#lindsayclancy — Public Fediverse posts

I think it is the mother-in-law who has convinced me that while tragic, what Lindsay Clancy did was clearly the result of being out of her mind, and not premeditated.

If you've never been married, let me clue you in and say that unless you're extremely lucky, your in-laws are going to judge you harshly — often by double, triple, or even quadruple standards that will seem unfair and unjustified, because they are. They could royally fuck up themselves, somehow believe their shit don't stink, and treat it as your fault for even noticing.

This is all to say the stereotype of in-laws being awful is a stereotype for a reason. So, if someone were to unfortunately bring harm to their grandchildren, and those same in-laws end up not wanting to lynch you, I have to assume there is a reason they aren't out for blood when most people, I presume, would be. Her mother-in-law claiming her daughter-in-law wasn't right in the head, wanted help, and was even begging for help makes me see the whole thing in a new light.

You also have to factor in the fact that our healthcare here sucks — absolutely, positively sucks on a fundamental level. I am in Massachusetts, USA, the same state as Lindsay Clancy. We're a blue, progressive state, and even here things can suck badly. Asking for help and actually receiving help are two different matters.

We don't have a shortage of doctors here, but we do have enough bureaucratic red tape that if you tried to schedule an appointment with a new doctor, that first visit would likely be scheduled a few months, perhaps a year away. And again, it isn't because they're short-staffed, because once you're in the system, they'll happily see you right away and as often as needed. I believe it is a health insurance policy or something that makes new patients delayed, but whatever the reason, that's how things work here. So, someone losing their mind and in need of immediate aid isn't likely to be able to simply walk in and be seen that day.

What has happened is tragic — we all know that — and now, no matter what happens, Lindsay Clancy will have to live with that fact for the rest of her days. As will everyone who has had, or perhaps will have, Lindsay Clancy in their life going forward. There is no undoing that fact, and Lindsay Clancy will forever be haunted by the reality of what is now her life and what has transpired.

That all said, I don't believe she was well, and I do not believe it was premeditated. That doesn't mean she is innocent, and a near-lifetime of psychiatric treatment seems to be the proper course of action.

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