of the following terms (and please suggest more!): #adoptee #adoption #adoptees #adopteevoices #adopteesky #trafficking #trafficked #displaced #erased #erasure #adoptive #adopte #babyboxes 🥚

First of all: to get a post into the feed, it needs to include at least one of the following terms (and please suggest more!): #adoptee #adoption #adoptees #adopteevoices #adopteesky #trafficking #trafficked #displaced #erased #erasure #adoptive #adopte #babyboxes 🥚

animals & hoards guns. & me? I’ve spent 10s of 1000s of dollars in therapy, trying to repair the damage done to me by my adopters & the industry that cheerfully sold me to monsters. For profit.

The next time you feel compelled to blindly praise #adoption (or adopters), pls think of me. & my adoptive brother. & all the adoptees silently bearing their grief, confusion, trauma & abuse. & all those who didn't--or won't--survive it. /end

#AdopteeVoices

Dear Adoptee,
May you always remember that your truth is worthy of being heard; your pain is deserving of acknowledgment; & your story matters enough to be held with the utmost care. Today & every day.
@MarcelllaMoslow
#AdopteeRemembranceDay #AdopteeVoices #Adoption

On #AdopteeRemembranceDay, I’ll share a link to Pound Puppy Legacy’s Adoptee Memorial Wall, which is dedicated to adoptees lost to suicide or murdered in their adoptive families.

Sadly, it honors only a small fraction of them—there are so many more.

Please take a moment out of your day to think of them & wish their souls comfort & peace. #Adoption #AdopteeVoices https://adopteememorialwall.wordpress.com/

Oct 30 is Adoptee Remembrance Day. What is it about? ARD exists to raise public awareness of crimes against adoptees by adoptive parents/families, an action that mainstream media rarely recognizes. It also functions to raise awareness of adoptee suicide, shining a light on a difficult topic.

On Oct 30, we remember those adoptees lost to abuse, murder, suicide, & erasure & lift up the voices of adoptees who wish for a platform to speak honestly about their experiences. #AdopteeVoices #Adoption

As adoptees we stand united w/ our community to honor the memory of those we have lost to suicide, abuse, & systems that have failed to care for us; while offering support to one another in our struggle for our own rights still unrecognized by society.
#Adoption #AdopteeVoices #AdopteeRemembranceDay

“In 2022, at age 53, McNulty learned he was the child of MC5 drummer Dennis Thompson. Getting to that revelation involved a long, twisting saga of family secrets, DNA tests, genealogical detective work & one lucky remark overheard on a golf course.” #Adoption #AdopteeVoices https://www.freep.com/story/entertainment/music/brian-mccollum/2024/10/17/how-son-of-mc5-drummer-dennis-thompson-found-the-dad-he-never-knew/75577191007/

Well, that didn’t take long! I’ve already had a THERE’S ALWAYS ADOPTION response to my#OurAbortionStories thread (which is ridiculous on its face since adoption isn’t an alternative to pregnancy/childbirth, but I digress). Let me be very clear about my position. I am adopted. I’ve been living #adoption for 63 yrs. & I’d eat a bvll3t before I did to another human being what was done to me. #AdopteeVoices

My sister is giving up teaching in LA for driving a truck. A fuel tanker. She already has her tanker & hazmat endorsements. What's funny is I used to drive for a national mover on college breaks--& I'd never told her about it.

We didn't find each other until a decade ago--we didn't even know about each other--but there are so many oddball coincidences between she & I. Some are REALLY odd--& oddly specific. I sometimes wonder who I'd be if I'd always had a sister. #adoption #AdopteeVoices

#Adoption does not serve babies/children. Adoption is an INDUSTRY & that industry is about PROFIT. #AdopteeVoices

@CStamp We kill ourselves at a substantially higher rate than non-adoptees, too.

No one in this country cares how relinquishment & adoption impact us. Adopters care about themselves & their wants & the adoption industry cares about the $21 billion it earns from its customers (the adopters) every yr. That’s who #adoption serves. We are merchandise—the “supply of available infants” that feeds the massive demand. #AdopteeVoices

“& yet many [Chinese adoptees] said they support China’s decision to end intl adoptions, pointing to scandals in which agencies were found to be buying babies or outright kidnapping children to put up for intl #adoption in order to collect the lucrative fees. They also pointed to the complicated & often painful questions of identity & assimilation that Chinese adoptees, many of whom are just becoming young adults, encounter throughout their lives.” #AdopteeVoices

https://www.npr.org/sections/goats-and-soda/2024/10/17/g-s1-28521/china-adoption-international

I’ve always wondered how much you have to hate children to wish them born to ppl who don’t love or want them. #ProChoiceIsProLife #AbortionIsEssential #AdopteeVoices

I totally understand why someone would want to do this. I have TONS of freckles, & I love love love them. I always have, & I’ve always felt lucky to have them. Crazy LC hated them—she said they made me look like a “turkey egg” & tried to scrub them off my face with lemon halves.

Turns out, I got them from my super handsome father. I didn’t find that out until I was in my early 50s, but I always somehow knew they were special. 🥰 #adoption #AdopteeVoices https://www.popsugar.com/beauty/freckle-tattoos-49391578

Chickenfeed. Fcking pocket change.

But I’ll take it.

They send me please-assist-us-in-our-research emails about once a month. I just shout NOPE at my screen & delete. I’ll never willingly give them one iota of info ever again. #AdopteeVoices https://www.theverge.com/2024/9/13/24243986/23andme-settlement-dna-data-breach-lawsuit

It’s been about a yr since I’ve done a hashtag post—I think it’s time! #RockAndRoll #SoCal #DesertLife #EVs #ChronicIllness #AutoImmuneIllness #PsoriaticSpondylitis #Rinvoq #Dogs #DogsOfMastodon #Abortion #AbortionRightsAreHumanRights #AbortionIsHealthcare #Adoption #AdopteesOfMastodon #AdopteeVoices #AdopteeRightsAreHumanRights #FamilyPreservation #ERA #CancelStudentDebt #FreeEducationForAll #CleanEnergy #ReadBannedBooks #BLM #PunchANazi #Resist #EatTheRich #VoteBlue #HarrisWalz2024

It’s been about a yr since I’ve done a hashtag post—I think it’s time! #RockAndRoll #SoCal #DesertLife #EVs #ChronicIllness #AutoImmuneIllness #PsoriaticSpondylitis #Rinvoq #Dogs #DogsOfMastodon #Abortion #AbortionRightsAreHumanRights #AbortionIsHealthcare #Adoption #AdopteesOfMastodon #AdopteeVoices #AdopteeRightsAreHumanRights #FamilyPreservation #ERA #CancelStudentDebt #FreeEducationForAll #CleanEnergy #ReadBannedBooks #BLM #PunchANazi #Resist #EatTheRich #VoteBlue #HarrisWalz2024

It’s been about a yr since I’ve done a hashtag post—I think it’s time! #RockAndRoll #SoCal #DesertLife #EVs #ChronicIllness #AutoImmuneIllness #PsoriaticSpondylitis #Rinvoq #Dogs #DogsOfMastodon #Abortion #AbortionRightsAreHumanRights #AbortionIsHealthcare #Adoption #AdopteesOfMastodon #AdopteeVoices #AdopteeRightsAreHumanRights #FamilyPreservation #ERA #CancelStudentDebt #FreeEducationForAll #CleanEnergy #ReadBannedBooks #BLM #PunchANazi #Resist #EatTheRich #VoteBlue #HarrisWalz2024

It’s been about a yr since I’ve done a hashtag post—I think it’s time! #RockAndRoll #SoCal #DesertLife #EVs #ChronicIllness #AutoImmuneIllness #PsoriaticSpondylitis #Rinvoq #Dogs #DogsOfMastodon #Abortion #AbortionRightsAreHumanRights #AbortionIsHealthcare #Adoption #AdopteesOfMastodon #AdopteeVoices #AdopteeRightsAreHumanRights #FamilyPreservation #ERA #CancelStudentDebt #FreeEducationForAll #CleanEnergy #ReadBannedBooks #BLM #PunchANazi #Resist #EatTheRich #VoteBlue #HarrisWalz2024

It’s been about a yr since I’ve done a hashtag post—I think it’s time! #RockAndRoll #SoCal #DesertLife #EVs #ChronicIllness #AutoImmuneIllness #PsoriaticSpondylitis #Rinvoq #Dogs #DogsOfMastodon #Abortion #AbortionRightsAreHumanRights #AbortionIsHealthcare #Adoption #AdopteesOfMastodon #AdopteeVoices #AdopteeRightsAreHumanRights #FamilyPreservation #ERA #CancelStudentDebt #FreeEducationForAll #CleanEnergy #ReadBannedBooks #BLM #PunchANazi #Resist #EatTheRich #VoteBlue #HarrisWalz2024

Oh.

Also.

When Mr. Boots met Glenda & told her he was very sorry for her loss, she responded, “Well, he WAS adopted.”

Half of me is glad I wasn’t there for that one, & half of me wishes I had been.

Altho I rly want you to know that every adoptee has not only overheard similar comments but has been directly on the receiving end of them over & over all their fcking lives.

EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.

& if you think that has no impact on a person’s psyche, you’re wrong. #AdopteeVoices #adoption

I took a quick pic of this while reading a magazine at the dentist office yrs ago.

Altho my birth certificate consists of mostly lies, I am an Abbott & a Musgrove. I’m Basque, Norwegian, Swedish, & English/Irish/Scottish. Those are facts. I was born in Houston on a Monday morning to a woman I wouldn’t be allowed to know until 50 yrs later. I’m one of the lucky ones—many adoptees go to their graves w/o ever knowing their own identities. That’s wrong, & it must stop. #AdopteeVoices #Adoption

A must-read on the corruption that defines the #adoption industry … #AdopteeVoices

https://www.thecut.com/article/utah-adoption-private-adoption-agencies-investigation.html

w/ loss. Every single one. No baby/child becomes available for adoption w/o being legally severed from its mother, family, identity. Those losses are profound, & no matter what comes after, THERE'S NOTHING BEAUTIFUL ABOUT LOSING ONE'S FAMILY. /end #AdopteeVoices #AdopteeMastodon

@BootsChantilly

Thank you for sharing! As an adoptee who is also pro-choice, I identify with this. While I have never had an abortion, I have taken the morning after pill twice. I have gone with friends to support them to get an abortion.

🌟💟🌟

#MyBodyMyChoice #AbortionIsEssential #AbortionIsHealthcare #AdopteeVoices

6/6 another person’s LITERAL labor.

I'm a pro-choice adoptee. I'm pro-choice, pro-health, pro-sex, pro-family & pro-life. I am NOT a tool for anti-choicers & their twisted agenda. /end

#ProChoiceIsProLife #AbortionIsEssential #AbortionIsHealthCare #AdopteeVoices

"Blood is thicker than water."

I've heard that all my life--but somehow that seems to apply only to those who aren't adopted. When it comes to adoptees like me, our hypocritical society spins on a dime, & suddenly, DNA isn't important at all. So I'm going to end #NAAM with my (admittedly provocative) response to society's dismissal of my need to know who the fck I am. #adoption #AdopteeVoices

Today, for #NAAM , I'll share something I've been wondering about for decades. How does anyone expect a child to grow--much less thrive--without roots?

I spent 50 yrs of my life rootless. Completely untethered. To me, that's obscene. #adoption #AdopteeVoices

What I posted is a FB message sent out by Rebecca "Call Me Becca!" Gruenspan at RG Adoption to make sure everyone knew they were holding a Baby Sale for Black Friday weekend! & really, who doesn't love a discount baby?!? #NAAM #adoption #BabiesForSale #BuildYourFamilyWithDiscountBabies #AdopteeVoices https://rgadoptionconsulting.com

I have bad news if you've been thinking about adopting. Looks like you just missed the Black Friday baby sales! Yesterday was your last chance to get $500 off your new dishwasher, OOPS, I meant to say "baby"--your new baby! Guess you'll have to wait until next year. #adoption #NAAM #BabiesForSale #BuildYourFamilyWithDiscountBabies #AdopteeVoices

Question for adoptees: At what point do you consider your Ancestry matches to be safe to add to your tree?

I know it really mucks things up if one adds to their tree all willy-nilly, but what info do you need to confirm that X is who Ancestry is saying they are & how do you go about proving that for yourself? Thanks in advance.

#adoptees #adopteevoices #adopteesofmastodon #ancestry #genealogyquestions #genealogy #advicewelcome

Coming out of the adoption fog—leaving behind fear, obligation, guilt—was a long, complicated, beautiful journey.

My story @medium

#adopteevoices #adoptee #adopteerights

https://mindystern.medium.com/coming-out-of-the-fog-bd6891506ba1

Coming out of the adoption fog—leaving behind fear, obligation, guilt—was a long, complicated, beautiful journey.

My story @medium

#adopteevoices #adoptee #adopteerights

https://mindystern.medium.com/coming-out-of-the-fog-bd6891506ba1

Coming out of the adoption fog—leaving behind fear, obligation, guilt—was a long, complicated, beautiful journey.

My story @medium

#adopteevoices #adoptee #adopteerights

https://mindystern.medium.com/coming-out-of-the-fog-bd6891506ba1

Coming out of the adoption fog—leaving behind fear, obligation, guilt—was a long, complicated, beautiful journey.

My story @medium

#adopteevoices #adoptee #adopteerights

https://mindystern.medium.com/coming-out-of-the-fog-bd6891506ba1

Coming out of the adoption fog—leaving behind fear, obligation, guilt—was a long, complicated, beautiful journey.

My story @medium

#adopteevoices #adoptee #adopteerights

https://mindystern.medium.com/coming-out-of-the-fog-bd6891506ba1