#genderstuff — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #genderstuff, aggregated by home.social.
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The really annoying thing is that in Thai, the equivalent to calling someone “sir” or “madam” is “khun” which is gender-neutral. Since I reject the notion of gender and go by they/them pronouns, I’d much rather be called “khun” or just nothing at all, but get madamed here every time.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/i-still-have-to-be-a-part-time-woman-and-i-hate-it-265a4ab170d3?sk=6e76387ad4833588795f477d2add33ac -
For the last eight years, I have been deconstructing the guy that took me 60 years to build.
I had a lot of help building him along the way.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/deconstructing-a-guy-74c65b0459d1?sk=51bc5bd08e90058023c681e89e27e17a -
I’ve lived on both sides of the line and been seen in one way, and now I’m seen in another. I’m the same person with the same thoughts and the same sense of humour. But the way people respond to me has completely changed.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/trans-man-seen-both-sides-2b6768dfd920?sk=0b7f2227d7fe07984a8225cedefc53de -
I saw how boys were allowed to take up space, while girls were taught to shrink, to smile and to stay small. So I used to think maybe if I were a boy, it would all make sense and maybe I would finally feel right.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/growing-up-south-asian-become-boy-love-girls-cd0064663210?sk=29a574138e7174a62d50ab073abd5be9 -
I saw how boys were allowed to take up space, while girls were taught to shrink, to smile and to stay small. So I used to think maybe if I were a boy, it would all make sense and maybe I would finally feel right.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/growing-up-south-asian-become-boy-love-girls-cd0064663210?sk=29a574138e7174a62d50ab073abd5be9 -
I saw how boys were allowed to take up space, while girls were taught to shrink, to smile and to stay small. So I used to think maybe if I were a boy, it would all make sense and maybe I would finally feel right.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/growing-up-south-asian-become-boy-love-girls-cd0064663210?sk=29a574138e7174a62d50ab073abd5be9 -
I saw how boys were allowed to take up space, while girls were taught to shrink, to smile and to stay small. So I used to think maybe if I were a boy, it would all make sense and maybe I would finally feel right.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/growing-up-south-asian-become-boy-love-girls-cd0064663210?sk=29a574138e7174a62d50ab073abd5be9 -
I saw how boys were allowed to take up space, while girls were taught to shrink, to smile and to stay small. So I used to think maybe if I were a boy, it would all make sense and maybe I would finally feel right.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/growing-up-south-asian-become-boy-love-girls-cd0064663210?sk=29a574138e7174a62d50ab073abd5be9 -
I never thought I would say this. I never thought the words would leave my mouth, my keyboard, or even the deepest recesses of my neurodivergent brain. But here I am, a #transgender woman in South Dakota, sitting at my desk at 11 p.m. on a Saturday, sipping coffee that has gone cold, and I am saying it:
Bryon Noem is my hero.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/my-unexpected-hero-is-a-man-in-leggings-fa69d0a358be?sk=b51319b65ab3367601eed06189376df7 -
Severe clinical depression. Acute anxiety. And when the oestrogen begins to feminise their bodies — when breast tissue starts to develop — the reaction is visceral and often violently distressing. They experience a profound, catastrophic loss of self. Their brains, running on the wrong chemistry, trigger a constant alarm that something is fundamentally mismatched. Many seek surgery to reverse the physical effects.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/what-actually-happens-when-cisgender-men-take-oestrogen-8ec85f91fa88?sk=fdd7a6d10e0aae79d46dcca852dcc339 -
‘The facts are clear, look at the data. They’re bringing hate. They’re bringing violence. They’re predators. It’s just too damn dangerous to let them anywhere near public restroom facilities.’
https://medium.com/prismnpen/a-trans-woman-has-a-dream-12da63246708?sk=7c42f8ff4c708f55ae9d60aff14bfa11 -
For all those fears and concerns that other trans people have, I simply do not have them. So, without question, I am smashing that magic queer/trans button to make me a cisgender woman!
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-press-the-magic-queer-button-to-become-a-cisgender-woman-05436118c2c0#LGBTQ #Transgender #GenderStuff #ThoughtExperiment #MagicButton
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For all those fears and concerns that other trans people have, I simply do not have them. So, without question, I am smashing that magic queer/trans button to make me a cisgender woman!
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-press-the-magic-queer-button-to-become-a-cisgender-woman-05436118c2c0#LGBTQ #Transgender #GenderStuff #ThoughtExperiment #MagicButton
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For all those fears and concerns that other trans people have, I simply do not have them. So, without question, I am smashing that magic queer/trans button to make me a cisgender woman!
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-press-the-magic-queer-button-to-become-a-cisgender-woman-05436118c2c0#LGBTQ #Transgender #GenderStuff #ThoughtExperiment #MagicButton
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For all those fears and concerns that other trans people have, I simply do not have them. So, without question, I am smashing that magic queer/trans button to make me a cisgender woman!
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-press-the-magic-queer-button-to-become-a-cisgender-woman-05436118c2c0#LGBTQ #Transgender #GenderStuff #ThoughtExperiment #MagicButton
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For all those fears and concerns that other trans people have, I simply do not have them. So, without question, I am smashing that magic queer/trans button to make me a cisgender woman!
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-press-the-magic-queer-button-to-become-a-cisgender-woman-05436118c2c0#LGBTQ #Transgender #GenderStuff #ThoughtExperiment #MagicButton
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It’s not as if I haven’t wished at least a million times that there was a button that could instantly transform me into a cis woman.
But but but. What about the fine print?
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-press-the-queer-magic-button-to-become-a-cis-woman-3b09bfe434b9?sk=bbd3c4ad4bd1e31e43bb13fa77b88ee0 -
It’s not as if I haven’t wished at least a million times that there was a button that could instantly transform me into a cis woman.
But but but. What about the fine print?
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-press-the-queer-magic-button-to-become-a-cis-woman-3b09bfe434b9?sk=bbd3c4ad4bd1e31e43bb13fa77b88ee0 -
It’s not as if I haven’t wished at least a million times that there was a button that could instantly transform me into a cis woman.
But but but. What about the fine print?
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-press-the-queer-magic-button-to-become-a-cis-woman-3b09bfe434b9?sk=bbd3c4ad4bd1e31e43bb13fa77b88ee0 -
It’s not as if I haven’t wished at least a million times that there was a button that could instantly transform me into a cis woman.
But but but. What about the fine print?
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-press-the-queer-magic-button-to-become-a-cis-woman-3b09bfe434b9?sk=bbd3c4ad4bd1e31e43bb13fa77b88ee0 -
If you could push a button to swap sexes, would you? What if it were permanent not impermanent? What if pressing the button meant everyone has always known me as a girl, so there’s no sacrifice or stigma?
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-push-the-magic-button-to-become-a-cis-girl-0ea7ed7a496e?sk=7c8b8007fd1ec62cfb2607cfe3019e00 -
If you could push a button to swap sexes, would you? What if it were permanent not impermanent? What if pressing the button meant everyone has always known me as a girl, so there’s no sacrifice or stigma?
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-push-the-magic-button-to-become-a-cis-girl-0ea7ed7a496e?sk=7c8b8007fd1ec62cfb2607cfe3019e00 -
If you could push a button to swap sexes, would you? What if it were permanent not impermanent? What if pressing the button meant everyone has always known me as a girl, so there’s no sacrifice or stigma?
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-push-the-magic-button-to-become-a-cis-girl-0ea7ed7a496e?sk=7c8b8007fd1ec62cfb2607cfe3019e00 -
If you could push a button to swap sexes, would you? What if it were permanent not impermanent? What if pressing the button meant everyone has always known me as a girl, so there’s no sacrifice or stigma?
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-push-the-magic-button-to-become-a-cis-girl-0ea7ed7a496e?sk=7c8b8007fd1ec62cfb2607cfe3019e00 -
If you could push a button to swap sexes, would you? What if it were permanent not impermanent? What if pressing the button meant everyone has always known me as a girl, so there’s no sacrifice or stigma?
https://medium.com/prismnpen/would-i-push-the-magic-button-to-become-a-cis-girl-0ea7ed7a496e?sk=7c8b8007fd1ec62cfb2607cfe3019e00 -
I began to explore and search for my mum’s bras. They were not from Triumph, and I couldn’t care much. I tried wearing it on my head, like a pilot getting ready to take off.
I wore the bra, and would sneak the bra back to the wardrobe before my parents came back.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/my-transition-is-when-i-gave-up-my-banana-for-breakfast-ham-3feff9dc0b18 -
I think about the magic button a lot. It’s burned into a lot of trans people’s brains, because it’s a tool we almost all use at some point — usually when we’re struggling the most.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/if-i-could-press-a-magic-button-to-be-cisgender-i-would-walk-away-94bfc0331c70?sk=56b4bcb06a59ab0a69cd7fb6e129e3aa -
I’m a #transgender woman. I spent years living in a body and a social role that didn’t fit. I want to tell you what I noticed from the perspective of someone who has genuinely lived on both sides of the gender gap.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/i-lived-as-a-man-and-a-woman-this-is-what-its-like-416c98c88900?sk=f1c8d801e9414d30cfe7c95310892718 -
“Wait,” she lowers her voice, leaning in conspiratorially. “Don’t take this the wrong way but… are you trans?”
My heart does that familiar little stutter. Honesty is usually the best policy in the ladies’ loo, and she seems nice enough.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/why-dont-trans-women-have-the-operation-751df654e51e?sk=952ac9a994d41307e49623b46ad2372e -
Back then, in the late ’80s and early ’90s, liking what girls liked was a risk. The rules weren’t written down, but everyone knew them. Boys could wear sports logos or heavy-metal tees. Girls got pink, glitter, and heartthrobs.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/the-new-kids-on-the-block-shirt-i-never-wore-and-the-queer-woman-who-could-30036f77d485?sk=8ad0448ec7e9dbbae3f22b2d50d5da48 -
The squall had come from nowhere. The weather prediction had been fine; our afternoon forecast called for smooth sailing.
Then a water spout appeared about a mile away on the port side.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/a-shipwreck-a-liferaft-and-a-life-secret-b02df5ab0a68?sk=1d8272907e5164e8a0ec03142eea79b6#LGBTQ #Fiction #QueerFiction #GenderStuff #Transgender #AdventureStory
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I miss the simplicity of the flat-worlders’ ignorance of science. They like their world simple, just flat.
Deniers want their gender to be as simple as well, biologically male or female, as if nature is that cut and dry.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/flat-worlders-and-gender-deniers-are-buffoons-2d758b499fe2?sk=b90e3d01c9dd8d2621060500e1e1ff6d -
We are not born with masculine behaviors; they are taught, modeled, and expected of us.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/unlearning-masculinity-trans-woman-b017fed6b968?sk=3d3c073b80fff82e666d087543410c44 -
The first time I put on that basic stretchy red work shirt and looked in the mirror was one of the first times I looked at the curves of my body and felt right.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/as-a-trans-woman-i-find-power-in-not-passing-a6c9185598c5 -
Though I did not personally know everyone who would be in attendance, I worried I might be be the only gender-non-conforming or #transgender person there.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/i-attended-a-salon-on-gender-roles-da78d914e19a?sk=ab3be16d65ce56b2ee264d04f88711ba -
I am tired of conforming to society’s idea of what a woman is or should be. Buying razor blades and shaving cream is expensive. As I age, bending to reach every nook and cranny, especially behind my knees, is becoming more and more difficult. It hurts when I cut my toes.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/i-stopped-shaving-my-legs-but-not-only-because-im-queer-034e0ae8bdcb?sk=8c3d8c7b78ccd24027aca7ca1149426c -
So are you two sisters?
I chuckled and shook my head, insisting —
I’m a boy!
And their jaws dropped. They genuinely couldn’t believe it.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/gender-identity-at-disneyland-why-did-everyone-think-i-was-a-girl-d59277d837bc?sk=0d54c34c5992ac78f65b42858e2ad09c -
The truth is, I never really felt different, in the sense that I was in the wrong body, as a kid. By the time I hit my early twenties, I neither felt like a female nor a male. I just felt like a person. I enjoyed “female things” and “male things”.
https://medium.com/@charliejraymond/am-i-trans-enough-20c5ae61b1a5?sk=84fc029c44b421be276d5d63fa784003 -
Publicly, Kurt was vocally critical of toxic masculinity and embraced feminist ideas, often performing gender-nonconforming acts like wearing dresses as a form of anti-conformist protest.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/what-if-kurt-was-claire-a-transfeminine-reading-of-kurt-cobain-9e874a47037a?sk=6fb3112fd32bcd0c27ff50e1ac6cbf2a -
It’s been a slow process, learning to trust that I don’t have to be a “real man” by anyone else’s standards. My version of #masculinity can be quiet and tender, strong and vulnerable all at once.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/finding-my-definition-of-manhood-as-a-gay-man-3c28275ef0de?sk=981d55c9d33bed3e0d0abe11a06efaa5 -
No one fell off,
into the abyss.
Where was the edge?
who said it was flat?And the double helix?
Chromosomes, Alleles and genes,
XX and XY, male and female, says who?...
https://medium.com/prismnpen/the-earth-is-flat-and-there-are-only-two-genders-a-poem-of-discovery-830e6007ccea#LGBTQ #Poetry #Transgender #GenderStuff #Science #Discovery
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The truth is, the concept of “biological sex” is not ancient. It’s not universal. It’s not neutral. It was born out of the need to justify inequality — to fix differences and create hierarchies.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/biological-sex-a-lie-dressed-as-science-ef1ee01ce7e8 -
Most people don’t understand who is who, and for them, we are all “men in dresses.” In some cases, it’s true, and there’s nothing bad about it, but in others, it can be offensive and lead to high distress and anxiety.
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I know many people will be sitting down to write about their grief as I am doing. It is a way for me to deal with what I feel is a personal loss as a citizen of the United States of America and as a #gay man.
https://buff.ly/40vqvBH#LGBTQ #USPolitics #Transgender #GenderStuff #Grief #CurrentEvents
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Some people get socks for Christmas. Others get gadgets. Me? I got my gender!
https://buff.ly/4ga94wx#LGBTQ #Transgender #GenderStuff #Christmas #Life #Milestone