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Apparently the “man of my dreams” will be so spectacular and the love so all consuming that I will be all too happy to put my life on the line to give HIM babies.

Needless to say I found that incredibly offensive. I was dying. I was incredibly sick. I needed surgery.

This is NOT “informed consent”. This is misogynistic and patriarchal bullying.

Informed consent would have been ensuring I knew it wasn’t reversible and would mean I could never have children. Letting me know risks of complications. Risk of prolapse. Risk of early menopause

None of that was covered. It was ALL about men and babies.

I actually did have a severe post operative complication that I was woefully unprepared for because “informed consent” failed me.

We must do better. Women need autonomy over their body. Inform us. Work with us.

Don’t put the needs of a man before of our own. Don’t treat us like incubators.

We are MORE than our ability to bear children. I lost my womb at 24 and I’ve never felt like less of a woman, less of a person. I’ve never regretted it.

Medicine needs to do better

One of the worst parts was that when I ended up having a complication - I was gaslit & ignored again. Told I didn’t know my body AGAIN. I needed my boyfriend to get them to even run tests.

Now - decades later - I’m still dealing with issues from the surgery and complication.
I can never know how different things might have been had they acted faster - but I DO know I was never able to fully trust the medical profession again.

My article on this is below - and I’m working on a future one about informed consent (or lack thereof)

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https://www.disabledginger.com/p/my-most-dangerous-er-experience-and

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2024-10-26

I’ve devastated but not surprised by the volume of replies from women who had to fight to get a medically necessary hysterectomy or tubal ligation.

I’ve written about my own personal experiences - but now looking to write a broader article on informed consent and bodily autonomy.

One thing that seems obvious to me is that men face considerably less pushback when they request a vasectomy - whereas the sometimes insurmountable pushback women have to deal with.

I’ve spoken to women who had uterine or ovarian cancer and were encouraged to keep the organs “in case they wanted children”. Even after they said they didn’t.

I’ve yet to hear of ANY man with testicular cancer being told he must keep the testicle so he doesn’t become “less of a man.” The cure rates are higher if you remove it - so that’s what they do.

This highlights two painful realities

1) 1) Men are trusted to know their bodies - we aren’t.

2) Men are “allowed” to choose to be child free. We are incubators.

Did you need to fight for a tubal or hysterectomy? Were you successful in getting the surgery?

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