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  1. Fucked-up idea: horror game where you get constantly misgendered, pregnant, terrible experience with pain relief (barely any), but luckily kid (or kids!) come out fine. Then you get postpartum depression or psychosis.

    The mechanics would be managing money, stress, physical pain, mental pain, rising rage, exhaustion, fear / worry, and miscommunication of varying types with everyone. Oh, and sleep, personal hygiene, food, water, and where you put your keys. You have ADHD, btw.

    youtube.com/watch?v=S7ZGK1bJWG

    #OortArtCloud #VeRamble #VeRantDo

  2. @johnzajac (genuine question: "oh god it's bad I cannot take this anymore" pain + "I refuse to visit nearest ER / A&E because I would literally rather die at home than beg non-care from them again."
    ... I guess there really isn't a good answer beyond "bully councils and governments to fund real healthcare, train laypeople to learn what doctors ACTUALLY do, and decide what I consider livable.")

    #VeRamble #VeRantDa #VeRantDo

  3. The vagina is acidic to prevent harmful bacteria overgrowth or (any?) yeast or fungal growth.
    The uterus isn't as acidic afaik, so it's more vulnerable to infections from any microorganisms that get that far.
    Microorganisms are bacteria, viruses, fungi, yeast, protozoa, and probably more because the tree of life is a fucking forest.

    #VeRamble #SexualHealth #GenitalHealth #GenitoUrinaryMedicine #NonClinician #NotLicensed #Health #HealthCare #WellBeing #InfectionPrevention #InfectionControl #Hygiene #Risk #HarmMitigation

  4. Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, or PID, can lead to infertility btw, if that's something important to you.
    Sexually Transmitted Infections, or STIs, can malinger, so please test regularly for them (or whenever you remember) when you can.

    Older term: STDs for Sexually Transmitted Diseases.
    A disease is a collection of symptoms (maybe? Pls feel free to correct or add nuance) whereas an infection is a situation where harmful microorganisms reach a noticeable population inside a living creature.

    The vagina is acidic to prevent harmful bacteria overgrowth or (any?) yeast or fungal growth.
    The uterus isn't as acidic afaik, so it's more vulnerable to infections from any microorganisms that get that far.
    Microorganisms are bacteria, viruses, fungi, yeast, protozoa, and probably more because the tree of life is a fucking forest.

    #VeRamble #SexualHealth #GenitalHealth #GenitoUrinaryMedicine #NonClinician #NotLicensed #Health #HealthCare #WellBeing #InfectionPrevention #InfectionControl #Hygiene #Risk #HarmMitigation

  5. CW: CW Discussion of pregnancy, miscarriage, abortion, etc

    Hell, the name 'miscarriage' itself is victim-blamey. To carry out a process or a sentence is to do something successfully or to completion. To miscarry is to 'fail' at doing that thing.

    Consider the phrase 'cervical incompetence', when describing the cervix. The cervix is the... it's either the bit facing the vaj or the tube between the vagina (tube past the vulva lips) and the uterus ('womb' connecting the Fallopian tubes to the vagina).

    Uhhhh, anyway, cervical incompetence is when that tube is weak or weakened and lets too much into or out of the uterus. I think it's a pregnancy (obstetrics) thing, but it might cover stuff like Pelvic Inflammatory Disease too.

    #VeRamble #SexualHealth #GenitalHealth #GenitoUrinaryMedicine #NonClinician #NotLicensed #Health #HealthCare #WellBeing #InfectionPrevention #InfectionControl #Hygiene #Risk #HarmMitigation

  6. CW: CW Discussion of pregnancy, miscarriage, abortion, etc

    IDK how people affected by it directly or indirectly would feel, but a Miscarriage Day might also help some people.

    Apparently there is stigma about experiencing pregnancy loss.

    Regardless of cause or intent, not just anti-medical abortion people but some people victim-blame anyone who goes through a spontaneous abortion, including people who wanted to be pregnant.
    ('Abortion' means to end something before the expected finish. Spontaneous means sudden. A spontaneous abortion is when your body ends a pregnancy without your input.)

    Not all pregnancies are viable, not all pregnancies remain viable, and abortion is a human right for anyone who can become pregnant.
    Children are a goddamn gift! Forcing someone to care for another human when they're not willing and ready is horrifically cruel to all involved.

    #VeRamble #SexualHealth #GenitalHealth #GenitoUrinaryMedicine #NonClinician #NotLicensed #Health #HealthCare #WellBeing #InfectionPrevention #InfectionControl #Hygiene #Risk #HarmMitigation

  7. @daedalean @jwcph the more I deal with anyone at work, the more I realise most allistic people need to literally see consequences right in front of their noses before ... idk, "allowing themselves...?" to see that you were right.

    There is no win condition in my experience. I hope there is for other people, but for me, saying something meant getting blamed and saying nothing meant getting insulted.

    It's not enough to communicate a problem brewing.
    You need to do so politely (in a way that doesn't imply Any Blame for their fragile fucking egos),
    at the right time (so they aren't distracted or irritable and will blame you for "not explaining it right"),
    in a way that they understand (ideally through aphorisms and/or making pop culture references to things you had forced down your throat for decades),
    *and* you need to be Someone They Respect.

    So get fucked if you're disabled, BIPoC, queer, immigrant, ND, etc or even just ONE of these things.

    Oh, and have the right accent and be conventionally attractive -- but not too much, you %$£^%.

    #VeRantDa #VeRamble

  8. hmm. What if we restricted all insurance companies to a non-profit model?

    Or "yes save money / save for the future up to [whatever amount] per [whatever timeframe] with [whatever exceptions]"?

    Anything above that, divert to researching and resolving health conditions or circumstances.
    Allocate that surplus towards the conditions or situations proportionally, of which ones waste or limit the most healthy life years per capita.

    youtube.com/watch?v=7FqXDJkko_

    #MagicWandWishList #VeRantDa #VeRantDo #VeRamble #Insurance

  9. @LynMhairi ehhhhhhh... A friend at uni had issues with an (admittedly asshole) housemate, "HM".

    In describing how and what HM did wrong, friendo started insulting HM's weight.

    Indeed, HM was (or may still be?) a fat person.
    However, their fatness (or thinness!) was not why they were unpleasant nor remotely related.

    Friendo later thanked me for prompting them to focus on HM's specific actions they found upsetting.

    This anecdote is to emphasise that, while
    people who are pushed out of public life are still assholes sometimes who need their behaviours correcting,
    relating their shitty actions to their or other groups of pushed-out people doesn't help anyone.

    If it's *relevant*, then sure. But often it isn't.

    @Wen

    #VeRantDa #VeRamble

  10. Here's the media shareable version of lgbtqia.space/@MxVerda/1139320

    when in doubt, anything of mine most likely follows oql.avris.it/license and even if it doesn't, dw. I'll appreciate if you go by the queer license in any case.

    emoji spam incoming.
    :ablobcatbongo: :nonbinary_flag: :blobcat_thisisfine: :sparkles_nb: :neocat_thonk: :sparkles_bi: :neocat_glare_sob: :sparkles_trans: 👏 :neocat_cool: :_gaysparkle: :Blobhaj_Hug_Plushie:

    #OortArtCloud #poem #lyrics #song #idea #ideas #art #TW #CW #CN #heavyTopic #VeRamble #VeRantDa #VeyVemVer #trans #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #LGBTQIA2S #queer #nonbinary #NonBinaryHRT #nonbinarity #NonbinaryArtist #enby #person #people #human #humans #Acceptance #SelfAcceptance #FullAcceptance #poetry #indiePoets #QueerVibes #queers #gender #GenderPolitics #vent

  11. Here's the abridged version, mostly the end. I feel like these stanzas are more widely applicable to most people or situations. Probably more accessible. too. (A little reworked to make it flow a bit better for most readers.)

    "Whom you want to be - Lyrics or poem

    All I want from you:
    Be more of yourself and choose
    whom you want to be.

    No one else will feel your feelings.
    No one else can cry your tears.
    No one else may think your viewpoints.
    No one else should stoke your fears.

    Trans people exist?
    Hello, I'm one!
    Nonbinary just means "person".
    What a kind idea we won.

    Is it nice to meet you?
    I'm not really sure.
    Had you considered being trans, too?
    Did I ever know you, anymore?

    To be real is not to repeat
    the last thing you have read.
    To be "biased" means
    you've opinions in your head.

    I can no longer make myself care.
    Maybe if you loved yourself more,
    while you will not see me there,
    you'd have more chance to tone down the scorn.

    Do I deserve to have kids?
    What if I turn into you?
    Oh, dear god(s), no! I can't risk that.
    The core idea rips me in two.

    I love them too much in advance
    to avoid asking of ourselves:
    "May we bring into existence
    people whose time may never tell?"

    How do I avoid that?
    I'm terrified to be you.
    A child is not a cat,
    but fully-formed human, new.

    All I want from you:
    Be more of yourself and choose
    whom you want to be.

    Ban fossil lobbying; and act!
    Long-term, more extreme weather?
    Climate change patterns collapse.
    We've plenty solutions clever.

    Problems from hierarchy
    ingress beneath our skin.
    Set aside your worries;
    Become your strength within.

    You cannot redo high school.
    Become yourself, a real adult.
    What can you do; who are you?
    Feel emotions, more than sulk.

    HRT may have advantages
    for who you want to be.
    Think past the many challenges.
    Imagine yourself free. "

    meow.social/@oddtail/113924688
    (but also that
    Lily Alexandre video about DIY HRT
    you can find on youtube, nebula, and archival places for as long as possibly, hopefully.)

    [Also, the bias / opinion bit is about e.g. hearing the phrase "filter bubble", then immediately testing everyone you know whether they are less that you for succumbing to our shared systems.]

    #OortArtCloud #poem #lyrics #song #idea #ideas #art #TW #CW #CN #heavyTopic #VeRamble #VeRantDa #VeyVemVer #trans #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #LGBTQIA2S #queer #nonbinary #NonBinaryHRT #nonbinarity #NonbinaryArtist #enby #person #people #human #humans #Acceptance #SelfAcceptance #FullAcceptance #advocacy #LetPeopleLive #therapy #counselling #therapist #ArtTherapy #interest #BuyIntoArt #poetry #indiePoets #QueerVibes #queers #gender #GenderPolitics #vent #VentArt

  12. CW: long poem / lyrics, CN abusive parent, "Whom You Want to Be", feel free to adapt change etc queer license here

    "Whom you want to be - Lyrics or poem

    How do I avoid that?
    I'm terrified to be you.
    A child is not a cat,
    but fully-formed human, new.

    I know some of what you've been through.
    Beyond any kid's breaking point,
    No one should ever have had to
    in that hell themselves annoint.

    Why carry it forward though?
    Your life will never heal this way.
    What more pain are we all owed?
    Self-respect, you can replace.

    Self-respect, you may replace.

    Self-love, please seek, "Your Grace".

    All I want from you:
    Be more of yourself and choose
    whom you want to be.

    No one else will feel your feelings.
    No one else can cry your tears.
    No one else may think your viewpoints.
    No one else should stoke your fears.

    Trans people exist?
    Hello, I'm one!
    Nonbinary just means "person".
    What a kind idea we've won.

    Is it nice to meet you?
    I'm not really sure.
    Had you considered being trans, too?
    Did I ever know you, anymore?

    To be real is not to repeat
    the last thing you just read.
    To be "biased" means
    you've an opinion in your head.

    You're allowed to disagree with me,
    on things outside of human rights.
    Otherwise which mom used to teach
    fairness, about which we now fight?

    All I want from you:
    Be more of yourself and choose
    whom you want to be.

    I'll be honest: I gave up on you.
    I can't stand you in my life.
    "Your" "mini-me" was never "You ver. 2".
    You do not deserve my time.

    My pronouns are vey, vem, ver.
    I wish you saw me as a person.
    (Quite simple to make them square.)
    Without help, you'll only worsen.

    You deserve forgiveness,
    as all do, but not from me.
    No risk from counselling,
    or not necessarily.

    There is no way around it.
    Other parents I've found;
    these other people love me,
    if I am, or not, around.

    Why couldn't you do the same?
    Was being separate truly hard?
    You said you valued my brain.
    Why force me constantly on guard?

    All I want from you:
    Be more of yourself and choose
    whom you want to be.

    No one else supports your comments.
    Everyone I asked has been confused.
    "That's weird. Are you okay? Honest?"
    "Did she tell you how not to use boobs?"

    "When she said 'What happens here, stays'?"
    "Who says that to a child?"
    Did you think I would organ-replace
    to extend your time a while?

    I can no longer make myself care.
    Maybe if you loved yourself more,
    while you will not see me there,
    you'd have more chance to tone down the scorn.

    Do I deserve to have kids?
    What if I turn into you?
    Oh, dear god(s), no! I can't risk that.
    The core idea rips me in two.

    I love them too much in advance
    to avoid asking of ourselves:
    "May we bring into existence
    people whose time may never tell?"

    All I want from you:
    Be more of yourself and choose
    whom you want to be.

    Ban fossil lobbying; and act!
    Long-term, more extreme weather?
    Climate change patterns collapse.
    We've plenty solutions clever.

    Problems from hierarchy
    ingress beneath our skin.
    Set aside your worries;
    Become your strength within.

    You cannot redo high school.
    Become yourself, a real adult.
    What can you do; who are you?
    Feel emotions, not just sulk.

    HRT may have advantages
    for who you want to be.
    Think past the many challenges.
    Imagine yourself free. "

    #OortArtCloud #poem #lyrics #song #idea #ideas #TW #CW #CN #heavyTopic #VeRamble #VeRantDa #VeyVemVer #trans #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #LGBTQIA2S #queer #nonbinary #NonBinaryHRT #nonbinarity #NonbinaryArtist #enby #person #people #human #humans #Acceptance #SelfAcceptance #FullAcceptance #advocacy #LetPeopleLive #therapy #counselling #therapist #ArtTherapy #interest

  13. FediVore. MasTumblr. Tumblodon.
    I feel like I should be sorry, but I am not at all.

    We, walking zailors, must all port man toe.

    mastodon.social/@box464/113886

    #VeRantDa #VeRamble #tumblr #fediverse #mastodon #pun #puns #portmanteau

  14. ok, so a thing I've noticed with these random 10 to 18 hour sleeping sessions is that reality feels wrong afterward.

    Like, I think existing -- the conscious experience of feeling and reacting to sensations or sensory inputs from your body (and mind, which is somehow perceived as different for no reason 🙄) --
    is a habit.

    You have to be in the flow or familiar with how existing feels. Otherwise it's unusual or unfamiliar.

    This feels tautological af, but whatever. Allistic people need sad music to know a scene is "supposed to be" sad, so maybe this does bear clarification.

    #psych #psychology #neuro #neuroscience #cog #cognitive #brain #brainScience #exp #experience #consc #consciousness #feel #feelings #emote #emotions #sense #sensory

    #VeRantDa #VeRamble

  15. Don't feel like a man or woman? Feel like... just a person?
    Questioning and just want some space? Or do you feel distinctly ungenderable today?

    Support Ryan in their legal case for the UK Government to stop assigning genders to people who aren't into it! Let us correct the gd paperwork already.

    Yes, I'm kink-shaming policy right now! Treat people like people, gdi.
    It's nice to just exist as an individual person.

    I'll wander around, do daily tasks, or fill forms that affirm my right to live life -- wildly enough! -- left tf alone.
    I don't think a train company really gives a crap if I wear a dress or a cravat.
    Just... having a grand old time, existing in a way that is apparently queer: 'as an human'. That's it.

    I don't think marketing teams shit themselves over an 'X', 'I', or 'U' outside the two letters you were told to assume were possible.
    Oh yeah, and intersex people exist too. Some are cis.

    Donate if you can! Share either way! Thank you! aaaaaaaa!

    crowdjustice.com/case/non-bina

    #VeRantDa #VeRamble #trans #transgender #transgenderUK #TransgenderCrowdFund #TransUK #nonbinary #enby #enbies #nonbinarity #NonbinaryHRT #NonbinaryArtist #NonBinaryPositivity #law #RuleofLaw #LawChange #constitutional_law #legal #LegalTips #legality #case #lawsuit #lawsuits

  16. oooh en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Danazol is an endo and lupus treatment... but metabolised by liver, so even if joints improve, my ALTs still need to come down.

    "Mastodanatrol"?! MASTODON atrol, gdi.

    argh. youtube.com/watch?v=o2Ggwe2j0G is useful in more ways than just sharing it widely to assuage my anxiety.

    A youtube comment: "With masculinizing treatment, I think there are other T options but can't remember the details.
    If you've not had surgery, you'll want to consider taking progesterone to prevent pregnancy as T doesn't reliably prevent it.
    Additionally, you can take finasteride to try to prevent hairloss although it may stunt beard growth."

    "Finasteride is not suitable for some people. To make sure it's safe for you, tell a doctor if you have:

    * ever had an allergic reaction to finasteride or any other medicine,
    * ever had depression or thoughts about harming yourself,
    * severe bladder problems, or
    * liver problems".
    ... well at least I don't have -- oh wait yeah, the recurrent UTIs. :/

    rainbowhealthontario.ca/TransH

    #trans #TERFisland #TransMasc #TransMasculine #TransGuy #TransMan #TransMen #TransManly #enby #nonbinary #NonbinaryHRT #HRT #HormoneReplacementTherapy #transUK #transgender #VeRantDa #VeRamble

  17. No, you're not a bad PERSON for having been rude to a disabled person or people before.
    But the BEHAVIOURS can be bad.

    Yes, the assumption of "knowing" someone else's intent (often negative, from experience) hurts people.

    Disabled people get that a lot. Ask me how I know. Yes, disabled people do it to each other too. Almost like we're also human individuals or something. 🙀

    (d/Deaf people, I'm not trying to overreach here, sorry. I'm more responding to things other hearing people have said to me when I mention how gd useful and interesting BSL is.)

    teachmesign.co.uk/bsl-courses-

    #active #ActiveListening #Communication #Comms #info #Information #Idea #Ideas #learn #learning #learningEnglish #LearningEveryday #ed #edu #EduTooter #education #EducationForAll #lang #LangDev #lang_en #language #linguist #linguistics #collocation #corpus #attention #PayAttention #focus #AmbientFocus #intent #meditation #mediation #arbitration #conflict #ConflictResolution #VeRantDa #VeRamble

  18. No, not everyone else wants to "just learn English".

    Should they have to anyway, just because it'd be easier for *you*?

    Would you like to learn Portuguese, Swahili, or Hindi? Many people speak those languages too.

    Except try learning when you can't hear other speakers very well, and it's tonal, and people assume you're being rude EVERY single time you make an honest mistake.

    (d/Deaf people, I'm not trying to overreach here, sorry. I'm more responding to things other hearing people have said to me when I mention how gd useful and interesting BSL is.)

    british-sign.co.uk/

    #active #ActiveListening #Communication #Comms #info #Information #Idea #Ideas #learn #learning #learningEnglish #LearningEveryday #ed #edu #EduTooter #education #EducationForAll #lang #LangDev #lang_en #language #linguist #linguistics #collocation #corpus #attention #PayAttention #focus #AmbientFocus #intent #meditation #mediation #arbitration #conflict #ConflictResolution #VeRantDa #VeRamble

  19. While I'm at it: learn BSL!
    (Or the gestural / facial expression language, created by and for d/Deaf people in your region.
    ASL can mean American Sign Language or Australian Sign Language.)

    Even just enough to say "hello, my name is..., how are you?, goodbye" is a huge step, thank you!

    British Sign Language is important for d/Deaf culture across the UK. It's useful in noisy or distance environments too.

    Consider pubs, train stations, through windows in a car or building, or communicating near a housemate, child or pet who is sleeping.
    (These are examples of 'situational disability'. Anyone can be affected by a situational disability, including otherwise abled people.)

    rnid.org.uk/information-and-su

    #active #ActiveListening #Communication #Comms #info #Information #Idea #Ideas #learn #learning #learningEnglish #LearningEveryday #ed #edu #EduTooter #education #EducationForAll #lang #LangDev #lang_en #language #linguist #linguistics #collocation #corpus #attention #PayAttention #focus #AmbientFocus #intent #meditation #mediation #arbitration #conflict #ConflictResolution #VeRantDa #VeRamble

  20. Mutual Aid? It means "to help other people".

    Mutual means something is shared, 'held in common' or by 'multiple parties, toward each other'. To aid someone means to help, support, or assist them.

    You do not need to enjoy or 'agree' with other people to want them to not feel pain or discomfort.
    You do not need to solve everyone's problems. You do not need to solve anyone's problems.

    You're not their therapist, social worker, parent or carer, supervisor, auditor, personal assistant, or authority figure.
    You are not responsible for their actions after you offer / give help.
    Free yourself from that responsibility.
    Be kind; then return to your own life.

    mutualaid.coop/what-is-mutual-
    mutual-aid.co.uk/
    simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mutu

    assets.publishing.service.gov.
    fool.co.uk/personal-finance/yo
    assets.publishing.service.gov.

    #active #ActiveListening #Communication #Comms #info #Information #Idea #Ideas #learn #learning #learningEnglish #LearningEveryday #ed #edu #EduTooter #education #EducationForAll #lang #LangDev #lang_en #language #linguist #linguistics #collocation #corpus #attention #PayAttention #focus #AmbientFocus #intent #meditation #mediation #arbitration #conflict #ConflictResolution #VeRantDa #VeRamble

  21. Got money?
    (e.g. your income or livelihood is stable enough not to affect covering next month's needs, plus some fun for a life worth living)

    Now may be good to invest in local organisations.
    Time, energy, money, equipment, networking, social media, cleaning, babysitting, etc.

    My opinion? Focus on: youth groups, public health education, adult retraining, intercommunity outreach, and mutual aid.

    Plus any fallible online orgs you believe in, e.g.
    Internet Archive, Wikipedia, Posteo.de, Ecosia, PillowFort, Signal, SonarPen, specific indie devs and artists, Nebula, MakerTube.net, LiberaPay, Artisans Coop, etc.

    LINK YOUR FAVES too! 📝 🫵📑

    Repeated small support is more reliable than big irregular donations, but 'better is always better'.

    80000hours.org/

    (also hi If you like how I phrase things and try to help people,
    throw me $2 USD, £2 GBP, etc. Very thank. Much many.

    ko-fi.com/mxverda or patreon.com/MxVerdaArt or mxverda.itch.io/ or liberapay.com/MxVerda/ or subscribestar.adult/mxverde or artistree.io/mxverda or twitch.tv/mxverda or paypal.me/mxverda
    )

    #active #ActiveListening #Communication #Comms #info #Information #Idea #Ideas #learn #learning #learningEnglish #LearningEveryday #ed #edu #EduTooter #education #EducationForAll #lang #LangDev #lang_en #language #linguist #linguistics #collocation #corpus #attention #PayAttention #focus #AmbientFocus #intent #meditation #mediation #arbitration #conflict #ConflictResolution #VeRantDa #VeRamble