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  1. One Word that Brings Peace

    "The meditation was on sharing loving kindness (metta). The theme of the talk was right speech including a commitment to truth and the drivers of harsh speech. Verses 100 and 133 of the Dhammapada were mentioned. There's a Spanish language interpretation of the talk available through the link on our website"

    youtube.com/watch?v=0NodzgztsVg

    #lovingkindness #dhammadipa #bhikkuni #dharma #dhamma #buddhist #kindness #Buddhism #metta #dhammatalk #truth #Dhammapada #RightSpeech

  2. One Word that Brings Peace

    "The meditation was on sharing loving kindness (metta). The theme of the talk was right speech including a commitment to truth and the drivers of harsh speech. Verses 100 and 133 of the Dhammapada were mentioned. There's a Spanish language interpretation of the talk available through the link on our website"

    youtube.com/watch?v=0NodzgztsVg

    #lovingkindness #dhammadipa #bhikkuni #dharma #dhamma #buddhist #kindness #Buddhism #metta #dhammatalk #truth #Dhammapada #RightSpeech

  3. „People can live together in society only in an atmosphere of mutual trust, where they have reason to believe that others will speak the truth; by destroying the grounds for trust and inducing mass suspicion, widespread lying becomes the harbinger signaling the fall from social solidarity to chaos.“

    Bhikkhu Bodhi, The Noble Eightfold Path: Way to the End of Suffering (1984).

    #BhikkhuBodhi #buddhism #rightSpeech #dhamma #truth #accountability

  4. „People can live together in society only in an atmosphere of mutual trust, where they have reason to believe that others will speak the truth; by destroying the grounds for trust and inducing mass suspicion, widespread lying becomes the harbinger signaling the fall from social solidarity to chaos.“

    Bhikkhu Bodhi, The Noble Eightfold Path: Way to the End of Suffering (1984).

    #BhikkhuBodhi #buddhism #rightSpeech #dhamma #truth #accountability

  5. (See parent post for context.)

    Right Speech is so not highfaluting that people rediscover it over and again.

    Dr. Xavier Amador rediscovered it when he proposed the LEAP method for listening to his schizophrenic patients.

    LEAP means: Listen, Empathize, Agree, and Partner.

    It is no mystery that the first step is to listen, without judgement.

    Says Dr. Amador:

    “You do not win on the strength of your argument, you win on the strength of your relationship.”

    Not winning on the strength of your argument is a revolutionary stance to take.

    amazon.com/Sick-Dont-Someone-A

    #RightSpeech #Buddhism #LEAP #XavierAmador #listening #MentalHealth #schizophrenia

  6. (See parent post for context.)

    Right Speech is so not highfaluting that people rediscover it over and again.

    Dr. Xavier Amador rediscovered it when he proposed the LEAP method for listening to his schizophrenic patients.

    LEAP means: Listen, Empathize, Agree, and Partner.

    It is no mystery that the first step is to listen, without judgement.

    Says Dr. Amador:

    “You do not win on the strength of your argument, you win on the strength of your relationship.”

    Not winning on the strength of your argument is a revolutionary stance to take.

    amazon.com/Sick-Dont-Someone-A

    #RightSpeech #Buddhism #LEAP #XavierAmador #listening #MentalHealth #schizophrenia

  7. On the topic of Right Speech...

    What a bunch of goons we are, us, Zen Buddhists. Just about every time Right Speech was presented to me, it was made into this mysterious thing.

    It is simple, oh so simple...

    I'm helping a kid who self-hams this morning. I did not wake up thinking that's what I would do, but that's what life presented to me, and I take up this task. 😔 I'd say I take it up without problem, but I'm still autistic. 😂 Alas, I'm worried that my words will land badly.

    At any rate, this morning, I am the embodiment of Right Speech. It is nothing extravagant, or mysterious. Right Speech starts with Right Listening. I think the elders missed a step when they did not include Right Listening as one of the steps on the eightfold path. There's Right Understanding, but this word evokes too much discursivity.

    So we start by just listening, without flying off the handle, without anger. We let the person we're talking to reveal themselves to us, without imposing our prejudice on the situation.

    We can then speak, but this is cooperative speaking rather than antagonistic speaking. We ask questions to prompt them to reveal more of themselves.

    I know well what the common impulse in this situation would be. It would be to intervene immediately. To get angry. To yell "STOP." These approaches are not fruitful, and may only compound the problem.

    I know from experience that these are not fruitful. I had an ex who self-harmed before she knew me. She did not stop because someone in authority yelled at her to stop. It is a mystery why she stopped.

    At any rate, Right Speech is not mysterious. It is not a highfaluting state.

    #RightSpeech #RightListening #Zen #ZenBuddhism #Buddhism #SelfHarm #autism

  8. On the topic of Right Speech...

    What a bunch of goons we are, us, Zen Buddhists. Just about every time Right Speech was presented to me, it was made into this mysterious thing.

    It is simple, oh so simple...

    I'm helping a kid who self-hams this morning. I did not wake up thinking that's what I would do, but that's what life presented to me, and I take up this task. 😔 I'd say I take it up without problem, but I'm still autistic. 😂 Alas, I'm worried that my words will land badly.

    At any rate, this morning, I am the embodiment of Right Speech. It is nothing extravagant, or mysterious. Right Speech starts with Right Listening. I think the elders missed a step when they did not include Right Listening as one of the steps on the eightfold path. There's Right Understanding, but this word evokes too much discursivity.

    So we start by just listening, without flying off the handle, without anger. We let the person we're talking to reveal themselves to us, without imposing our prejudice on the situation.

    We can then speak, but this is cooperative speaking rather than antagonistic speaking. We ask questions to prompt them to reveal more of themselves.

    I know well what the common impulse in this situation would be. It would be to intervene immediately. To get angry. To yell "STOP." These approaches are not fruitful, and may only compound the problem.

    I know from experience that these are not fruitful. I had an ex who self-harmed before she knew me. She did not stop because someone in authority yelled at her to stop. It is a mystery why she stopped.

    At any rate, Right Speech is not mysterious. It is not a highfaluting state.

    #RightSpeech #RightListening #Zen #ZenBuddhism #Buddhism #SelfHarm #autism

  9. James Hamilton, Scottish, Presbyterian minister, on story of Lazarus from Luke. Some may be tired of seeing homeless, and if so, get them off the street. Build a hospital, send some food and clothes.

    Today one might add, stop fighting the building of low-income housing near your home, if you are say, a wealthy sports celebrity.

    How can you view social annoyances as opportunities for your ministry to people in need?

    #christian #socialagendas #thoughtsinwords #theonomy #rightspeech

  10. My Take On The Buddhist Virtue of Right Speech

    The neurotypical take on Right Speech is a confused mess.

    I’ve never encountered anyone who will explain Right Speech the way I’m going to explain it. Let’s start with the typical neurotypical explanations. They run like as follows.

    Right Speech involves four things you should not do:

    1. Don’t tell lies.
    2. Don’t cause disunity through language.
    3. Don’t use language to produce harm.
    4. Don’t engage in idle talk, or gossip.

    Conversely, there are four things that you should do:

    1. Tell the truth.
    2. Use language that favors unity.
    3. Use language that makes people feel good.
    4. Use purposeful language.

    I called this the neurotypical explanation due to the simple fact that neurotypical individuals rule the world. Thus, the explanations we are likely to get are going to be informed by neurotypical views.

    If you are autistic, you are probably already be uncomfortable with this list. For one thing, what is this “idle gossip?” Is this not what 90% of neurotypical talk consist of? A bunch of empty vocal rituals. “It’s hot today.” What purpose is there to saying this? The person you are telling this to, assuming they are standing next to you, knows exactly how hot or cold it is. They don’t need your assertion. Is stating that it is hot today really the speech that should be disfavored for being idle talk?

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    Then, how do you reconcile “use language that makes people feel good” with “tell the truth?” There are times when the task of making people feel good will require you to lie. A friend asks, “Do I look okay in this?” but they look awful. Do you lie to them, and make them feel good, or do you say it as you see it, and make them feel bad?

    Some people will also make a big deal of the fact that sometimes we don’t know the truth. Yes, this is true. (Har har!) We don’t always know what is true. However, I think this rule is easily followed if we simply say what we consider to be true in our mind. We may be wrong, but if we are honest that what we are saying is what we think is true, then there is no issue.

    Note that this is not absolution of those people who like to hate, for they often ignore what is patently true. They self-lobotomize in order to be able to utter their harmful rhetoric. When presented with evidence, they merely wish it away.

    At any rate, my neurodivergent explanation is that these rules should be implemented in the context of Buddhist practice. Yes, telling the truth is admirable, but consider what happens when you tell lies to people. Any significant lie will come at a mental cost. Once you start lying, you have to maintain your lie. Then you start being fearful that your lie is going to be uncovered. When this happens, your mind becomes preoccupied with the lie even during meditation practice.

    The same thing happens if you use language to cause disunity, or to harm other people. You become wrapped in a scenario that has already happened, or that you wish to happen. So it is too with the idle speech. It can become the cause of much rumination during meditation.

    I think it is thus that these rules should be examined. Not as moral edicts, but as tools to help the practitioner meditate.

    #AutisticWriters #Buddhism #harm #meditation #neurodivergent #neurotypical #RightSpeech #speech #truth #YourAutisticLife

    https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/06/26/my-take-on-the-buddhist-virtue-of-right-speech/