#adoptees — Public Fediverse posts

GenX also (and of course not coincidentally) is the last large generational cohort of domestic #adoptees. As the Baby Scoop ended, the industry looked abroad, importing children for the ever-hungry baby market.

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how can we know? possibly by listening to #adoptees, which no one bothers with doing.

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i’m back from my weekend in Texas. While there I had dinner with my closest friend and his mother, my “third mother,” as she rightly calls herself. We talked about my #adoptees panel. She said, “I’ve never thought that adoption was the blessing we say it is. It’s for the adults, not the children.”

i talk a lot about adoption’s severance of the parent-child relationship, but of course #adoptees are legally severed (estranged, anonymized) from their *entire* family, including their siblings. (I have two half-brothers I have yet to meet and possibly never will).

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"The State Department does not track how many international #adoptees become naturalized citizens. But, an immigration lawyer scoured records and found that a total of about 200,000 children brought to the U.S. since that year had grown up without U.S. citizenship" https://www.nytimes.com/2026/03/23/us/politics/foreign-adoptees-citizenship-immigration-enforcement.html

#adoptees! This is going to be GREAT.

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for those who don’t know, adoption of children and adoption of pets tend to be described in identical language: “forever home,” “gotcha day,” “rehoming,” etc. it is taboo for #adoptees to act against our socially prescribed roles as a rescue objects, forever morally beholden to our saviors.

I’m proud of the work #adoptees and birthparents have done over generations to create a systematic critique of our culture’s addiction to adoption & its dependence on a horrifically predatory adoption industry. I praise ther willingness to speak truth, knowing they will earn endless abuse for it. +

if you don’t like the idea that #adoptees are treated as other people’s property—despite there being a $34 billion market in children—then maybe we can agree that adoptees’ legal identities are other people’s property. “I want a child to call my own.” OK, here’s a piece of paper that proves it

If you can, please support VA #adoptees in their effort to regain their rights to their own vital records!

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meanwhile, other #adoptees are getting *essays* published on Punch the Monkey

my fellow cis people should shut up and understand the gravity of the situation. adopted people have *also* known for generations that the state will decree whatever it wishes about a person’s identity. Intercountry #adoptees know that caprices with paperwork can lead to seizure and disappearance.

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yes I do hope that the ACLU does right by trans people and their control over their own identifying documents, because they sure as fuck don’t stand up for #adoptees in OUR fight.

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Martin Short’s adopted daughter died by suicide. I don’t know how familiar people are with the prevalence of suicide and suicidality among #adoptees. One frequently cited study concluded that adopted people are four times as likely to attempt suicide as non-adoptees.

Risk of Suicide Attempt in Ado...

reminded again of the intercountry #adoptees who risk deportation for the serious crime of having chosen to be born outside the USA

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Listen to intercountry #adoptees, who for years have been telling us about the abject powerlessness and dependence of being adopted, and who have been warning us about the capriciousness with which the state judges who counts as “belonging” to this country.

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kept person who tell #adoptees that the rights every kept person has must be “balanced” against other interests if you’re adopted

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the idea that #adoptees would naturally embrace antiabortion politics is madness. why would i embrace a politics that aims at forcing anyone to have a child they lack the resources to keep?

for #adoptees, history is tyranny. Secrecy was established a century ago not for the sake of birthparents or adoptees but to protect adoptive parents from extortion and traffickers from accountability. And so a practice that it would be unthinkable to institute today is one it is unthinkable to end.

this kind of anonymity is, as a practical matter, completely gone. Better to let #adoptees know their parentage via their own records than to force them to find out via the privacy-obliterating expedient of public, online DNA databases.

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i’m nervous af about the fate of the CA open records bill for #adoptees. Historically, CA has been a leading pro-adoption state, at least as far back as Georgia Tann, who found an eager audience there—as well as a list of wealthy baby buyers. And celebrity culture has been pro-adoption ever since.

anyone who REALLY cares about protecting the privacy of birthparents needs to consider whether giving #adoptees unrestricted access to their OBCs is worse than having them resort to DNA databases, which are to privacy what a bull is to a china shop.

to anyone in a position to help CA #adoptees by making a call: it would be EPIC for adoptee rights if we could turn CA into an open-records state!

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CA people could really do #adoptees a solid by calling their reps *immediately* to voice support for SB-381, a clean bill giving CA adoptees access to their original birth certificates.

adopters are not the only people prone to swallowing the Savior Narrative. i personally think it is extremely weird for anyone at all to feel compelled to express gratitude for having been born. but since #adoptees are eternal charity cases, we’re expected to thank everyone.

NY Adoptee Rights Coalition with a letter in support of CA SB381, which would give CA #adoptees unrestricted access to their own birth records. “Since the law's enactment, NYARC has not heard any negative stories from birth parents, who have also been some of our most active advocates and allies. +

If this bill passes and Californian #adoptees are at last allowed see their own birth records, it would be a huge win. CA is a prize.

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i was in an online meetup for #adoptees, and folks were talking about their Substacks (I quit Substack) and what’s happening on Facebook and Instagram (fuck Meta, I struggle with whether to delete my accounts there). so here I am, going solo (as ever), screaming into the emptiness 🫥

the most progressive, liberated, egalitarian people in the world will crinkle their noses at #adoptees who voice outrage at loss of access to their family health history, and they will explain to us why it doesn’t matter as much as we think it does. paternalism is alive and well.