#healyourtrauma — Public Fediverse posts

A good romantic relationship is one of the most healing things that could ever happen to us (equating to many, many years of the best therapy you could find, I reckon).

But a bad romantic relationship is one of the most triggering, hurtful and destructive experiences you could ever have.

https://www.danroberts.com/blog/why-do-we-find-romantic-relationships-so-triggering

#HealYourTrauma #mentalhealth #relationships #attachment #attachmentstyles #childdevelopment

'Loneliness isn’t just about being alone, per se. Solitude can actually be enjoyable and enriching, helping us to recharge.

But when our social needs are not being met—either because we have few social connections or feel dissatisfied with the ones we have—that’s when loneliness can set in. And it can be painful—activating the same neural networks as physical pain'

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/11_things_to_do_when_you_feel_lonely?utm_source=Greater+Good+Science+Center&utm_campaign=efc788e862-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_GG_Newsletter_January_19_2023&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_5ae73e326e-efc788e862-51365899

#mentalhealth #loneliness #HealYourTrauma

Have you experienced #trauma in your life? Or just struggling with your mental health, for any other reason? If so, you are welcome to attend my next webinar: Trauma Healing With Internal Family Systems.

Learn how this warm, compassionate, powerful model could help you heal.

Join me from 3-4.30pm on Saturday 11th Feb 2023.

I hope to see you there!

https://www.danroberts.com/webinar-trauma-healing-with-internal-family-systems

#HealYourTrauma #mentalhealth #IFS #IFStherapy #webinar

Sacred Science: Trust, Suppression, Silencing Doubts, Isolation, Influence, Reinforcement

•Establishes authority
•Establishes goodness
•Establishes the one true way, which…
•…blocks a desire to seek answers outside the system
•Suppresses the ability to ask questions or express doubts about core principles
•Suppresses ability to criticize leadership

#Cults #Cult #IGotOut #Exmo #Exvangelical #ExJW #ReligiousTrauma #HealYourTrauma #SpiritualAbuse #MindControl #CultCounterconditioning

Mind Control Technique #4:

Sacred Science (Closed System of Logic) - The ideology and leader have the one and only truth. Members should only seek answers in group teachings. Doctrinal logic is airtight. The leaders are above criticism and those who question or criticize are immoral.

#Cults #Cult #IGotOut #Exmo #Exvangelical #ExJW #ReligiousTrauma #HealYourTrauma #SpiritualAbuse #AbuseCulture #MindControl #CultCounterconditioning

Deception: Suppression, Trust, Silence Doubts

•Hides negative effects
•Hides challenging "doctrines" which are actually just tighter control methods
•Hides negative history
•Hides atrocities committed by leader & members
•Obfuscates control; makes the member feel in control of her own choices
•Builds trust by not causing reasons for mistrust

#Cults #Cult #IGotOut #Exmo #Exvangelical #ExJW #ReligiousTrauma #HealYourTrauma #SpiritualAbuse #AbuseCulture #MindControl #CultCounterconditioning

Mind Control Technique #3:

Deception - Lies, omissions, and "front" activities cover up flaws or unusual aspects of the group, doctrine, leadership, and history. Some truths will be revealed later when a member is "ready." Many persuasion techniques are only unethical if they're also deceptive.

#Cults #Cult #IGotOut #Exmo #Exvangelical #ExJW #ReligiousTrauma #HealYourTrauma #SpiritualAbuse #AbuseCulture #MindControl #CultCounterconditioning

'With practice, we can see that our wounded child is not only us. Our wounded child may represent several generations. Our mother may have suffered throughout her life. Our father may have suffered... So when we’re embracing the wounded child in us, we are embracing all the wounded children in our past generations. This practice is not a practice for ourselves alone, but for numberless generations of ancestors and descendants'

Thich Nhat Hanh

#IFS #innerchild #mentalhealth #HealYourTrauma

If you experienced #trauma in your life or struggle with your #mentalhealth for any reason, Internal Family Systems is a wonderful therapy model that could help you recover & heal.

Come to my #HealYourTrauma webinar on Saturday 11th Feb 2023, Trauma Healing with Internal Family Systems. I hope to see you there!

Sending you love & warm thoughts, whatever you are struggling with right now ❤️

#trauma #traumahealing #IFS #IFStherapy

If you have a #trauma history or are struggling with your #mentalhealth for any other reason, you will find my first webinar of 2023, Trauma Healing with Internal Family Systems, a helpful step on your healing journey.

This Zoom webinar, which takes place on Sat 11th Feb 2023, will introduce you to the #IFS model – and explain how this warm, compassionate & highly effective approach can help you.

Book your place now: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/webinar-trauma-healing-with-internal-family-systems-tickets-462180693897

#HealYourTrauma #internalfamilysystems #webinar

If your mind & body need a little soothing today, here's a brand-new #IFS #meditation I recorded for Insight Timer.

Calming Your Parts will help you identify difficult thoughts & emotions as a communication from your internal system of parts – and teach you how to calm them and so, of course, you too:

https://insighttimer.com/danrobertstherapy/guided-meditations/calming-your-parts-internal-family-systems

Sending love & warm thoughts for 2023 ❤️

#internalfamilysystems #HealYourTrauma #trauma #traumahealing #anxiety #depression #mentalhealth

Mind Control Technique #2:

Destabilizing the Self - Barriers are torn down that would otherwise prevent acceptance of new beliefs. Includes those who have already been destabilized by life situations and the indoctrination of children, who have not yet formed a sense of self.

#Cults #Cult #IGotOut #Exmo #Exvangelical #ExJW #ReligiousTrauma #SpiritualAbuse #AbuseCulture #MindControl #HealYourTrauma #CultCounterconditioning

Instead of setting new year's resolutions, why not build these into your life in 2023, step by step:

•Learn to be kinder & more self-compassionate

•Start a daily #mindfulness practice

•Give freely of your time, money, love & energy – volunteer, help a neighbour, mentor a struggling teenager

•Knowledge is power, so read a great self-help book, listen to a podcast, find a workshop for your #mentalhealth

Sending you love & warm thoughts ❤️

#HealYourTrauma #newyear #resolutions

If you're struggling with #anger or #conflict with a family member, partner, friend or colleague, you may find this Fire Drill Meditation helpful.

This #IFS technique helps us see the difficult person in a new light & allows us to approach them with wisdom & balance, not just hostility. Try it now, for free, on Insight Timer:

https://insighttimer.com/danrobertstherapy/guided-meditations/fire-drill-internal-family-systems

And if you are struggling right now, sending you love & warm thoughts ❤️

#HealYourTrauma #mentalhealth #internalfamilysystems #family

This lull between Christmas & New Year is the ideal time to look after yourself, physically & mentally.

So here's a brand-new #IFS #meditation, The Path, I just recorded for Insight Timer:

https://insig.ht/4vcE5Im15vb

Hope you enjoy it & find it helpful.

Sending you love & warm thoughts, wherever you are ❤️

#internalfamilysystems #HealYourTrauma #mentalhealth

'Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness'

Tenzin Gyatso

#Buddhism #kindness #compassion #mentalhealth #HealYourTrauma

If you would like to treat yourself with greater kindness & compassion, try this short, simple Self-Compassion Quiz. I used it on my last workshop & people found it v helpful & insightful.

From the ever-excellent Greater Good Science Center:

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/quizzes/take_quiz/self_compassion

#selfcompassion #compassion #mentalhealth #trauma #HealYourTrauma #kindness

For many of us, this is a tough time of year. Cold, dark days, unrealistic expectations of what Christmas should be – happy families, beautiful homes, perfect meals – when so many people will be lonely, cold or hungry this year.

Here's a small gift, from me to you: know that you are worthy of love & whatever bad things happened to you were not your fault. You have a beautiful soul & life can get better, bit by bit, with the right help & support ❤️

#mentalhealth #christmas #HealYourTrauma

If you have experienced trauma in your life, standard #mindfulness practices might be triggering for you. Watch my free Trauma-Sensitive Mindfulness webinar now & find out how to make mindfulness work for you:

https://youtu.be/G4Q2_7_3zb4

#HealYourTrauma #mentalhealth #trauma #traumahealing

If you struggle with worry & anxiety, don't miss my online workshop, Overcoming Anxiety: How to Worry Less, Feel Calmer and More at Peace, on 10th December 2022.

This workshop offers a limited number of free places, as well as a Low Income Ticket and Supporter Ticket, for those able to support the Heal Your Trauma project.

Book your place now:

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/workshop-overcoming-anxiety-tickets-417205923147

#HealYourTrauma #trauma #traumahealing #anxiety #anxietysupport #workshop #therapy #psychology #selfcompassion #mentalhealth

If you are struggling with your mental health & are interested in my Heal Your Trauma project, here's a calendar of all our events for 2023.

Webinars & workshops on a wide range of subjects, all free if you're on a low income or payable by donation if you can support the (non-profit) project:

https://www.healyourtrauma.com/calendar-workshops-webinars-in-2023

I hope to see you at one of our events soon! And sending love & warm thoughts if you're struggling ❤️

#mentalhealth #HealYourTrauma #webinar #workshop #trauma #traumahealing

If you struggle with addiction or compulsive behaviours, come along to my one-day workshop on Saturday 26th November, at the Gestalt Centre in central London.

Like all my Heal Your Trauma events, it's free if you're on a low income or payable by donation if you are able to support the project.

For more info or to book your place visit healyourtrauma.com

I hope to see you there!

#HealYourTrauma #trauma #addiction #workshop #traumahealing #IFS #schematherapy

If you struggle with addiction or compulsive behaviours, come along to my one-day workshop on Saturday 26th November, at the Gestalt Centre in central London.

Like all my Heal Your Trauma events, it's free if you're on a low income or payable by donation if you are able to support the project.

For more info or to book your place visit healyourtrauma.com

I hope to see you there!

#HealYourTrauma #trauma #addiction #workshop #traumahealing #IFS #schematherapy

If you struggle with addiction or compulsive behaviours, come along to my one-day workshop on Saturday 26th November, at the Gestalt Centre in central London.

Like all my Heal Your Trauma events, it's free if you're on a low income or payable by donation if you are able to support the project.

For more info or to book your place visit healyourtrauma.com

I hope to see you there!

#HealYourTrauma #trauma #addiction #workshop #traumahealing #IFS #schematherapy

If you struggle with addiction or compulsive behaviours, come along to my one-day workshop on Saturday 26th November, at the Gestalt Centre in central London.

Like all my Heal Your Trauma events, it's free if you're on a low income or payable by donation if you are able to support the project.

For more info or to book your place visit healyourtrauma.com

I hope to see you there!

#HealYourTrauma #trauma #addiction #workshop #traumahealing #IFS #schematherapy