#myreason — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #myreason, aggregated by home.social.
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CW: References death in passing
@ics @Mendie_Taoma In our case, the question of "What if I'm trans?" had been buzzing around our head since around November/December 2019.
Around the same time, we'd played or were playing co-op games of Divinity: Original Sin 2 and Stardew Valley with our wife (#MyReason) as girl / woman characters, which was totally normal cis guy behaviour 😅
By March 2020, we were working entirely remotely from home. Then lockdown happened too.
Before then, our mental bandwidth was constantly taken up by the noise and distraction of others in the office, as well as having to put up with neurotypical expectations. Without this to exhaust our mind, there was space to question whether this was something.
We procrastinated heavily at first. It was too big a question to start to answer. The most we did at first really was let our hair grow out for about 6 months, before chickening out and shaving it off.
That was the last time we shaved the hair on our head.
Meanwhile, looking back at our YouTube search history, we were continuing or had just started watching like Steven Universe and The Owl House (totally normal cishet series), we continued always choosing a fem character in games, and we watched videos about SARS-CoV-2.
Around the beginning of 2021, we were still not taking any active action, just letting our hair grow out. It looks like we were playing a lot of Minecraft (1.16.x) at the time and watching Minecraft music collab videos by ZAMination and other creators (e.g., Skeleton Rap; Zombie Girl; Just Monika etc.).
Something near the end of 2020 or beginning of 2021, our team leader went on prolonged sick leave. We knew he'd been struggling with energy for a while, but tests hadn't found anything then as far as we knew.
Sometime in March 2021, we and our colleagues in the same department at work were called into a meeting. We had no idea what it was about, and when they first mentioned our team leader's name, we thought maybe he'd been fired or something. We didn't expect what then happened.
The head of department attempted to give us an update on our team leader without bursting into tears, failing entirely. He had died. Not just that, but it was due to them finding an aggressive, late-stage cancer of some kind, which somehow none of the previous tests had identified. They'd tried to treat him with chemotherapy as soon it was discovered, if we recall correctly, but it had only quickened the end.
It wasn't just a shock to us: it broke something in us. He'd seemed a bit low energy but otherwise okay just a short while back, and suddenly he was no more, just like that. No time for goodbyes. No time to let him know how much we all liked him, irrespective of him being a bit bumbling at times.
Our thoughts around this time are a jumbled mess. All we can recall is that it made us realise that our life could end just that suddenly too, without us ever being brave enough to answer the question that we'd been procrastinating finding an answer for.
On 3rd April 2021, we watched Abigail Thorn's coming out video, and associated videos.
On 4th April 2021, we apparently searched YouTube for "trans coming out" videos.
Sometime after that, we booked a phone appointment to talk with a GP about our gender identity, scheduled for 23rd April 2021. This was followed by an in-person appointment on 6th May 2021 to fill out forms to be referred to an NHS gender clinic.
The rest, as they say, is history, and a tale for another time.
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Gay meowning every-nyan :FediverseSymbol:
We've been up, collected groceries with #MyReason (my wife), helped put stuff away, and we are presently relaxing.
Sadly, we are currently light sensitive with moderate eye ache and headache (middle of forehead).
We took 250 mg naproxen earlier, alongside our daily meds, plus breakfast and plenty of hydration, but still needed sunglasses on until a few minutes ago, and still have super low light levels and "night light" mode on full.
We've got deliveries today, so need to work out nap schedule with my wife.
Wishing you all a lovely Saturgay :PinkHeart:
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At night, we've taken to having a Yorkshire sleepytime brew tea 🍵
Our wife kept pointing out, quite correctly, that it's actually called bedtime brew.
We came up with the below solution 🤭
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Free from work 🥰
Now to go and look after #MyReason (my wife) and give the cats their dinner and daily biscuit treats.
Then probably cook dinner.
Then revamp CV.
Then maybe, just maybe, a lil us time... if there's still any evening left 😅
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@tillybridges We realise how incredibly lucky we were (and are) with our cis wife compared to many other couples :PleadingFace:
She's bi; she has always wanted us to be the real us, and had been trying for years to help with this; and she's neurospicy AF, like us :NeurodiversitySymbol:
To say she's been supportive is an understatement. She's helped every step of the way and constantly affirmed us :FaceHoldingBackTears:
She didn't even bat an eyelid when we realised we were plural :PluralPrideRingsSymbol:
We love her so much :BlobCatHuggies:
Is trans 4 cis (T4C) a thing? We feel like it should be a thing.
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My lovely wife (#MyReason) came across a new content creator tonight and we just had to share this video with you all, as it's just so cute :PleadingFaceWithRedHearts:
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Girl who successfully got up earlier and showered without waking her sleeping wife (who has a little bit of a lie-in today) 🥰
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My amazing wife (#MyReason) cooked multiple batches of food yesterday to put in our freezer, so we have healthy food readily available on demand when we're low on energy / spoons.
She asked me me to label them, so for one of the food items, I asked her which spelling she preferred: lasagna or lasagne.
She looked at me in horror that anyone might spell it with an A 😅
Apropos of that conversation, which spelling do you use or prefer? 🤭
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Finished finished rewatching the animated version of Avatar: The Last Airbender with my lovely wife (#MyReason), we've now moved on to The Legend Of Korra.
I forgot just how much I love Korra 🥰
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In my head canon, all the shows that my wife watches exist in the same shared universe.
Where there are conflicts, such as world events or the same actors playing different characters, they instead exist in an adjacent universe, making up a shared multiverse.
This is particularly true of the hospital / doctor dramas.
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Gay morning all 👋🥱
I have been awake for a while, but I'm having trouble escaping bed, as I don't have work today, bed is warm and comfy, and Māui cat is snuggled up against me.
I know I do need to get up soon though, so I can get breakfast and caffeinated beverages for me and my wife (#MyReason), and put down new food for our cattens.
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Had a really lovely evening just hanging out with my wife (#MyReason) on the sofa 🩷
We watched the latest Bad Batch episode, then watched Argylle, which I thoroughly recommend 🥰 Our cat Nyx snuggled with us for a lot of the evening too.
Anyways, off to sleep now, perchance to dream.
Gay night fedi 👋🥱 :FediverseSymbol:
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CW: Lewd; geeky
Minecraft strip mining with my wife, but every time I get enough diamonds to make a block, I take of an item of clothing 😏🤭🩷
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@CriticalCupcake Had fun playing Nightingale twice with #MyReason and enjoyed a lovely nap with her too. Managed to get essential chores done. Helped some trans folks with HRT stuff.
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My wife: "How do you know you were made for your wife? Well, sometimes we both just make Minecraft villager noises at each other."
Me: "Can I post that on fedi?"
My wife: "Sure."
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Inspired by the lovely @ics, who uses a beautiful and unique hashtag for posts about their wife, I asked my wife whether she'd be okay with me doing the same for her.
She agreed 🥰
Henceforth, when I want to gush about my wife, I will post using the hashtag #MyReason to refer to her, as that's what I call her and what she genuinely is 🩷