#genderexpression — Public Fediverse posts

Shrinking Violet?

I haven’t posted here in a while, I’ve been out living my best life, working for a living, now with two jobs. 

One of my jobs is in a store that sells women’s intimate wear. I’ve been there for a month now, and I love it. My coworkers are amazing, my boss is fantastic, and for the most part, my customers are great too. 

But this morning, my boss told me about a customer review that had been posted. This customer couldn’t believe the store would have “one of those people” working there. It included the phrase, “I don’t have anything against those people, but…” 

You know how those sentences go. What comes after the “but” negates everything before it. 

My manager informed me that she had talked to our head office and had the review removed. She said that it was basically the same as someone posting a racist review, or any other form of bigotry. 

She didn’t have to tell me about it. Some managers would have kept it quiet with the rationalization being that they would want me to be upset about an isolated negative comment. But I appreciate that she told me. It’s important to know that the company has my back. I already knew that everyone in the store would be behind me if I had a negative encounter in the store, but it’s important that the company as a whole does as well. They have a comprehensive DEI policy, and the best DEI training module I’ve seen yet, but this incident shows that they stand behind their policy. 

But the incident made me think. There are two ways you can go after receiving negative feedback. Some people would tend to make themselves smaller, to retreat so as not to risk offending someone else. But I kept my personality small for far too many years, so I can only go in the opposite direction. 

I have a big personality, and one of my foremost goals is to use my personality to help lift other people up. (Not necessarily in the physical sense, although as several of my friends know, I can certainly do that.) I feel happy when the people around me are happy, and it gives me great joy to be part of their happiness. 

So I’m definitely not going to shink because someone occasionally doesn’t understand who I am. I’m someone who makes a positive difference in people’s lives. I’m someone my friends are happy to see. I’m proud of who I am, and I’m going to continue being the person I’ve always wanted to be. 

Shrinking Violet?

I haven’t posted here in a while, I’ve been out living my best life, working for a living, now with two jobs. 

One of my jobs is in a store that sells women’s intimate wear. I’ve been there for a month now, and I love it. My coworkers are amazing, my boss is fantastic, and for the most part, my customers are great too. 

But this morning, my boss told me about a customer review that had been posted. This customer couldn’t believe the store would have “one of those people” working there. It included the phrase, “I don’t have anything against those people, but…” 

You know how those sentences go. What comes after the “but” negates everything before it. 

My manager informed me that she had talked to our head office and had the review removed. She said that it was basically the same as someone posting a racist review, or any other form of bigotry. 

She didn’t have to tell me about it. Some managers would have kept it quiet with the rationalization being that they would want me to be upset about an isolated negative comment. But I appreciate that she told me. It’s important to know that the company has my back. I already knew that everyone in the store would be behind me if I had a negative encounter in the store, but it’s important that the company as a whole does as well. They have a comprehensive DEI policy, and the best DEI training module I’ve seen yet, but this incident shows that they stand behind their policy. 

But the incident made me think. There are two ways you can go after receiving negative feedback. Some people would tend to make themselves smaller, to retreat so as not to risk offending someone else. But I kept my personality small for far too many years, so I can only go in the opposite direction. 

I have a big personality, and one of my foremost goals is to use my personality to help lift other people up. (Not necessarily in the physical sense, although as several of my friends know, I can certainly do that.) I feel happy when the people around me are happy, and it gives me great joy to be part of their happiness. 

So I’m definitely not going to shink because someone occasionally doesn’t understand who I am. I’m someone who makes a positive difference in people’s lives. I’m someone my friends are happy to see. I’m proud of who I am, and I’m going to continue being the person I’ve always wanted to be. 

Massachusetts removes rule requiring foster parents to support LGBTQ+ youth

https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.advocate.com/politics/massachusetts-foster-care-lgbtq-protections

🎭 Happy International Drag Day! 👑✨

Heute feiern wir all die mutigen, kreativen und inspirierenden Menschen, die mit ihrer Kunstform die Welt ein bisschen bunter, freier und stolzer machen. 💄🔥

Drag ist mehr als nur Show – es ist Ausdruck, Rebellion, Empowerment und pure Lebensfreude.
Ob auf der Bühne, in der Community oder im Alltag: Drag Performer*innen brechen Geschlechternormen auf und zeigen, dass Identität viele Facetten hat. 🏳️‍🌈

Let’s celebrate the beauty of being bold, loud and unapologetically YOU! 💃👑
Support your local Drag Artists – not just today, sondern das ganze Jahr über!

#InternationalDragDay #DragIsArt #DragIsPolitical #SupportDrag #LGBTQIA #Pride365 #DragQueen #DragKing #GenderExpression #celebratediversity

The Aesthetic Revolution: Liquid Sky's Influence on 80s Culture https://alexwesterman.com/visual-arts/movies/the-aesthetic-revolution-liquid-skys-influence-on-80s-culture/ #LiquidSky, #80sCultClassic, #SlavaTsukerman, #AnneCarlisle, #NewWaveCinema,#CultFilm, #ArtFilm, #UndergroundFilm, #80sAesthetics, #80sCulture, #80sFashion, #NewWaveFashion, #PostPunk, #80sNewYork, #DowntownNYC, #ClubCulture,#VisualInfluence, #FashionHistory, #Alienation, #UrbanDecay, #GenderExpression, #PerformanceArt, #AestheticRevolution, #FilmHistory, #CulturalStudies, #FashionInFilm, #MovieInfluence

#CreepoftheWeek: #ConvictedFelon #DonaldTrump

#Republicans, however, have nominated themselves to be the #genderpolice. They are absolutely #obsessed with #gender. They believe that there are only two #genders, that there are rigidly-defined #genderroles for #males and #females, and that there is a #masculine or #feminine #ideal when it comes to #genderexpression. Any #deviation is wrong.

https://epgn.com/2024/10/22/creep-of-the-week-trump-5/

#CreepoftheWeek: #ConvictedFelon #DonaldTrump

#Republicans, however, have nominated themselves to be the #genderpolice. They are absolutely #obsessed with #gender. They believe that there are only two #genders, that there are rigidly-defined #genderroles for #males and #females, and that there is a #masculine or #feminine #ideal when it comes to #genderexpression. Any #deviation is wrong.

https://epgn.com/2024/10/22/creep-of-the-week-trump-5/

How Does One Feel One’s Gender?

I don’t know what it means to feel “masculine.”

Ever since I discovered that I’m nonbinary, I’ve been reflecting on what gender is supposed to be, and I’m just ending up confused. Some people talk about feeling “masculine” or “feminine” but I don’t really know what it means, other than acting in accordance with the way that society decides that “men” and “women” should act.

People are born with a certain set of genitals, on the basis of this, society says “male” or “female.” This is already problematic. If you think that the biological sex binary is a given, I invite you to listen to this TED talk:

https://youtu.be/stUl_OapUso?si=DizHKNWPUynGjMZ_

I already knew that the biological basis for the binary is on shaky ground. However, there is nothing like someone speaking from actual lived experience to sharpen your understanding.

I’ve mentioned above that on top of biological sex, society imposes a series of behavioral conventions that define what men and women are. Men should act this way. Women should act that way. This is the gender binary. When a man acts in the way a woman should, it is deemed unnatural. Same when a woman acts in the way a man should.

I used to think that if I declared myself nonbinary, it was from an ideological standpoint more than anything else, but I don’t think this is the case. I’m just puzzled when people talk about feeling their gender, because this is something I don’t experience, or that I experience only faintly.

The gender binary is a complete fabrication from society. It is mere convention. It is not nature itself that compels those we call men to be competitive, or to be the provider in a couple, but society. It used to be that women couldn’t get credit without their husband’s approval. It is not nature that dictated this, but society. This restriction disappeared, not because of any change in nature, but because of changes in how society sees the gender binary.

Thus, it is that when I talk about my nonbinary nature, I talk about behavior. This is only because society itself distinguishes one side of the binary from the other in terms of behavior. It happens from time to time that someone interjects that gender identity is not the same as gender expression. Yes, this is true, but it has no bearing on what I am saying.

Let me make this clear. I’m not the gender police. You absolutely can be a feminine man, or a masculine woman, or any other variation. I won’t get on your case for it, and may even give you romantic love. However, as far as I am concerned, when it comes to evaluating whether I am man, woman, or nonbinary, my behavior is a critical component of the analysis.

So society, just like it has made me think that I was neurotypical by treating me like a neurotypical person, has also made me think that I am a man by treating me like a man. This is where gender dysphoria sets in. Yes, I am well versed in looking the part. Yes, I’ve been encultured in manhood, and, usually, I role-play a man. However, there are some behaviors that are required of me, as a man, that I don’t want to engage in. Hence, the gender dysphoria that occurs when I’m pushed to engage in those behaviors.

Still, I don’t feel the male gender in my life. I don’t feel special enjoyment when I do manly things. The notion of whether an act is manly or not does not figure in my decisions. For instance, my relationship with sports has been quite tepid. I used to watch racing, and that was it, as far as sports were concerned. I don’t anymore. I don’t think I’m missing anything important. I’m not pining after sports. It is not somehow missing from my life as a man.

It is only because society insisted that I am a man, and I believed society, that I thought that I was a man. Since I do not feel my gender, where does this lead me, but to the conclusion that I am in fact nonbinary?

#AutisticWriters #behavior #enby #gender #GenderBinary #GenderDysphoria #GenderExpression #GenderIdentity #nonbinary #SocialConvention #YourAutisticLife

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/07/08/how-does-one-feel-ones-gender/

How Does One Feel One’s Gender?

I don’t know what it means to feel “masculine.”

Ever since I discovered that I’m nonbinary, I’ve been reflecting on what gender is supposed to be, and I’m just ending up confused. Some people talk about feeling “masculine” or “feminine” but I don’t really know what it means, other than acting in accordance with the way that society decides that “men” and “women” should act.

People are born with a certain set of genitals, on the basis of this, society says “male” or “female.” This is already problematic. If you think that the biological sex binary is a given, I invite you to listen to this TED talk:

https://youtu.be/stUl_OapUso?si=DizHKNWPUynGjMZ_

I already knew that the biological basis for the binary is on shaky ground. However, there is nothing like someone speaking from actual lived experience to sharpen your understanding.

I’ve mentioned above that on top of biological sex, society imposes a series of behavioral conventions that define what men and women are. Men should act this way. Women should act that way. This is the gender binary. When a man acts in the way a woman should, it is deemed unnatural. Same when a woman acts in the way a man should.

I used to think that if I declared myself nonbinary, it was from an ideological standpoint more than anything else, but I don’t think this is the case. I’m just puzzled when people talk about feeling their gender, because this is something I don’t experience, or that I experience only faintly.

The gender binary is a complete fabrication from society. It is mere convention. It is not nature itself that compels those we call men to be competitive, or to be the provider in a couple, but society. It used to be that women couldn’t get credit without their husband’s approval. It is not nature that dictated this, but society. This restriction disappeared, not because of any change in nature, but because of changes in how society sees the gender binary.

Thus, it is that when I talk about my nonbinary nature, I talk about behavior. This is only because society itself distinguishes one side of the binary from the other in terms of behavior. It happens from time to time that someone interjects that gender identity is not the same as gender expression. Yes, this is true, but it has no bearing on what I am saying.

Let me make this clear. I’m not the gender police. You absolutely can be a feminine man, or a masculine woman, or any other variation. I won’t get on your case for it, and may even give you romantic love. However, as far as I am concerned, when it comes to evaluating whether I am man, woman, or nonbinary, my behavior is a critical component of the analysis.

So society, just like it has made me think that I was neurotypical by treating me like a neurotypical person, has also made me think that I am a man by treating me like a man. This is where gender dysphoria sets in. Yes, I am well versed in looking the part. Yes, I’ve been encultured in manhood, and, usually, I role-play a man. However, there are some behaviors that are required of me, as a man, that I don’t want to engage in. Hence, the gender dysphoria that occurs when I’m pushed to engage in those behaviors.

Still, I don’t feel the male gender in my life. I don’t feel special enjoyment when I do manly things. The notion of whether an act is manly or not does not figure in my decisions. For instance, my relationship with sports has been quite tepid. I used to watch racing, and that was it, as far as sports were concerned. I don’t anymore. I don’t think I’m missing anything important. I’m not pining after sports. It is not somehow missing from my life as a man.

It is only because society insisted that I am a man, and I believed society, that I thought that I was a man. Since I do not feel my gender, where does this lead me, but to the conclusion that I am in fact nonbinary?

#AutisticWriters #behavior #enby #gender #GenderBinary #GenderDysphoria #GenderExpression #GenderIdentity #nonbinary #SocialConvention #YourAutisticLife

https://www.yourautisticlife.com/2024/07/08/how-does-one-feel-ones-gender/

#Africa: #UNAIDS Calls For the #Protection of #HumanRights on the #InternationalDay Against #Homophobia, #Biphobia, and #Transphobia (#IDAHOBT)

More than 60 countries still #criminalize being #Gay, while another 20 countries criminalize #genderexpression and #identity.

#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Africa #Religion #Hate #Bigotry #Violence #Genocide #Discrimination #Homophobia #Transphobia #EmptyThePews #ChristianDarkMoney #ExportingHate

https://allafrica.com/stories/202405150487.html

#Africa: #UNAIDS Calls For the #Protection of #HumanRights on the #InternationalDay Against #Homophobia, #Biphobia, and #Transphobia (#IDAHOBT)

More than 60 countries still #criminalize being #Gay, while another 20 countries criminalize #genderexpression and #identity.

#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Africa #Religion #Hate #Bigotry #Violence #Genocide #Discrimination #Homophobia #Transphobia #EmptyThePews #ChristianDarkMoney #ExportingHate

https://allafrica.com/stories/202405150487.html

#Minnesota must put #equalrights on the #ballot. #Discrimination is not a Minnesota #value

Proposed #EqualRightsAmendment Protects regardless of #race, #color, #ancestry, #nationalorigin, #disability, or #sex — #including #reproductivefreedom and #genderexpression

#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Minnesota #Politics #Progress #Conservatives #Extremism #Fascism #RepublicanParty #Hate #Bigotry #Violence #Genocide #Discrimination #Transphobia #ThePartyOfHate

https://sahanjournal.com/community-voices/equal-rights-amendment-ballot-minnesota/

#Minnesota must put #equalrights on the #ballot. #Discrimination is not a Minnesota #value

Proposed #EqualRightsAmendment Protects regardless of #race, #color, #ancestry, #nationalorigin, #disability, or #sex — #including #reproductivefreedom and #genderexpression

#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Minnesota #Politics #Progress #Conservatives #Extremism #Fascism #RepublicanParty #Hate #Bigotry #Violence #Genocide #Discrimination #Transphobia #ThePartyOfHate

https://sahanjournal.com/community-voices/equal-rights-amendment-ballot-minnesota/

#Women’s #panel seeks #action against ‘#conversiontherapy #training’ targeting #LGBTQIA+ #community

A #Tirupati-based #organisation had #advertised a training program on treating 47 ‘#psychosomaticdisorders’, and listed #homosexuality, lesbianism, #transvestism among them.

Conversion therapies are #pseudoscientificpractices, targeting the LGBTIQA+ into changing their #SexualOrientation, #GenderIdentity and #GenderExpression.

#LGBTQIA #India #Hate #Bigotry #Homophobia

https://scroll.in/latest/1046282/womens-panel-seeks-action-against-conversion-therapy-training-for-lgbtqi-community

#Women’s #panel seeks #action against ‘#conversiontherapy #training’ targeting #LGBTQIA+ #community

A #Tirupati-based #organisation had #advertised a training program on treating 47 ‘#psychosomaticdisorders’, and listed #homosexuality, lesbianism, #transvestism among them.

Conversion therapies are #pseudoscientificpractices, targeting the LGBTIQA+ into changing their #SexualOrientation, #GenderIdentity and #GenderExpression.

#LGBTQIA #India #Hate #Bigotry #Homophobia

https://scroll.in/latest/1046282/womens-panel-seeks-action-against-conversion-therapy-training-for-lgbtqi-community

#Women’s #panel seeks #action against ‘#conversiontherapy #training’ targeting LGBTQIA+ #community

A #Tirupati-based #organisation had #advertised a training program on treating 47 ‘#psychosomaticdisorders’, and listed #homosexuality, #lesbianism, #transvestism among them.

Conversion therapies are #pseudoscientificpractices, targeting the LGBTIQA+ into changing their #SexualOrientation, #GenderIdentity and #GenderExpression.

#LGBTQIA #India #Hate #Bigotry #Homophobia

https://scroll.in/latest/1046282/womens-panel-seeks-action-against-conversion-therapy-training-for-lgbtqi-community

#Women’s #panel seeks #action against ‘#conversiontherapy #training’ targeting #LGBTQIA+ #community

A #Tirupati-based #organisation had #advertised a training program on treating 47 ‘#psychosomaticdisorders’, and listed #homosexuality, lesbianism, #transvestism among them.

Conversion therapies are #pseudoscientificpractices, targeting the LGBTIQA+ into changing their #SexualOrientation, #GenderIdentity and #GenderExpression.

#LGBTQIA #India #Hate #Bigotry #Homophobia

https://scroll.in/latest/1046282/womens-panel-seeks-action-against-conversion-therapy-training-for-lgbtqi-community

#Women’s #panel seeks #action against ‘#conversiontherapy #training’ targeting #LGBTQIA+ #community

A #Tirupati-based #organisation had #advertised a training program on treating 47 ‘#psychosomaticdisorders’, and listed #homosexuality, lesbianism, #transvestism among them.

Conversion therapies are #pseudoscientificpractices, targeting the LGBTIQA+ into changing their #SexualOrientation, #GenderIdentity and #GenderExpression.

#LGBTQIA #India #Hate #Bigotry #Homophobia

https://scroll.in/latest/1046282/womens-panel-seeks-action-against-conversion-therapy-training-for-lgbtqi-community

Sex, Gender, And What The New York Times’ Pamela Paul Gets Wrong About Both

***It’s pretty much everything.***

"The risk isn’t that we will 'lose our advances' because of this fight but that the Pauls of the world, by invoking Science in willful ignorance, will succeed in convincing others that we should." #LGBQT #NewYorkTimes #SexAndGender #Gender #GenderExpression #GenderIdentity #ItsAllRightToCry #FreeToBe #TERFsGonnaTERF

Read more here: https://tinyurl.com/axz2n5b7

Sex, Gender, And What The New York Times’ Pamela Paul Gets Wrong About Both

***It’s pretty much everything.***

"The risk isn’t that we will 'lose our advances' because of this fight but that the Pauls of the world, by invoking Science in willful ignorance, will succeed in convincing others that we should." #LGBQT #NewYorkTimes #SexAndGender #Gender #GenderExpression #GenderIdentity #ItsAllRightToCry #FreeToBe #TERFsGonnaTERF

Read more here: https://tinyurl.com/axz2n5b7

Sex, Gender, And What The New York Times’ Pamela Paul Gets Wrong About Both

***It’s pretty much everything.***

"The risk isn’t that we will 'lose our advances' because of this fight but that the Pauls of the world, by invoking Science in willful ignorance, will succeed in convincing others that we should." #LGBQT #NewYorkTimes #SexAndGender #Gender #GenderExpression #GenderIdentity #ItsAllRightToCry #FreeToBe #TERFsGonnaTERF

Read more here: https://tinyurl.com/axz2n5b7

Sex, Gender, And What The New York Times’ Pamela Paul Gets Wrong About Both

***It’s pretty much everything.***

"The risk isn’t that we will 'lose our advances' because of this fight but that the Pauls of the world, by invoking Science in willful ignorance, will succeed in convincing others that we should." #LGBQT #NewYorkTimes #SexAndGender #Gender #GenderExpression #GenderIdentity #ItsAllRightToCry #FreeToBe #TERFsGonnaTERF

Read more here: https://tinyurl.com/axz2n5b7

Sex, Gender, And What The New York Times’ Pamela Paul Gets Wrong About Both

***It’s pretty much everything.***

"The risk isn’t that we will 'lose our advances' because of this fight but that the Pauls of the world, by invoking Science in willful ignorance, will succeed in convincing others that we should." #LGBQT #NewYorkTimes #SexAndGender #Gender #GenderExpression #GenderIdentity #ItsAllRightToCry #FreeToBe #TERFsGonnaTERF

Read more here: https://tinyurl.com/axz2n5b7

:transgender: → 🇦🇷 = 0,12% 👤 (~50 000 👥)
❤🧡💛💚💙💜

#Argentina #Censo #Censo2022 #Census #Población #Poblation #Gente #Personas #People #Trans #Transgénero #Transgéneros #Transgender #Géneronobinario #GNB #NonBinary #NonBinaryPeople #NonBinaryGender #Genderqueer #Queer #NBG #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQI #LGBTQIA #Identidaddegenero #Identidadesdegénero #Género #Géneros #Expresióndegénero #Expresionesdegénero #GenderIdentity #GenderIdentities #GenderExpression #GenderExpressions #Genders #Identidad #Identity

:transgender: → 🇦🇷 = 0,12% 👤 (~50 000 👥)
❤🧡💛💚💙💜

#Argentina #Censo #Censo2022 #Census #Población #Poblation #Gente #Personas #People #Trans #Transgénero #Transgéneros #Transgender #Géneronobinario #GNB #NonBinary #NonBinaryPeople #NonBinaryGender #Genderqueer #Queer #NBG #LGBT #LGBTQ #LGBTQI #LGBTQIA #Identidaddegenero #Identidadesdegénero #Género #Géneros #Expresióndegénero #Expresionesdegénero #GenderIdentity #GenderIdentities #GenderExpression #GenderExpressions #Genders #Identidad #Identity

Autistic Pride Day

https://embrace-autism.com/autistic-pride-day/

#Assignedmaleatbirth(AMAB) #Gendernonconformity #AutisticPrideDay #Genderexpression #Non-binarygender #SimonBaron-Cohen #Genderidentity #Gendervariance #Neurodiversity #Demisexuality #Pansexuality #TammyBaldwin #Testosterone #Nationalday #Genderqueer #Asexuality #Pridemonth #Estrogen #Agender #LGBTQ