#crockersrules — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #crockersrules, aggregated by home.social.
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"When you spend the first third of your message establishing that you are a nice person who means well, you are not being considerate but you are making the recipient wade through noise to get to signal. You are training them to skim your messages, which means that when you actually need them to read carefully, they might not."
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"When you spend the first third of your message establishing that you are a nice person who means well, you are not being considerate but you are making the recipient wade through noise to get to signal. You are training them to skim your messages, which means that when you actually need them to read carefully, they might not."
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💁♂️ Oh, behold the brave soul who yearns for Crocker's Rules—a permission slip for your friends to verbally joust with you, all in the name of "directness." 🤦♂️ This is the social equivalent of begging for a wedgie and calling it a growth opportunity. 🙄
https://lr0.org/blog/p/crocker/ #CrockersRules #Directness #VerbalJousting #GrowthOpportunity #SocialDynamics #HackerNews #ngated -
💁♂️ Oh, behold the brave soul who yearns for Crocker's Rules—a permission slip for your friends to verbally joust with you, all in the name of "directness." 🤦♂️ This is the social equivalent of begging for a wedgie and calling it a growth opportunity. 🙄
https://lr0.org/blog/p/crocker/ #CrockersRules #Directness #VerbalJousting #GrowthOpportunity #SocialDynamics #HackerNews #ngated -
I beg you to follow Crocker's Rules, even if you will be rude to me
https://lr0.org/blog/p/crocker/
#HackerNews #CrockersRules #Rudeness #OnlineEtiquette #HackerNews #CommunicationTips #SocialMedia
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I beg you to follow Crocker's Rules, even if you will be rude to me
https://lr0.org/blog/p/crocker/
#HackerNews #CrockersRules #Rudeness #OnlineEtiquette #HackerNews #CommunicationTips #SocialMedia
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Having always liked/wanted a direct communication at work, that is, preferring that people "gets to the point" in the most efficient manner, coming across "Crocker's Rules" is never too late. See also the note originally introducing the concept.
"By declaring commitment to Crocker's rules, one authorizes other debaters to optimize their messages for information, even when this entails that emotional feelings will be disregarded. This means that you have accepted full responsibility for the operation of your own mind, so that if you're offended, it's your own fault. The underlying assumption is that rudeness is sometimes necessary for effective conveyance of information, if only to signal a lack of patience or tolerance: after all, knowing whether the speaker is becoming angry or despondent is useful rational evidence. Two people using Crocker's Rules should be able to communicate all relevant information in the minimum amount of time, without paraphrasing or social formatting."
But:
"Note that Crocker's Rules does not mean one is authorized to insult people; it means that other people don't have to worry about whether they are insulting you. Crocker's Rules are a discipline, not a privilege. Furthermore, taking advantage of Crocker's Rules does not imply reciprocity. How could it? Crocker's Rules are something you do for yourself, to maximize information received - not something you grit your teeth over and do as a favor."
So:
"Crocker's rules encourage being tactful with anyone who hasn't specifically accepted them. This follows the general principle of being "liberal in what you accept, and conservative in what you send"."
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Having always liked/wanted a direct communication at work, that is, preferring that people "gets to the point" in the most efficient manner, coming across "Crocker's Rules" is never too late. See also the note originally introducing the concept.
"By declaring commitment to Crocker's rules, one authorizes other debaters to optimize their messages for information, even when this entails that emotional feelings will be disregarded. This means that you have accepted full responsibility for the operation of your own mind, so that if you're offended, it's your own fault. The underlying assumption is that rudeness is sometimes necessary for effective conveyance of information, if only to signal a lack of patience or tolerance: after all, knowing whether the speaker is becoming angry or despondent is useful rational evidence. Two people using Crocker's Rules should be able to communicate all relevant information in the minimum amount of time, without paraphrasing or social formatting."
But:
"Note that Crocker's Rules does not mean one is authorized to insult people; it means that other people don't have to worry about whether they are insulting you. Crocker's Rules are a discipline, not a privilege. Furthermore, taking advantage of Crocker's Rules does not imply reciprocity. How could it? Crocker's Rules are something you do for yourself, to maximize information received - not something you grit your teeth over and do as a favor."
So:
"Crocker's rules encourage being tactful with anyone who hasn't specifically accepted them. This follows the general principle of being "liberal in what you accept, and conservative in what you send"."