#tonepolicing — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #tonepolicing, aggregated by home.social.
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Wenn man einer Person unabsichtlich auf die Füße tritt, wird sie vielleicht aufschreien oder sogar fluchen, weil es weh tut. Insbesondere, wenn die Zehen noch blau sind, weil ihr das sehr oft passiert und manche sogar absichtlich zutreten.
Die impulsive Reaktion hat nichts mit dir persönlich zu tun, die Person wird dir genau das auch zeigen, wenn du ihren Schmerz anerkennst, den du ungewollt ausgelöst hast.
Alles lässt sich dann schnell klären und wird positiv enden.
#TonePolicing #Inklusion -
:autism: :NeuroDiversity: :feminism:
1LIVE Intimbereich:
Weibliche Wut: Zu laut, zu emotional, zu viel? (45 Minuten)In dieser Folge spricht Catrin mit Pädagogin Danijela Klich über weibliche Wut - und warum sie Frauen oft schon früh abtrainiert wird. Warum gelten wütende Frauen schnell als 'zu emotional', 'anstrengend' oder 'unangemessen'? Und was passiert, wenn man lernt, die eigene Wut NICHT immer runterzuschlucken?
https://www1.wdr.de/mediathek/audio/1live/f__k-forward/audio-weibliche-wut-zu-laut-zu-emotional-zu-viel-100.html#Podcast #1live #1liveIntumbereich #WeiblicheWut #Emotionen #PeoplePleasing #TonePolicing #Neurodivergenz #Impulskontrolle #Autismus #ADHS
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Leute mit Privilegien: Nicht so schnell, wir müssen das erst gesellschaftlich ausdiskutieren! Ihr müsst die normalen Leute da schon mitnehmen! Ach ja, "normal", das sind nur wir.
die Benachteiligten: Ähm wir diskutieren das schon seit Jahrhunderten? Aber ok, hier sind noch mal Studien A bis Z und persönliche Erfahrungen 1 bis 50 Millionen
Leute mit Privilegien 5 Minuten später: Jetzt haben mir hier schon 2 bis 3 Leute widersprochen, ich werde hier also ganz schlimm angegangen und gecancelt. So ist eine rationale Diskussion leider nicht möglich. Ihr müsst da schon freundlicher und höflicher vorgehen, sonst schadet ihr eurer Sache. Keinesfalls darf in euren Posts irgendeine Emotion durchklingen nach Jahrhunderten der Benachteiligung!
Was höflich und freundlich genug ist, bestimmen übrigens wir. Haha, ist nur ein Trick, ihr seid nie freundlich genug!jedes. verdammte. Mal.
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@scheichsbeutel Ich verbuche das hier mal unter "fragile Männlichkeit" ☺️
PIus #tonepolicing 🙄
Plus *Frau ist mit meinen 'klugen' Ergüssen intellektuell überfordert*🙄Für mehr ist mir meine Zeit zu schade.
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"/s" tone indicator should just intuitively stand only for "sarcasm", because it taking less effort than being serious correlates to indicator's length. "ar" part that comprises "/sar" is simply redundant. /ser
#ToneIndicator #ToneIndicators #TonePolice #TonePolicing #SeriousTone #serious #sarcasm
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@victorhck Hombre, "nadie" "nadie"...
("nadie con el poder suficiente" ok)
(Que entiendo el toot y comparto la rabia, perdón por el #tonepolicing :bloblewd: pero el lenguaje absolutista nadie/todos siempre/nunca puede llevar a un derrotismo mayor del necesario a veces #imho) -
#TonePolicing #fascism #fascists
"The Weaponization of Civility
How 'respectful discourse' silences dissent and prepares the ground for fascism
The first warning sign is not a shouted threat. It is a polite correction.
It sounds reasonable. Calm down. Choose better words. Let’s keep this civil. The message is framed as maturity, as responsibility, as a necessary condition for dialogue. But what it really does is shift the conversation away from what is being said and toward how it is being said. And once that shift happens, power rarely has to answer for itself.
Most people have encountered this move, whether in a workplace meeting, a school board forum, or a public comment thread. A difficult truth is raised. Someone becomes visibly upset. Instead of engaging the issue, the room focuses on tone. The critique is no longer evaluated on its merits. It is evaluated on whether it made anyone uncomfortable.
This is not just a social habit. It is a political mechanism.
Fascism does not begin with violence. It begins with behavioral standards that quietly redefine legitimacy. Before dissent is outlawed, it is discredited. Before opposition is crushed, it is framed as unreasonable, unstable, or dangerous. The language of civility is one of the most effective tools in this process because it disguises exclusion as virtue."
https://davisvanguard.org/2026/01/fascism-begins-with-civility/
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Watching liberals like #TimChambers lecture people directly impacted by #CharlieKirk and his ilk as to how they 'should' react to his death has been a good refresher that #liberals & #progressives are not real allies to the marginalized. Even people who had been directly targeted have attempted to tell them the horrific impact on their lives but there is a refusal to permit people the right to their own feelings and reactions.
Charlie Kirk intentionally terrorized broad swaths of society, ranging from the LGBTQ community, to black, indigenous and people of color, to higher education professors (for whom he maintained a hit list) and many, many more.
It is utterly rational, and requires no defense that those on those lists or those who have any empathy for them would celebrate the fact that someone took him out. That does not mean they are calling for violence, it means they have had to live under threat for years, more than a decade in many cases, never knowing when one of his crazed followers would try to harass, assault or murder them and now that person is no longer there to incite such violence.
#TonePolicing those who have to live under such oppression is wrong, it is the opposite of ally-ship and makes clear that as we sink into further oppression they will NOT have anyone's back. -
11 year old meme still true today.
Proof is in the pearl clutching...
They challenge your tone because they want to ignore the content.
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@metaning
Would have liked something in stark contrast to the Trump morass.Instead, swap some details around and it could have been Jnr and Scaramucci.
(Does this count as #TonePolicing?)
Can see that having dad doing world-stage "across the aisle" while living as "Joe's son" would bias heavily towards feeling depersonalised.
Running away and changing his name might have made things better. But instead he kept sucking on the family tit. -
@qwertziop Und es setzt voraus, dass noch genügend Löffel für Freundlichkeit da sind. Es ist auch gefährlich nahe am #tonepolicing
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CW: topic policing and rants about anti-autism ableism in debates and discussions
After being in discord VCs and online VCs in general I have come to the conclusion that my autistic characteristics are disliked by debate bro NTs.
List includes:
• I have a solid command of the English language and can argue and defend my positions.
•I can sometimes ramble off about nothing due being passionate about a subject.
•I will not shut up just because you tell me to calm down when you are discussing something important.
•I misread social cues and need to understand where I have made a social faux pas.
•If you say something bigoted, I will not keep calling out the bigoted BS.
•Dismissing me as passionate and ignoring my actual point.
What all of this gets at is these types of NTs need to learn how neurodiverse people operate and stop BSing us as uncontrollable children. I am 24 fucking years old. Treat me as an equal and knock off this BS or fuck off.
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Okay, I want to take a moment to talk about toot-shaming behavior on Fedi. But first, I want to thank the person who blocked me for introducing me to the term "pornado"—I will cherish it.
So, there's a kind of reply-person on Fedi who seems to like to *vocally* use moderation tools. It's not enough to block or report someone, they have to loudly announce it, to rub it in. It's a "fuck you *slams door*" kind of response.
I typed out a paragraph defending my OP, but you can see for yourself, it's linked below.
While discussing where to take this post, my girlfriend pointed out that the behavior whiffs of the same thing I was talking about in my "doubt caltrops" post. It's a way of policing behavior that isn't against any rules, but that *they* find personally objectionable.
Just filter/block/report as necessary and move the fuck on.
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@p0lise Zwei paar Schuhe. Mir geht es hier gerade darum, dass du meinen Ton kritisierst und versucht hast mich in Schranken zu verweisen. (Und selbst mehrfach mit der Wortwahl "Mist" brillierst.) Mir geht es um die patriarchalen Mechanismen, die du unnötig gegen mich als Frau nutzt, ohne groß darüber nachzudenken. Selbstreflexion ist thing. #TonePolicing
Zum anderen: Ich denke ich habe in meinem eingehenden Posting deutlich gemacht, dass ich ihnen das abnehme, dass sie das letztendlich nicht wollten. Aber nochmal: Wenn Nazis kommen und Platz beanspruchen wollen auf meiner BILDUNGSMesse, wie lange muss eins da nachdenken oder intern diskutieren? Es gibt ja einen Anmeldeprozess, den sie hätten stoppen können. Wenn das nicht, hätten sie ja auch später ausladen können, als ihnen bewusst wurde, was sie da aus Naivität (Really?) zugelassen haben. Wie weltfremd und exklusiv kann eins die letzten Jahre existiert haben?
Die Antwort bei einer Anfrage von Nazis lautet automatisch immer "Nein!". Was anderes gibt es da nicht. Kein Fußbreit dem Faschismus.Und sorry, aber ich werde das nicht weiter diskutieren, ich habe - wie @afelia - nur sehr begrenzte Ressourcen zur Verfügung und wenn ich mich bis jetzt nicht verdeutlichen konnte, dann habe ich eben versagt und kann nicht noch weitere Energien drin versenken.
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Want to empower #diverse voices? You need to tackle #tonepolicing
#Tone policing can discourage people from #speakingup.
https://www.fastcompany.com/91255971/want-to-empower-diverse-voices-you-need-to-tackle-tone-policing
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The amount of #TonePolicing in the C++ subreddit discussion of this is completely unacceptable. If it wasn't for its fans, #CPlusPlus might have a chance at being a programming language with a future.
I swear that deleting my #Reddit account was almost as good a decision as deleting my Ecks account.
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Ok, geen coronawappie, maar als je op zo'n manier aan tone-policing doet, #KOZP agressief noemt, dan ben je dus een racist. 🤷🏻♀️ Tevens schoffeer je hiermee vele activisten die jarenlang zich keihard vreedzaam hebben ingezet om #blackface uit de Nederlandse straten te krijgen. Inclusief ikzelf die twee jaar geleden bijna kapot was geslagen door op hol geslagen Staphorstenaren en hun dronken vrienden. Waar ik trouwens ook nog al veel tone-policing over heb mogen verduren van witte mensen. Die zichzelf zo verheven voelen dat ze denken dat ze iemand die net ontsnapt is van een aanval de les mogen lezen. En dan ben ik zelf nog hartstikke wit, moet je voorstellen wanneer ik zwart of van kleur was geweest. 😭
Hier nogmaals mijn achteraf geschreven blogstuk, nadat het zelfs de krant had gehaald. Ja, ik stond in de krant. 😎
https://blog.joenepraat.nl/mastodon-is-geen-revalidatiecentrum-voor-white-innocence
Zie hier de hele draad: https://mastodon.social/@Kletskous/113426929847705032
Ik heb haar inderdaad geblokkeerd en aan mijn Mastodon-server gerapporteerd.
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"This is a confession. I love daytime TV. I smoke, even though I officially gave up years ago. I’m often late, and usually lie about why. And sometimes I feel good when others feel bad.
"The Japanese have a saying: “The misfortunes of others taste like honey.” […] In Hebrew enjoying other people’s catastrophes is 'simcha la‑ed'."
Excerpts from the #book #Schadenfreude by Tiffany Watt Smith: https://web.archive.org/web/20190606171225/https://lithub.com/not-just-a-german-word-a-brief-history-of-schadenfreude/ @psychology @bookstodon
#pity #failures #empathy #envy #emotionality #frustration #discomfort #tonePolicing #languagePolice #conversations #debates #blameTheVictim #grievability #mentalHealth #sadism #bondage #failures #joy #psychology #TiffanyWattSmith #bookStodon #wickedness
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Your tone will never be right when someone’s salary depends on it being wrong.
(With apologies to Upton Sinclair.)
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In all seriousness, how do you phrase "this package in your distribution isn't working at all for anyone in any circumstances" in a positive light?
The companies involved in creating distributions aren't charities. IBM, Canonical, RedHat, etc, should be working on this already.
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Heute wieder in der Timeline:
Tone policing
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tone_policing?wprov=sfla1
Ist echt peinlich, wenn man keine Argumente hat.
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Asking people to calm down protects privilege – and silences people who are hurting.
Tone policing: https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/12/tone-policing-and-privilege/
#emotionality #frustration #discomfort #tonePolicing #RobotHugs #languagePolice #conversations #debates #blameTheVictim #adultSupremacy #manliness #humor #humour #feminism #empathy #grievability #mentalHealth #school #adultDomination #adultism #maleSupremacy #adults #patriarchy #whiteSupremacy #JKRowling #transGender #trans #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #transPhobia #transLaw
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@michael I believe it is time to leave #Mastodon for something else. The #Fediverse has become nothing but an elitist cargo cult with rules so strict, the #puritan sect looks pale in this regard.
To create a stable society is not trivial but the decisions taken in this village violate human rights and I do no longer love this #CancelCulture and #TonePolicing
I guess we need many more experiments until federation finds a balance.
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@stuart Hältst du #TonePolicing der Sache dienlich? @Intensivdiva @TwraSun
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@rainman Du kannst auch gerne mal #tonepolicing nachschlagen.
@sebgiessmann @netzpolitik_feed -
And if you actually think my words are going to instigate a mob that searches out and kills a billionaire.....well you embarrass me with your high expectations, do you think hordes of uncouth working class oiks are hanging on my every word?
You think our people are the same as their people and will go on a supermarket killing spree at the sight of a guillotine gif?It's saying more about you than us, the 'horde' as you see it....