#nvc — Public Fediverse posts

New server so a new #Introduction.

I have been enjoying the fediverse from raphus.social, but wanted a more local instance. I live in northern #NJ outside of #NYC. I am a physics PhD working at a scientific instrument company. Over the past few years I have dived into #unschooling , #nvc , #permaculture , #botany , #freeSoftware , #foss , #sociocracy. Recently, I am interested in #limitsToGrowth , #collapse , and #degrowth. I'm married, and a dad of two boys 8 and 5 years old.

Here's what I think are some really useful tools for community building.

#communes
#communitycreation
#consensus
#clearnesses
#nvc
#authenticrelating
#permaculture

https://communelifeblog.wordpress.com/2025/03/10/five-tools-for-community-building/

@vaurora
I would recommend someone practicing #nvc.

Depends on where you're based, I only have a recommendation in the Eindhoven area.

One of my favorite references, the feelings wheel, based on Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg #nvc http://www.ccnederland.org/wp-content/uploads/Feelings-Wheel-Combined-2.17.12.pdf

@Noortjevee
Rewards are just as detrimental to growth as punishments are.

Justine Mol wrote a nice booklet about that, all based on Marshall Rosenberg's Non-Violent Communication -- https://www.bol.com/nl/nl/p/opgroeien-in-vertrouwen/1001004002487340/

#nvc

So:

*If you don't assume competence, you don't have to assume malice.*

It may sound naive, and no one wants to be thought naive. But it's a better way to relate to people and to do politics more sincerely. And a more diplomatic way to hold others and oneself to an aspirational standard; and more likely to be accurate.

On the other hand, institutions are self-serving and often don't act according to their stated purpose, so don't assume they react to humans in a human way. Both humans and institutions do what they need to survive. The mistakes of humans may strengthen concentrated institutional power.

#NVC

It's usually a cock-up, not a conspiracy.

Human beings are generally very stupid, and only achieve anything through trial and error and an ever-growing degree of specialisation.

If we don't have a standard of expecting errors to have been made in good faith, firstly the detail of the errors goes uncorrected, and secondly conflicts are assumed to be Machiavellian manipulations for private interests. #NVC #PleaseExplain

Steady in the Storm - Conflict resilient Communication

Jan 17 & 18 2026, online

"Conflict is inevitable. What matters is how we respond to it.

This session will enable you to:

feel more confident to communicate in conflict situations without blame, shame or judgement.
take inner steps to transform conflict
transform enemy images and humanise the other
intervene safely in situations of conflict
be more resourced in tense situations
stay grounded in empathic expression and empathic listening in tense situations

The session will involve reflection, discussion, practice and role play."

https://app.workshop-angel.com/form.php?h=1&t=0&e=ee3613e8890517ba

#NVC

@liw taking care of yourself, learning about where your boundaries are and how to protect them, what your needs are, goal setting, how to handle others' requests, setting priorities and such are pretty general skills that you can better in any personal development training?
Nonviolent communication is something that is pretty easy and fun to start off with.
#nvc

"Anger is one such emotion that is frequently locked away and denied. The result is a struggle to communicate anger in healthy ways and difficulty distinguishing between anger that serves and toxic anger.

Anger that serves is like a flame. It is forward-moving and it is bright. When it is acknowledged, it dissipates quite quickly.

* Healthy anger is a call out for connection and it's not out to hurt anybody. *

Toxic anger, on the other hand, lives in our bodies like a poison. It swims in circles with no place to go. No amount of expression diminishes its virulence or its hold. I have often heard it said that movement spaces are filled with people who carry this quality of anger - this bitter, consuming, toxic fury at the White House, white people, whatever.

Toxic anger is not anger.

It is, in truth, a graveyard of grief.

A mass gathering of unexpressed feelings and unmet needs, both intergenerational and individual.
Systemic conditions disallow impacted folx from expressing grief or heartache. Our movement spaces are filled with this toxicity, not because anyone wants to carry it, but because we have not been allowed sufficient time and space to grief. As individuals and as a collective, our health and well-being depends upon our willingness to find space to do it anyways."

-- Meenadchi: Decolonizing Non-Violent Communication

https://co-conspirator.press/Decolonizing-Non-Violent-Communication

#NVC #Communities #Violence

people who like She-Ra (2018) might enjoy "Catra teaches Non-Violent Communication" by @lily

https://deergirl.online/comic1.html

#NVC #shera #comic

Fierce Compassion #Podcast

Episode 1: Welcome to Fierce Compassion with Roxy Manning and Sarah Peyton

"In our first episode, hosts Roxy Manning and Sarah Peyton discuss the power of compassion in building an #antiracist society. They share common struggles with self-compassion – including their own! Roxy and Sarah also touch on the role of unconscious contracts and unconscious bias as blocks to living our antiracist ideals, and explore the concept of Beloved Community."

https://antiracistconversations.com/fierce-compassion-episode-1-with-roxy-manning-and-sarah-peyton/

#NVC

@lily's "learn nonviolent communication with catra" comic now has alt text! :3

https://deergirl.online/comic1.html

#nvc #wellness #mentalhealth #conflict #communication #comic #comics #accessibility

be sure to check out the comic too! ^_^

https://deergirl.online/comic1.html

(pdf versions of both the guide and comic are also available on the site)

@lily

#nvc #wellness #mentalhealth #conflict #communication #comic #comics

the html version of @lily's nonviolent communication guide is now live!

https://deergirl.online/nvc.html

if you:

• have feelings, wants, and needs
• interact with other human beings (or otherkin, etc.)
• run into conflict sometimes

...definitely consider giving it a read! ^_^

nvc is a great way to learn how to identify and express feelings, and to make sure you, your loved ones, etc. are "playing fair" when you run into conflict

#nvc #wellness #mentalhealth #conflict #communication

@NotImpressed Agree to disagree 🙏 ✅ 💡 #NVC

It's like this weird type of persuasive writing, where you can't just lay out facts, but have to put them in this honey dripping cloying language. I feel like fingernails on a chalkboard just reading these rewrites.

#nvc

Re-writing my "wtf are you doing?" emails with the AI prompt of "rewrite this into #NVC (nonviolent communication)" is like magic. I don't know that it sounds human, and it sure doesn't sound like me, but maybe it will work?

Apparently telling people my feelings is super weird. It would be so much easier to just say "this isn't legal", but then they'd get defensive. So....

#sigh

I'm so grateful that years ago, I learned Non-Violent Communication.

While I'm not always able to do it, or always able to do it well, being able to put on my "giraffe ears" is a crucial skill not only in personal relationships, but it can be in business as well.

Understanding the needs of others, whether they're collaborative partners, potential customers, suppliers, or staff, can make a huge difference. It shifts problematic actions away from "Ugg they're so annoying" or "Why won't they just do what we want?" to "I wonder what need of theirs isn't being met that's leading to this communication from them?"

By understanding the needs behind the words, we can bring empathy and care where there was only annoyance and frustration.

#NVC #NonViolentCommunication

Talk about who's being targeted and the ways bad policies affect real people. "I feel bad for the refugees here legally who've been threatened by their neighbors and by politicians, like the Haitians in Springfield." Or "I feel terrible for the 26,000 women assaulted in Texas since abortions were effectively outlawed there who had to carry their attacker's child to term." Or "It seems wrong that trans kids and parents who have worked out treatments with their doctors are being told by more places that they can't get medical care anymore."

The more local you can make your statement, the better. Something in your own state, your own experience, or best of all, in your listeners' direct experience, the more powerful it will be. The farther away in time, distance, or familiarity, the harder it will be as an entry point to a real conversation.

https://degenerateart.beehiiv.com/p/fighting-words

#NonviolentCommunication #NVC #ChangingMinds #Health #Psychology #MAGA #Trump #Democrats #Democracy #Resistance

Last night in our Nonviolent Communication study group we explored sincere gratitude - both giving and receiving.

It was a lovely module and I'm encouraged to more openly share with others when they have added beauty, care, understanding, compassion, joy to my life.

Speaking it out loud and connecting with those who create good in our worlds is critically important - now more than ever!

#nvc #nonviolentcommunication #gratitude

I think the most powerful tip I learnt and start acting on reading about non violent communication is naming the emotions you feel, at least in your head. I’m not angry any more, I feel anger.
Makes it _so_ much easier to decide whether, and how to act on them. #nvc

@joshsusser @GreenRoc @punishmenthurts very familiar… and I’m adding to this thread #NVC as a toolset - specifically, “how we talk to ourselves” as a prequel to communicating to another : some resources : https://wiki.techinc.nl/User:Becha/NVC (I’ve experienced this in 3 languages & non-verbal too!)

Breaking Barriers: Gender, Power, and Compassionate Dialogue for Equity

Roxy Manning

* Explore the complexities of how gender and power impact everyday life
* Understand how unconscious bias influences your perceptions
* Discover how #NVC can disrupt patterns and transform conversations
* Know how to keep showing up for equity, no matter where you are in the world

Wednesdays, April 9 - May 14, 2025 (six sessions)

https://nvcacademy.com/live-nvc-courses/video-conference/breaking-barriers-2025

@forse
Parenting from your heart : Inbal Kashtan & Raising Children
Compassionately:
Parenting the Nonviolent Communication Way #NVC

What an #NVC intensive training is like: Short documentary

"Hear the participants, organizers, and trainers describe what the 9-day Nonviolent Communication retreat was like in Romania in July 2024."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=43yb9b6zYNo