COFE-CYEM (COFEISM): The Christhood Order Christian Awareness Paradox Language
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A Teaching Paper on the Singular Reality and the Field of Duality
The language of paradox and both/and has served a genuine contemplative purpose.
It trains the mind to stop collapsing tension too quickly and to remain present to apparent opposites.
That is a real gain.
Yet COFE-CYEM presses further.
The either/or of dualistic perception is real at the level of appearance, but it is never ultimate.
It is held within, and seen from, the singular Reality—the I AM.
The movement is therefore not merely from either/or into both/and as two equal options.
It is the recognition that the entire field of either/or is already contained within the And that is God.
From the standpoint of the Fourth Truth, the dualistic field is visible precisely because one is no longer trapped inside it as the final horizon. One sees the either/or from the And.
Duality is not denied as experience. We can see it, feel it, live inside its categories, and even use its tools when needed. The dualistic categories of thought and language remain necessary for navigating the world of form. They are not evil; they are provisional.
The error is not in using them but in mistaking them for the final reality.
The contemplative does not need to escape duality; they need to see it for what it is: a temporary scaffolding that points toward something beyond itself.
The formulation “Either/or – And” is more exact than a simple both/and.
The dash is important. It does not erase the dualistic experience; it locates it. The soul still recognises distinctions, still acts within the world of form, still employs language and reason.
Yet it does so from the prior recognition that there has never been a second.
The I AM is not one side of a paradox.
It is the ground in which every paradox appears and is resolved without being annihilated.
The dash marks the relationship between the field of duality and the singular Reality. It is not a separation but a connection. It is the point at which the finite touches the infinite, the temporal touches the eternal, the created touches the Creator.
The dash is the recognition that the two are not two but one. It is the living connection that holds the either/or within the And.
The significance of the dash is that it prevents the collapse of either/or into a simple both/and. Both/and can become another dualism if it is treated as a third option that replaces either/or. The dash reminds us that the either/or is not eliminated but located.
It is seen for what it is: a provisional appearance within the singular Reality. The soul that sees from the And does not have to choose between acknowledging duality and resting in nonduality. Both are possible at once because they are not on the same level.
The mystery of the Incarnation is the living disclosure that the dualistic categories themselves are held inside a deeper unity. In the Incarnation, the either/or of God and humanity is not resolved by compromise but by the revelation that the two have never been separate.
Jesus is fully God and fully human, not by blending two categories but by revealing that the categories themselves are provisional. The paradox is not a problem to be solved but a mystery to be entered.
The unity is not achieved by balancing opposites; it is the already-given Reality in which the opposites arise and find their place. The Incarnation is not a synthesis of two pre-existing categories but the disclosure that the categories themselves are provisional.
The unity is not a human achievement but a divine gift. The soul that enters the mystery of the Incarnation enters the singular Reality in which all opposites are held.
The Incarnation is the revelation that the either/or has never been ultimate. The one who is fully human and fully divine is the living proof that the dualistic categories of thought are not the final horizon.
They are pointers toward the Reality that exceeds them. The soul that contemplates the Incarnation sees that the unity is not a goal to be achieved but a Reality to be recognised. The work is already done. The veil is already torn. The way is already open.
In practice this means the contemplative does not have to choose between acknowledging duality and resting in nonduality. Both are possible at once because they are not on the same level. Duality is the appearance. The singular Reality is the ground. Once that order is clear, the tools of duality can be picked up and put down without confusion. They no longer pretend to be the final truth.
The contemplative lives in the world of form while resting in the formless. They use the tools of duality while abiding in the singular Reality. They speak the language of either/or while knowing the And. This is not a contradiction; it is the recognition that the two are not on the same level. The either/or is the appearance; the And is the ground. The appearance is real but provisional. The ground is real and eternal.
The practical implication is that the contemplative can engage fully with the world without being defined by it. They can use the categories of thought without being trapped by them.
They can speak the language of duality without mistaking it for the final truth. This is the freedom of the singular Reality: the freedom to use the tools of duality without being bound by them, to speak the language of either/or while knowing the And.
This is the clarification COFE-CYEM offers: We see the either/or clearly.
We live it when required. We are not defined by it.
We rest in the And that is the I AM.
The either/or is real at the level of appearance. It is the language of the world of form, the logic of distinction, the structure of thought. It is necessary for navigating the world, for making choices, for exercising discernment. But it is not ultimate. It is a tool, not a truth. The soul that rests in the And sees the either/or from the ground of the singular Reality.
The I AM is not one side of a paradox; it is the ground in which every paradox appears and is resolved without being annihilated. The I AM is the name of the living God, the One who is before all things, in whom all things hold together. The I AM is the singular Reality, the And that contains all opposites, the ground of all being. The soul that rests in the I AM sees the either/or from the And and is no longer defined by it.
Like the words “prayer” and “religion,” the word “faith” means different things to different people. As we recover the lost tradition of contemplative recognition, these clarifications set out what COFE-CYEM means by faith. Understood in the light of the Fourth Truth, faith is not blind assent, nor even reasoned assent. It is an essential movement of spiritual transformation—the opening that allows the soul to recognise what has always been true.
Faith is first an initial opening of the heart and mind. It is our small but necessary offering toward any genuine encounter with the living Reality. Without this opening, nothing new can enter. The soul that remains closed, that insists on its own certainty, that refuses to be vulnerable to the Mystery, cannot receive the gift that is always being offered. The opening is not an achievement; it is a surrender. It is the recognition that we do not possess the truth but are possessed by it.
Such an opening, or re-opening, is required whenever the soul is to move beyond its present level. Normally we must let go of the old and pass through a stage of unknowing before a deeper recognition can arise. This is the practical meaning of metanoia—the turning of the mind that prepares the way for the Fourth Truth. The old certainties must be released. The old frameworks must be set aside. The constructed self must be surrendered. Only then can the new recognition dawn.
This movement is necessary in every real encounter, not only with God. Human trust and religious faith share the same structure; they differ only in their object. What set us on the wrong path was making the object of faith a set of ideas or doctrines instead of the living Person.
Our faith is not primarily that certain statements are true, but that Ultimate Reality—God in Christ—is accessible to us and already on our side. The object of faith is not a proposition but a Presence. The goal of faith is not correct belief but living union.
Faith allows the soul to loosen its habitual dualistic pattern of thinking, not permanently, but long enough to perceive holistically and contemplatively. Its purpose is not to make us believe impossible things or to abandon reason. Eventually reason returns, now freer and less needy, no longer desperate to be right or to possess the whole picture.
The loosening is temporary, but its effects are lasting. The soul that has tasted the singular Reality often finds the old dualistic certainties no longer sufficient. Reason becomes a servant rather than a master.
This contemplative openness lasts long enough for some form of mutuality, presence, or mystery to be tasted. The Psalmist said it well: not merely “think and see,” but “taste and see.” From that tasting the soul is drawn toward still deeper recognition. The taste is the beginning. It is the foretaste of the feast. It is the glimpse of the Reality that is always present but often unseen. The soul that has tasted knows that it has tasted, and it longs for more.
Once even momentary access to the singular Reality has been given, all previous stages can be returned to as needed, including ordinary dualistic reason. Reason now operates with new freedom because it no longer has to defend a separate self. Faith and reason are not opposites. We must still be able to give a reason for the hope that is in us, yet the hope itself rests in recognition rather than argument. The reason that flows from faith is not the reason that defends; it is the reason that witnesses.
The litmus test of any higher state of awareness is that it includes and honours all that went before. It is no longer either-or thinking but both-and. If nondual recognition excluded the earlier stages, it would itself become another dualism. True recognition does not reject the journey; it fulfils it. It does not dismiss the earlier stages; it integrates them. It does not deny the need for reason, doctrine, or practice; it places them in their proper context.
Much religious faith begins in a prerational form. It has not yet passed through the rings of fire—the dark nights of purification—into the transrational. To remain too long in the infantile stage leaves the soul easily scandalised, defensive, and unable to converse respectfully with those outside its circle.
What Jesus meant by becoming like a child is the beginner’s openness and vulnerability, not the clinging to unexamined certainties. The childlike faith is the faith that is open, trusting, and willing to be led. It is not the faith that insists on its own understanding.
When speaking with those who have not yet passed through these depths, attempts to “prove” God or the reasonableness of faith will usually fail. The journey of Paul—the initial blindness, the scales falling from his eyes, the long reorientation—shows that faith often feels unspeakable or even foolish to those who have not walked the same path.
At certain moments Jesus even said, “Tell no one,” recognising that some realities cannot simply be explained apart from the hearer’s readiness. The witness of transformed life is often more persuasive than any argument.
Many cultured critics of religion rightly reject immature, rigid, and fragile forms of religion. Others reject the possibility of faith altogether. COFE-CYEM argues that both critiques should be met, not merely with arguments, but with the witness of transformed life.
True experience of God is a compelling Presence and an inner aliveness that serves clearer vision. You can recognise adult faith by its capacity to remain quiet and confident in darkness, failure, and the non-validation of the ego. Adult faith does not need to be right. It does not need to be validated. It rests in the Reality that is already present.
In every age, country, and tradition there is a leavening remnant who understand this. No denomination or lifestyle holds a monopoly. The fruits of the Spirit listed by Paul in Galatians 5:22 appear across cultural and religious boundaries. Where they are absent, the field remains dry bones. The Spirit blows where it wills, and the fruits of the Spirit are the evidence of its presence.
This is why almost every genuine spiritual teacher points to some form of faith, even when different words are used. Jesus repeatedly commends faith: “Your faith has saved you.” Growth into wisdom and love rarely continues without repeated openings and repeated lettings-go. Faith is the breakthrough that allows the soul to be held, even while the path ahead still looks dark. A light shines in the darkness, and the darkness cannot overcome it.
Those who discover this deeper meaning of faith are almost always those who have suffered much or loved deeply. Love and suffering remain the common crossover points available to every soul. Therefore the eyes of true faith remain available to all. No one is excluded from the possibility of recognition. The door is open to every soul.
Faith, in the COFE-CYEM understanding, is the continual opening that lets the Fourth Truth become living recognition. It is the willingness to release the separate self long enough for the singular Reality to be known. Once that recognition dawns, the soul rests. The ordinary tools of thought and language can still be used whenever they are needed, but they are no longer mistaken for the Reality itself.
The Cofolic Way of Prayer
The Cofolic, or universal, way of prayer begins with a turning from prayer understood as striving toward prayer understood as abiding. Prayer can easily become habitual repetition or religious performance when the heart forgets the Presence to whom it speaks.
The old manner of prayer is the prayer of the shadow self, the prayer that imagines God is distant and must be persuaded, the prayer that measures itself by the number of words spoken or the fervour of the performance.
It is the prayer of the ego, which seeks to impress God with its piety or to manipulate God with its persistence. This kind of prayer belongs to the realm of duality, where God and the soul are imagined as two separate realities, and the soul must somehow bridge the gap.
The Cofolic way of prayer is the recognition that, in Christ, the separation we imagined as ultimate has never been the final reality. The veil is already torn. The way is already open. The soul is already in the presence of God. The Cofolic way is not a technique to be mastered but a reality to be entered.
It is the cessation of striving and the beginning of abiding. It is the surrender of the false self and the recognition of the true self hidden with Christ in God. It is the prayer of rest, the prayer of union, the prayer of the singular Reality.
When we come to God in prayer, we must understand that we are not coming as the constructed self we have built within the realm of duality. We are coming as we truly are: pure spirit, created in the image of God, already one with Him in Christ.
The diving suit of duality—the heavy, cumbersome garment of separation that we have designed for ourselves—must be set aside. It was never necessary. It was never who we truly are. It was a misperception, a temporary costume worn in the dream of separation.
To come to God as He created us is to come in pure spirit, without the diving suit of the false self. God does not recognise the costume. He recognises the soul He created, the soul that has always been held in His love, the soul that is hidden with Christ in God.
When we set aside the diving suit, we begin to see ourselves as God sees us: both the real and the unreal. The real self is the self that has always been one with Him. The unreal self is the shadow, the costume, the false identity that we mistook for ourselves. To communicate with God truthfully is to communicate on God’s terms, not from the diving suit.
When Jesus taught His disciples to pray, He gave them words that have echoed through the centuries. The Lord’s Prayer is the prayer of the true self. It is the prayer of the one who has recognised that God is already present, that His Kingdom is already at hand, that His will is already being done in heaven and on earth.
It is the prayer of the one who rests in the provision of the Father, the forgiveness of the Son, and the guidance of the Spirit. “When you pray, do not heap up empty phrases as the Gentiles do, for they think that they will be heard for their many words” (Matthew 6:7). The Lord’s Prayer is not an incantation to be repeated mechanically but a pattern to be entered contemplatively.
Pray the Lord’s Prayer and finish where He finished: “Deliver us from evil.” Amen. Many scholars understand the familiar doxology (“For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever”) to have been a later liturgical addition rather than part of the earliest text of Matthew. Beautiful as it is, Christ Himself ended the prayer with “Deliver us from evil.” God does not need us to inform Him that the Kingdom, the power and the glory are His for ever.
He already is that Reality. Our need to assure Him of what He is only reveals how deeply we still think from the shadow self, the self that imagines God is separate and needs our confirmation. The Cofolic way of prayer recognises that God does not need our affirmations. He does not need our praise to be complete. He is already the Kingdom, the Power, and the Glory.
To Cofolicate is to drop every dualistic pretence. It is to remove the diving suit and come into the presence of God as pure spirit, as the soul He created. God desires to meet us beyond the masks and performances we construct for ourselves.
God receives us where we are, yet continually calls us beyond the constructed self into the true life hidden with Christ. Come into the light without the costume. Simply be with Him. Let Him show you who you are and who you are not. Give Him the love that rises naturally from that recognition.
To Cofolicate is to step out of the costume of the false self, the self that has been constructed by the world, the self that performs for approval, the self that hides behind masks. It is to come into the presence of God as you truly are, without pretence, without performance, without fear.
God does not want the constructed ego. He wants the true self. The constructed ego is the self that has been shaped by the world’s expectations, the self that strives to be worthy, the self that measures its worth by its achievements. The true self is the self that is hidden with Christ in God, the self that has always been one with Him, the self that is recognised rather than achieved.
Jesus proclaimed that the Kingdom of God is among you (Luke 17:21), calling His hearers to recognise God’s present reign rather than merely await a distant future. The presence of God is not distant but near, not future but present. To Cofolicate is to recognise this presence and to abide in it. It is to drop the dualistic pretence that God is separate and to rest in the singular Reality. It is to cease from striving and to know that He is God.
Real prayer begins here—not in the multiplication of words, but in the quiet desire that God reveal more of the singular Reality. “Pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17). This is not a command to speak without end but an invitation to abide in unbroken awareness of the Presence. After time spent in that presence, the soul sees more clearly what is true and what is false.
At the deepest level, the soul learns to discern between the non-dual Reality of God in Christ and the dualistic appearance that still claims attention. Real prayer is not the performance of words but the presence of the soul with God. It is not the act of speaking but the act of listening. It is not the effort of the will but the surrender of the heart.
In the presence of God, the soul sees more clearly. The illusions of duality fall away, and the singular Reality becomes more visible. The false self is recognised as provisional, temporary, and not ultimate. The true self is recognised as hidden with Christ in God.
The world of appearances is recognised as provisional rather than ultimate, fleeting and unable to bear ultimate weight. The soul rests in the Reality that is eternal, unchanging, and all-sufficient. The discernment between the non-dual Reality and the dualistic appearance becomes natural, effortless, and clear.
The Fourth Truth stands. The dialogue continues. The fruit remains.
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