#negativity — Public Fediverse posts
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New blog post on Doomsayers.
https://jrsofty1.stinkbugonline.com/blog/posts/doomsayers_and_their_negativity/
This goes out to the one single person who voted for this topic in my poll last week.
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New blog post on Doomsayers.
https://jrsofty1.stinkbugonline.com/blog/posts/doomsayers_and_their_negativity/
This goes out to the one single person who voted for this topic in my poll last week.
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Paresh Rawal calls social media a ‘puking pot’: ‘Negativity shouldn’t be spread, I am trying to improve’ | Hindi Movie News
Veteran actor Paresh Rawal is known for speaking his mind and in a recent interaction, he addressed the…
#NewsBeep #News #Movies #AU #Australia #Dhurandharmovie #Entertainment #herapheri #negativity #onlinecriticism #pareshrawal #positivityonsocialmedia #Socialmedia
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Paresh Rawal calls social media a ‘puking pot’: ‘Negativity shouldn’t be spread, I am trying to improve’ | Hindi Movie News
Veteran actor Paresh Rawal is known for speaking his mind and in a recent interaction, he addressed the…
#NewsBeep #News #Movies #AU #Australia #Dhurandharmovie #Entertainment #herapheri #negativity #onlinecriticism #pareshrawal #positivityonsocialmedia #Socialmedia
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https://www.europesays.com/ie/421962/ Paresh Rawal calls social media a ‘puking pot’: ‘Negativity shouldn’t be spread, I am trying to improve’ | Hindi Movie News #DhurandharMovie #Éire #Entertainment #HeraPheri #IE #Ireland #Movies #negativity #OnlineCriticism #PareshRawal #PositivityOnSocialMedia #SocialMedia
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How to Stop Self Sabotage
You know exactly what you need to do. You have known for a while. And yet you keep not doing it.
You procrastinate on the thing that matters most. You start and then stop. You get close to something good and then somehow find a way to mess it up. You make progress and then quietly undo it. You tell yourself you will start properly on Monday, or next month, or when things settle down, and they never do.
This is self-sabotage. And it is not a personality flaw. It is not laziness. It is fear wearing a very convincing disguise.
Why We Sabotage Ourselves
Self-sabotage happens when part of you wants to move forward, and another part of you is terrified of what moving forward actually means.
Maybe success would mean more responsibility, more visibility, more risk of failure at a higher level. Maybe the new version of you would not fit into the relationships and environments you have built your life around. Maybe deep down, you do not actually believe you deserve what you say you want.
None of this is conscious. You do not sit down and decide to sabotage yourself. It is quieter than that. It shows up as distraction, as busyness, as suddenly finding ten other things that need doing right before you sit down to work on the thing that matters. It shows up as the argument you pick before a big opportunity, or the impulse to drink too much the night before something important.
The behaviour looks irrational from the outside. But it makes perfect sense once you understand what it is actually protecting you from: the risk of really trying and still failing.
The Patterns to Watch For
Procrastination as protection. If you never fully commit to something, you never fully fail at it. Keeping things at the planning stage forever means you always have the option of saying you could have done it if you had really tried. That protection is costing you the actual thing you want.
Self-destructive behaviour before high-stakes moments. Notice if you tend to drink more, sleep less, pick fights, or make impulsive decisions right before something important. This is not a coincidence. It is your nervous system trying to create a built-in excuse.
Rejecting good things before they can reject you. Pulling away from relationships that are going well. Quitting jobs before you can be fired. Leaving before you can be left. This is self-sabotage disguised as independence.
Perfectionism as an excuse not to start. If it has to be perfect before you begin, you will never begin. Perfectionism is not high standards. It is fear of being judged for something imperfect, so you produce nothing instead.
How to Actually Break the Pattern
The first step is awareness. You cannot change a pattern you cannot see. Start noticing when it happens. Not to judge yourself, but to get curious. What were you about to do before the sabotage kicked in? What specifically were you afraid of?
The second step is to change the question you ask yourself. Instead of “why do I keep doing this,” which is a shame spiral, ask “what am I protecting myself from right now?” That question opens up something useful. It treats the sabotage as information rather than evidence of your worthlessness.
The third step is to take the smallest possible action in the direction you want to go. Not the whole thing. Not a perfect version of it. The smallest thing. Momentum is built by doing, not by thinking about doing. Every small action you complete tells your nervous system that moving forward is survivable.
This is not a quick fix. These patterns are usually deeply rooted and do not disappear after one insight. But they do change with consistent, honest attention over time. And they change faster when you have someone helping you see what you cannot see yourself.
Ready to stop getting in your own way? I work with men who can see the pattern but need help actually breaking it. Book a free 30-minute call and let’s get into it.
#growth #mentalHealth #motivation #negativity #personalGrowth #procrastination #selfDoubt #ZsoltZsemba -
How to Stop Self Sabotage
You know exactly what you need to do. You have known for a while. And yet you keep not doing it.
You procrastinate on the thing that matters most. You start and then stop. You get close to something good and then somehow find a way to mess it up. You make progress and then quietly undo it. You tell yourself you will start properly on Monday, or next month, or when things settle down, and they never do.
This is self-sabotage. And it is not a personality flaw. It is not laziness. It is fear wearing a very convincing disguise.
Why We Sabotage Ourselves
Self-sabotage happens when part of you wants to move forward, and another part of you is terrified of what moving forward actually means.
Maybe success would mean more responsibility, more visibility, more risk of failure at a higher level. Maybe the new version of you would not fit into the relationships and environments you have built your life around. Maybe deep down, you do not actually believe you deserve what you say you want.
None of this is conscious. You do not sit down and decide to sabotage yourself. It is quieter than that. It shows up as distraction, as busyness, as suddenly finding ten other things that need doing right before you sit down to work on the thing that matters. It shows up as the argument you pick before a big opportunity, or the impulse to drink too much the night before something important.
The behaviour looks irrational from the outside. But it makes perfect sense once you understand what it is actually protecting you from: the risk of really trying and still failing.
The Patterns to Watch For
Procrastination as protection. If you never fully commit to something, you never fully fail at it. Keeping things at the planning stage forever means you always have the option of saying you could have done it if you had really tried. That protection is costing you the actual thing you want.
Self-destructive behaviour before high-stakes moments. Notice if you tend to drink more, sleep less, pick fights, or make impulsive decisions right before something important. This is not a coincidence. It is your nervous system trying to create a built-in excuse.
Rejecting good things before they can reject you. Pulling away from relationships that are going well. Quitting jobs before you can be fired. Leaving before you can be left. This is self-sabotage disguised as independence.
Perfectionism as an excuse not to start. If it has to be perfect before you begin, you will never begin. Perfectionism is not high standards. It is fear of being judged for something imperfect, so you produce nothing instead.
How to Actually Break the Pattern
The first step is awareness. You cannot change a pattern you cannot see. Start noticing when it happens. Not to judge yourself, but to get curious. What were you about to do before the sabotage kicked in? What specifically were you afraid of?
The second step is to change the question you ask yourself. Instead of “why do I keep doing this,” which is a shame spiral, ask “what am I protecting myself from right now?” That question opens up something useful. It treats the sabotage as information rather than evidence of your worthlessness.
The third step is to take the smallest possible action in the direction you want to go. Not the whole thing. Not a perfect version of it. The smallest thing. Momentum is built by doing, not by thinking about doing. Every small action you complete tells your nervous system that moving forward is survivable.
This is not a quick fix. These patterns are usually deeply rooted and do not disappear after one insight. But they do change with consistent, honest attention over time. And they change faster when you have someone helping you see what you cannot see yourself.
Ready to stop getting in your own way? I work with men who can see the pattern but need help actually breaking it. Book a free 30-minute call and let’s get into it.
#growth #mentalHealth #motivation #negativity #personalGrowth #procrastination #selfDoubt #ZsoltZsemba -
The Silent Damage of “You Will Never Win”
https://wp.me/p84YjG-5P8
#PowerOfWords #MentalHealth #Negativity #Healing #negativity #EmotionalWellness #zsoltzsembahttps://zsoltzsemba.com/the-silent-damage-of-you-will-never-win/
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The power of reframing negative thoughts
As the self-conscious individuals that we are, it’s impossible to go an entire day with zero negative thoughts entering the mind. Despite the difficulty of that task, I used to subscribe to a ‘no-negativity’ mindset.
It’s incredibly important to always think on the bright side and come up with the positives in any situation, but the negative thoughts don’t always have to be diminished. In fact, it’s the negative thoughts that can spur on positive thoughts if treated correctly.
In creating training plans for other runners, I’ve often asked my athletes to subscribe to the same ‘no negative thoughts’ policy. I’ve since realized that the negative thoughts are not the problem. It’s how long we let those negative mindsets fester, and what we do about them.
To give you an example, in my recent Sulphur Springs 50k, I recognized as early as 4 kilometres into the race that my hamstrings were already showing signs of wanting to burst out! This inherently was a negative thought, and one that I couldn’t avoid from creeping into my brain. But it’s also one that I was right to bring to the surface and recognize, so that I could then react accordingly. And that’s exactly what I did. I fuelled early and often with electrolytes, water and other nutrition to counter-act the tightness from getting worse. In the process, I managed to delay my suffering and a complete cramp until the final three kilometres of the race.
Throughout the race, I thought about my hamstring and how it was feeling tight. But I also thought about how the guys ahead of me went out at course-record pace, and that one of them was bound to blow up. I told myself over and over “someone’s going to blow up, and it’s not going to be you.” While I did ultimately end up cramping late into the race, having a positive attitude despite my potential for misfortune allowed me to stay present, and continue to kick it into high-gear without feeling sorry for myself.
So much of ultramarathon running is about who can delay their suffering the longest. Much of that comes from training all sides of the process, from speed to nutrition, hydration, climbing, strength, and mental fortitude. But it also comes from staying positive even when things start to not go your way. Much of what’s happening in the body when things start to go wrong are only signals and “check-engine lights”. They are not catastrophic events that become unrepairable. A lot of the time, the mind is even capable of exaggerating the pain and making it worse than it seems.
But what I’m subscribing is not about pushing that pain away and ignoring the negativity going on inside your mind. Instead, it’s about staying present and continuing to push past the pain when it’s safe to do so. It’s about continuing to engage in self-talk and visualization throughout the race so that you can stay in the moment. It’s about preparing for those events before the race so you know exactly how you’re going to deal with them when they ultimately happen 47km into the race. It’s even about reframing those negative thoughts as positive ones.
If I’m suddenly going slower because my hamstrings are cramping with three kilometres to go, I can think about this in several different ways without panicking. I can think about how I’ve already done the hard work to get into the position I’m in, and how lucky I am that the cramping didn’t happen earlier. I can even stay present in the moment and know that the race still isn’t over, and that I have a chance of catching what’s ahead of me if I just keep pushing. I don’t have to worry about what’s behind me and all that could go wrong. I can instead reframe my mind to think about all that could go right if I keep pushing.
This is exactly what I did in hunting down 2nd place in my recent Sulphur Springs 50k. I hadn’t run anywhere near second place all day, and for the final twenty-kilometres, I had no idea how far ahead they were. But I kept controlling all the things that I could control and continued at my pace for as long as I could hang on, knowing that if I did, I could have a chance of hunting down that person ahead of me. Eventually, I closed the gap to just milliseconds, after not being in it with a fight whatsoever.
Had I panicked and thrown the race away within those last three kilometres, I would have likely finished fifth or sixth, walking to the finish line after fighting for three and a half hours to stay within reach of the podium. But instead of letting the negative problem rule my race with three kilometres to go, I kept pushing right to the line, nearly securing silver instead. This is the mindset I want all of my athletes to develop.
Negative thoughts are not inherently bad, but it’s what you do with those negative thoughts that truly matters.
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“Good morning, Eeyore,” said Pooh.
“Good morning, Pooh Bear,” said Eeyore gloomily. “If it is a good morning,” he said. “Which I doubt,” said he.A. A. Milne (1882-1956) English poet and playwright [Alan Alexander Milne]
Winnie-the-Pooh, ch. 6 “Eeyore Has a Birthday” (1926)More info about this quote: wist.info/milne-a-a/2850/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #aamilne #pooh #poohbear #winniethepooh #eeyore #attitude #depression #gloom #goodmorning #greeting #negativity #pessimism #pleasantry
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“Good morning, Eeyore,” said Pooh.
“Good morning, Pooh Bear,” said Eeyore gloomily. “If it is a good morning,” he said. “Which I doubt,” said he.A. A. Milne (1882-1956) English poet and playwright [Alan Alexander Milne]
Winnie-the-Pooh, ch. 6 “Eeyore Has a Birthday” (1926)More info about this quote: wist.info/milne-a-a/2850/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #aamilne #pooh #poohbear #winniethepooh #eeyore #attitude #depression #gloom #goodmorning #greeting #negativity #pessimism #pleasantry
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🎭 Marc's 'career advice' blog is like a stand-up #comedy set that forgot to be funny. His groundbreaking tip? Avoid #negativity and echo chambers - because nobody's ever thought of that before! 😂 If only he could serverlessly weld some #originality into his advice! 👨💻🤦♂️
https://brooker.co.za/blog/2025/06/20/career.html #careeradvice #HackerNews #HackerNews #ngated -
The Conversation: Digital media is using negativity to steal our attention — here’s how to reclaim it. “If you feel overwhelmed by the constant influx of bad news and find it difficult to focus on day-to-day tasks, that response is understandable. But research in psychology and cognitive science suggests there are ways to fight back against this and reclaim your attention.”
https://rbfirehose.com/2026/03/09/the-conversation-digital-media-is-using-negativity-to-steal-our-attention-heres-how-to-reclaim-it/ -
Things absolutely can get better but action is necessary for that to happen. To solve a problem, one must first acknowledge and understand it. Negativity without positivity is a dead end, but positivity without acknowledging the negative realities of the world is equally so. And the person pointing out a problem doesn't need to be the one fixing it--sometimes different people have different roles they are best suited for in the political project. However, the people working to solve a problem must work in tandem with the people identifying and analyzing it. And so, the positive solution can only arise from understanding and facing the negative, from understanding and confronting the obstacles to that solution.
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https://medium.com/storyangles/change-negative-thinking-into-positive-momentum-200e2ab15600
Change Negative Thinking Into Positive Momentum.
10 Daily Habits to Reset Your Mind.Practice these habits daily so your mind learns a new pattern. Notice possibilities instead of problems.
#positivethinking #negativity #medium #mentalhealth #habits #emotionalhealth
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Communication expert shares 3-step reset method for dealing with extremely negative people
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I think there's a tendency to do one of two politically harmful things: one of which is to mistake self-punishment for politically restorative action, another is to mistake an active choice to remain politically ignorant for avoiding the former.
I think it is important to avoid both of these tendencies. We must guard against the tendency to criticize ourselves merely for the sake of criticism, as if our guilt alone somehow cleanses us of culpability. We must guard against the attempt to expose ourselves to the negative merely for the sake of it, but also against the tendency to avoid the negative and the unpleasant because we assume political futility; because we assume there is no value in knowledge that may be difficult or upsetting for us to confront. Because there is value in that knowledge--confronting that knowledge is the first necessary step to the actions that can heal our world. -
🚨 Breaking news: #negativity not only #thrives on #Hacker #News but gets rewarded! In an utterly shocking twist of #human #nature, it turns out that people enjoy a good grumble more than a polite pat on the back. 📉 Nice guys finish last, and complainers get all the #karma. Who knew? 😂
https://philippdubach.com/standalone/hn-sentiment/ #rewards #HackerNews #ngated -
PsyPost: Negativity drives engagement on political TikTok. “A new study published in Computers in Human Behavior suggests that political videos on TikTok that criticize opposing political parties and use emotionally charged or uncivil language tend to generate higher levels of engagement.”
https://rbfirehose.com/2025/10/18/psypost-negativity-drives-engagement-on-political-tiktok/
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“Bläh, and bläh again…”
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How to erase bad perception?
My solution...
We can’t unlearn/remove negative things we heard, read, or seen, but we can re-learn and add new positive information and then erase/change the past negative beliefs. -
PSA - If you’re an older adult, #DoomScrolling can actually lead to cognitive decline, according to a new study. “Repetitive negative thinking is associated with cognitive function decline in older adults” - So be happy! (I know, easier said than done 😵💫) #cognition #negativity #psychology #BehavioralSciences #study #research #depression #aging
https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12888-025-06815-2
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What if the truth about AI is more boring than we'd like? https://www.conspicuouscognition.com/p/what-if-the-truth-about-ai-is-more #AI #negativity #alarmism
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Swift falsifies his picture of the world by refusing to see anything in human life except dirt, folly and wickedness, but the part which he abstracts from the whole does exist, and it is something which we all know about while shrinking from mentioning it. Part of our minds — in any normal person it is the dominant part — believes that man is a noble animal and life is worth living: but there is also a sort of inner self which at least intermittently stands aghast at the horror of existence.
George Orwell (1903-1950) English writer [pseud. of Eric Arthur Blair]
Essay (1946-09), “Politics vs. Literature: An Examination of Gulliver’s Travels,” Polemic, No. 5Sourcing, notes: wist.info/orwell-george/76060/
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #cynicism #horror #humancondition #humannature #humanity #life #living #negativity #perspective
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Keep negative comments to yourself. Avoid any disputes.
#FortuneCookie #Fortune #Negativity #AvoidDisputes #SilentSunday
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Toxic Positivity - While pessimism and negativity are frowned upon, too much positivity can be just as bad. #toxicpositivity #pessimism #negativity #life #relationships
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Why is propaganda so much more successful when it stirs up hatred than when it tries to stir up friendly feeling?
Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) English mathematician and philosopher
Conquest of Happiness, Part 1, ch. 6 “Envy” (1930)Sourcing, notes: wist.info/russell-bertrand/597…
#quote #quotes #quotation #disinformation #hate #hatred #love #negativity #persuasion #propaganda
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We all know #negativity has more impact than positivity, and the news media knows this. Right now, the #Queer community does not need any more negativity thrown at us especially from news sources we are supposed to trust.
#NewsMedia #SocialMedia #MentalHealth #FactsMatter #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQIAPlus #Lesbian #Gay #Bisexual #Transgender #Queer #Intersex #Asexual #NonBinary
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Source: Georgia Voice
From the article: "Working in LGBTQ media makes you keenly aware of every piece of bad news for the LGBTQ community. Homophobia and transphobia have never died; in all the six years I’ve spent working in LGBTQ media, it has never escaped me that there is always more negative news to report than good news, with the ratio becoming more and more tilted toward negative as the years pass. This year, that knowledge is particularly difficult to cope with. Over 500 anti-LGBTQ bills have been introduced in the U.S. this year, and 34 have been passed into law..."
#Adversity #Negativity #Homophobia #Transphobia
#Pride #AcceptanceMatters #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQIAPlus #Lesbian #Gay #Bisexual #Transgender #Queer #Intersex #Asexual #NonBinary -
So here is how #negativity makes people click more. Should I do that more?
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The below image is funny, but,
While Laughing at life's absurdity is good you can't survive on it.
It's a dangerous tight walk.
Positivity is something you must force some days. For me, I always start with gratitude.
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😡 Why do negative topics dominate social media sites, even here?
(… DM for tildes invites)
https://tildes.net/~talk/1ffy/why_do_negative_topics_dominate_social_media_sites_even_here
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On #negativity: the clickbait headline 😉 version of this new study by Claire Robertson et al that just dropped in Nature Human Behaviour is:
"Each additional negative word increased the click-through rate by 2.3%
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Communication expert shares 3-step reset method for dealing with extremely negative people
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Communication expert shares 3-step reset method for dealing with extremely negative people
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Communication expert shares 3-step reset method for dealing with extremely negative people
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PSA - If you’re an older adult, #DoomScrolling can actually lead to cognitive decline, according to a new study. “Repetitive negative thinking is associated with cognitive function decline in older adults” - So be happy! (I know, easier said than done 😵💫) #cognition #negativity #psychology #BehavioralSciences #study #research #depression #aging
https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12888-025-06815-2
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PSA - If you’re an older adult, #DoomScrolling can actually lead to cognitive decline, according to a new study. “Repetitive negative thinking is associated with cognitive function decline in older adults” - So be happy! (I know, easier said than done 😵💫) #cognition #negativity #psychology #BehavioralSciences #study #research #depression #aging
https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12888-025-06815-2
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PSA - If you’re an older adult, #DoomScrolling can actually lead to cognitive decline, according to a new study. “Repetitive negative thinking is associated with cognitive function decline in older adults” - So be happy! (I know, easier said than done 😵💫) #cognition #negativity #psychology #BehavioralSciences #study #research #depression #aging
https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12888-025-06815-2
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PSA - If you’re an older adult, #DoomScrolling can actually lead to cognitive decline, according to a new study. “Repetitive negative thinking is associated with cognitive function decline in older adults” - So be happy! (I know, easier said than done 😵💫) #cognition #negativity #psychology #BehavioralSciences #study #research #depression #aging
https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12888-025-06815-2
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Vast majority of #trans #people have experienced #negativity at #work in past 12 months.
These #range from #gossip about their #genderidentity through to #invasive #personalquestions, #misgendering, #discrimination and #SexualHarassment. More than 40 per cent of survey respondents reported being victims of sexual harassment or #misconduct at #work.
#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Business #Workplace #HostileWorkplace #Hate #Bigotry #Discrimination #Transphobia
https://www.thepinknews.com/2023/07/06/trans-gender-non-conforming-work-inclusion/
