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  1. Those North of Europe windows are maxxed for light (and people peeking inside, I was told) I don't care much for light, or at least all the time: cardboard curtains painted white. Houses in the summer, in southern Europe are basically in obscurity in the hot hours (i miss wooden blinds), so that you can exist and rest before going back to activity in the evening.

    But the North of Europe (and elsewheres) is wet, things get mouldy if you don't ventilate, and you need to ventilate anyway.

    Ventilate and let light through early in the morning when it is fresh and you also get the bonus of less noise and less polen/dust in the air.

    Ventilating, both winter and summer, works better in vigorous short batches. Keeping a window semiopen all the time will do temperature havock, and get polen, noise and dust in.

    If you get sensory overflow often you may also feel better keeping the house in obscurity. You might not even have noticed this.

    #heatwave #unsolicitedadvice

  2. Those North of Europe windows are maxxed for light (and people peeking inside, I was told) I don't care much for light, or at least all the time: cardboard curtains painted white. Houses in the summer, in southern Europe are basically in obscurity in the hot hours (i miss wooden blinds), so that you can exist and rest before going back to activity in the evening.

    But the North of Europe (and elsewheres) is wet, things get mouldy if you don't ventilate, and you need to ventilate anyway.

    Ventilate and let light through early in the morning when it is fresh and you also get the bonus of less noise and less polen/dust in the air.

    Ventilating, both winter and summer, works better in vigorous short batches. Keeping a window semiopen all the time will do temperature havock, and get polen, noise and dust in.

    If you get sensory overflow often you may also feel better keeping the house in obscurity. You might not even have noticed this.

    #heatwave #unsolicitedadvice

  3. Those North of Europe windows are maxxed for light (and people peeking inside, I was told) I don't care much for light, or at least all the time: cardboard curtains painted white. Houses in the summer, in southern Europe are basically in obscurity in the hot hours (i miss wooden blinds), so that you can exist and rest before going back to activity in the evening.

    But the North of Europe (and elsewheres) is wet, things get mouldy if you don't ventilate, and you need to ventilate anyway.

    Ventilate and let light through early in the morning when it is fresh and you also get the bonus of less noise and less polen/dust in the air.

    Ventilating, both winter and summer, works better in vigorous short batches. Keeping a window semiopen all the time will do temperature havock, and get polen, noise and dust in.

    If you get sensory overflow often you may also feel better keeping the house in obscurity. You might not even have noticed this.

    #heatwave #unsolicitedadvice

  4. Those North of Europe windows are maxxed for light (and people peeking inside, I was told) I don't care much for light, or at least all the time: cardboard curtains painted white. Houses in the summer, in southern Europe are basically in obscurity in the hot hours (i miss wooden blinds), so that you can exist and rest before going back to activity in the evening.

    But the North of Europe (and elsewheres) is wet, things get mouldy if you don't ventilate, and you need to ventilate anyway.

    Ventilate and let light through early in the morning when it is fresh and you also get the bonus of less noise and less polen/dust in the air.

    Ventilating, both winter and summer, works better in vigorous short batches. Keeping a window semiopen all the time will do temperature havock, and get polen, noise and dust in.

    If you get sensory overflow often you may also feel better keeping the house in obscurity. You might not even have noticed this.

    #heatwave #unsolicitedadvice

  5. Those North of Europe windows are maxxed for light (and people peeking inside, I was told) I don't care much for light, or at least all the time: cardboard curtains painted white. Houses in the summer, in southern Europe are basically in obscurity in the hot hours (i miss wooden blinds), so that you can exist and rest before going back to activity in the evening.

    But the North of Europe (and elsewheres) is wet, things get mouldy if you don't ventilate, and you need to ventilate anyway.

    Ventilate and let light through early in the morning when it is fresh and you also get the bonus of less noise and less polen/dust in the air.

    Ventilating, both winter and summer, works better in vigorous short batches. Keeping a window semiopen all the time will do temperature havock, and get polen, noise and dust in.

    If you get sensory overflow often you may also feel better keeping the house in obscurity. You might not even have noticed this.

    #heatwave #unsolicitedadvice

  6. If you ever have a romantic partner who pressures you into deeper levels of commitment, and acts hurt if you don't want to move so quickly or don't want to commit at all... just like, that's his problem. He can go to a therapist or whatever. If he needs commitment because he's looking for security or a certain family structure or whatever, then he can break up with you and find someone more into that.

    Me taking the last name "Lindsey" for him as my pen name, and then plastering it all over my professional brand, that's a specter that has damaged my career and followed me a decade after leaving him.

    I did that because he pressured me into agreeing to an engagement, when I had repeatedly said I hated weddings, and I never, ever wanted to be married again.

    And while we never did get married after a couple of years of engagement, he reminded me frequently how hurt he was that I continually postponed wedding plans. Yet would not engage with me about my doubts over relationship issues.

    His name is on my work. Many of the publishing platforms will not let me change my name in the listing. Reader are confused at my multiple bylines. I've had to mess with domain redirects that don't work anymore.

    Just, if someone wants you to commit and gets hurt by your hesitation, that's a them problem. They need to work on it, not you. You're just fine.

    #UnsolicitedAdvice #Recovery2026 #DarkSojourn

  7. If you ever have a romantic partner who pressures you into deeper levels of commitment, and acts hurt if you don't want to move so quickly or don't want to commit at all... just like, that's his problem. He can go to a therapist or whatever. If he needs commitment because he's looking for security or a certain family structure or whatever, then he can break up with you and find someone more into that.

    Me taking the last name "Lindsey" for him as my pen name, and then plastering it all over my professional brand, that's a specter that has damaged my career and followed me a decade after leaving him.

    I did that because he pressured me into agreeing to an engagement, when I had repeatedly said I hated weddings, and I never, ever wanted to be married again.

    And while we never did get married after a couple of years of engagement, he reminded me frequently how hurt he was that I continually postponed wedding plans. Yet would not engage with me about my doubts over relationship issues.

    His name is on my work. Many of the publishing platforms will not let me change my name in the listing. Reader are confused at my multiple bylines. I've had to mess with domain redirects that don't work anymore.

    Just, if someone wants you to commit and gets hurt by your hesitation, that's a them problem. They need to work on it, not you. You're just fine.

    #UnsolicitedAdvice #Recovery2026 #DarkSojourn

  8. If you ever have a romantic partner who pressures you into deeper levels of commitment, and acts hurt if you don't want to move so quickly or don't want to commit at all... just like, that's his problem. He can go to a therapist or whatever. If he needs commitment because he's looking for security or a certain family structure or whatever, then he can break up with you and find someone more into that.

    Me taking the last name "Lindsey" for him as my pen name, and then plastering it all over my professional brand, that's a specter that has damaged my career and followed me a decade after leaving him.

    I did that because he pressured me into agreeing to an engagement, when I had repeatedly said I hated weddings, and I never, ever wanted to be married again.

    And while we never did get married after a couple of years of engagement, he reminded me frequently how hurt he was that I continually postponed wedding plans. Yet would not engage with me about my doubts over relationship issues.

    His name is on my work. Many of the publishing platforms will not let me change my name in the listing. Reader are confused at my multiple bylines. I've had to mess with domain redirects that don't work anymore.

    Just, if someone wants you to commit and gets hurt by your hesitation, that's a them problem. They need to work on it, not you. You're just fine.

    #UnsolicitedAdvice #Recovery2026 #DarkSojourn

  9. If you ever have a romantic partner who pressures you into deeper levels of commitment, and acts hurt if you don't want to move so quickly or don't want to commit at all... just like, that's his problem. He can go to a therapist or whatever. If he needs commitment because he's looking for security or a certain family structure or whatever, then he can break up with you and find someone more into that.

    Me taking the last name "Lindsey" for him as my pen name, and then plastering it all over my professional brand, that's a specter that has damaged my career and followed me a decade after leaving him.

    I did that because he pressured me into agreeing to an engagement, when I had repeatedly said I hated weddings, and I never, ever wanted to be married again.

    And while we never did get married after a couple of years of engagement, he reminded me frequently how hurt he was that I continually postponed wedding plans. Yet would not engage with me about my doubts over relationship issues.

    His name is on my work. Many of the publishing platforms will not let me change my name in the listing. Reader are confused at my multiple bylines. I've had to mess with domain redirects that don't work anymore.

    Just, if someone wants you to commit and gets hurt by your hesitation, that's a them problem. They need to work on it, not you. You're just fine.

    #UnsolicitedAdvice #Recovery2026 #DarkSojourn

  10. If you ever have a romantic partner who pressures you into deeper levels of commitment, and acts hurt if you don't want to move so quickly or don't want to commit at all... just like, that's his problem. He can go to a therapist or whatever. If he needs commitment because he's looking for security or a certain family structure or whatever, then he can break up with you and find someone more into that.

    Me taking the last name "Lindsey" for him as my pen name, and then plastering it all over my professional brand, that's a specter that has damaged my career and followed me a decade after leaving him.

    I did that because he pressured me into agreeing to an engagement, when I had repeatedly said I hated weddings, and I never, ever wanted to be married again.

    And while we never did get married after a couple of years of engagement, he reminded me frequently how hurt he was that I continually postponed wedding plans. Yet would not engage with me about my doubts over relationship issues.

    His name is on my work. Many of the publishing platforms will not let me change my name in the listing. Reader are confused at my multiple bylines. I've had to mess with domain redirects that don't work anymore.

    Just, if someone wants you to commit and gets hurt by your hesitation, that's a them problem. They need to work on it, not you. You're just fine.

    #UnsolicitedAdvice #Recovery2026 #DarkSojourn

  11. Gianna Nannini, Zucchero, Lucio Dalla

    Bitte, gern geschehen.

    #unsolicitedAdvice

  12. Gianna Nannini, Zucchero, Lucio Dalla

    Bitte, gern geschehen.

    #unsolicitedAdvice

  13. Gianna Nannini, Zucchero, Lucio Dalla

    Bitte, gern geschehen.

    #unsolicitedAdvice

  14. Gotta watch out for the ground, man. Most of the time, it's not on the level.

    #dadwisdom
    #unsolicitedadvice
    #diy

  15. Gotta watch out for the ground, man. Most of the time, it's not on the level.

    #dadwisdom
    #unsolicitedadvice
    #diy

  16. Gotta watch out for the ground, man. Most of the time, it's not on the level.

    #dadwisdom
    #unsolicitedadvice
    #diy

  17. @taseroth welcome to pickle hell ✨
    Nicht sicher ob noch relevant, aber schau maybe mal Richtung joblib als Alternative. #unsolicitedadvice

  18. @taseroth welcome to pickle hell ✨
    Nicht sicher ob noch relevant, aber schau maybe mal Richtung joblib als Alternative. #unsolicitedadvice

  19. @taseroth welcome to pickle hell ✨
    Nicht sicher ob noch relevant, aber schau maybe mal Richtung joblib als Alternative. #unsolicitedadvice

  20. @taseroth welcome to pickle hell ✨
    Nicht sicher ob noch relevant, aber schau maybe mal Richtung joblib als Alternative. #unsolicitedadvice

  21. @taseroth welcome to pickle hell ✨
    Nicht sicher ob noch relevant, aber schau maybe mal Richtung joblib als Alternative. #unsolicitedadvice

  22. Just whose schedule am I behind?
    It's pressure of my own, I am forced to find.
    The work will get done while there is still sun.
    Don't push self to hard to make it no fun.

    #smallPoems
    #unsolicitedAdvice

  23. Just whose schedule am I behind?
    It's pressure of my own, I am forced to find.
    The work will get done while there is still sun.
    Don't push self to hard to make it no fun.

    #smallPoems
    #unsolicitedAdvice

  24. Just whose schedule am I behind?
    It's pressure of my own, I am forced to find.
    The work will get done while there is still sun.
    Don't push self to hard to make it no fun.

    #smallPoems
    #unsolicitedAdvice

  25. Just whose schedule am I behind?
    It's pressure of my own, I am forced to find.
    The work will get done while there is still sun.
    Don't push self to hard to make it no fun.

    #smallPoems
    #unsolicitedAdvice

  26. If during the first act a mutable datum is constructed,
    by the last act it should be duly modified.
    (Following Chekhov out of context.)

    Seriously: use immutable data as much as you can.

    #ComputerProgramming
    #Paraphrases
    #QuasiFunctionalStyle
    #UnsolicitedAdvice

  27. If during the first act a mutable datum is constructed,
    by the last act it should be duly modified.
    (Following Chekhov out of context.)

    Seriously: use immutable data as much as you can.

    #ComputerProgramming
    #Paraphrases
    #QuasiFunctionalStyle
    #UnsolicitedAdvice

  28. If during the first act a mutable datum is constructed,
    by the last act it should be duly modified.
    (Following Chekhov out of context.)

    Seriously: use immutable data as much as you can.

    #ComputerProgramming
    #Paraphrases
    #QuasiFunctionalStyle
    #UnsolicitedAdvice