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If you live in the SF Bay Area and have a young adult getting ready to transition out of high school, this might be a good opportunity!

2025 TRANSITION CONFERENCE & RESOURCE FAIR

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Diablo Valley College
321 Golf Club Road
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8:30 AM - 3 PM

ALL ARE WELCOME!

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#AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic #neurodivergent #adulthood #transitoon #resources

If you live in the SF Bay Area and have a young adult getting ready to transition out of high school, this might be a good opportunity!

2025 TRANSITION CONFERENCE & RESOURCE FAIR

EXPLORE RESOURCES
LEARN ABOUT EDUCATION OPTIONS

Diablo Valley College
321 Golf Club Road
Pleasant Hill, CA 94523 Saturday, March 15, 2025
8:30 AM - 3 PM

ALL ARE WELCOME!

REGISTER at https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1200613159279?aff=oddtdtcreator

#AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic #neurodivergent #adulthood #transitoon #resources

Irony alert. Seeing a preview for a movie about an Autistic boy and it’s so freaking loud the Autistic people watching it need to flee.

#ableism #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic @actuallyautistic

Irony alert. Seeing a preview for a movie about an Autistic boy and it’s so freaking loud the Autistic people watching it need to flee.

#ableism #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic @actuallyautistic

5 minutes break standing alone in the laundry so no one can try to tell me anything for a bit #AutisticParenting

5 minutes break standing alone in the laundry so no one can try to tell me anything for a bit #AutisticParenting

#unmasking can be fun, especially when you do it with school “#professionals” to offer examples of the observations they make of your progeny. You wonder why my son doesn’t open up to you more? On some level he’s traumatized and afraid of you and your #ableism. Let me explain… And when I’m done they’re like “oh, wow, we have noticed those things too!”

😑 Um, then why didn’t you use those a signal to CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR and interact with him differently? 😖

#ActuallyAutistic #AutisticParenting

#unmasking can be fun, especially when you do it with school “#professionals” to offer examples of the observations they make of your progeny. You wonder why my son doesn’t open up to you more? On some level he’s traumatized and afraid of you and your #ableism. Let me explain… And when I’m done they’re like “oh, wow, we have noticed those things too!”

😑 Um, then why didn’t you use those a signal to CHANGE YOUR BEHAVIOR and interact with him differently? 😖

#ActuallyAutistic #AutisticParenting

I’ve been listening to these CHC podcasts. I’m increasingly concerned these are too focused on fixing children. I want to give my son tools to survive the world, but sometimes I’m not sure when it veers into conversion therapy.

What do you think after listening to this?

https://podcasts.chconline.org/episodes/everyday-strategies-for-executive-functioning/

#ActuallyAutistic
#ADHD #AuDHD
#AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic #ABA #ableism #CBT #poll #support @actuallyautistic

I’ve been listening to these CHC podcasts. I’m increasingly concerned these are too focused on fixing children. I want to give my son tools to survive the world, but sometimes I’m not sure when it veers into conversion therapy.

What do you think after listening to this?

https://podcasts.chconline.org/episodes/everyday-strategies-for-executive-functioning/

#ActuallyAutistic
#ADHD #AuDHD
#AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic #ABA #ableism #CBT #poll #support @actuallyautistic

🧵 1/2 Last week I receive a language report from new school behaviorist. Bad words my son used, all euphemisms. No context. And a schedule of punishments.

Eventually I found part of the issue was his being triggered by the adult when told his PBT score would be reduced. Then he reacts badly and then the punishments add up. His previous behaviorist figured this out and approached it differently.

#AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD @actuallyautistic

🧵 1/2 Last week I receive a language report from new school behaviorist. Bad words my son used, all euphemisms. No context. And a schedule of punishments.

Eventually I found part of the issue was his being triggered by the adult when told his PBT score would be reduced. Then he reacts badly and then the punishments add up. His previous behaviorist figured this out and approached it differently.

#AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD @actuallyautistic

@johnnyprofane1 Yes I grok this. It’s never about changing who we are. Sometimes it helps to better understand ourselves and how to leverage our innate abilities. #ADHD #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic

@johnnyprofane1 Yes I grok this. It’s never about changing who we are. Sometimes it helps to better understand ourselves and how to leverage our innate abilities. #ADHD #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic

Last night my son was up late and I checked in. He asks if I want to see the drawing he did. I had questions. I’m impressed! I did ask if he traced it. Nope. He hand drew it, inverted. My son who school “professionals,” and who know better than parents, said he had small motor issues and that’s why he had trouble writing. Nope! It turns out he loves to write and draw and create. He just couldn’t learn it FROM YOU.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ADHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting

Last night my son was up late and I checked in. He asks if I want to see the drawing he did. I had questions. I’m impressed! I did ask if he traced it. Nope. He hand drew it, inverted. My son who school “professionals,” and who know better than parents, said he had small motor issues and that’s why he had trouble writing. Nope! It turns out he loves to write and draw and create. He just couldn’t learn it FROM YOU.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ADHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting

@hellomiakoda THIS! I can remember that feeling of flight response so many times. Sound triggers me most. I’m glad to be able to tell the other person, “it’s not you, it’s the sound. It’s a normal sound but right now I just can’t. I either need to go or I need you to please stop.”

This is why diagnosis and support are crucial. It doesn’t eliminate the challenges but it sure helps us live better with them.

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting

@hellomiakoda THIS! I can remember that feeling of flight response so many times. Sound triggers me most. I’m glad to be able to tell the other person, “it’s not you, it’s the sound. It’s a normal sound but right now I just can’t. I either need to go or I need you to please stop.”

This is why diagnosis and support are crucial. It doesn’t eliminate the challenges but it sure helps us live better with them.

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting

My son has been into govt, history, military, and old things generally. So at first he expressed an interest in another WW2 army uniform (khaki) this year. But after a bit he sent me a link to a George Washington costume! Interests aligned! Apparently it’s the coat that caught his eye. I’m curious if he’ll wear the wig and hat. 😁

#halloween #antiques #historian #AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD

My son has been into govt, history, military, and old things generally. So at first he expressed an interest in another WW2 army uniform (khaki) this year. But after a bit he sent me a link to a George Washington costume! Interests aligned! Apparently it’s the coat that caught his eye. I’m curious if he’ll wear the wig and hat. 😁

#halloween #antiques #historian #AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD

@hk YES. School pushed to get my son to develop his writing only with handwriting. It sucked. They sucked. It wasn’t until our COVID year at home on Chromebook before I realized my son spelled and wrote better taking handwriting out of the loop.

Having improved his writing he now frets less about handwriting and, consequently, his handwriting has also improved. This is where allistic, ableist hegemony is harmful.

#AutisticParenting #ADHD #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic

@hk YES. School pushed to get my son to develop his writing only with handwriting. It sucked. They sucked. It wasn’t until our COVID year at home on Chromebook before I realized my son spelled and wrote better taking handwriting out of the loop.

Having improved his writing he now frets less about handwriting and, consequently, his handwriting has also improved. This is where allistic, ableist hegemony is harmful.

#AutisticParenting #ADHD #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyadhd @actuallyautistic

I was reflecting with my husband on the situation where other kids’ behavior was #triggering me and my son on Saturday. He was firm in #advocating for his needs, did so in a socially acceptable manner, didn’t melt down when ignored, and completed his event immediately after in fine form.

He’s struggled and battled a lot of ableism and ignorance in schools, but with great support has built up his skills and #resilience. I’m really proud of him. ❤️

#ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting

I was reflecting with my husband on the situation where other kids’ behavior was #triggering me and my son on Saturday. He was firm in #advocating for his needs, did so in a socially acceptable manner, didn’t melt down when ignored, and completed his event immediately after in fine form.

He’s struggled and battled a lot of ableism and ignorance in schools, but with great support has built up his skills and #resilience. I’m really proud of him. ❤️

#ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting

So my son has his first in-person physical since #COVID and his original pediatrician retired. New doc.

She’s going over his record. Mental Health? He has a psychiatrist?

Uh yeah, you guys do that when someone is diagnosed Autistic and ADHD.

She has this look of concern. Also confused as to his atypical responses to her cheery prompts. I just watch with a smirk on my face. So inexperienced, these docs…

#ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD

So my son has his first in-person physical since #COVID and his original pediatrician retired. New doc.

She’s going over his record. Mental Health? He has a psychiatrist?

Uh yeah, you guys do that when someone is diagnosed Autistic and ADHD.

She has this look of concern. Also confused as to his atypical responses to her cheery prompts. I just watch with a smirk on my face. So inexperienced, these docs…

#ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD

#AutisticParenting:

☐ Unfamiliar environment
☐ Noisy, crowded or bright
☐ With the toddler
☐ In the company of others

Pick a maximum of two to avoid sensory overload.

Examples:

✅ I can go to unfamiliar, noisy spots, but I have to go there alone to notice early when I have had enough and be in full control of how to make my way through the place and when to leave.

✅ I can go somewhere with the toddler and others, but it has to be a familiar, quiet place.

✅ I can take the kid to a spot that is unfamiliar, but I have to be alone with them. (To be honest, I'd even rather go without my wife. It is an extra person to take into account.) And I have to be pretty sure that it is not too busy.

#ArguablyAutistic #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

#AutisticParenting:

☐ Unfamiliar environment
☐ Noisy, crowded or bright
☐ With the toddler
☐ In the company of others

Pick a maximum of two to avoid sensory overload.

Examples:

✅ I can go to unfamiliar, noisy spots, but I have to go there alone to notice early when I have had enough and be in full control of how to make my way through the place and when to leave.

✅ I can go somewhere with the toddler and others, but it has to be a familiar, quiet place.

✅ I can take the kid to a spot that is unfamiliar, but I have to be alone with them. (To be honest, I'd even rather go without my wife. It is an extra person to take into account.) And I have to be pretty sure that it is not too busy.

#ArguablyAutistic #ActuallyAutistic @actuallyautistic

@hellomiakoda I know this feeling. For me it happens with I’m highly distracted or having to track too many other people’s getting ready in the morning and such. I love my family but there are times … 🤣🤣

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting

@hellomiakoda I know this feeling. For me it happens with I’m highly distracted or having to track too many other people’s getting ready in the morning and such. I love my family but there are times … 🤣🤣

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting

🧵 1/3 Just got back from seeing #Ezra.

So, it was good. Very emotional roller coaster. I thought my son was bored but he wasn’t antsy to leave. As we were walking out, he shared that he really liked it. It certainly felt authentic.

The story is focused more on a family and inter-generational perspective, which I think will make it more acressivle and relatable to a broader audience.

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting @actuallyautistic

🧵 1/3 Just got back from seeing #Ezra.

So, it was good. Very emotional roller coaster. I thought my son was bored but he wasn’t antsy to leave. As we were walking out, he shared that he really liked it. It certainly felt authentic.

The story is focused more on a family and inter-generational perspective, which I think will make it more acressivle and relatable to a broader audience.

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting @actuallyautistic

I mostly recharged this weekend. I opted to work at home today. No meetings afforded me to catch up on a few tasks and chores, too. It was sublime.

Son arrived home covered in clay from the baseball diamond at school. Under protest he stripped to underwear and was sent to shower. Clothes and shoes are being de-clayed.

Now he’s finishing schoolwork not completed this PM. He did pick up on the “it’s not time to talk back” vibe. So yay.

#ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting #ADHD #AuDHD

I mostly recharged this weekend. I opted to work at home today. No meetings afforded me to catch up on a few tasks and chores, too. It was sublime.

Son arrived home covered in clay from the baseball diamond at school. Under protest he stripped to underwear and was sent to shower. Clothes and shoes are being de-clayed.

Now he’s finishing schoolwork not completed this PM. He did pick up on the “it’s not time to talk back” vibe. So yay.

#ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting #ADHD #AuDHD

Yes “Treering,” I’m sure you think it’s important to remind us to order yearbooks for a school my son hasn’t been at for two years. But I literally loathe the principal, who kept ignoring my son’s #IEP, so much I’ll just block you, laugh, and vent some.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ADHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting

Yes “Treering,” I’m sure you think it’s important to remind us to order yearbooks for a school my son hasn’t been at for two years. But I literally loathe the principal, who kept ignoring my son’s #IEP, so much I’ll just block you, laugh, and vent some.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ADHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting

I’m very glad this alternate placement has worked for my son, and is serving to help him prepare to transition back to regular school site. But to say I’m eager for the transition to occur is an understatement. I will be very glad to be back in a position where I can be more productive again and try and focus on more self-care.

It’s easy to forget the changes we make to help our kids sometimes hurt us.

#ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting #caregiving

I’m very glad this alternate placement has worked for my son, and is serving to help him prepare to transition back to regular school site. But to say I’m eager for the transition to occur is an understatement. I will be very glad to be back in a position where I can be more productive again and try and focus on more self-care.

It’s easy to forget the changes we make to help our kids sometimes hurt us.

#ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting #caregiving

Waiting while my son has his piano lesson. Enjoying some jazz piano. But the child trying to sing needs a little less jazz in their vocals. My ears actually hurt. And that’s from behind a closed door. Yikes. Do these teachers get hazard pay?

#AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic

Waiting while my son has his piano lesson. Enjoying some jazz piano. But the child trying to sing needs a little less jazz in their vocals. My ears actually hurt. And that’s from behind a closed door. Yikes. Do these teachers get hazard pay?

#AutisticParenting #ParentingWhileAutistic

It’s things like this that remind me when someone is super intent that I know they’re a “certified professional” and feeding me opinions as fact.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/apr/04/audhd-what-is-behind-rocketing-rates-life-changing-diagnosis

#ActuallyAutistic
#AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

It’s things like this that remind me when someone is super intent that I know they’re a “certified professional” and feeding me opinions as fact.

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/apr/04/audhd-what-is-behind-rocketing-rates-life-changing-diagnosis

#ActuallyAutistic
#AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting @actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd

@sentimentaldom Which reminds me what I think of someone these days when they are super insistent that I’m aware they’re a professional and certified, and offering opinions on things they for sure know about me or my son.

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #ParentingWhileAutstic #AutisticParenting

We hit a coin show in Sunnyvale today and made a few finds. Better yet, we met some great people and got a few pointers to collector groups that my son will check out and maybe find some great community!

#CoinCollecting #SpecialInterest #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting #ActuallyAutistic

We hit a coin show in Sunnyvale today and made a few finds. Better yet, we met some great people and got a few pointers to collector groups that my son will check out and maybe find some great community!

#CoinCollecting #SpecialInterest #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting #ActuallyAutistic

My son has developed a strong interest in coin collecting. Today marked an interesting twist. He’d rolled up a batch of pennies and declared he wanted to go to the bank to exchange them.

Orly? Well the teller didn’t bat an eye. In exchange he got a $2 bill, some rolls of nickels, and rolls of … pennies?!

Yep! He wants a new batch! Teller again didn’t bat an eye. Is this not as unusual as it felt to me?

#CoinCollecting #ParentingWhileAutistic #AutisticParenting #ActuallyAutistic