I just asked another prof in a chat if their campus was rapey and she wasn't sure what I was asking. Like, there are campuses that aren't?
It rem me of an old joke (Robin Morgan's, I think) in MS Magazine about the difference between rape and marital sex. It was framed as a multiple choice question, and one of the options was, "d. Is there a difference? "
I thought that was hysterical.
I showed it to my husband, and he didn't understand me either.