#adoptees — Public Fediverse posts

GenX also (and of course not coincidentally) is the last large generational cohort of domestic #adoptees. As the Baby Scoop ended, the industry looked abroad, importing children for the ever-hungry baby market.

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how can we know? possibly by listening to #adoptees, which no one bothers with doing.

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i’m back from my weekend in Texas. While there I had dinner with my closest friend and his mother, my “third mother,” as she rightly calls herself. We talked about my #adoptees panel. She said, “I’ve never thought that adoption was the blessing we say it is. It’s for the adults, not the children.”

i talk a lot about adoption’s severance of the parent-child relationship, but of course #adoptees are legally severed (estranged, anonymized) from their *entire* family, including their siblings. (I have two half-brothers I have yet to meet and possibly never will).

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"The State Department does not track how many international #adoptees become naturalized citizens. But, an immigration lawyer scoured records and found that a total of about 200,000 children brought to the U.S. since that year had grown up without U.S. citizenship" https://www.nytimes.com/2026/03/23/us/politics/foreign-adoptees-citizenship-immigration-enforcement.html

"The State Department does not track how many international #adoptees become naturalized citizens. But, an immigration lawyer scoured records and found that a total of about 200,000 children brought to the U.S. since that year had grown up without U.S. citizenship" https://www.nytimes.com/2026/03/23/us/politics/foreign-adoptees-citizenship-immigration-enforcement.html

#adoptees! This is going to be GREAT.

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for those who don’t know, adoption of children and adoption of pets tend to be described in identical language: “forever home,” “gotcha day,” “rehoming,” etc. it is taboo for #adoptees to act against our socially prescribed roles as a rescue objects, forever morally beholden to our saviors.

I’m proud of the work #adoptees and birthparents have done over generations to create a systematic critique of our culture’s addiction to adoption & its dependence on a horrifically predatory adoption industry. I praise ther willingness to speak truth, knowing they will earn endless abuse for it. +

if you don’t like the idea that #adoptees are treated as other people’s property—despite there being a $34 billion market in children—then maybe we can agree that adoptees’ legal identities are other people’s property. “I want a child to call my own.” OK, here’s a piece of paper that proves it

If you can, please support VA #adoptees in their effort to regain their rights to their own vital records!

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meanwhile, other #adoptees are getting *essays* published on Punch the Monkey

my fellow cis people should shut up and understand the gravity of the situation. adopted people have *also* known for generations that the state will decree whatever it wishes about a person’s identity. Intercountry #adoptees know that caprices with paperwork can lead to seizure and disappearance.

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yes I do hope that the ACLU does right by trans people and their control over their own identifying documents, because they sure as fuck don’t stand up for #adoptees in OUR fight.

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Martin Short’s adopted daughter died by suicide. I don’t know how familiar people are with the prevalence of suicide and suicidality among #adoptees. One frequently cited study concluded that adopted people are four times as likely to attempt suicide as non-adoptees.

Risk of Suicide Attempt in Ado...

Martin Short’s adopted daughter died by suicide. I don’t know how familiar people are with the prevalence of suicide and suicidality among #adoptees. One frequently cited study concluded that adopted people are four times as likely to attempt suicide as non-adoptees.

Risk of Suicide Attempt in Ado...

reminded again of the intercountry #adoptees who risk deportation for the serious crime of having chosen to be born outside the USA

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Listen to intercountry #adoptees, who for years have been telling us about the abject powerlessness and dependence of being adopted, and who have been warning us about the capriciousness with which the state judges who counts as “belonging” to this country.

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kept person who tell #adoptees that the rights every kept person has must be “balanced” against other interests if you’re adopted

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the idea that #adoptees would naturally embrace antiabortion politics is madness. why would i embrace a politics that aims at forcing anyone to have a child they lack the resources to keep?

for #adoptees, history is tyranny. Secrecy was established a century ago not for the sake of birthparents or adoptees but to protect adoptive parents from extortion and traffickers from accountability. And so a practice that it would be unthinkable to institute today is one it is unthinkable to end.

this kind of anonymity is, as a practical matter, completely gone. Better to let #adoptees know their parentage via their own records than to force them to find out via the privacy-obliterating expedient of public, online DNA databases.

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i’m nervous af about the fate of the CA open records bill for #adoptees. Historically, CA has been a leading pro-adoption state, at least as far back as Georgia Tann, who found an eager audience there—as well as a list of wealthy baby buyers. And celebrity culture has been pro-adoption ever since.

anyone who REALLY cares about protecting the privacy of birthparents needs to consider whether giving #adoptees unrestricted access to their OBCs is worse than having them resort to DNA databases, which are to privacy what a bull is to a china shop.

to anyone in a position to help CA #adoptees by making a call: it would be EPIC for adoptee rights if we could turn CA into an open-records state!

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CA people could really do #adoptees a solid by calling their reps *immediately* to voice support for SB-381, a clean bill giving CA adoptees access to their original birth certificates.

CA people could really do #adoptees a solid by calling their reps *immediately* to voice support for SB-381, a clean bill giving CA adoptees access to their original birth certificates.

adopters are not the only people prone to swallowing the Savior Narrative. i personally think it is extremely weird for anyone at all to feel compelled to express gratitude for having been born. but since #adoptees are eternal charity cases, we’re expected to thank everyone.

NY Adoptee Rights Coalition with a letter in support of CA SB381, which would give CA #adoptees unrestricted access to their own birth records. “Since the law's enactment, NYARC has not heard any negative stories from birth parents, who have also been some of our most active advocates and allies. +

If this bill passes and Californian #adoptees are at last allowed see their own birth records, it would be a huge win. CA is a prize.

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i was in an online meetup for #adoptees, and folks were talking about their Substacks (I quit Substack) and what’s happening on Facebook and Instagram (fuck Meta, I struggle with whether to delete my accounts there). so here I am, going solo (as ever), screaming into the emptiness 🫥

the most progressive, liberated, egalitarian people in the world will crinkle their noses at #adoptees who voice outrage at loss of access to their family health history, and they will explain to us why it doesn’t matter as much as we think it does. paternalism is alive and well.

this is the basic argument that is always trotted out whenever a state legislature considers legislation that would allow #adoptees access to their own birth records. and it is contradicted by survey after survey of birthparents, who overwhelmingly favor openness to contact.

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@milubo Un détail mais j'aurais bien ajouté une option "autre" pour inclure les gens qui n'ont pas strictement 2 parents. Du coup, "Un" regroupe "1 / 1" et "1 / 2". Même chose pour "Aucun". Sur 1, 2, 0, 3 ?

Moi par exemple, j'ai été adoptée, j'ai 4 parents dont 1 prof. On parle de socio donc j'imagine que j'arrondis à 0 parce que j'ai pas grandi avec ?

Bon j'avoue, les familles monoparentales c'est plus fréquent. Bref, pensez à nos configs bizarres plz, on existe aussi !

#sociology #adoptees

"Christianity is front and center at this moment in American history. It’s easier to recognize indoctrination in other sects than in the one you’re raised in, and that, of course, is by design." #adoptees #adoption #Catholic
https://karenpickell.com/2025/11/12/catholic-culpability-in-adoption/

I'm pumped. After years of searching I finally located my brother's birthfather. He was a Danish sailor and my brother was born in Canada, so all I had were two very weak second-cousin genetic matches on two different testing services to go by. But tonight I finally found him! So that's all three of us adopted siblings with our birthparents identified!
#BastardNation #Adoptees #OpenRecords #Adoption #TruthOverLies

The #Chinese #Adoptees Who Were #Stolen: As thousands of Chinese families take #DNA tests, the results are upending what adoptees abroad thought they knew about their #origins.

http://archive.today/2025.05.31-124314/https://www.newyorker.com/news/american-chronicles/the-chinese-adoptees-who-were-stolen #adoption #China

The family reunion [for my adoptive family] is this weekend. The last time I attended a reunion was probably in 2007. I got married in 2008. I never had a spouse or boyfriend or friend to attend with me. Cousins within my age bracket rarely ever attended & if they did, they either hid away reading a book or were very much better than I at small talk, connecting with distant relatives they probably won't see again till next year. My grandmother was alive & I attended most of the reunions with her. I wanted to. Reunions were typically held at a state park where I could go on brief walks, hikes, play with a camera without making others [or me] feel weird. Late last year, I learned I have biological half-siblings... I'm not going to the a-family reunion this year, though it's been years... it somehow seems so wrong that I would be attending yet another family reunion without my siblings.

#adopteevoices #adoptees #adopteefam #justthoughts #braindump

Question for fellow #adoptees in reunion with biological family:

If you're willing, could you talk to me a minute about how you went about opening up to or talking to your first family in the beginning? I've younger half-brothers I'm in the process of getting to know. I'm trying to find the happy medium between over-enthusiasm and a calm reticence.

Thank you in advance. :blobfox_comfy_tea:

#adopteevoices #adopted #actuallyadopted

Hello Bluesky! I'm bridging this to you from the fediverse.

My interests are #adoptees #AdopteeVoices #genealogy #FamilyHistory #nonfiction #CreativeNonfiction #writing #editing #publishing to name a few. Hope we can connect via Bridgy Fed!

I've just learned about Bridgy Fed to connect to other networks. Read all about it here: https://fed.brid.gy/docs#which-networks

(If you can see this on Bluesky, I'd be grateful for a reply or a like so that I know this worked. Thanks in advance!)

Adoptee Responses and Events Around China's Decision to End International Adoption
https://wp.me/p3gRZe-5Ci

#adoptees #adoption

Here's the first of what I aim to be a series of genealogy-related posts at my newly rebooted blog. Researching family history brings up some specific issues for an adopted person.

Preserving Your Life Story as an Adoptee
https://karenpickell.com/2024/08/04/preserving-your-life-story-as-an-adoptee/

#genealogy #FamilyHistory #adoptees

President of Guatemala apologizes to #adoptees for fraudulent adoptions
https://wp.me/p3gRZe-5sk

"I have been reminded that so much goes back to grief — so much goes back to living in a culture that doesn’t know how to grieve out loud. The grief gets stifled and quieted so regularly that it becomes stagnant in our bones. With no place to go, grief becomes an internalized weight that was never ours to carry alone."

https://open.substack.com/pub/lisaolivera/p/dreaming-is-an-option?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=n2gw #AdopteeVoices #adoptees #grief

Learning the Truth of My Secret Adoption - The Atlantic https://apple.news/AuEea2Of0TECN1QkFt1baCw
#adoption #adoptees

The adoptees listed on this Adoptee Memorial Wall make up a tiny FRACTION of #adoptees who have been murdered in their adoptive families (or who’ve committed suicide—did you know we attempt suicide at 4 times the rate of the non-adopted?). #AdopteeVoices https://adopteememorialwall.wordpress.com/lost-to-murder-by-adoptive-parents/

From Susan Kiyo Ito’s magnificent new memoir _I Would Meet You Anywhere_.

My own #adoption was not final until 15 months after my birth. My adoptive relatives have often told me that I was a remarkably quiet baby. I may never know if I too was fostered, or by whom.

I’ve posted this elsewhere, and it’s chilling to hear from so many #adoptees about how quiet *they* were said to have been as infants.

How're all my fellow #adoptees doing this season? I know it can be a rough time for us.

I'm actively working on writing a letter to bio-family members to try to connect for the first time. It's been a challenge getting the words "right".

Amandine Gay (en mars 2023) : "Il ne faut pas confondre accouchement sous le secret et anonymat des mères de naissance. La possibilité d’accoucher sous le secret a été mise en place sous la Troisième République. À l’époque, il s’agissait de permettre aux femmes de cacher leur grossesse et leur accouchement (pour éviter l’opprobre ou le temps d’améliorer leur situation — économique, conjugale, etc.), mais les liens de filiation n’étaient pas rompus, les mères pouvaient donc revenir chercher leurs enfants. Dans une France très conservatrice, sans moyens de contraception, cette loi était progressiste, car elle permettait à ces femmes de poursuivre leur vie sans être mises au ban de la société. En 1941, sous le régime de Vichy, la loi a évolué pour imposer l’anonymat aux mères de naissance. Le but était de les faire disparaître, de couper les liens, pour offrir des enfants adoptables à la Patrie. Le but n’a jamais été de libérer les femmes. L’accouchement sous X impose aux femmes de vivre un accouchement et un post-partum sans pouvoir en parler à personne. Il leur impose de prendre une décision dans un moment d’extrême vulnérabilité, avec seulement trois mois pour changer d’avis."

https://milf-media.fr/2023/03/21/education-feministe-pourquoi-pour-qui-2/

#France #adoption #abandon #accouchement #histoire #concernées #adoptées #politisation

"Au-delà de l'expression de soi, cette analyse des discours individuels et collectifs qui s’étendent des récits numériques d'individus aux plaidoyers d'associations d'adoptés relève d'une stratégie de politisation de l'intime comme outil de mobilisation politique et mode d'action visant au changement social."

in Mémoire d'Amandine Gay (2018). « La mobilisation politique des adoptés transnationaux ou transraciaux adultes : du groupe affinitaire au groupe de plaidoirie », Université du Québec à Montréal, Maîtrise en #sociologie : https://archipel.uqam.ca/11766/

#adoptées #adoption #UQAM #politisation #suicides #autoPolitique #francophonie #plaidoyers

I learned that Switzerland, with some of the strictest laws protecting individual privacy, grants all adult Swiss #adoptees unrestricted access to information about their birth parents’ identity.
Privacy does not entitle anyone to withhold another person’s identity from them.

Truth. When #adoptees search, it's not just pathological & weird, it's almost always SUSPECT. & yet, genealogy is the 2nd most popular hobby on the planet. #Adoption #NAAM #AdopteeVoices

A smart piece on the meaning of "family," written by one of the brightest, most insightful #adoptees I know.

"[Kinship] is the word for the familial links that can survive the radical transformations of legal severance, alongside the new links that those forms of severance make possible. Kinship is broad & inclusive: potentially broader & more inclusive than some people want. Broader than many adoptive parents ... want." https://corsent.substack.com/p/kinship-after-severance

#adoption #NAAM #AdopteeVoices

what's best for baby-to-be, but bc literally millions of privileged adults covet those infants, & that makes them worth big $$$ to the $21 billion /yr #adoption industry.

2. Adoption promises a "better life," but can only actually deliver a different life. Despite the rhetoric, not all #adoptees end up in safe, loving homes. Too many of us grow up w/ neglect, abuse, starvation, torture. Some of us are returned--or worse, rehomed. Some of us are molested. Too many of us are murdered. +

It's been an interesting several days... or couple weeks... I no longer remember when my last post on here was. Lol. I hope everyone's doing well. And if you're not, I'm rooting for you. :catbop2:​

#adoptees #adopteevoices #actuallyadopted #adopteesofmastodon