#monosexism — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #monosexism, aggregated by home.social.
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CW: re: Thread, kink, bisexuality, self-acceptance, love, personal growth
To get to this point of #SelfAcceptance, I've had to sit with and undo a lot of internalized #biphobia. And I've had to come to terms with the fact that, while #bisexuals are part of the #LGBTQ community (in so much as it can be called a unified community), we also have our own unique experiences. So much of the media and discussions around #sexuality, even when they pay lip service to more fluid experiences of #desire and sexuality, is entirely focused on #monosexism, that is, on the idea that sexuality is a fixed and singular entity and experience. For some people it might be! But for others, it is not. And many both straight and cis spaces, as well as #queer spaces, all too often get caught up in one singular idea of what sex and sexuality and desire can or should or do look like, to the detriment of those of us whose experiences are more fluid and more difficult to define.
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Straight and #gay people often act in ways that feed #monosexism and keeps #biphobia going. But there needs solidarity between gay, #bisexual and other bi+ folks, because we all get the short end of #heterosexism, the system of power that keeps straight people on top.
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As this is the International Day Against #Homophobia, #Transphobia & #Biphobia, here's my obligatory post saying that biphobia is the overlooked one of these 3. It's a consequence of #monosexism, the system of power that makes the experiences of people who are attracted to just one gender more valid, and gives them power at our expense.
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I've been visibly out as #Bisexual here and in persona since early last year, yet it took me until my 13th #GameDev industry anniversary this week to follow suit on LinkedIn.
So I decided to do so with a short write up on some of the reasons for why it took me so long and why I felt that I needed to post it in the first place. How #Monosexism made the effect slurs in the workspace had on me invisible, made it tricky to be subtly out, in fact suggested it as unnecessary
https://www.linkedin.com/posts/martintiloschmitz_games-gametechnology-autistic-activity-7191473739451027456-uFKR?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_android -
35% of #bisexual #men in a relationship with another man had never been open with their partner about their #bisexuality. That's from a 2019 ILGA Europe survey.
#closet #comingout #monosexism
https://www.ilga-europe.org/report/intersections-the-lgbti-ii-survey-bisexuals-analysis/
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Some of us play whack-a-mole with biphobes online too, or spend time and energy untangling myths about us. It can be worthwhile, but it's draining. Still, doing this doesn't challenge the root causes of #bisexual and bi+ #men's issues, the systems that keep us down and spread #homophobia and #biphobia: #heterosexism and #monosexism. 5/
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@Nclt I need to do more political writing, but my own Sex Ed for Bi Guys series has a couple of posts on coming out and power dynamics. These talk about myths that tend to come up in those conversations, and how to deal with those constructively. It's often not direct #biphobia, but biphobia and #monosexism feed these, and a lot of #bisexual people run into them. This is the main post about this. https://sexedforbiguys.tumblr.com/post/652070450810191872/coming-out-power-emotions-and-myths-sex-ed-for
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@Nclt I'll give links to shorter stuff, but if you're down for a longer read, the most insightful book on #biphobia and #monosexism is "Bi: Notes for a #Bisexual Revolution," by Shiri Eisner. Shiri is one of the few activists who look at this stuff as a system in society and not just as individuals being prejudiced.
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We talk about #bisexual #erasure as if it was the end result of #monosexism—the system that puts bi+ folks down—hurting us. But it's not. It's just the middle part of it, its tool. Biphobes erase us to push the belief that we don't exist nor matter, that we're not worth talking about nor taking seriously. Once this is done, they have all the power to call the shots in the #straight and #queer worlds. And they can do what they want with us without anyone in a position to push back hard.
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@noam About individual jerks, even though it's individuals who have biphobic views, like any prejudice in society, there's a system that helps spread it around. For bi+ folks, this system's called #monosexism. A part of it is rooted in the gay and lesbian movement. This doesn't mean everyone in that movement has biphobic views. But it means that many key figures in the movement have opposed #bisexual inclusion, and they've chosen goals that primarily benefited lesbians and gay men.
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CW: Queer media representation in the early 2000s, thread
Watching it again, today, brought me back to my college days and just how paltry #queer representation was at the time. People didn't really even talk much about queerness then, honestly. In the mainstream, both in media and activism the focus was on white, cis, gay, middle class men and the big political demand was for #SameSexMarriage. Stories about anyone else were few and far between, and stories about even those white, cis, gay, middle class men were few and far between.
There was also a heavy focus on #monosexism, so in retrospect, maybe it makes sense #TippingTheVelvet didn't lead to a queer awakening for me. After all, I knew at that time I was attracted to men, and the main character in that show says she feels nothing for men. So maybe that's why I didn't relate?
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#LGBTQ #QueerRepresentation #Lesbian #Sapphic #ComingOutAsAnAdult
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Lesbians and gays should not assume they are good #bisexual allies on the grounds that they are #LGBTQ. They often propagate #biphobia, #monosexism, and #monocentrism. A decent ally constantly reexamines their behavior. #bisexuality