#inner-critic — Public Fediverse posts

Look straight at the perfectionism

Ask yourself what perfect looks like. What are the specific elements? What’s on the checklist?

Procrustes will never have an answer to this question, but always a response along the lines of “I’ll know it when I see it.” That’s not good enough. He has no idea what perfection means! He’s exposed. He cannot meet his own standards. He’s in his bed. You know what to do. Grab your creative tools and get to work.

~ Boston Blake, from Perfectionism

I’ve long agreed with the sentiment that “I’ll know it when I see it” is bullshit. I’ve long thought that was because if one doesn’t know “what it should look like” then one doesn’t actually understand whatever it is we’re talking about judging. My thinking was focused on identifying whether or not I (or whomever) was capable of judging.

But this insight from Blake got me thinking about a more fundamental layer of judgement: If I (or whomever) is not capable of judging (as evidenced by espoused sheep dip like “I’ll know it when I see it”) then I shouldn’t even be involved in the judging. Which is also a powerful way to banish my own internal critic.

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I named my inner critic "The Beast." 👹
When he starts listing my flaws, I just say,
"Okay Beast, thanks for sharing," and move on.
It’s hard to take the insults seriously when the voice has a silly name.
#InnerCritic #MentalHealthHacks #Bipolar

Daily mindset inspiration for #BipolarLife: https://open.substack.com/pub/speakingbipolar/p/identifying-the-inner-critic?r=y4fp9&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

Shut Down Your Inner Critic: Build Real Confidence Without Caring What “They” Think
https://wp.me/p84YjG-9ZY
#QuietConfidence #Overthinking #SelfGaslighting #InnerCritic #zsoltzsemba #Anxiety #Confidence #PeoplePleasing #MindsetShift # #SocialAnxietyFix #AuthenticLiving

https://zsoltzsemba.com/build-real-confidence-without-caring-what-they-think/

Make an appointment with yourself using the great Montaigne's method!

#journalprompts #mentalhealth #anxietyjournal #selfcare #mindsetreset #overthinking #perfectionismrecovery #guidedjournal #mindsetgrowth #mentalhealthtools #selfcaretips #anxietysupport #selfcompassion #selfhelp #anxietyrelief #personaldevelopment #healingjourney #innercritic #stressrelief #emotionalhealth #selfreflection #selfgrowth #anxietymanagement #journalingcommunity

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Time for a fragment of lyrics. These are from my song 'Come On, Get Real', which is about the dreaded inner critic. These spoken word/rap lyrics were written to defeat it! The whole song is on my EP that came out in 2022, 'Getting Real'.

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#lyric #singersongwriter #spokenword #originalsong #innercritic #comeongetreal #ep #alternativemusic

Grateful my inner critic is off on vaca with @scbiz 's (this AM I imagined them sipping margaritas in a Cancun bar like basic b**ches)

b/c my 2nd pro book review came back this morning and it's good -- with a couple of zinger digs. Usually that would send me into a tailspin but today I looked at it and went

"Well that person's not my reader"

and then thought

"Wait -- who was THAT that just spoke up?"

Because I want to hear more from whoever *that* voice is.

#InnerCritic #AmWriting

Except unfortunately, *I* did know.

As a child I tried so hard not to believe it. How could those who “love” you, treat one that way?

So I took all that blame and turned it towards myself.

Hence, why many of those who taught me that lesson, still walk the earth today.

#cPTSD #Abuse #Trauma #Monsters #CisWhitePrivilege #MonstersAreReal #MonstersAreHumans #Blame #Religion #InnerCritic #Survival

How to Train Your #InnerCritic

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-science-of-stuck/202504/how-to-train-your-inner-critic

I found this article that really resonated with me. Perfectionism is the enemy of success and it's really hard on writers. We want to get everything right, but there's always a typo somewhere or a metaphor that could be stated in a more sensory fashion, or a scene that needs more show than tell. And it's stifling. Anyway, here it is:

Read more 👉🏾
https://lttr.ai/ActL4

#perfectionism #mentalfitness #anxiety #selfconfidence #innercritic #fearoffailure #mentalfitnesscoach

Your Inner Critical Voice: #Negativevoice  #innercriticalvoice #innercritic #Introspection #Psychotherapy #MentalHealth #BlackTherapist #Triple5LightTherapy 
Our inner voice performs all kinds of important tasks—but when it gets negative, it can be hard to turn off. Ethan Kross, a psychologist and neuroscientist who studies introspection, has a solution.

By Clay Skipper- January 24, 2022

We’ve all got a… https://triplefivelighttherapy.blogspot.com/2022/02/how-to-overcome-negative-voice-in-your.html?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon #BlackTherapist #innercritic #innercriticalvoice #Innervoice

How to #Quiet Your #InnerCritic

#Negative #selftalk can do a number on your #mentalhealth. So we asked a few experts to share their #strategies to rewire your #internal #monologue.

https://www.gq.com/story/how-to-quiet-your-inner-critic

"Doing battle takes up energy. That constant vigilance and attention takes up a lot of energy and it is very exhausting." So @stevexoh tried "finding ways to dance with it and be resilient" instead

Find the podcast by searching for That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding podcast in your podcast player, or click the link in my bio to subscribe.

#innercritic #hoarding #hoardingdisorder #hoardingpodcast #mentalhealth

I've been dealing with perfectionism and being overly critical of the stuff I do for pretty much all my life. Recently, I've gotten better at dealing with my inner critic. There's still a long way to go, but I feel like I'm making progress.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9Vft9lbOvhs

#perfectionism #innercritic #selfcriticism #mentalhealth

Conquer Your Inner Critic with Stoic Principles #Stoicism, #InnerCritic, #Mindfulness, #PersonalGrowth, #MentalHealth ⏩ https://tinyurl.com/36ru8fvs

I feel seen.

I am very sorry.

#ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #cPTSD #Anxiety #InnerCritic #MentalHealthMatters

Friday April 19th, 2024

Today the #Moon 🌔 is in #Virgo, bringing a focus to:

how we can be of service. 🙏🏽

Here are 3 self-care tips to help you overcome a critical voice, so you can...

be your most helpful self:

✅ Notice your #CriticalVoice – how is it trying to stop you? 🧐
✅ What is it stopping you from doing? 🤔
✅ How is doing that thing helpful or of #service to others? 💞

More in this video https://youtu.be/I2c-dqvF_zA

#astrology #AstrologyHeals #VirgoMoon #zodiac #SelfCare #InnerCritic

Anybody else struggle with this?

It's been a rough few months, but I'm hanging in there. Howsabout you?

The post for this:
https://www.patreon.com/posts/take-win-journal-99463578

#comics #journalcomics #mentalhealth #depression #anxiety #PTSD #CPTSD #innercritic #copingskills #disabledartist

Today the waning Moon 🌘 is in Virgo ♍️, bringing in the #InnerCritic, or a tendency to be hard on yourself. 🙏🏽

Your inner critic may:

✨ point out where you are not good enough 🧐
✨ compare you to someone else who seems to be better off 🤔
✨ think you should have accomplished something by now 🐣

See this video for some ways to shift these three inner critical voices, stopping them in their tracks. https://youtu.be/q0Pz3TBUOvA

#astrology #AstroVibe #AstrologyHeals #VirgoMoon

Shift happens!

If you're looking for support, encouragement and accountability as you prepare for your next challenge, I'd love to help.

Best way to decide is to try it - I offer anyone who asks a free hour online.
Come get unstuck :-)

#lifeCoach #transformation #joy #authenticity #innerCritic
https://mstdn.ca/@deborahh/110566551835042533

Welcome to another episode of: inside my head.

Was approached by a staff member where I volunteer (different department) had my sleeve tugged and was told “You are *such* a nice person!”

Except in my head it sounded like an accusation and I thought I was in trouble.

#CPTSD #InnerCritic #InternalFamilySystems

"In our first run we hadn’t quite put enough emphasis on this. This meant that a lot of the ideas generated were still aimed towards people suffering from feelings of being an imposter to help themselves, rather than community-driven culture changes that might help people from ever developing these feelings."

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#youAreEnough #impostorSyndrome #innerCritic
@lisacrispin https://mastodon.social/@lisacrispin/110808766629726936

These feelings of course are a gift from my family.

For those familiar with #InternalFamilySystems (IFS) there are 7 types of inner critics:

The perfectionist, the inner controller, the task master, the underminer, the destroyer, the guilt-tripper, and the conformist.

I have the Destroyer inner critic for constant company.

#MentalHealthAwareness #MentalHealthMatters #InnerCritic

So the article is finally finished and published here:

"The inner critic – How to turn an enemy into a friend"
https://text.tchncs.de/marcr/the-inner-critic-how-to-turn-an-enemy-into-a-friend

I hope it is helpful in one way or another. 🙂
Let me know, if there are any questions or just share your thoughts.

#InnerCritic #SelfDoubt

Today I am grateful for:

Another day with Gibson

Our annual Thanksgiving taco tradition

and for #ChaniNicolas ‘s #ChaniApp , which has been a key self-care resource during this long absence from therapy. My after-dinner dog walk meant affirmations on collaboration and healing, and a walking meditation in conversation with my #InnerCritic . I’m not an astrology person, but Chani’s meditations and affirmations are unusually accessible and helpful for me.

#gratitude