#verantda — Public Fediverse posts

Here's the PillowFort cross-post.
https://www.pillowfort.social/posts/7670997
Wait, does this count as Condensed Matter Physics? Cuz I think I did okay at that module. No, I will not go check my transcript.

I'll just go be a .... wtf is the enby version of a Trad Wife? House Spouse? Postnuptial Radical?

#PillowFort #crossPost #VeRantDa #airplane #airplanes #chemistry #physics #condensed

@johnzajac (genuine question: "oh god it's bad I cannot take this anymore" pain + "I refuse to visit nearest ER / A&E because I would literally rather die at home than beg non-care from them again."
... I guess there really isn't a good answer beyond "bully councils and governments to fund real healthcare, train laypeople to learn what doctors ACTUALLY do, and decide what I consider livable.")

#VeRamble #VeRantDa #VeRantDo

ok so I may need to employ unusual morale techniques to swallow the bullshit of the Life in the UK test. And £50 bribe / test fee.

Special emphasis for historial ... can I use husbando or is it rude? Idk if he'd count as a himbo tho. Historical Hunk!

Post-Beveridge Report, the one and the only...

" " Clement Attlee, BEST BOI, Churchill's Deputy PM. 1945: became Prime Minister.
Nationalised major industries (reduced selfish wealth hoarding incentives) and
Created NHS (improved wellbeing for non-nobility's or nepo-babies', too). " "

Corrections hugely appreciated, tyvm!

#NotAHistorian #VeRantDa #LitUKtest #InflammatoryPhrasing #ADHD #boredAF

ok so I may need to employ unusual morale techniques to swallow the bullshit of the Life in the UK test. And £50 bribe / test fee.

" " People
[...]
Richard Arkwright, hoarded wealth by enacting strict working conditions.
Sake Dean Mahomet, first curry house owner-manager in Britain, introduced shampooing.
Florence Nightingale, founder and first modern nurse.
Emmeline Pankhurst, Suffragette (separate from Suffragists) who employed active civil disobedience.
Rudyard Kipling, Indian-born author and poet. Art collaborated to promote empire, colonisation, and / or colonialism.
[...]
pre-1720 CE Hugunots were French Protestants who settled in England due to persecution.
Henry VIII, manchild misogynist monarch who refreshed vaginal loot boxes for a non-sickly son. Established a national church to rig inheritance law to suit his whims.
1900s CE Margaret Thatchet snatched milk for longer than anyone else. Also first fem PM, so you'd think things could only get better, but you lot keep voting in self-servatives.
1945 became Prime Minister, Clement Attlee, BEST BOI, Churchill's Deputy PM. Nationalised major industries (reduced selfish wealth hoarding incentives) and created NHS (improved wellbeing for non-nobility's or nepo-babies', too). " "

Corrections hugely appreciated, tyvm!

#NotAHistorian #VeRantDa #LitUKtest #InflammatoryPhrasing #ADHD #boredAF

ok so I may need to employ unusual morale techniques to swallow the bullshit of the Life in the UK test. And £50 bribe / test fee.

" " Events
1348 CE Black Death (Yrsinia pestis) killed over 1 in 3 people.
1400 CE Courts and official documentation prefers English. (no one cares)
1660 CE Restoration of the (hierarchical, anti-equality) monarchy.
[...]
"During Queen Elizabeth I's reign" English colonisers started to squat on Indigenous American Indian Tribal lands on Turtle Island. " "

Corrections hugely appreciated, tyvm!

#NotAHistorian #VeRantDa #LitUKtest #InflammatoryPhrasing #ADHD #boredAF

ok so I may need to employ unusual morale techniques to swallow the bullshit of the Life in the UK test. And £50 bribe / test fee.

""Battles & Wars
[...]
mid-1400s CE last of Welsh rebellions silenced.
[...]
1889 to 1902 CE Boer War in South Africa. Many horrific war crimes.
1916 CE Battle of the Somme in World War 1.
1918 CE End of WW1 at 11 am on the 11th of November.
1939 CE Germany invades Poland. UK and France declare war on Germany.
1940 CE in World War 2: Evacuation of Dunkirk.
1940 CE in World War 2: Battle of Britain, between German and British airplanes.
1982 CE Argentina invaded Falkland Islands.

Corrections hugely appreciated, tyvm!

#NotAHistorian #VeRantDa #LitUKtest #InflammatoryPhrasing #ADHD #boredAF

@SecularJeffrey gotta recharge or recuperate before you re-charge at the battlements and re-coup the corporate.

#VeRantDa #VeRantDo

@daedalean @jwcph the more I deal with anyone at work, the more I realise most allistic people need to literally see consequences right in front of their noses before ... idk, "allowing themselves...?" to see that you were right.

There is no win condition in my experience. I hope there is for other people, but for me, saying something meant getting blamed and saying nothing meant getting insulted.

It's not enough to communicate a problem brewing.
You need to do so politely (in a way that doesn't imply Any Blame for their fragile fucking egos),
at the right time (so they aren't distracted or irritable and will blame you for "not explaining it right"),
in a way that they understand (ideally through aphorisms and/or making pop culture references to things you had forced down your throat for decades),
*and* you need to be Someone They Respect.

So get fucked if you're disabled, BIPoC, queer, immigrant, ND, etc or even just ONE of these things.

Oh, and have the right accent and be conventionally attractive -- but not too much, you %$£^%.

#VeRantDa #VeRamble

hmm. What if we restricted all insurance companies to a non-profit model?

Or "yes save money / save for the future up to [whatever amount] per [whatever timeframe] with [whatever exceptions]"?

Anything above that, divert to researching and resolving health conditions or circumstances.
Allocate that surplus towards the conditions or situations proportionally, of which ones waste or limit the most healthy life years per capita.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7FqXDJkko_I

#MagicWandWishList #VeRantDa #VeRantDo #VeRamble #Insurance

https://indivisible.org/resources

#USA #US #politics #USpol #USpolitics #USpolitics2025 #Trump #DJT #BoycottAmerica #American #Americans #conservative #conservatives #liberal #liberals #left #lefty #leftist #MutualAid #explainer #document #media #file #files #Resist #ResistEverywhere #Resist47 #hierarchy #HierarchicalThinking #DestroyAllHierarchies #anarchist #EqualOpportunities #EqualRights #HumanRights #OHCHR #UN #CommissionOnHumanRights #HumanRights #Indivisible #IndivisibleUS #VeRantDa #VeRamble #VeRantDo

@LynMhairi ehhhhhhh... A friend at uni had issues with an (admittedly asshole) housemate, "HM".

In describing how and what HM did wrong, friendo started insulting HM's weight.

Indeed, HM was (or may still be?) a fat person.
However, their fatness (or thinness!) was not why they were unpleasant nor remotely related.

Friendo later thanked me for prompting them to focus on HM's specific actions they found upsetting.

This anecdote is to emphasise that, while
people who are pushed out of public life are still assholes sometimes who need their behaviours correcting,
relating their shitty actions to their or other groups of pushed-out people doesn't help anyone.

If it's *relevant*, then sure. But often it isn't.

@Wen

#VeRantDa #VeRamble

Here's the media shareable version of https://lgbtqia.space/@MxVerda/113932062656410421

when in doubt, anything of mine most likely follows https://oql.avris.it/license and even if it doesn't, dw. I'll appreciate if you go by the queer license in any case.

emoji spam incoming.
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#OortArtCloud #poem #lyrics #song #idea #ideas #art #TW #CW #CN #heavyTopic #VeRamble #VeRantDa #VeyVemVer #trans #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #LGBTQIA2S #queer #nonbinary #NonBinaryHRT #nonbinarity #NonbinaryArtist #enby #person #people #human #humans #Acceptance #SelfAcceptance #FullAcceptance #poetry #indiePoets #QueerVibes #queers #gender #GenderPolitics #vent

Here's the abridged version, mostly the end. I feel like these stanzas are more widely applicable to most people or situations. Probably more accessible. too. (A little reworked to make it flow a bit better for most readers.)

"Whom you want to be - Lyrics or poem

All I want from you:
Be more of yourself and choose
whom you want to be.

No one else will feel your feelings.
No one else can cry your tears.
No one else may think your viewpoints.
No one else should stoke your fears.

Trans people exist?
Hello, I'm one!
Nonbinary just means "person".
What a kind idea we won.

Is it nice to meet you?
I'm not really sure.
Had you considered being trans, too?
Did I ever know you, anymore?

To be real is not to repeat
the last thing you have read.
To be "biased" means
you've opinions in your head.

I can no longer make myself care.
Maybe if you loved yourself more,
while you will not see me there,
you'd have more chance to tone down the scorn.

Do I deserve to have kids?
What if I turn into you?
Oh, dear god(s), no! I can't risk that.
The core idea rips me in two.

I love them too much in advance
to avoid asking of ourselves:
"May we bring into existence
people whose time may never tell?"

How do I avoid that?
I'm terrified to be you.
A child is not a cat,
but fully-formed human, new.

All I want from you:
Be more of yourself and choose
whom you want to be.

Ban fossil lobbying; and act!
Long-term, more extreme weather?
Climate change patterns collapse.
We've plenty solutions clever.

Problems from hierarchy
ingress beneath our skin.
Set aside your worries;
Become your strength within.

You cannot redo high school.
Become yourself, a real adult.
What can you do; who are you?
Feel emotions, more than sulk.

HRT may have advantages
for who you want to be.
Think past the many challenges.
Imagine yourself free. "

https://meow.social/@oddtail/113924688366357500
(but also that
Lily Alexandre video about DIY HRT
you can find on youtube, nebula, and archival places for as long as possibly, hopefully.)

[Also, the bias / opinion bit is about e.g. hearing the phrase "filter bubble", then immediately testing everyone you know whether they are less that you for succumbing to our shared systems.]

#OortArtCloud #poem #lyrics #song #idea #ideas #art #TW #CW #CN #heavyTopic #VeRamble #VeRantDa #VeyVemVer #trans #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #LGBTQIA2S #queer #nonbinary #NonBinaryHRT #nonbinarity #NonbinaryArtist #enby #person #people #human #humans #Acceptance #SelfAcceptance #FullAcceptance #advocacy #LetPeopleLive #therapy #counselling #therapist #ArtTherapy #interest #BuyIntoArt #poetry #indiePoets #QueerVibes #queers #gender #GenderPolitics #vent #VentArt

Fuck the Mirena coil. Get Jaydess or Kyleena instead. Why the FUCK do they START nulliparous people on the hugest torture stick with the highest dose of hormones?

I swear to FUCK medicine is misogyny and femmephobia / femmemisia encased in historical "legitimacy".

https://www.nupas.co.uk/contraception/intrauterine-system-ius/

https://www.nhs.uk/contraception/methods-of-contraception/ius-hormonal-coil/where-to-get-it/

https://healthify.nz/media/11887/by9401_jaydess-patient-booklet_final_officeprint.pdf

#VeRantDa #contraception #BirthControl #FamilyPlanning #Family #Pregnancy #Pregnant #HRT #HormonalContraception #CopperIUD #HormoneIUS #IntraUterineSystem #IntraUterineDevice #menstruation #advocacy #PregnancyPlanning #Sex #SexEd #porn #NSFW #SexualHealth

the revolution will be in people's heads.

But also on Teen Vogue!

https://www.teenvogue.com/tag/politics-op-ed

#VeRantDa

On the off chance anyone needs telling:

No, autistic people do not Nazi salute at random.

Some of us do it on purpose, because they mistake fascism for "logic". (If you need to kill people to have a "good system", then you fucked up, pal. Do it without the social murder, then you might have a point.)

Anyone who has a nerve condition or tic disorder will usually tell you beforehand so you are less likely to think they are a fucking racist, ableist creep.

For everyone else, there are Hobbies and Joy in life.

#VeRantDa

https://nebula.tv/videos/citynerd-these-10-towns-are-great-and-affordable/

#VeRantDa #VeRamble

https://writing.exchange/@cheribaker/113897022467347265

#VeRantDa #tech #software #app #program #word #processing #wordProcessor

FediVore. MasTumblr. Tumblodon.
I feel like I should be sorry, but I am not at all.

We, walking zailors, must all port man toe.

https://mastodon.social/@box464/113886509614344631

#VeRantDa #VeRamble #tumblr #fediverse #mastodon #pun #puns #portmanteau

"Everyone deserves forgiveness / a second chance."

Maybe? I don't know.

But not every person deserves either or both from you personally.
You can also still work / live / partner / patronise / rent / etc with people whom you do not forgive.

Feel your goddamn feelings. That's what they're there for.
Need permission? You got it. I grant you permission to emote your emotions.

(Disclaimer: do not kill, hurt, attack, torture, threaten, insult, or intend to harm anyone else. Exceptions: self defense or to defend someone else from immediate harm / choose a less harmful option.)

#VeRantDa

Also elderly, older, experienced, mature, settled, self-assured, (idk any other common terms tbh) people also need rights and support.

As frustrated as I am with how older adults treated me growing up, and how (some! Not all!) older adults continue to vote, act, advocate, exclude, etc,
the fact remains that everyone of any age is still a person.
Every person still deserves to have their needs met, on balance with everyone else.

Yes, even the dumbasses of any age actively choosing to kill, harm, maim, torture, and insult the rest of us, making their own lives worse in the process.

If their needs were met, how many fewer would still choose to expend energy so shittily?

#VeRantDa

and even if there's something I do that you really don't like -- just ungodly heathen of Bad Moral Status!!
Then do one thing for me:

Treat kindly your kids, children, young family members, community youth, interns, mentees, coachees, and anyone else you have a hint of responsibility for.

They are each individuals who are different from you. Help them be whomever they are.
If conversion therapy 'worked', we would know by now ffs! It doesn't. So if you really want to help anyone, then help them try not to cause harm. That's it.

Help them be more 'them' (and be excited to find out who that is?? Duh?!) and help them not cause harm.

#VeRantDa

By the way, if you're pregnant, a parent, trying to adopt or foster, currently a carer / caretaker, etc, or otherwise responsible for a Human of Youth,

know this!

They could be intersex. They could be queer.
If they live love enough, they WILL eventually be disabled, if not already considered as such in their current socio-economic context.

These all apply to you, too. You could be intersex. You could be queer.
You WILL become disabled if you live long enough, and whether or not you are / could be considered disabled already.

You ever had a chromosome test? No? Then how do you 'know' that you aren't? You don't. You assume you aren't.

#VeRantDa

Identity and behaviours do not always align.

If you understand the phrase "closeted / in the closet", then you can understand
celibate allosexual people and
sexually active asexual people.

I am autistic. I can have conversations with allistic strangers.
They bore me stiff, to the point of painful nausea and sometimes even literally suicidal with boredom-rage (!), but I can do it. It just sucks and I don't understand the fuckers.
(I also feel hugely put-upon when they expend basically zero effort in response or to initiate. But that's separate.)

#VeRantDa

Celibate = choice not to be sexually active, whether you have been sexually active before or not.
e.g. "failed sex education coercion to replace actual contraception advice."

Asexual = sexual orientation where you have little to no desire to have sex with anyone based on their body shape or gendered identity.
e.g. "any asexual person can still have sex for other reasons, get married, have children, have emotions, etc, regardless of not wanting to bang people they look at."

Aromantic = romantic orientation where you have little to no desire to date, couple or partner, join a polycule, or otherwise form intimate community bonds with other people.
e.g. "any aromantic person can still date, marry, have children, have emotions, etc, regardless of not wanting to date, marry, or partner with people they look at."

#VeRantDa

Queer people are everywhere. We might even be YOU!

You can't hide. I'll trans the fuck out of you if you cross me. (And you'll enjoy it!)

If that terrifies you, you might want to explore some stuff.

If you don't particularly care or don't think it would do much? Awesome! You might be secure in your identity, expression, and preferences! I'm happy for you <3

#VeRantDa

cis and straight and allo and mauve and violet and --
actually I have a rant.

Once for an NHS job, an interview panel of 3 or 4 people joked to me that they don't have to care about "genderbread" people.

The implication, if you're unfamiliar, is that queer people's lives and livelihoods do not matter to them. Or even that they should not matter to anyone.

Evidently I passed for cis het, if they thought that shit was on in my presence. To this day, I regret not silently packing up my shit and leaving.

#VeRantDa

tired finally, but made myself angry realising that they start with the STRONGEST hormonal IUS for ... "reasons". Yes, yes, long understood history and 'well-tolerated' safety profile.

But 'less' of a medical intervention is always, *always* more.

For my own sanity, I think I need to stop reading medical things or about NHS allistic fuck-ups in policy AND implementation AND feedback AND staff treatment AND patient outcomes AND patient wellbeing AND family support AND private sector outsourcing AND britih stiff upper lip for the sake of propriety and turning the other cheek while tories made Nye Bevan spiral in his fucking grave.

And labour rubber-stamps it because "well the budget, you see. What do you mean we could literally just change things for the better? Shhhhhh at least we're not the tories!"

Hormonal IUS is different from copper IUD coil. Both LARCs, Long-Acting Reversible Contraception methods, are different from explosive IEDs. https://patient.info/sexual-health/long-acting-reversible-contraceptives-larc/intrauterine-system

#VeRantDa

Nexplanon is only implant in UK, ffs https://patient.info/sexual-health/long-acting-reversible-contraceptives-larc/contraceptive-implant

"Mirena® was the first LNG-IUD. It is the largest and contains 52 mg levonorgestrel.
Benilexa® and Levosert® also contain 52 mg levonorgestrel.

**Kyleena® is smaller than Mirena® and contains 19.5 mg levonorgestrel.
The LNG-IUD with the least amount of hormone is called Jaydess®. It is the same size as Kyleena® but contains only 13.5 mg levonorgestrel.**

The various brands of LNG-IUD have different licences in the UK. [...]
Benilexa®, Kyleena® and Jaydess® only have a licence for contraception.
Kyleena® and Jaydess® can only be used for contraception, although they may have an incidental effect of making periods lighter." https://patient.info/sexual-health/long-acting-reversible-contraceptives-larc/intrauterine-system

why. the fuck. do they START. with Mirena?
Are they thick?
What part of "keep doses minimal for minimal side effects" gets thrown out the window for women and AFAB people?

The urge to harm is rising once more. WTAF. How is this allowed to fucking happen. I hate... everything?

https://patient.info/sexual-health/long-acting-reversible-contraceptives-larc/intrauterine-contraceptive-device

#VeRantDa