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Vandaag #trein en #audit dag #nen7510 de norm uit de #zorg
Gelukkig is de eerste klas stilte coupe er een met zittingen niet tegenover elkaar. Zo min mogelijk prikkels helpt de dag door te komen.
Hard gewerkt aan beleid, nu kijken wat de auditor gaat zeggen
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Jeg hører til sidste halvdel af Generation-X og har siden 1981 aldrig boet i et hjem uden computer. Det blev til en hobby, til en uddannelse og endelig til en karriere.
Jeg intereserer mig for politik og samfund, oftest med en IT-vinkel og ofte med en skeptisk vinkel.
Jeg er liberal, men foragter de neoliberale anarkokapitalister.
Jeg er blevet far i en sen alder og så er jeg udiagnosticere autist og afventer udredning for ADHD.
#dkmastadon #dkpol #ActuallyAustic #introduction #introduktion
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Review of "Unmasking Autism" (5 stars): A book I wish it would be translated into > 50 languages
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#autism #AutismAcceptance #AutismAwareness #autismappreciation #Aspergers #actuallyaustic #love #romance #dating
I never understood the concept of the thrill of the chase with dating. It was always hyper stressful and awful, just made me stupid and much more likely to mess up and ruin everything.
Then I realize recently that if I wasn't playing the social interaction game on nightmare mode, I might well enjoy that thrill of the chase and longing over getting. Like any game whoever, if its too hard you really only want to give up in frustration. If the game mechanic is well balanced people love putting up with difficulty as the win is so much better. If not they just give up or in my case with difficult video games, it causes too much stress. If you are on the spectrum, you can just imagine you are living the dating game on nightmare mode and therefore you have to try way more than times of failure than other people slowly learning the pitfalls. Like that nightmare version of Mario where you have to try over and over and over again with negative lives until you've carefully memorized every pitfall at each stage. Even worse its a pvp and the people you are playing against are all playing on easier modes than you so you just come off as a mid or low tier boss, and they get little to nothing out of it. For you there is no game, it just feels like Sisyphus rolling a boulder up a hill trying to get what you desperately crave and need in terms of human connection but failing so many times.
At some point if you never give up you will make it but treat it like a 5 year plan and know you have to practice constantly, like with a musical instrument or you will never be good enough at it. The reason why it will happen when you least expect it is because if you are hyper-focused on it, you will ruin it with the high of infatuation when your brain basically shuts off. Like driving a car on a kilo of cocaine.
But understanding it like this, that social interaction is more of a game with points and scores and such to most people makes sense. They get joys and satisfaction of the pursuit often even more than the acquiring. For me, the acquiring is when the game actually starts because I actually have a chance at succeeding without having to watch my every single tiny step or get disqualified without mercy. There is a game there in the relationship that we can win, so if you find one of us who have been struggling forever, you might actually get a better relationship because the game is still there as you learn the novelty of communicating with us. We most often don't get bored. It took us literally decades of nightmare mode just to get you, we are going to do everything we can to not have to do that again. That's assuming you don't break our strong sense of loyalty and then we will ditch you without mercy. -
It's weird that the only concept allistics have of autistic people being different from each other, even when it's been explained to them, is "more autistic" vs "less autistic", and their assessment of this seems to be almost entirely based on how much an individual speaks and socializes, little else. To them, if you mask but struggle greatly underneath, you are " less autistic" than someone who functions well but is non-verbal and stims often. That's their entire view.
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Went to #hyposensitization today since my allergies are getting worse every year. Do fellow #actuallyaustic people here have the same problem? @actuallyautistic
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I think I'm sensitive to low frequency noises. I was working on standing up a retired Dell R720 to be used as a Linux test box today. I can still hear the low frequency noise that the fans made. Or at least it feels that way. Are there any other #actuallyaustic people that experience anything similar?
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@counsellingkaren @actuallyautistic may I also suggest adding #actuallyaustic only because after I tagged the group once someone told me to also try using the hashtag because not everyone follows the group... But I'm eager to see what the suggestions are!
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I didn't understand wet t-shirt contests until my junior year of high school (age 16 or 17, I'm not sure). I started private school that year. We could leave campus for lunch, but I didn't have a car and couldn't drive, so I was basically rotated between the friend groups in the junior class (there were around 30 people in the entirety of the junior class) as an intentionally planned way to get to know people which was far, far removed from the bullying I was used to in public school.
Anyway, I went with a trio of girls I had gone with once before and for some reason they started talking about how they thought so-and-so's comment earlier that day about a wet t-shirt contest was awful, and how wet t-shirt contests are dumb. I hadn't heard the comment itself, but I did attempt to try to include myself in the conversation.
"Yeah, it's not even hard to get your shirt totally wet," I said.
After a beat a silence and quizzical looks directed at me, all three started to tell me what the contest was really about.
And so I learned a wet t-shirt contest is not at all about how wet your shirt can get.
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I'm a bit shocked. While dad hasn't said anything in less than 24 hours mom has gone from being in complete denial of my #Autism diagnosis to warning me to be careful who I tell and asking how my friends who are also #Autistic are reacting to the news. #actuallyaustic
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Hey, #ActuallyAustic peeps, question for you. I'm autistic, my wife is not. I'm sensitive to scents, but my wife wants our house to smell nice. Candles and diffusers make me feel sick. Any advice?
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Did I mention I'm autistic? Today was a very autistic day. I autistcated all over the place. #actuallyaustic
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“Confluence” created by me this past year. Currently in exhibition at the #HuntingtonBeach #CA art center! All hand cut glass. #Mosaic #surfboard #AnneMariePrice #stainedglass #lotus #art #artist #actuallyaustic #flower #lilypads #womensart
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#introduction Well like a few of you joining from the #twittermigration I am in the process of adapting to decentralised social media.
I’m a wee occasional lundy; open to discussing #NewIreland from #NorthernIreland aka #TheNorthOfIreland and #TheSixCounties so expect some politics as wee trudge through the bog up here.
I’m also an #actuallyaustic mother #HomeEducating my little #neurodivergent gremlins. /1 -
#introduction Well like a few of you joining from the #twittermigration I am in the process of adapting to decentralised social media.
I’m a wee occasional lundy; open to discussing #NewIreland from #NorthernIreland aka #TheNorthOfIreland and #TheSixCounties so expect some politics as wee trudge through the bog up here.
I’m also an #actuallyaustic mother #HomeEducating my little #neurodivergent gremlins. /1 -
#introduction Well like a few of you joining from the #twittermigration I am in the process of adapting to decentralised social media.
I’m a wee occasional lundy; open to discussing #NewIreland from #NorthernIreland aka #TheNorthOfIreland and #TheSixCounties so expect some politics as wee trudge through the bog up here.
I’m also an #actuallyaustic mother #HomeEducating my little #neurodivergent gremlins. /1 -
#introduction Well like a few of you joining from the #twittermigration I am in the process of adapting to decentralised social media.
I’m a wee occasional lundy; open to discussing #NewIreland from #NorthernIreland aka #TheNorthOfIreland and #TheSixCounties so expect some politics as wee trudge through the bog up here.
I’m also an #actuallyaustic mother #HomeEducating my little #neurodivergent gremlins. /1