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Self-Help Books Did Not Help You. You Already Knew That.
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From a settler, to my fellow settlers. I'm a 7th or 8th generation Canadian.

If your position to the problems of the past, to attempts at reconciliation is "we have it pretty good, but not everyone does, so we should just throw everything away and start over"

Fuck. You.

Seriously.

your solution will cause far more harm to far more people than fighting to fix a broken system.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in the same city is beyond the means of a good chunk of the population.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in a different city or town is beyond the means of most people.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in a different country?

We are not the people who did the things that brought us here.

We DO carry responsibility for reparations. We DO need to accept that our ancestors in the past, and some of us recently have done harmful things, and that some of us are STILL doing harmful things.

But, to put it bluntly, we're fucking HERE. We owe many apologies, we own many reparations, we owe many a commitment to change.

Leave?

That's the weakest shit ever spoken.

Our ancestors burned down the house, murdered half the people who lived here, built a new house, then abused the survivors of our first spree, continually, for hundreds of years.

We should feel fucking terrible.

We owe the people descended from the nations of those people we killed and abused, the survivors.

Our ancestors screwed them. Our ancestors screwed US too. People NOW are screwing us. And them. We need to work WITH them, listen to THEM, try to understand THEM. We need to build bridges.

They don't have to trust us, and they shouldn't trust us. Trust has to be earned, and that's going to take a LONG fucking time. One of the steps is WE have to change, our cultures, our biases. We're the settlers, we're the thieves, we're the criminals. ALL of us. We MUST repent.

We have a debt. Leaving doesn't pay that debt, and even if it would, we don't have anywhere to fucking go. We DO, however, have the power to support, and treat with dignity, our fellow human beings. We do have the power to lose the hate, work our asses off to earn a degree of trust, show some fucking respect, and honour our commitments. We have the power to learn truths, to share strengths, and to shore up weaknesses.

We may not have caused this, but we have the ability to stop it from happening again. From CONTINUING.

We have the power to stop the hate, the anger, the malice.

We have the power to do better.

We have the power to honour our commitments, to respect our neighbours, to be better. To them AND to ourselves.

So fucking DO it. Do better, BE better. And stop making excuses. We're not victims, but we sure like to act like it, don't we?

#DoBetter #FuckFascism #Canada #Reparations #StopMakingExcuses

From a settler, to my fellow settlers. I'm a 7th or 8th generation Canadian.

If your position to the problems of the past, to attempts at reconciliation is "we have it pretty good, but not everyone does, so we should just throw everything away and start over"

Fuck. You.

Seriously.

your solution will cause far more harm to far more people than fighting to fix a broken system.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in the same city is beyond the means of a good chunk of the population.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in a different city or town is beyond the means of most people.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in a different country?

We are not the people who did the things that brought us here.

We DO carry responsibility for reparations. We DO need to accept that our ancestors in the past, and some of us recently have done harmful things, and that some of us are STILL doing harmful things.

But, to put it bluntly, we're fucking HERE. We owe many apologies, we own many reparations, we owe many a commitment to change.

Leave?

That's the weakest shit ever spoken.

Our ancestors burned down the house, murdered half the people who lived here, built a new house, then abused the survivors of our first spree, continually, for hundreds of years.

We should feel fucking terrible.

We owe the people descended from the nations of those people we killed and abused, the survivors.

Our ancestors screwed them. Our ancestors screwed US too. People NOW are screwing us. And them. We need to work WITH them, listen to THEM, try to understand THEM. We need to build bridges.

They don't have to trust us, and they shouldn't trust us. Trust has to be earned, and that's going to take a LONG fucking time. One of the steps is WE have to change, our cultures, our biases. We're the settlers, we're the thieves, we're the criminals. ALL of us. We MUST repent.

We have a debt. Leaving doesn't pay that debt, and even if it would, we don't have anywhere to fucking go. We DO, however, have the power to support, and treat with dignity, our fellow human beings. We do have the power to lose the hate, work our asses off to earn a degree of trust, show some fucking respect, and honour our commitments. We have the power to learn truths, to share strengths, and to shore up weaknesses.

We may not have caused this, but we have the ability to stop it from happening again. From CONTINUING.

We have the power to stop the hate, the anger, the malice.

We have the power to do better.

We have the power to honour our commitments, to respect our neighbours, to be better. To them AND to ourselves.

So fucking DO it. Do better, BE better. And stop making excuses. We're not victims, but we sure like to act like it, don't we?

#DoBetter #FuckFascism #Canada #Reparations #StopMakingExcuses

From a settler, to my fellow settlers. I'm a 7th or 8th generation Canadian.

If your position to the problems of the past, to attempts at reconciliation is "we have it pretty good, but not everyone does, so we should just throw everything away and start over"

Fuck. You.

Seriously.

your solution will cause far more harm to far more people than fighting to fix a broken system.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in the same city is beyond the means of a good chunk of the population.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in a different city or town is beyond the means of most people.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in a different country?

We are not the people who did the things that brought us here.

We DO carry responsibility for reparations. We DO need to accept that our ancestors in the past, and some of us recently have done harmful things, and that some of us are STILL doing harmful things.

But, to put it bluntly, we're fucking HERE. We owe many apologies, we own many reparations, we owe many a commitment to change.

Leave?

That's the weakest shit ever spoken.

Our ancestors burned down the house, murdered half the people who lived here, built a new house, then abused the survivors of our first spree, continually, for hundreds of years.

We should feel fucking terrible.

We owe the people descended from the nations of those people we killed and abused, the survivors.

Our ancestors screwed them. Our ancestors screwed US too. People NOW are screwing us. And them. We need to work WITH them, listen to THEM, try to understand THEM. We need to build bridges.

They don't have to trust us, and they shouldn't trust us. Trust has to be earned, and that's going to take a LONG fucking time. One of the steps is WE have to change, our cultures, our biases. We're the settlers, we're the thieves, we're the criminals. ALL of us. We MUST repent.

We have a debt. Leaving doesn't pay that debt, and even if it would, we don't have anywhere to fucking go. We DO, however, have the power to support, and treat with dignity, our fellow human beings. We do have the power to lose the hate, work our asses off to earn a degree of trust, show some fucking respect, and honour our commitments. We have the power to learn truths, to share strengths, and to shore up weaknesses.

We may not have caused this, but we have the ability to stop it from happening again. From CONTINUING.

We have the power to stop the hate, the anger, the malice.

We have the power to do better.

We have the power to honour our commitments, to respect our neighbours, to be better. To them AND to ourselves.

So fucking DO it. Do better, BE better. And stop making excuses. We're not victims, but we sure like to act like it, don't we?

#DoBetter #FuckFascism #Canada #Reparations #StopMakingExcuses

From a settler, to my fellow settlers. I'm a 7th or 8th generation Canadian.

If your position to the problems of the past, to attempts at reconciliation is "we have it pretty good, but not everyone does, so we should just throw everything away and start over"

Fuck. You.

Seriously.

your solution will cause far more harm to far more people than fighting to fix a broken system.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in the same city is beyond the means of a good chunk of the population.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in a different city or town is beyond the means of most people.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in a different country?

We are not the people who did the things that brought us here.

We DO carry responsibility for reparations. We DO need to accept that our ancestors in the past, and some of us recently have done harmful things, and that some of us are STILL doing harmful things.

But, to put it bluntly, we're fucking HERE. We owe many apologies, we own many reparations, we owe many a commitment to change.

Leave?

That's the weakest shit ever spoken.

Our ancestors burned down the house, murdered half the people who lived here, built a new house, then abused the survivors of our first spree, continually, for hundreds of years.

We should feel fucking terrible.

We owe the people descended from the nations of those people we killed and abused, the survivors.

Our ancestors screwed them. Our ancestors screwed US too. People NOW are screwing us. And them. We need to work WITH them, listen to THEM, try to understand THEM. We need to build bridges.

They don't have to trust us, and they shouldn't trust us. Trust has to be earned, and that's going to take a LONG fucking time. One of the steps is WE have to change, our cultures, our biases. We're the settlers, we're the thieves, we're the criminals. ALL of us. We MUST repent.

We have a debt. Leaving doesn't pay that debt, and even if it would, we don't have anywhere to fucking go. We DO, however, have the power to support, and treat with dignity, our fellow human beings. We do have the power to lose the hate, work our asses off to earn a degree of trust, show some fucking respect, and honour our commitments. We have the power to learn truths, to share strengths, and to shore up weaknesses.

We may not have caused this, but we have the ability to stop it from happening again. From CONTINUING.

We have the power to stop the hate, the anger, the malice.

We have the power to do better.

We have the power to honour our commitments, to respect our neighbours, to be better. To them AND to ourselves.

So fucking DO it. Do better, BE better. And stop making excuses. We're not victims, but we sure like to act like it, don't we?

#DoBetter #FuckFascism #Canada #Reparations #StopMakingExcuses

From a settler, to my fellow settlers. I'm a 7th or 8th generation Canadian.

If your position to the problems of the past, to attempts at reconciliation is "we have it pretty good, but not everyone does, so we should just throw everything away and start over"

Fuck. You.

Seriously.

your solution will cause far more harm to far more people than fighting to fix a broken system.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in the same city is beyond the means of a good chunk of the population.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in a different city or town is beyond the means of most people.

Being forced to move to a different house or apartment in a different country?

We are not the people who did the things that brought us here.

We DO carry responsibility for reparations. We DO need to accept that our ancestors in the past, and some of us recently have done harmful things, and that some of us are STILL doing harmful things.

But, to put it bluntly, we're fucking HERE. We owe many apologies, we own many reparations, we owe many a commitment to change.

Leave?

That's the weakest shit ever spoken.

Our ancestors burned down the house, murdered half the people who lived here, built a new house, then abused the survivors of our first spree, continually, for hundreds of years.

We should feel fucking terrible.

We owe the people descended from the nations of those people we killed and abused, the survivors.

Our ancestors screwed them. Our ancestors screwed US too. People NOW are screwing us. And them. We need to work WITH them, listen to THEM, try to understand THEM. We need to build bridges.

They don't have to trust us, and they shouldn't trust us. Trust has to be earned, and that's going to take a LONG fucking time. One of the steps is WE have to change, our cultures, our biases. We're the settlers, we're the thieves, we're the criminals. ALL of us. We MUST repent.

We have a debt. Leaving doesn't pay that debt, and even if it would, we don't have anywhere to fucking go. We DO, however, have the power to support, and treat with dignity, our fellow human beings. We do have the power to lose the hate, work our asses off to earn a degree of trust, show some fucking respect, and honour our commitments. We have the power to learn truths, to share strengths, and to shore up weaknesses.

We may not have caused this, but we have the ability to stop it from happening again. From CONTINUING.

We have the power to stop the hate, the anger, the malice.

We have the power to do better.

We have the power to honour our commitments, to respect our neighbours, to be better. To them AND to ourselves.

So fucking DO it. Do better, BE better. And stop making excuses. We're not victims, but we sure like to act like it, don't we?

#DoBetter #FuckFascism #Canada #Reparations #StopMakingExcuses