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FEMININE MALE OUTFITS

For years, I believed becoming a man meant hiding my femininity. This is a personal reflection on identity, authenticity, and embracing every part of myself.

🔗 Link below
https://medium.com/@dianabasieseme_60028/feminine-male-outfits-8944bac7bd0c?sk=b9c5fc87fb7a907c729cf13f851f6ece

🎨 AI-generated visual.

#Writing #Medium #SelfDiscovery #Authenticity #GenderExpression #Memoir

FEMININE MALE OUTFITS

For years, I believed becoming a man meant hiding my femininity. This is a personal reflection on identity, authenticity, and embracing every part of myself.

🔗 Link below
https://medium.com/@dianabasieseme_60028/feminine-male-outfits-8944bac7bd0c?sk=b9c5fc87fb7a907c729cf13f851f6ece

🎨 AI-generated visual.

#Writing #Medium #SelfDiscovery #Authenticity #GenderExpression #Memoir

FEMININE MALE OUTFITS

For years, I believed becoming a man meant hiding my femininity. This is a personal reflection on identity, authenticity, and embracing every part of myself.

🔗 Link below
https://medium.com/@dianabasieseme_60028/feminine-male-outfits-8944bac7bd0c?sk=b9c5fc87fb7a907c729cf13f851f6ece

🎨 AI-generated visual.

#Writing #Medium #SelfDiscovery #Authenticity #GenderExpression #Memoir

FEMININE MALE OUTFITS

For years, I believed becoming a man meant hiding my femininity. This is a personal reflection on identity, authenticity, and embracing every part of myself.

🔗 Link below
https://medium.com/@dianabasieseme_60028/feminine-male-outfits-8944bac7bd0c?sk=b9c5fc87fb7a907c729cf13f851f6ece

🎨 AI-generated visual.

#Writing #Medium #SelfDiscovery #Authenticity #GenderExpression #Memoir

Was nehmt ihr eigentlich als nicht-binäre Alternative zu "Sehr geehrte Damen und Herren"? Im informellen Kontext nehme ich z.B. "Liebe Alle", "Sehr geehrte Kolleg:innen" passt auch interen, aber bei Mails zu externen Partnern? #lsgbtiq #genderExpression #nicht_binar

Was nehmt ihr eigentlich als nicht-binäre Alternative zu "Sehr geehrte Damen und Herren"? Im informellen Kontext nehme ich z.B. "Liebe Alle", "Sehr geehrte Kolleg:innen" passt auch interen, aber bei Mails zu externen Partnern? #lsgbtiq #genderExpression #nicht_binar

Was nehmt ihr eigentlich als nicht-binäre Alternative zu "Sehr geehrte Damen und Herren"? Im informellen Kontext nehme ich z.B. "Liebe Alle", "Sehr geehrte Kolleg:innen" passt auch interen, aber bei Mails zu externen Partnern? #lsgbtiq #genderExpression #nicht_binar

Was nehmt ihr eigentlich als nicht-binäre Alternative zu "Sehr geehrte Damen und Herren"? Im informellen Kontext nehme ich z.B. "Liebe Alle", "Sehr geehrte Kolleg:innen" passt auch interen, aber bei Mails zu externen Partnern? #lsgbtiq #genderExpression #nicht_binar

Was nehmt ihr eigentlich als nicht-binäre Alternative zu "Sehr geehrte Damen und Herren"? Im informellen Kontext nehme ich z.B. "Liebe Alle", "Sehr geehrte Kolleg:innen" passt auch interen, aber bei Mails zu externen Partnern? #lsgbtiq #genderExpression #nicht_binar

University of Alabama quietly abandons sexual orientation & gender identity nondiscrimination policy

https://fed.brid.gy/r/https://www.advocate.com/politics/states/alabama-university-sexual-orientation-discrimination

University of Alabama quietly abandons sexual orientation & gender identity nondiscrimination policy

https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.advocate.com/politics/states/alabama-university-sexual-orientation-discrimination

University of Alabama quietly abandons sexual orientation & gender identity nondiscrimination policy

https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.advocate.com/politics/states/alabama-university-sexual-orientation-discrimination

University of Alabama quietly abandons sexual orientation & gender identity nondiscrimination policy

https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.advocate.com/politics/states/alabama-university-sexual-orientation-discrimination

University of Alabama quietly abandons sexual orientation & gender identity nondiscrimination policy

https://fed.brid.gy/r/https://www.advocate.com/politics/states/alabama-university-sexual-orientation-discrimination

Hulking Out

I’m currently re-watching She-Hulk: Attorney At Law. I originally watched it when it was released in 2022, one year before my egg cracked. This time through, I’m getting a lot more out of it. Jennifer Walters’ story is about more than just a lawyer who transforms into a big green superhero—it’s a thoughtfully written transition allegory. 

Throughout the story, Jen goes through a lot of the same psychological challenges that I have as I’ve transitioned, and the seventh episode of the first season really drives that point home. She has made her way out to a ranch owned by Emil Blonsky (the Abomination) to check on him. His ranch is a wellness retreat for super-enabled people, two of whom damage her car while “working out their issues.”

While she’s waiting for a tow truck, she wanders around, desperately trying to get a cell signal to see if she has received a message from a man, Josh, who ghosted her after three dates, and she stumbles into a group therapy session, where one of the participants was part of a group who tried to mug her to steal her DNA. Naturally, she hulks out and throws him around a bit before the others convince her to join the session and work on her anger issues—as well as her dating issues. Throughout the session, she remains in Hulk form. 

The reason Josh affects her so much is because he was the first person who seemed to appreciate her as just Jen, without even mentioning She-Hulk. The group finally convinces her to delete Josh’s number because they think she’s a pretty great person inside, without her Hulk exterior. She transforms back into Jen, and feels accepted. 

As soon as she transformed, the thought came to me: I do that. I wear my gender presentation as a shield. Or rather, I still do that. My male persona was an ill-fitting shield against a world that I was convinced would not accept the real me. 

Then I realized, we all do that. We all wear our gender as a shield. And do you know who does it the most? Strictly binary cisgender men. Any crack in their manly armor is seen as an unforgivable weakness, a chance for other men to pounce on them and hurl feminizing insults at them. 

I’m becoming more and more comfortable with my nonbinary nature, but I still feel protected when I wear makeup, affirming clothes, and especially when I wear a wig to cover my strongest source of dysphoria (although even that is reducing as it grows out). When people don’t really know me, that superficial layer helps them see that I’m just one of the girls. But I’m very aware that once people get to know me, they see who I am no matter how I’m dressed…for the most part, but that’s another article. 

I’m very thankful that I understand the mutability of gender, and how tenuous the human binary concept really is. But most of the world still has a lot of trouble grasping that. So I’ll continue to wear my gender, especially in situations where it’s important for new people to see who I am. But as Jen realized at the end of the episode, I know that people appreciate my inner self, and that always shines through. 

Hulking Out

I’m currently re-watching She-Hulk: Attorney At Law. I originally watched it when it was released in 2022, one year before my egg cracked. This time through, I’m getting a lot more out of it. Jennifer Walters’ story is about more than just a lawyer who transforms into a big green superhero—it’s a thoughtfully written transition allegory. 

Throughout the story, Jen goes through a lot of the same psychological challenges that I have as I’ve transitioned, and the seventh episode of the first season really drives that point home. She has made her way out to a ranch owned by Emil Blonsky (the Abomination) to check on him. His ranch is a wellness retreat for super-enabled people, two of whom damage her car while “working out their issues.”

While she’s waiting for a tow truck, she wanders around, desperately trying to get a cell signal to see if she has received a message from a man, Josh, who ghosted her after three dates, and she stumbles into a group therapy session, where one of the participants was part of a group who tried to mug her to steal her DNA. Naturally, she hulks out and throws him around a bit before the others convince her to join the session and work on her anger issues—as well as her dating issues. Throughout the session, she remains in Hulk form. 

The reason Josh affects her so much is because he was the first person who seemed to appreciate her as just Jen, without even mentioning She-Hulk. The group finally convinces her to delete Josh’s number because they think she’s a pretty great person inside, without her Hulk exterior. She transforms back into Jen, and feels accepted. 

As soon as she transformed, the thought came to me: I do that. I wear my gender presentation as a shield. Or rather, I still do that. My male persona was an ill-fitting shield against a world that I was convinced would not accept the real me. 

Then I realized, we all do that. We all wear our gender as a shield. And do you know who does it the most? Strictly binary cisgender men. Any crack in their manly armor is seen as an unforgivable weakness, a chance for other men to pounce on them and hurl feminizing insults at them. 

I’m becoming more and more comfortable with my nonbinary nature, but I still feel protected when I wear makeup, affirming clothes, and especially when I wear a wig to cover my strongest source of dysphoria (although even that is reducing as it grows out). When people don’t really know me, that superficial layer helps them see that I’m just one of the girls. But I’m very aware that once people get to know me, they see who I am no matter how I’m dressed…for the most part, but that’s another article. 

I’m very thankful that I understand the mutability of gender, and how tenuous the human binary concept really is. But most of the world still has a lot of trouble grasping that. So I’ll continue to wear my gender, especially in situations where it’s important for new people to see who I am. But as Jen realized at the end of the episode, I know that people appreciate my inner self, and that always shines through. 

Hulking Out

I’m currently re-watching She-Hulk: Attorney At Law. I originally watched it when it was released in 2022, one year before my egg cracked. This time through, I’m getting a lot more out of it. Jennifer Walters’ story is about more than just a lawyer who transforms into a big green superhero—it’s a thoughtfully written transition allegory. 

Throughout the story, Jen goes through a lot of the same psychological challenges that I have as I’ve transitioned, and the seventh episode of the first season really drives that point home. She has made her way out to a ranch owned by Emil Blonsky (the Abomination) to check on him. His ranch is a wellness retreat for super-enabled people, two of whom damage her car while “working out their issues.”

While she’s waiting for a tow truck, she wanders around, desperately trying to get a cell signal to see if she has received a message from a man, Josh, who ghosted her after three dates, and she stumbles into a group therapy session, where one of the participants was part of a group who tried to mug her to steal her DNA. Naturally, she hulks out and throws him around a bit before the others convince her to join the session and work on her anger issues—as well as her dating issues. Throughout the session, she remains in Hulk form. 

The reason Josh affects her so much is because he was the first person who seemed to appreciate her as just Jen, without even mentioning She-Hulk. The group finally convinces her to delete Josh’s number because they think she’s a pretty great person inside, without her Hulk exterior. She transforms back into Jen, and feels accepted. 

As soon as she transformed, the thought came to me: I do that. I wear my gender presentation as a shield. Or rather, I still do that. My male persona was an ill-fitting shield against a world that I was convinced would not accept the real me. 

Then I realized, we all do that. We all wear our gender as a shield. And do you know who does it the most? Strictly binary cisgender men. Any crack in their manly armor is seen as an unforgivable weakness, a chance for other men to pounce on them and hurl feminizing insults at them. 

I’m becoming more and more comfortable with my nonbinary nature, but I still feel protected when I wear makeup, affirming clothes, and especially when I wear a wig to cover my strongest source of dysphoria (although even that is reducing as it grows out). When people don’t really know me, that superficial layer helps them see that I’m just one of the girls. But I’m very aware that once people get to know me, they see who I am no matter how I’m dressed…for the most part, but that’s another article. 

I’m very thankful that I understand the mutability of gender, and how tenuous the human binary concept really is. But most of the world still has a lot of trouble grasping that. So I’ll continue to wear my gender, especially in situations where it’s important for new people to see who I am. But as Jen realized at the end of the episode, I know that people appreciate my inner self, and that always shines through. 

Hulking Out

I’m currently re-watching She-Hulk: Attorney At Law. I originally watched it when it was released in 2022, one year before my egg cracked. This time through, I’m getting a lot more out of it. Jennifer Walters’ story is about more than just a lawyer who transforms into a big green superhero—it’s a thoughtfully written transition allegory. 

Throughout the story, Jen goes through a lot of the same psychological challenges that I have as I’ve transitioned, and the seventh episode of the first season really drives that point home. She has made her way out to a ranch owned by Emil Blonsky (the Abomination) to check on him. His ranch is a wellness retreat for super-enabled people, two of whom damage her car while “working out their issues.”

While she’s waiting for a tow truck, she wanders around, desperately trying to get a cell signal to see if she has received a message from a man, Josh, who ghosted her after three dates, and she stumbles into a group therapy session, where one of the participants was part of a group who tried to mug her to steal her DNA. Naturally, she hulks out and throws him around a bit before the others convince her to join the session and work on her anger issues—as well as her dating issues. Throughout the session, she remains in Hulk form. 

The reason Josh affects her so much is because he was the first person who seemed to appreciate her as just Jen, without even mentioning She-Hulk. The group finally convinces her to delete Josh’s number because they think she’s a pretty great person inside, without her Hulk exterior. She transforms back into Jen, and feels accepted. 

As soon as she transformed, the thought came to me: I do that. I wear my gender presentation as a shield. Or rather, I still do that. My male persona was an ill-fitting shield against a world that I was convinced would not accept the real me. 

Then I realized, we all do that. We all wear our gender as a shield. And do you know who does it the most? Strictly binary cisgender men. Any crack in their manly armor is seen as an unforgivable weakness, a chance for other men to pounce on them and hurl feminizing insults at them. 

I’m becoming more and more comfortable with my nonbinary nature, but I still feel protected when I wear makeup, affirming clothes, and especially when I wear a wig to cover my strongest source of dysphoria (although even that is reducing as it grows out). When people don’t really know me, that superficial layer helps them see that I’m just one of the girls. But I’m very aware that once people get to know me, they see who I am no matter how I’m dressed…for the most part, but that’s another article. 

I’m very thankful that I understand the mutability of gender, and how tenuous the human binary concept really is. But most of the world still has a lot of trouble grasping that. So I’ll continue to wear my gender, especially in situations where it’s important for new people to see who I am. But as Jen realized at the end of the episode, I know that people appreciate my inner self, and that always shines through. 

Hulking Out

I’m currently re-watching She-Hulk: Attorney At Law. I originally watched it when it was released in 2022, one year before my egg cracked. This time through, I’m getting a lot more out of it. Jennifer Walters’ story is about more than just a lawyer who transforms into a big green superhero—it’s a thoughtfully written transition allegory. 

Throughout the story, Jen goes through a lot of the same psychological challenges that I have as I’ve transitioned, and the seventh episode of the first season really drives that point home. She has made her way out to a ranch owned by Emil Blonsky (the Abomination) to check on him. His ranch is a wellness retreat for super-enabled people, two of whom damage her car while “working out their issues.”

While she’s waiting for a tow truck, she wanders around, desperately trying to get a cell signal to see if she has received a message from a man, Josh, who ghosted her after three dates, and she stumbles into a group therapy session, where one of the participants was part of a group who tried to mug her to steal her DNA. Naturally, she hulks out and throws him around a bit before the others convince her to join the session and work on her anger issues—as well as her dating issues. Throughout the session, she remains in Hulk form. 

The reason Josh affects her so much is because he was the first person who seemed to appreciate her as just Jen, without even mentioning She-Hulk. The group finally convinces her to delete Josh’s number because they think she’s a pretty great person inside, without her Hulk exterior. She transforms back into Jen, and feels accepted. 

As soon as she transformed, the thought came to me: I do that. I wear my gender presentation as a shield. Or rather, I still do that. My male persona was an ill-fitting shield against a world that I was convinced would not accept the real me. 

Then I realized, we all do that. We all wear our gender as a shield. And do you know who does it the most? Strictly binary cisgender men. Any crack in their manly armor is seen as an unforgivable weakness, a chance for other men to pounce on them and hurl feminizing insults at them. 

I’m becoming more and more comfortable with my nonbinary nature, but I still feel protected when I wear makeup, affirming clothes, and especially when I wear a wig to cover my strongest source of dysphoria (although even that is reducing as it grows out). When people don’t really know me, that superficial layer helps them see that I’m just one of the girls. But I’m very aware that once people get to know me, they see who I am no matter how I’m dressed…for the most part, but that’s another article. 

I’m very thankful that I understand the mutability of gender, and how tenuous the human binary concept really is. But most of the world still has a lot of trouble grasping that. So I’ll continue to wear my gender, especially in situations where it’s important for new people to see who I am. But as Jen realized at the end of the episode, I know that people appreciate my inner self, and that always shines through. 

Shrinking Violet?

I haven’t posted here in a while, I’ve been out living my best life, working for a living, now with two jobs. 

One of my jobs is in a store that sells women’s intimate wear. I’ve been there for a month now, and I love it. My coworkers are amazing, my boss is fantastic, and for the most part, my customers are great too. 

But this morning, my boss told me about a customer review that had been posted. This customer couldn’t believe the store would have “one of those people” working there. It included the phrase, “I don’t have anything against those people, but…” 

You know how those sentences go. What comes after the “but” negates everything before it. 

My manager informed me that she had talked to our head office and had the review removed. She said that it was basically the same as someone posting a racist review, or any other form of bigotry. 

She didn’t have to tell me about it. Some managers would have kept it quiet with the rationalization being that they would want me to be upset about an isolated negative comment. But I appreciate that she told me. It’s important to know that the company has my back. I already knew that everyone in the store would be behind me if I had a negative encounter in the store, but it’s important that the company as a whole does as well. They have a comprehensive DEI policy, and the best DEI training module I’ve seen yet, but this incident shows that they stand behind their policy. 

But the incident made me think. There are two ways you can go after receiving negative feedback. Some people would tend to make themselves smaller, to retreat so as not to risk offending someone else. But I kept my personality small for far too many years, so I can only go in the opposite direction. 

I have a big personality, and one of my foremost goals is to use my personality to help lift other people up. (Not necessarily in the physical sense, although as several of my friends know, I can certainly do that.) I feel happy when the people around me are happy, and it gives me great joy to be part of their happiness. 

So I’m definitely not going to shink because someone occasionally doesn’t understand who I am. I’m someone who makes a positive difference in people’s lives. I’m someone my friends are happy to see. I’m proud of who I am, and I’m going to continue being the person I’ve always wanted to be. 

Shrinking Violet?

I haven’t posted here in a while, I’ve been out living my best life, working for a living, now with two jobs. 

One of my jobs is in a store that sells women’s intimate wear. I’ve been there for a month now, and I love it. My coworkers are amazing, my boss is fantastic, and for the most part, my customers are great too. 

But this morning, my boss told me about a customer review that had been posted. This customer couldn’t believe the store would have “one of those people” working there. It included the phrase, “I don’t have anything against those people, but…” 

You know how those sentences go. What comes after the “but” negates everything before it. 

My manager informed me that she had talked to our head office and had the review removed. She said that it was basically the same as someone posting a racist review, or any other form of bigotry. 

She didn’t have to tell me about it. Some managers would have kept it quiet with the rationalization being that they would want me to be upset about an isolated negative comment. But I appreciate that she told me. It’s important to know that the company has my back. I already knew that everyone in the store would be behind me if I had a negative encounter in the store, but it’s important that the company as a whole does as well. They have a comprehensive DEI policy, and the best DEI training module I’ve seen yet, but this incident shows that they stand behind their policy. 

But the incident made me think. There are two ways you can go after receiving negative feedback. Some people would tend to make themselves smaller, to retreat so as not to risk offending someone else. But I kept my personality small for far too many years, so I can only go in the opposite direction. 

I have a big personality, and one of my foremost goals is to use my personality to help lift other people up. (Not necessarily in the physical sense, although as several of my friends know, I can certainly do that.) I feel happy when the people around me are happy, and it gives me great joy to be part of their happiness. 

So I’m definitely not going to shink because someone occasionally doesn’t understand who I am. I’m someone who makes a positive difference in people’s lives. I’m someone my friends are happy to see. I’m proud of who I am, and I’m going to continue being the person I’ve always wanted to be. 

Shrinking Violet?

I haven’t posted here in a while. I’ve been out living my best life, working for a living, now with two jobs. 

One of my jobs is in a store that sells women’s intimate wear. I’ve been there for a month now, and I love it. My coworkers are amazing, my boss is fantastic, and for the most part, my customers are great too. 

But this morning, my boss told me about a customer review that had been posted. This customer couldn’t believe the store would have “one of those people” working there. It included the phrase, “I don’t have anything against those people, but…” 

You know how those sentences go. What comes after the “but” negates everything before it. 

My manager informed me that she had talked to our head office and had the review removed. She said that it was basically the same as someone posting a racist review, or any other form of bigotry. 

She didn’t have to tell me about it. Some managers would have kept it quiet with the rationalization being that they wouldn’t want me to be upset about an isolated negative comment. But I appreciate that she told me. It’s important to know that the company has my back. I already knew that everyone in the store would be behind me if I had a negative encounter in the store, but it’s important that the company as a whole does as well. They have a comprehensive DEI policy, and the best DEI training module I’ve seen yet, but this incident shows that they stand behind their policy. 

But the incident made me think. There are two ways you can go after receiving negative feedback. Some people would tend to make themselves smaller, to retreat so as not to risk offending someone else. But I kept my personality small for far too many years, so I can only go in the opposite direction. 

I have a big personality, and one of my foremost goals is to use my personality to help lift other people up. (Not necessarily in the physical sense, although as several of my friends know, I can certainly do that.) I feel happy when the people around me are happy, and it gives me great joy to be part of their happiness. 

So I’m definitely not going to shink because someone occasionally doesn’t understand who I am. I’m someone who makes a positive difference in people’s lives. I’m someone my friends are happy to see. I’m proud of who I am, and I’m going to continue being the person I’ve always wanted to be. 

Shrinking Violet?

I haven’t posted here in a while. I’ve been out living my best life, working for a living, now with two jobs. 

One of my jobs is in a store that sells women’s intimate wear. I’ve been there for a month now, and I love it. My coworkers are amazing, my boss is fantastic, and for the most part, my customers are great too. 

But this morning, my boss told me about a customer review that had been posted. This customer couldn’t believe the store would have “one of those people” working there. It included the phrase, “I don’t have anything against those people, but…” 

You know how those sentences go. What comes after the “but” negates everything before it. 

My manager informed me that she had talked to our head office and had the review removed. She said that it was basically the same as someone posting a racist review, or any other form of bigotry. 

She didn’t have to tell me about it. Some managers would have kept it quiet with the rationalization being that they wouldn’t want me to be upset about an isolated negative comment. But I appreciate that she told me. It’s important to know that the company has my back. I already knew that everyone in the store would be behind me if I had a negative encounter in the store, but it’s important that the company as a whole does as well. They have a comprehensive DEI policy, and the best DEI training module I’ve seen yet, but this incident shows that they stand behind their policy. 

But the incident made me think. There are two ways you can go after receiving negative feedback. Some people would tend to make themselves smaller, to retreat so as not to risk offending someone else. But I kept my personality small for far too many years, so I can only go in the opposite direction. 

I have a big personality, and one of my foremost goals is to use my personality to help lift other people up. (Not necessarily in the physical sense, although as several of my friends know, I can certainly do that.) I feel happy when the people around me are happy, and it gives me great joy to be part of their happiness. 

So I’m definitely not going to shink because someone occasionally doesn’t understand who I am. I’m someone who makes a positive difference in people’s lives. I’m someone my friends are happy to see. I’m proud of who I am, and I’m going to continue being the person I’ve always wanted to be. 

Shrinking Violet?

I haven’t posted here in a while, I’ve been out living my best life, working for a living, now with two jobs. 

One of my jobs is in a store that sells women’s intimate wear. I’ve been there for a month now, and I love it. My coworkers are amazing, my boss is fantastic, and for the most part, my customers are great too. 

But this morning, my boss told me about a customer review that had been posted. This customer couldn’t believe the store would have “one of those people” working there. It included the phrase, “I don’t have anything against those people, but…” 

You know how those sentences go. What comes after the “but” negates everything before it. 

My manager informed me that she had talked to our head office and had the review removed. She said that it was basically the same as someone posting a racist review, or any other form of bigotry. 

She didn’t have to tell me about it. Some managers would have kept it quiet with the rationalization being that they would want me to be upset about an isolated negative comment. But I appreciate that she told me. It’s important to know that the company has my back. I already knew that everyone in the store would be behind me if I had a negative encounter in the store, but it’s important that the company as a whole does as well. They have a comprehensive DEI policy, and the best DEI training module I’ve seen yet, but this incident shows that they stand behind their policy. 

But the incident made me think. There are two ways you can go after receiving negative feedback. Some people would tend to make themselves smaller, to retreat so as not to risk offending someone else. But I kept my personality small for far too many years, so I can only go in the opposite direction. 

I have a big personality, and one of my foremost goals is to use my personality to help lift other people up. (Not necessarily in the physical sense, although as several of my friends know, I can certainly do that.) I feel happy when the people around me are happy, and it gives me great joy to be part of their happiness. 

So I’m definitely not going to shink because someone occasionally doesn’t understand who I am. I’m someone who makes a positive difference in people’s lives. I’m someone my friends are happy to see. I’m proud of who I am, and I’m going to continue being the person I’ve always wanted to be. 

Demography Beyond Age: Understanding Sex, Gender Identity, and Ethnicity

https://theexpertclinician.com/2026/07/14/demography-beyond-age-understanding-sex-gender-identity-and-ethnicity/

Hello everyone 👋

I’m Yash. I’m a creative exploring fashion, identity, and self-expression especially around gender fluidity and alternative aesthetics.

I create, experiment, and learn openly. My work blends style, storytelling, and personal growth.
Here to connect with thoughtful people, share ideas, and keep evolving.

#Fashion #Creative #GenderExpression #Fediverse

#Nudity encourages equality. Without uniforms, fashion, brands, or status symbols, differences of wealth, profession, #GenderExpression, & hierarchy lose visual power, supporting more honest human connection.

#Naturism #Naked #NoClothes #ClothesFree #NakedLiberation

#Nudity encourages equality. Without uniforms, fashion, brands, or status symbols, differences of wealth, profession, #GenderExpression, & hierarchy lose visual power, supporting more honest human connection.

#Naturism #Naked #NoClothes #ClothesFree #NakedLiberation

#Nudity encourages equality. Without uniforms, fashion, brands, or status symbols, differences of wealth, profession, #GenderExpression, & hierarchy lose visual power, supporting more honest human connection.

#Naturism #Naked #NoClothes #ClothesFree #NakedLiberation

Massachusetts removes rule requiring foster parents to support LGBTQ+ youth

https://fed.brid.gy/r/https://www.advocate.com/politics/massachusetts-foster-care-lgbtq-protections

Massachusetts removes rule requiring foster parents to support LGBTQ+ youth

https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.advocate.com/politics/massachusetts-foster-care-lgbtq-protections

Massachusetts removes rule requiring foster parents to support LGBTQ+ youth

https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.advocate.com/politics/massachusetts-foster-care-lgbtq-protections

Massachusetts removes rule requiring foster parents to support LGBTQ+ youth

https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.advocate.com/politics/massachusetts-foster-care-lgbtq-protections

Massachusetts removes rule requiring foster parents to support LGBTQ+ youth

https://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.advocate.com/politics/massachusetts-foster-care-lgbtq-protections

🎭 Happy International Drag Day! 👑✨

Heute feiern wir all die mutigen, kreativen und inspirierenden Menschen, die mit ihrer Kunstform die Welt ein bisschen bunter, freier und stolzer machen. 💄🔥

Drag ist mehr als nur Show – es ist Ausdruck, Rebellion, Empowerment und pure Lebensfreude.
Ob auf der Bühne, in der Community oder im Alltag: Drag Performer*innen brechen Geschlechternormen auf und zeigen, dass Identität viele Facetten hat. 🏳️‍🌈

Let’s celebrate the beauty of being bold, loud and unapologetically YOU! 💃👑
Support your local Drag Artists – not just today, sondern das ganze Jahr über!

#InternationalDragDay #DragIsArt #DragIsPolitical #SupportDrag #LGBTQIA #Pride365 #DragQueen #DragKing #GenderExpression #celebratediversity

How does HRT affect you?

Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) has various physical and emotional effects. Unfortunately, the information online doesn’t always give a clear picture of what to expect, for two reasons: 

• The research on medical transition is still limited.
• Everyone’s experience is different!

Even though every trans person has a somewhat different HRT journey, there are some common effects. This is my experience.

Watch my latest YouTube video for an overview, and read below for more detail.

https://youtu.be/FhwuCfMSxNU

Nights aren’t so hard anymore

As your testosterone levels plummet, one of the first things that stop is spontaneous nighttime erections. For me, this started happening (well, stopped happening) within the first couple of weeks. 

If you experience bottom dysphoria, and are planning to get rid of that part, this isn’t so bad. But if you’re planning to keep it, this means you have to exercise that part regularly. The suggested schedule is at least three times a week for at least ten minutes each time. If you don’t raise the flag regularly, scar tissue will develop. When too much scar tissue builds up, Mr. Happy is gone for good. 

I went through a difficult time in this regard in my first six months due to the emotional changes I talk about below, but eventually I reached a point where it became easy again. 

Soft as a trans girl’s bottom

The most significant early effect was that my skin started to feel softer. I expected this to happen because it’s a well-documented effect. But I had pretty good skin for my age before I started HRT, so I wasn’t ready for how dramatic this effect would be. I couldn’t stop touching the side of my neck!

After starting in certain areas, the effect spreads across all of your skin. You have to be a little more careful if you tend to bump into things, but this change is very easy to get used to. 

The roller coaster

The emotional changes I felt within the first couple of months were a little more challenging. My emotional highs were higher, and the lows were lower. But I was significantly depressed before starting HRT, so the lows weren’t much different from my old baseline. 

And I could deal with the emotions much more easily, despite their greater range. In my old life, when I got upset, my emotions would get the better of me. I would shout and hit things. But now, even though I feel stronger highs and lows, I can maintain my composure and let everything out when it’s safe to do so. 

The itty bitty committee

Ater a couple of months, I noticed the first hints of breast development. I didn’t notice a change in size right away, but they started hurting—and they basically haven’t stopped. It’s a good thing my ability to deal with pain has increased considerably. Even so, I usually wear a lined bra in case I bump into something. 

After a year, I was approaching a reasonable 36 B. Now I comfortably fill that size. In a push-up bra, I have real cleavage! And I’ll probably keep growing for a while. Officially, breast development is supposed to peak in 2-3 years, but according to unofficial surveys, they keep growing long after that. 

Hair today…more tomorrow!

When you start feminizing HRT, your doctor will tell you that you can expect hair loss to stop, but don’t expect any re-growth. However, almost every trans woman I’ve talked to confirms that their hair does grow back. If you started out thin with a bald spot (like I did), you’re not going to look like Selena Gomez, but old, dormant follicles may reactivate. My thin patch is filling in, although the progress is painfully slow. 

Fo over a year, I would not get my hair cut because I spent far too many years with very short hair. But last month, I got my first feminine haircut, and it feels a lot fuller than it did before. Keep your split ends trimmed and use a sulfate-free shampoo. 

Hard curves ahead

I’ve bucked one trend so far. For the most part, reducing your testosterone level makes it more difficult to maintain muscle mass. I’ve always been lucky. In my old life, I maintained pretty decent strength with very little exercise. After a year and a half on hormones, I haven’t really lost anything. And I’ve just started a job that’s somewhat physically demanding, so I expect my hard curves to stick around. 

Facing my true self

I forgot to include this section in the video! My face has changed considerably over the last year and a half. My features are softer. My eyes look more open. My cheekbones stand out more. And my lips are starting to get a bit fuller. This started early on, and it’s been continuing pretty steadily. In a couple more years, I don’t think there will be anything masculine left in my face. 

What has your experience been like?

If you’re trans, or you’ve been on hormone therapy for another reason, please share your experience in the comments, either here or on YouTube.

#biology #dysphoria #GenderExpression #identity #trans #TransJoy

How does HRT affect you?

Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) has various physical and emotional effects. Unfortunately, the information online doesn’t always give a clear picture of what to expect, for two reasons: 

• The research on medical transition is still limited.
• Everyone’s experience is different!

Even though every trans person has a somewhat different HRT journey, there are some common effects. This is my experience.

Watch my latest YouTube video for an overview, and read below for more detail.

https://youtu.be/FhwuCfMSxNU

Nights aren’t so hard anymore

As your testosterone levels plummet, one of the first things that stop is spontaneous nighttime erections. For me, this started happening (well, stopped happening) within the first couple of weeks. 

If you experience bottom dysphoria, and are planning to get rid of that part, this isn’t so bad. But if you’re planning to keep it, this means you have to exercise that part regularly. The suggested schedule is at least three times a week for at least ten minutes each time. If you don’t raise the flag regularly, scar tissue will develop. When too much scar tissue builds up, Mr. Happy is gone for good. 

I went through a difficult time in this regard in my first six months due to the emotional changes I talk about below, but eventually I reached a point where it became easy again. 

Soft as a trans girl’s bottom

The most significant early effect was that my skin started to feel softer. I expected this to happen because it’s a well-documented effect. But I had pretty good skin for my age before I started HRT, so I wasn’t ready for how dramatic this effect would be. I couldn’t stop touching the side of my neck!

After starting in certain areas, the effect spreads across all of your skin. You have to be a little more careful if you tend to bump into things, but this change is very easy to get used to. 

The roller coaster

The emotional changes I felt within the first couple of months were a little more challenging. My emotional highs were higher, and the lows were lower. But I was significantly depressed before starting HRT, so the lows weren’t much different from my old baseline. 

And I could deal with the emotions much more easily, despite their greater range. In my old life, when I got upset, my emotions would get the better of me. I would shout and hit things. But now, even though I feel stronger highs and lows, I can maintain my composure and let everything out when it’s safe to do so. 

The itty bitty committee

Ater a couple of months, I noticed the first hints of breast development. I didn’t notice a change in size right away, but they started hurting—and they basically haven’t stopped. It’s a good thing my ability to deal with pain has increased considerably. Even so, I usually wear a lined bra in case I bump into something. 

After a year, I was approaching a reasonable 36 B. Now I comfortably fill that size. In a push-up bra, I have real cleavage! And I’ll probably keep growing for a while. Officially, breast development is supposed to peak in 2-3 years, but according to unofficial surveys, they keep growing long after that. 

Hair today…more tomorrow!

When you start feminizing HRT, your doctor will tell you that you can expect hair loss to stop, but don’t expect any re-growth. However, almost every trans woman I’ve talked to confirms that their hair does grow back. If you started out thin with a bald spot (like I did), you’re not going to look like Selena Gomez, but old, dormant follicles may reactivate. My thin patch is filling in, although the progress is painfully slow. 

Fo over a year, I would not get my hair cut because I spent far too many years with very short hair. But last month, I got my first feminine haircut, and it feels a lot fuller than it did before. Keep your split ends trimmed and use a sulfate-free shampoo. 

Hard curves ahead

I’ve bucked one trend so far. For the most part, reducing your testosterone level makes it more difficult to maintain muscle mass. I’ve always been lucky. In my old life, I maintained pretty decent strength with very little exercise. After a year and a half on hormones, I haven’t really lost anything. And I’ve just started a job that’s somewhat physically demanding, so I expect my hard curves to stick around. 

Facing my true self

I forgot to include this section in the video! My face has changed considerably over the last year and a half. My features are softer. My eyes look more open. My cheekbones stand out more. And my lips are starting to get a bit fuller. This started early on, and it’s been continuing pretty steadily. In a couple more years, I don’t think there will be anything masculine left in my face. 

What has your experience been like?

If you’re trans, or you’ve been on hormone therapy for another reason, please share your experience in the comments, either here or on YouTube.

#biology #dysphoria #GenderExpression #identity #trans #TransJoy

How does HRT affect you?

Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) has various physical and emotional effects. Unfortunately, the information online doesn’t always give a clear picture of what to expect, for two reasons: 

• The research on medical transition is still limited.
• Everyone’s experience is different!

Even though every trans person has a somewhat different HRT journey, there are some common effects. This is my experience.

Watch my latest YouTube video for an overview, and read below for more detail.

https://youtu.be/FhwuCfMSxNU

Nights aren’t so hard anymore

As your testosterone levels plummet, one of the first things that stop is spontaneous nighttime erections. For me, this started happening (well, stopped happening) within the first couple of weeks. 

If you experience bottom dysphoria, and are planning to get rid of that part, this isn’t so bad. But if you’re planning to keep it, this means you have to exercise that part regularly. The suggested schedule is at least three times a week for at least ten minutes each time. If you don’t raise the flag regularly, scar tissue will develop. When too much scar tissue builds up, Mr. Happy is gone for good. 

I went through a difficult time in this regard in my first six months due to the emotional changes I talk about below, but eventually I reached a point where it became easy again. 

Soft as a trans girl’s bottom

The most significant early effect was that my skin started to feel softer. I expected this to happen because it’s a well-documented effect. But I had pretty good skin for my age before I started HRT, so I wasn’t ready for how dramatic this effect would be. I couldn’t stop touching the side of my neck!

After starting in certain areas, the effect spreads across all of your skin. You have to be a little more careful if you tend to bump into things, but this change is very easy to get used to. 

The roller coaster

The emotional changes I felt within the first couple of months were a little more challenging. My emotional highs were higher, and the lows were lower. But I was significantly depressed before starting HRT, so the lows weren’t much different from my old baseline. 

And I could deal with the emotions much more easily, despite their greater range. In my old life, when I got upset, my emotions would get the better of me. I would shout and hit things. But now, even though I feel stronger highs and lows, I can maintain my composure and let everything out when it’s safe to do so. 

The itty bitty committee

Ater a couple of months, I noticed the first hints of breast development. I didn’t notice a change in size right away, but they started hurting—and they basically haven’t stopped. It’s a good thing my ability to deal with pain has increased considerably. Even so, I usually wear a lined bra in case I bump into something. 

After a year, I was approaching a reasonable 36 B. Now I comfortably fill that size. In a push-up bra, I have real cleavage! And I’ll probably keep growing for a while. Officially, breast development is supposed to peak in 2-3 years, but according to unofficial surveys, they keep growing long after that. 

Hair today…more tomorrow!

When you start feminizing HRT, your doctor will tell you that you can expect hair loss to stop, but don’t expect any re-growth. However, almost every trans woman I’ve talked to confirms that their hair does grow back. If you started out thin with a bald spot (like I did), you’re not going to look like Selena Gomez, but old, dormant follicles may reactivate. My thin patch is filling in, although the progress is painfully slow. 

Fo over a year, I would not get my hair cut because I spent far too many years with very short hair. But last month, I got my first feminine haircut, and it feels a lot fuller than it did before. Keep your split ends trimmed and use a sulfate-free shampoo. 

Hard curves ahead

I’ve bucked one trend so far. For the most part, reducing your testosterone level makes it more difficult to maintain muscle mass. I’ve always been lucky. In my old life, I maintained pretty decent strength with very little exercise. After a year and a half on hormones, I haven’t really lost anything. And I’ve just started a job that’s somewhat physically demanding, so I expect my hard curves to stick around. 

Facing my true self

I forgot to include this section in the video! My face has changed considerably over the last year and a half. My features are softer. My eyes look more open. My cheekbones stand out more. And my lips are starting to get a bit fuller. This started early on, and it’s been continuing pretty steadily. In a couple more years, I don’t think there will be anything masculine left in my face. 

What has your experience been like?

If you’re trans, or you’ve been on hormone therapy for another reason, please share your experience in the comments, either here or on YouTube.

#biology #dysphoria #GenderExpression #identity #trans #TransJoy

How does HRT affect you?

Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) has various physical and emotional effects. Unfortunately, the information online doesn’t always give a clear picture of what to expect, for two reasons: 

• The research on medical transition is still limited.
• Everyone’s experience is different!

Even though every trans person has a somewhat different HRT journey, there are some common effects. This is my experience.

Watch my latest YouTube video for an overview, and read below for more detail.

https://youtu.be/FhwuCfMSxNU

Nights aren’t so hard anymore

As your testosterone levels plummet, one of the first things that stop is spontaneous nighttime erections. For me, this started happening (well, stopped happening) within the first couple of weeks. 

If you experience bottom dysphoria, and are planning to get rid of that part, this isn’t so bad. But if you’re planning to keep it, this means you have to exercise that part regularly. The suggested schedule is at least three times a week for at least ten minutes each time. If you don’t raise the flag regularly, scar tissue will develop. When too much scar tissue builds up, Mr. Happy is gone for good. 

I went through a difficult time in this regard in my first six months due to the emotional changes I talk about below, but eventually I reached a point where it became easy again. 

Soft as a trans girl’s bottom

The most significant early effect was that my skin started to feel softer. I expected this to happen because it’s a well-documented effect. But I had pretty good skin for my age before I started HRT, so I wasn’t ready for how dramatic this effect would be. I couldn’t stop touching the side of my neck!

After starting in certain areas, the effect spreads across all of your skin. You have to be a little more careful if you tend to bump into things, but this change is very easy to get used to. 

The roller coaster

The emotional changes I felt within the first couple of months were a little more challenging. My emotional highs were higher, and the lows were lower. But I was significantly depressed before starting HRT, so the lows weren’t much different from my old baseline. 

And I could deal with the emotions much more easily, despite their greater range. In my old life, when I got upset, my emotions would get the better of me. I would shout and hit things. But now, even though I feel stronger highs and lows, I can maintain my composure and let everything out when it’s safe to do so. 

The itty bitty committee

Ater a couple of months, I noticed the first hints of breast development. I didn’t notice a change in size right away, but they started hurting—and they basically haven’t stopped. It’s a good thing my ability to deal with pain has increased considerably. Even so, I usually wear a lined bra in case I bump into something. 

After a year, I was approaching a reasonable 36 B. Now I comfortably fill that size. In a push-up bra, I have real cleavage! And I’ll probably keep growing for a while. Officially, breast development is supposed to peak in 2-3 years, but according to unofficial surveys, they keep growing long after that. 

Hair today…more tomorrow!

When you start feminizing HRT, your doctor will tell you that you can expect hair loss to stop, but don’t expect any re-growth. However, almost every trans woman I’ve talked to confirms that their hair does grow back. If you started out thin with a bald spot (like I did), you’re not going to look like Selena Gomez, but old, dormant follicles may reactivate. My thin patch is filling in, although the progress is painfully slow. 

Fo over a year, I would not get my hair cut because I spent far too many years with very short hair. But last month, I got my first feminine haircut, and it feels a lot fuller than it did before. Keep your split ends trimmed and use a sulfate-free shampoo. 

Hard curves ahead

I’ve bucked one trend so far. For the most part, reducing your testosterone level makes it more difficult to maintain muscle mass. I’ve always been lucky. In my old life, I maintained pretty decent strength with very little exercise. After a year and a half on hormones, I haven’t really lost anything. And I’ve just started a job that’s somewhat physically demanding, so I expect my hard curves to stick around. 

Facing my true self

I forgot to include this section in the video! My face has changed considerably over the last year and a half. My features are softer. My eyes look more open. My cheekbones stand out more. And my lips are starting to get a bit fuller. This started early on, and it’s been continuing pretty steadily. In a couple more years, I don’t think there will be anything masculine left in my face. 

What has your experience been like?

If you’re trans, or you’ve been on hormone therapy for another reason, please share your experience in the comments, either here or on YouTube.

#biology #dysphoria #GenderExpression #identity #trans #TransJoy

The Aesthetic Revolution: Liquid Sky's Influence on 80s Culture https://alexwesterman.com/visual-arts/movies/the-aesthetic-revolution-liquid-skys-influence-on-80s-culture/ #LiquidSky, #80sCultClassic, #SlavaTsukerman, #AnneCarlisle, #NewWaveCinema,#CultFilm, #ArtFilm, #UndergroundFilm, #80sAesthetics, #80sCulture, #80sFashion, #NewWaveFashion, #PostPunk, #80sNewYork, #DowntownNYC, #ClubCulture,#VisualInfluence, #FashionHistory, #Alienation, #UrbanDecay, #GenderExpression, #PerformanceArt, #AestheticRevolution, #FilmHistory, #CulturalStudies, #FashionInFilm, #MovieInfluence

The Aesthetic Revolution: Liquid Sky's Influence on 80s Culture https://alexwesterman.com/visual-arts/movies/the-aesthetic-revolution-liquid-skys-influence-on-80s-culture/ #LiquidSky, #80sCultClassic, #SlavaTsukerman, #AnneCarlisle, #NewWaveCinema,#CultFilm, #ArtFilm, #UndergroundFilm, #80sAesthetics, #80sCulture, #80sFashion, #NewWaveFashion, #PostPunk, #80sNewYork, #DowntownNYC, #ClubCulture,#VisualInfluence, #FashionHistory, #Alienation, #UrbanDecay, #GenderExpression, #PerformanceArt, #AestheticRevolution, #FilmHistory, #CulturalStudies, #FashionInFilm, #MovieInfluence

The Aesthetic Revolution: Liquid Sky's Influence on 80s Culture https://alexwesterman.com/visual-arts/movies/the-aesthetic-revolution-liquid-skys-influence-on-80s-culture/ #LiquidSky, #80sCultClassic, #SlavaTsukerman, #AnneCarlisle, #NewWaveCinema,#CultFilm, #ArtFilm, #UndergroundFilm, #80sAesthetics, #80sCulture, #80sFashion, #NewWaveFashion, #PostPunk, #80sNewYork, #DowntownNYC, #ClubCulture,#VisualInfluence, #FashionHistory, #Alienation, #UrbanDecay, #GenderExpression, #PerformanceArt, #AestheticRevolution, #FilmHistory, #CulturalStudies, #FashionInFilm, #MovieInfluence

The Aesthetic Revolution: Liquid Sky's Influence on 80s Culture https://alexwesterman.com/visual-arts/movies/the-aesthetic-revolution-liquid-skys-influence-on-80s-culture/ #LiquidSky, #80sCultClassic, #SlavaTsukerman, #AnneCarlisle, #NewWaveCinema,#CultFilm, #ArtFilm, #UndergroundFilm, #80sAesthetics, #80sCulture, #80sFashion, #NewWaveFashion, #PostPunk, #80sNewYork, #DowntownNYC, #ClubCulture,#VisualInfluence, #FashionHistory, #Alienation, #UrbanDecay, #GenderExpression, #PerformanceArt, #AestheticRevolution, #FilmHistory, #CulturalStudies, #FashionInFilm, #MovieInfluence

Cis women have been duped into infighting with our trans and GNC sisters. By policing each other’s gender expression, we’re doing men’s dirty work for them.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/the-patriarchy-has-a-secret-weapon-women-4d386a6e75c1

#LGBTQ #Gender #GenderExpression #GenderEssentialism #Feminism #Patriarchy

Cis women have been duped into infighting with our trans and GNC sisters. By policing each other’s gender expression, we’re doing men’s dirty work for them.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/the-patriarchy-has-a-secret-weapon-women-4d386a6e75c1

#LGBTQ #Gender #GenderExpression #GenderEssentialism #Feminism #Patriarchy

Cis women have been duped into infighting with our trans and GNC sisters. By policing each other’s gender expression, we’re doing men’s dirty work for them.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/the-patriarchy-has-a-secret-weapon-women-4d386a6e75c1

#LGBTQ #Gender #GenderExpression #GenderEssentialism #Feminism #Patriarchy

Cis women have been duped into infighting with our trans and GNC sisters. By policing each other’s gender expression, we’re doing men’s dirty work for them.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/the-patriarchy-has-a-secret-weapon-women-4d386a6e75c1

#LGBTQ #Gender #GenderExpression #GenderEssentialism #Feminism #Patriarchy

Cis women have been duped into infighting with our trans and GNC sisters. By policing each other’s gender expression, we’re doing men’s dirty work for them.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/the-patriarchy-has-a-secret-weapon-women-4d386a6e75c1

#LGBTQ #Gender #GenderExpression #GenderEssentialism #Feminism #Patriarchy

What I have to say about gender ideology

Pope Francis passed away on Easter Sunday, showing that the universe has a morbid sense of humor. Francis was considered by many to be a progressive Pope, but he had strong opinions on gender ideology. As you might imagine, so do I.

I think gender ideology needs to be eradicated. Watch this video and you’ll see why.

https://youtu.be/-hfSXzCY064

More detail

Colors

The colors pink and blue are probably the most pervasive form of gender indoctrination in our society. In Sex/Gender: Biology in a Social World, Anne Fausto-Sterling shows just how strongly we associate color with gender.The colors pink and blue are probably the most pervasive form of gender indoctrination in our society. In Sex/Gender: Biology in a Social World, Anne Fausto-Sterling shows just how strongly we associate color with gender.1

“Grow a pair”

The whole concept of “growing a pair” to be tough is ridiculous, as explained in a stand-up routine by Sheng Wang (often attributed to Betty White):2

A friend said to me, “Hey you need to grow a pair. Grow a pair, Bro.” It’s when someone calls you weak, but they associate it with a lack of testicles. Which is weird, because testicles are the most sensitive things in the world. If you suddenly just grew a pair, you’d be a lot more vulnerable. If you want to be tough, you should lose a pair. If you want to be real tough, you should grow a vagina. Those things can take a pounding.

Sheng Wang, Comedy Central Presents, 28-Jan-2011

(According to Snopes, Wang’s routine borrowed material from a routine by Hal Sparks in 2010.)

The real threat

So why is the freedom from established gender ideology such a threat to those who seek to hold onto their power? Some may claim that misandry is the threat, that there is a growing movement of women who hate men.

The truth is the opposite. Misandry is not a threat; misogyny used against men is. Consider the quote above. Telling someone to “man up” by growing a pair of testicles is an emasculating sentiment; it implies that they’re a “weak woman” instead of a “strong man.” The weaker sex.

Men are not allowed to express honest emotions for fear of being seen as weaker, as feminine. As a lesser being.

But it gets even worse. Both men and women are often subjected to misogyny by women. When a man has an emotional breakdown and a woman tells him to “stop crying and be a man,” she is perpetuating the stereotype that emotional vulnerability is weak because it’s feminine. Women in political positions often promote “traditional” gender roles, even though doing so is against the interests of all women, themselves included.

Intersectional feminism

That’s why it’s so important for all marginalized groups to stand together, including all women: cis, trans, women of color, disabled women—and for men to join us in the fight against misogyny, as well as other forms of discrimination.

We can eradicate gender ideology by revealing it for what it really is.

1. Fausto-Sterling, Anne. Sex/Gender: Biology in a Social World. Abingdon: Routledge, 2012. pp. 6-11. ↩︎
2. Betty White on “Grow Some Balls”. Snopes, 17-Jul-2016. Accessed 22-Apr-2025. ↩︎

#feminism #GenderExpression #identity #ideology #misogyny #sex #trans

Shopping…in “boy mode”

I went shopping today. In the last year, I’ve rarely gone outside my house without a wig, makeup, and gender affirming clothes. But lately I’ve been getting in touch with my nonbinary nature, and I’m more conscious of how important it is for people to see that I’m the same person no matter what I’m wearing.

For the trans people watching this: How comfortable are you being out in public in various “modes”?

https://youtu.be/ya_IliqF8CY

#dysphoria #GenderExpression #identity #trans #TransJoy

Shopping…in “boy mode”

I went shopping today. In the last year, I’ve rarely gone outside my house without a wig, makeup, and gender affirming clothes. But lately I’ve been getting in touch with my nonbinary nature, and I’m more conscious of how important it is for people to see that I’m the same person no matter what I’m wearing.

For the trans people watching this: How comfortable are you being out in public in various “modes”?

https://youtu.be/ya_IliqF8CY

#dysphoria #GenderExpression #identity #trans #TransJoy

Shopping…in “boy mode”

I went shopping today. In the last year, I’ve rarely gone outside my house without a wig, makeup, and gender affirming clothes. But lately I’ve been getting in touch with my nonbinary nature, and I’m more conscious of how important it is for people to see that I’m the same person no matter what I’m wearing.

For the trans people watching this: How comfortable are you being out in public in various “modes”?

https://youtu.be/ya_IliqF8CY

#dysphoria #GenderExpression #identity #trans #TransJoy

Shopping…in “boy mode”

I went shopping today. In the last year, I’ve rarely gone outside my house without a wig, makeup, and gender affirming clothes. But lately I’ve been getting in touch with my nonbinary nature, and I’m more conscious of how important it is for people to see that I’m the same person no matter what I’m wearing.

For the trans people watching this: How comfortable are you being out in public in various “modes”?

https://youtu.be/ya_IliqF8CY

#dysphoria #GenderExpression #identity #trans #TransJoy

I Am Violet is on YouTube!

I’ve reactivated my YouTube channel! For a little while, I had a playlist called How to Be Happy, but I stopped adding new videos to it around January. The two main reasons for my hiatus were an interruption in employment and a certain event outside Canada that gave trans people many reasons not to be happy.

I’ve been planning a new direction for my channel for some time now, and tonight I finally launched my first new video. My channel is going to be a “Trans 101” information source. There are already a lot of sources of information available online, but my contribution will be a series of brief, simple videos explaining the biology, psychology, and history of being transgender.

Please like, subscribe, and share this video. Even if you’re not trans or gender diverse, you may gain unexpected insights into your own personality.

And please ask questions in the comments. That’s why I’m here!

https://youtu.be/K4T6w-oa6sc

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I Am Violet is on YouTube!

I’ve reactivated my YouTube channel! For a little while, I had a playlist called How to Be Happy, but I stopped adding new videos to it around January. The two main reasons for my hiatus were an interruption in employment and a certain event outside Canada that gave trans people many reasons not to be happy.

I’ve been planning a new direction for my channel for some time now, and tonight I finally launched my first new video. My channel is going to be a “Trans 101” information source. There are already a lot of sources of information available online, but my contribution will be a series of brief, simple videos explaining the biology, psychology, and history of being transgender.

Please like, subscribe, and share this video. Even if you’re not trans or gender diverse, you may gain unexpected insights into your own personality.

And please ask questions in the comments. That’s why I’m here!

https://youtu.be/K4T6w-oa6sc

#biology #education #GenderExpression #identity #trans #TransJoy

I Am Violet is on YouTube!

I’ve reactivated my YouTube channel! For a little while, I had a playlist called How to Be Happy, but I stopped adding new videos to it around January. The two main reasons for my hiatus were an interruption in employment and a certain event outside Canada that gave trans people many reasons not to be happy.

I’ve been planning a new direction for my channel for some time now, and tonight I finally launched my first new video. My channel is going to be a “Trans 101” information source. There are already a lot of sources of information available online, but my contribution will be a series of brief, simple videos explaining the biology, psychology, and history of being transgender.

Please like, subscribe, and share this video. Even if you’re not trans or gender diverse, you may gain unexpected insights into your own personality.

And please ask questions in the comments. That’s why I’m here!

https://youtu.be/K4T6w-oa6sc

#biology #education #GenderExpression #identity #trans #TransJoy

I Am Violet is on YouTube!

I’ve reactivated my YouTube channel! For a little while, I had a playlist called How to Be Happy, but I stopped adding new videos to it around January. The two main reasons for my hiatus were an interruption in employment and a certain event outside Canada that gave trans people many reasons not to be happy.

I’ve been planning a new direction for my channel for some time now, and tonight I finally launched my first new video. My channel is going to be a “Trans 101” information source. There are already a lot of sources of information available online, but my contribution will be a series of brief, simple videos explaining the biology, psychology, and history of being transgender.

Please like, subscribe, and share this video. Even if you’re not trans or gender diverse, you may gain unexpected insights into your own personality.

And please ask questions in the comments. That’s why I’m here!

https://youtu.be/K4T6w-oa6sc

#biology #education #GenderExpression #identity #trans #TransJoy

Where do they put the, um…

One question a lot of people want to ask trans people, but are afraid to ask, is what happens during bottom surgery. Where does everything go? 

In the beginning…

To understand how everything changes, it helps to understand the development of the organs in question. Until about nine weeks after conception, the parts that will become the sex organs are the same in all fetuses. Between nine and eleven weeks, the following changes start happening:

This is highly simplified, of course. You can read a more detailed timeline in this article from the National Library of Medicine. 

So how do they change that?

There are several gender affirming procedures for trans women and men, depending on what the patient wants to achieve. 

Penile inversion vaginoplasty

This is the most common type of bottom surgery for trans women. In this procedure, the penis is removed, and the glans (head) is removed from the shaft. The surgeon opens the scrotum and excavates a vaginal cavity behind it. The skin from the shaft of the penis is inverted, then attached inside the neovagina (new vagina). The glans is dissected so it is much smaller, and is reattached to form a clitoris. The tissue of the scrotum is formed into labia. 

The advantage of this procedure is that it has been performed for many years, and is available from a lot of clinics around the world. The disadvantage is the possibility that the nerves of the new clitoris won’t provide full sensation. 

Sigmoid colon vaginoplasty 

In this procedure, the penis does not have to be removed because the tissue for the neovagina is taken from the patient’s colon. The main disadvantage is the higher possibility of infection if the section of colon tissue isn’t sufficiently cleaned. Another disadvantage is that the patient will need to wear a colostomy bag while their colon heals.

Peritoneal pull-through vaginoplasty

This is the newest type of feminizing bottom surgery. It is becoming popular because it does not require removing the penis, and it doesn’t have as much risk of complication as the sigmoid colon procedure. 

In this procedure, the skin for the vaginal lining is taken from the patient’s peritoneum, which is an internal membrane that lines your abdominal cavity. The peritoneum is a seral membrane, meaning that it secretes serum, which makes it appropriate for the vaginal lining, which secretes fluids. 

The biggest advantage of the peritoneal pull-through is that you can keep a fully functional penis—as long as you have maintained its function through regular “exercise.”1 The disadvantages are that it’s new enough it’s not available in many clinics, and there isn’t a lot of data on possible complications. 

But how do they…stick it on?

Trans men go through the opposite process. There are several procedures that transform their parts into a form that affirms their identity. I haven’t done nearly as much personal research into trans masculine procedures, so I’ve adapted this information from Johns Hopkins.

Radial forearm free flap phalloplasty

In this procedure, skin is taken from the patient’s forearm, and a penis is constructed from it. The patient’s urethra is lengthened and moved into the new penis. The labia are formed into a scrotum, and the vagina is removed and closed. Implants give the appearance, but not the function of testicles. To achieve an erection, a device is implanted in the penis. 

Anterolateral thigh flap phalloplasty 

Most of this procedure is the same as the previous one, but the skin for the penis is taken from the patient’s inner thigh. If the patient has very slender arms, the forearm procedure might not have enough tissue to construct a large enough penis, so this procedure could be used instead. 

Musculocutaneous latissimus dorsi flap phalloplasty

In this procedure, the skin for the penis is removed from the side of the patient’s back. This procedure generally has a shorter recovery period than the others, but the skin on the back does not have as many nerve endings, so the new penis might not have as much sensation. 

Metoidioplasty

All of the phalloplasty procedures have the same disadvantage. Although the penis can be made as large as a “home-grown” penis, it can’t achieve an erection without an implanted device. 

Before a metoidioplasty, the clitoris is enlarged during a year or more of hormone therapy. Then the surgeon cuts the ligaments that hold the clitoris in place and lengthens the organ, resulting in a penis that, while it’s only 4-6 centimeters long (two inches or so), can achieve an erection without an implanted device. This also preserves full clitoral sensation. The urethra is lengthened and rerouted through the new penis. 

So which one are you going to have?

This isn’t a question you should ask a trans person—it’s considered very invasive—but I’m happy to answer. The only surgery that will affirm my identity without compromising the sensation or functionality I want to retain is the peritoneal pull-through. Unfortunately, it’s not currently available in Canada, and medical travel to the US is out of the question. 

My greatest hope is that the surgeon at the GRS clinic in Montreal (where Alberta Health services will cover the surgery) trains for the procedure I want, or a qualified surgeon from the US moves to Canada—in the current political environment, they may not be allowed to continue performing such surgeries in the US. 

But why do you get to have both?

I have a complex relationship with my sexual needs. Even now, it’s as if I can feel where I should have a vagina. But I’m not willing to compromise my current sensation for a “consolation clitoris.” Besides, I like the one I have, even if it is a little larger than the average clitoris. And it’s my choice. 

Unfortunately, it may never happen. Alberta Health won’t currently cover anything but a the penile inversion procedure at GRS Montreal, and for me that would be too much of a loss for what I’d gain. 

1. During hormone replacement therapy (HRT), testosterone production is greatly reduced, and spontaneous erections stop. If you don’t achieve regular erections through sexual stimulation, scar tissue develops, and you lose the ability to have an erection. This is fine for some women, who want their penis to be removed, but if they want to keep it, they have to use it so they don’t lose it. ↩︎

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