#grindrsafety — Public Fediverse posts
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Meat Grindr: Misogyny isn't the only systemic failure online. Pressure and coercion violate the Principle of Agency. We move from Corrupted Code (Force) to Clean Code (Power).
Scenario: A newly single man on Grindr is pressured to meet up immediately without safety checks. The messager replies:
❌ Corrupted Code (Force):
"Stop making excuses. If you're serious, you'd come over now. Don't waste my time." (Coercive; ignores safety and agency.)✅ Clean Code (Power):
"I understand you need to take your time. Your safety is most important. Let's do a quick video chat first, or we can chat more until you feel ready." (Affirms boundary; prioritizes well-being.)The difference? The second message respects pace and safety. What boundary can you clearly state today?