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I Still Cannot Recommend Feeld

Feeld used to be my go-to dating app, but no more. How the mighty have fallen!

I let my subscription to Feeld lapse in mid-July. In the year prior, I spent about $270 on this app, in subscription fees and individual pings. However, they raised their prices at the end of Spring or the start of Summer 2025. If I had the same usage for the coming year, my cost would be about $410!

I’ve written an article already about the problems I had with Feeld:

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/05/13/i-no-longer-recommend-feeld/

True to my own advice in that article, I returned to OkCupid. However, this app sucks too. I just had forgotten how much it sucks. I can say that, by and large, there hasn’t been a migration of kinky people to OkCupid. I did find my boyfriend on OkCupid. However, OkCupid was just too irritating for me, and I deleted my account there.

In the article above, I mention how Feeld had a problem with pings not getting through. This was a very serious problem. I’d get a notification that someone pinged me, and I’d tap the notification, but they did now show up among the people who pinged me. This problem has now been fixed.

However, the distance problem I mentioned in the article above remains. This, coupled with the price increase, and a new round of bugs, still keeps me from recommending it. What bugs? Read on.

It has happened twice now that Feeld matched me with people I had not liked. Normally, for a match to occur, both parties have to like each other. It is not possible for someone to just show up as a match if you haven’t liked them.

This first time this happened… I was confused and thought that maybe I had made a mistake somewhere. However, the second time this happened, the individual that showed up was so incompatible with me that I’m 100% sure I did not make a mistake.

What happened?

Did Feeld misdirect one of our likes? Was I supposed to match with someone else and Feeld misdirect the match?

Was Feeld’s display when I was going through the stack of dating prospects messed up and showed me the profile of person A when it meant to show person B? And then when I liked person A, person B got the like?

Did something else happen?

I don’t know. I’ve complained to customer service, but I had no reply.

Then, one recent morning, I got a notification that I had a new connection. I tap the notification, Feeld loaded, and I got a message that it couldn’t load my conversation. When I was able to load my conversations, it told me that the person had left the chat.

Wow… that was fast. Could the person have changed their mind this fast? Yes, they could. However, this is the first time I saw the error message that Feeld gave me. Coincidence? Maybe, but maybe not. I’m betting on maybe not.

“Why are you assuming, without absolute proof, that it is Feeld’s fault?”

Because of my history with Feeld. If you go read my previous article, you’ll see there was a bug so fucking serious that it demonstratably made me miss some matches. Let me repeat this, some matches that should have happened did not happen because of that bug! This was a major problem, that plagued Feeld for months.

So yes, I am assuming that it is Feeld’s fault, even if I don’t have absolute proof. If my history with a platform shows that it operates erratically, then my future inferences are going to point to its behavior still being erratic.

Finally, they tried to entice me to resubscribe with a 15% off offer. I did not want to resubscribe, but I checked it out nonetheless. Well, I went up to the Google Play screen for renewing my subscription and found that 15% off to be absent. Way to go, Feeld!

Moreover, after my subscription ended, I’m getting a suspiciously high number of people who like me without a ping. Since I no longer pay, I cannot see their likes. Yes, I used to get likes from deadbeats who didn’t read my profile even when I was paying, but the quantity and frequency of these makes me wonder whether Feeld is paying for some dunces to like people who don’t pay so that these people will subscribe to see who liked them. This hypothetical stratagem won’t work on me.

I’d like to be able to recommend Feeld. I used to say that it was the least terrible app of a terrible bunch, because, yes, all the dating apps are terrible. However, I cannot in good conscience recommend it, to anyone, in any demographics.

What are the alternatives? I’m only going to talk about those platforms that I consider could be alternatives to Feeld. If I do not talk about some platform in this article, then I do not consider it to be a viable alternative.

Taimi

Taimi is a platform for LGBTQ+ dating. I plan to publish a more extensive review of it in the future. For now, suffice to say that Taimi has become my go-to dating app. It is not perfect, all the dating apps are terrible, but it is decent, and definitely better than Feeld. I’ve made some nice matches on this app.

Masked Kink

Masked Kink is a platform for people into kink or BDSM. It definitely is not great. The geographic search leaves me with no matches within 1000 miles of where I live. However, this app has several bugs, so I wouldn’t be surprised if the geographical search is buggy too. As a matter of fact, I’d be surprised if it weren’t buggy.

One of its bugs is extremely vexing. I managed to be liked by a scammer. I did a reverse image search on their dating profile picture, and found a hit on Threads. Then, I quickly discovered their YouTube channel and their OnlyFans page. I wanted to report this scammer, but try as I may, the UI would not let me submit my report. Tapping on the submit button did nothing.

I plan to let my subscription to Masked Kink lapse when it ends.

KinkD

KinkD was already rather inactive when I left it about a year ago. I came back to it for two or three weeks recently. It is now completely dead. I sent messages to easily eight people. Nothing whatsoever happened. They did not even log into the system to check their messages. KinkD was not worth my money when I first went there, now it is not worth my money and my time. I uninstalled.

KinkD is also a great example of how Google reviews are largely worthless on their face. It has a rating of 4.4 as we speak, and keeps getting glowing reviews. I’d bet a leg and an arm that these are fake.

#AutisticWriters #Dating #Feeld #KinkD #MaskedKink #OnlineDating #Taimi #YourAutisticLife

I'm leaving #OkCupid today, most likely forever. I've had multiple matches on this platform, but only two of them became intimate.

This is abysmal.

I'm much more successful on #Feeld and #FetLife, and I have the same success rate on OkCupid as I do on #KinkD.

(KinkD is abysmal, but I don't pay for it, and do not feel the need to pay for it. Not paying for OkCupid is unthinkable. It would ignore my dealbreakers, and I'd get inundated by meaningless likes.)

#dating #DatingApps

The State of The Dating Apps

Feeld is buggy. KinkD is not very active. Oh, and I’m back on OkCupid.

Feeld is buggy as sin. The November 2023 update has been a shitshow and continues to be a shitshow. I recently let my Feeld subscription lapse. No biggie. However, I’ve received during the past few weeks about three likes that never made it among my prospects.

“Say what?”

My phone brought up a notification saying that someone liked me. I clicked on the notification and that person was nowhere to be found. This never used to happen. I’ve resubscribed to see if it would make a difference, but it did not. I have no clue what happened exactly, but it smells like a bug to me.

I’ve also had trouble unmatching from scammers. I tried cleaning my roster this morning, and that one scammer would just not go away.

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KinkD is still a desert in my area. Most of the activity I see on it is happening far from me. There was I girl that I messaged. I asked if she was interested. She answered yes, but then I got nothing more from her.

Given that there’s very little action on KinkD, and that Feeld has been suffering from enshittification, I’m now back on OkCupid. It used to be that I’d recommend Feeld for Kinky folks, and OkCupid for vanilla folks. Truth be told OkCupid is the superior platform. It is just a shame that I have to wade through a lot of vanilla profiles on OkCupid, in order to find the rare gem.

Technically, OkCupid is comes last among these three platforms. I’ve been intimate with multiple people I found on Feeld, with two people I found on KinkD, and with one person I found on OkCupid. I had found OkCupid so vanilla, that I had decided to stop renewing my subscription and never look back.

Haha! Yeah.

With the downfall of Feeld, I figure I should take a second look. The one big thing that has changed since I was there is that I’ve expanded my search to include men, agender folks, etc., basically all the flavors. If we hit it off, we hit it off. If we don’t, then we don’t.

I’ve already received a bunch of likes. It is unfortunately not from people I think I’d hit it off, but it is better than nothing. I forgot that on that platform, the only way to not see someone with whom I think I won’t hit it off, ever, is to block them. I’ve been blocking people left and right, including people that I had matched with before, or that I went on a date with, and nothing happened.

And… I managed… to work through… my entire stack… in less… than a day.

Wow. I remember having this problem before. I don’t want to see or date straight people, so it eliminates a ton of folks from my stack. Then there’s the fact that I don’t want to date conservatives, etc.

Man, my stay on this platform is going to be painful!

#AutisticWriters #Dating #Feeld #KinkD #OkCupid #YourAutisticLife

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/04/05/the-state-of-the-dating-apps/