#stimmingislife — Public Fediverse posts
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A Small Reorganization
I’m splitting my YouTube channels, and I’m no longer announcing my activity to those channels here.
I used to post here whenever I made a new clip in @YourAutisticLife. Going forward, I’m no longer doing this. I will probably delete the old posts at some point.
I’ve also split off the music playlists that were in @YourAutisticLife. They are now in their own channel: @StimmingIsLife. (For now, the playlists that were already on the old channel are still there.)
The upshot for you:
- If you want to know when I release a new piece of nonsense, subscribe to @YourAutisticLife.
- If you want to know when I release a new playlist, subscribe to @StimmingIsLife.
#comedy #music #SiteHousekeeping #StimmingIsLife #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/07/24/a-small-reorganization/
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Stimming Is Life 015
Yes music!
In need to talk about the Route 66 song. Unfortunately, the electroswing mix that I picked does not exist on Spotify. I had to replace it with Nat King Cole’s version, which I love.
This song is a good illustration of the fact that I think ads can be cute, even if I hate most ads. No, the song is not an actual ad, but I think the eletroswing version that I picked distill it into a nice little jingle:
If you ever plan to motor west
Travel my way, take the highway that’s the best
Get your kicks on Route 66This little ditty tells you everything you need to know about the “product,” Route 66. You don’t need to say anything more than the above. The remix that I picked is perfectly embodying this.
I actually miss jingles. I think they were a nice art form.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLZu8lf-W92LPSIAFm3EaOTScC4IYHhWM2
https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4b0CsLyHqGVeF3SVrp8khz?si=c4c0329b029a48b9
#AutisticWriters #music #MusicVideo #stimming #StimmingIsLife #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/06/17/stimming-is-life-015/
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Stimming Is Life 14
More music to stim to.
Things of note…
I believe this is a first in our series. The songwriter of Your Woman, Jyoti Mishra (@Jyoti) is in the fediverse! Do say hi, especially if you like the song!
Danger Mouse is very present in this playlist. He’s a member Gnarls Barkley and Broken Bells. No, I don’t mean the cartoon character, but this guy:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Danger_Mouse_(musician)
My ex-wife was enamored with Lovefool by The Cardigans. My relationship to it was more muted. I loved the musicality of it, but I hated the notion that a woman was asking someone to pretend to love her.
#AutisticWriters #music #MusicVideo #stimming #StimmingIsLife #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/06/05/stimming-is-life-14/
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Stimming Is Life’s 80’s 001
I know I’ve had a few oldies in my playlists previously, but this is the first time I have an entire playlist of oldies. I asked YouTube for Lube, and then it figured that I just wanted to listen to oldies. I just rolled with it.
#AutisticWriters #music #MusicVideo #stimming #StimmingIsLife #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/05/31/stimming-is-lifes-80s-001/
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Stimming Is Life’s Greatest Hits 002
The greatest hits so far in the Stimming Is Life series.
#AutisticWriters #music #MusicVideo #stimming #StimmingIsLife #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/05/24/stimming-is-lifes-greatest-hits-002/
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Stimming Is Life 013
Even more music to stim to!
I’ve given an autistic reading of The Rifle’s Spiral by The Shins here.
#AutisticWriters #music #MusicVideo #stimming #StimmingIsLife #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/05/22/stimming-is-life-013/
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Stimming Is Life 012
More music to stim to!
Keen-eyed observers will recognize Wish I Knew You by The Revivalists. I’ve talked about it in this article:
#music #MusicVideo #stimming #StimmingIsLife #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/05/01/stimming-is-life-012/
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Stimming Is Life 011
More music to stim to.
I’ve picked the audio-only version of The Less I Know The Better by Tame Impala. There’s a video of it, however, it contains sex, so I decided to not include it in my playlist. Feel free to find it on YouTube and watch it, however!
#music #MusicVideo #stimming #StimmingIsLife #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/04/12/stimming-is-life-011/
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Stimming Is Life 010
More music to stim to.
Warning: the clip for Wonderland by Caravan Palace contains imagery that some people can find disturbing.
#music #MusicVideo #stimming #StimmingIsLife #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/03/12/stimming-is-life-010/
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Stimming Is Life 009
More music to stim to.
The music video for I Appear Missing is a big gory. Also, I picked the audio of Miracle for the YouTube playlist. There is an official music video, but it is not safe for work. If you want to see it, you’ll have to work for it.
#music #MusicVideo #stimming #StimmingIsLife #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/02/21/stimming-is-life-009/
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Stimming Is Life 008
More music to stim to.
Lest you think that I’m making these playlists just for you. No, I’m making them for myself. I’ve been stimming to the following playlist for a few weeks now on my daily walks, and on the subway.
Oh, Tranz by Gorillaz is a bit fast, but it is sooo gooooood! When it comes up I have to break my step because it is too fast.
Enjoy!
Stimming is life, shirt, sweaters, etc. can be had at my Bonfire store.
#AutisticWriters #music #playlist #stimming #StimmingIsLife #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/02/03/stimming-is-life-008/
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Stimming to music during my daily walk. No music because copyright. 😩
I recorded this yesterday.
I was stimming to The Wolf by Siamés. (Link after my video.)
#ActuallyAutistic #StimmingIsLife #stimming
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I'm baffled when a stimming video that I put up gets a downvote.
What does it mean?
"Your experience of autism is incorrect."
"Dude! You're not stimming correctly!"
"I think you faked it."
"I don't like stimming, much like I don't like people yawning or blinking."
"I meant to upvote, but my cat bumped into my elbow, and I clicked on the wrong button."
(No joke. The cat bumping into my elbow scenario happened to me! I did catch it, however.)
"I'm drunk and clicking all the things."
:catthinking:
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Suis-je plus autiste qu’auparavant?
Pour ceux qui se camouflaient, la réalisation qu’ils sont autistes peut les faire apparaître plus autistes du point de vue des autres.
La réponse à ma question est “non”. Vous n’êtes pas plus autiste qu’auparavant. J’ai bien expliqué avec mon allégorie du jardin que nous sommes autistes dès la naissance. Ceux qui se camouflent sont capables de dissimuler ce fait au monde, et parfois à eux-mêmes. C’est exactement ce que j’ai fait pendant la plus grande partie de ma vie. Mon autisme était là, mais il était dissimulé face à tout le monde.
Ce sont souvent les neurotypiques qui disent aux autistes qu’ils ont l’air plus autistes qu’autrefois. Ces gens neurotypiques manquent la cible. Ils soutiennent un stéréotype concernant ce à quoi un autiste devrait ressembler. Le plus un autiste se conforme à ce stéréotype, le plus cette personne est autiste. Ceci est, bien entendu, insensé. Comme je l’ai expliqué ci-haut, nous sommes autistes dès la naissance. La manière avec laquelle nous manifestons notre autisme dans le monde n’indique pas que nous serions plus ou moins autistes.
Votre vie d’autiste existe grâce à votre support. Utilisez l’un des liens ci-bas pour me supporter. Merci!
Joins-toi à nous Magasin sur BonfireJe sais maintenant que je suis autiste. Je ne me camoufle plus. Certains des effets de l’élimination du camouflage ont été des effets somatiques, sur lesquels je n’ai aucun contrôle. Par contre, d’autres effets modifient mon comportement, et ces effets évoluent.
Mon autostimulation a évoluée beaucoup ces derniers temps. J’avais l’habitude d’être très discret. Généralement, je m’autostimulais sous la table, ou bien mon autostimulation était invisible, comme quand je grinçais des dents. Des fois, je tapotais sur mon bureau, mais c’était au rythme de la musique. J’écoutais aussi de la musique et des vidéo-clips parce que je suis un autostimulateur audio-visuel. Par contre, après mon cancer, je me suis mis à danser des mains. Néanmoins, ces formes d’autostimulation étaient pour la majeure partie socialement acceptable. Soit les gens ne les détectaient pas, ou bien, ils trouvaient des raisons pour les excuser.
Depuis que j’ai découvert que je suis autiste, j’utilise maintenant plus de formes d’autostimulation. Par exemple, je tape mes poings ensemble. Je n’avais pas l’habitude de faire ceci. J’ai aussi commencé à faire des mouvements qui ressemblent à la danse des mains. Habituellement, je fais la danse des mains au rythme de la musique. Par contre, cette nouvelle forme d’autostimulation n’est pas exécutée au rythme de la musique, mais elle ressemble à des fragments de danse des mains. C’est difficile à décrire. Je ne crois pas que je ferai un jour une autostimulation qui soit un battement de mains, ou un tournoiement, mais j’évolue toujours. Remarquez bien que je ne gêne pas les gens qui battent des mains, ou qui tournoient.
Je suis aussi devenu plus habile à maintenir mes limites. J’ai toujours été okay dans les situations sociales. Oui, elles généraient de l’anxiété, mais j’étais capable de composer avec ça, et je n’ai jamais eu le besoin d’être le centre d’intérêt. Par contre, récemment, j’ai plus de troubles, surtout si l’espace dans lequel l’événement se déroule est bruyant. Mon habitude était que si un événement se déroulait de telle heure à telle heure, j’étais là pour toute la durée, sauf s’il y avait quelque chose d’important qui me faisait partir plus tôt. De nos jours, je m’en vais quand j’en ai assez eu. J’ai déjà fait ceci dans certains événements. À vrai dire, j’avais quelque chose d’important à faire: m’occuper de moi-même.
Je fais aussi tout pour ne pas retourner dans un bureau, ou pour me faire engager dans un boulot qui soit attaché à un bureau. J’ai déjà travaillé dans un bureau, et j’ai aussi travaillé dans un boulot qui soit attaché à un bureau. Je ne veux pas y retourner. Présentement, j’écris. C’est déjà quelque chose, mais je vais devoir trouver plus de sources de revenu si je ne veux pas retourner dans un bureau. Ce n’était pas vraiment un objectif conscient pour moi avant que je ne me sache autiste, mais maintenant ce l’est.
En conclusion, je n’ai pas de problème pour dire aux gens que je suis autiste, ou pour porter des “vêtements autistes” comme mon t-shirt Stimming Is Life. (Disponible dans mon magasin Bonfire.) Si certaines personnes ne peuvent supporter mon autisme (et certaines personnes ne le peuvent), c’est leur perte.
#autisme #autiste #AutisticWriters #autostimulation #boulot #camouflage #GagnerSaVieCommeAutiste #limites #StimmingIsLife #VotreVieDAutiste
https://www.votreviedautiste.com/2023/09/27/suis-je-plus-autiste-quauparavant/
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Stimming Is Life 005 should be coming out soon.
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Am I More Autistic Than I Used To Be?
For people who used to mask, the realization that they are autistic may make them appear more autistic to the world.
The answer is “no,” you are not more autistic than you used to be. As I’ve taken pains to explain with my garden allegory, we are autistic from birth. Those who mask are able to hide this fact to the world, and sometimes to themselves. That’s exactly what I did for most of my life. My autism was there, but it was hidden to everyone.
It is often neurotypical people that will tell autistic people that they look more autistic than they used to. These neurotypical people are misguided. They hold onto a stereotype of what an autistic person should look like. The more the autistic person conforms to this stereotype, the more autistic they are. This, of course, is nonsense. As I’ve explained above, we’re autistic from birth. How we manifest into the world has nothing to do with whether we are more or less autistic.
I do know now that I am autistic. I am letting the mask fall down. Some of the effects of the mask falling down have been somatic effects, that I don’t have any control over. However, other effects are behavioral, and these behavioral effects are evolving.
My stimming has evolved quite a bit lately. It used to be very discreet. I would stim, for the most part, under the table, or the stim would be invisible, like grinding my teeth. Sometimes I’d tap my desk, but that was in rhythm to the music. I’d also listen to music and music videos because I’m an audio-visual stimmer. However, after my cancer, I also started hand-dancing. At any rate, these stims were mostly socially acceptable stims. Either people did not see them, or I could explain them away.
Since I’ve discovered that I’m autistic, I’m also using more varied forms of stimming. For instance, I hit my fists together. I never ever used to do this. I’ve also started doing movements similar to my hand-dancing. II usually hand-dance to music. However, this new stim is not done to music, but it looks like fragments of hand-dancing. It is hard to explain. I don’t think I’ll ever go into hand-flapping mode, or twirling mode, but I’m still evolving. Also, I don’t shame the people who hand-flap or twirl.
I’m also much better at establishing boundaries. I’ve always been okay in social settings. Yes, they generate anxiety, but I was able to cope with it, and I did not need to be the center of attention. However, lately, I have had a harder time, especially if the place where the event is happening is noisy. It used to be that if an event was from this time to that time, I’d say for the whole thing unless I had some other important thing I needed to attend to. I now leave when I feel that I’ve had enough. I’ve done this a few times. Truth be told, I do have something important to attend to: myself.
I’m also aiming to not return into an office, or do any kind of work attached to an office, if I can help it. I’ve been in an office. I’ve also done work attached to an office. I don’t want to return to this. Right now, I am writing, which is already something, but I need to find more sources of income if I don’t want to return into an office. This wasn’t really a conscious goal of mine before I knew I was autistic, but now it is.
Finally, I have no qualms about telling people that I am autistic, or about wearing “autistic clothing” like my Stimming Is Life shirt. (Available in my Bonfire store.) If they cannot handle it (and some cannot), it is their loss.
#ActuallyAutistic #boundaries #MakingALivingWhileAutistic #masking #SelfCare #stimming #StimmingIsLife #work #YourAutisticLife
https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2023/08/28/am-i-more-autistic-than-i-used-to-be/