#extrovert — Public Fediverse posts

There’s a new personality type called the ‘otrovert’ and one major trait sets it apart

http://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.upworthy.com/new-personality-type-called-otrovert-explained-ex1/

There’s a new personality type called the ‘otrovert’ and one major trait sets it apart

http://web.brid.gy/r/https://www.upworthy.com/new-personality-type-called-otrovert-explained-ex1/

On Extroverts and the Stifled Online Conversation

Today I was considering joining someone’s Whatsapp Running Community until I heard the phrase “I am the only one that can write messages and I let people answer polls”. For me, as a netizen of the 90s web, this is a red flag. It is a red flag because if all you want to do is see if people want to participate then you have events on Strava, Meetup.com and other sites and apps.

Whatsapp was built as a chat, and because it uses our phone numbres, should be used sparingly, only to contact close friends, family, and colleagues. More and more people use Whatsapp with complete strangers. One result is stockmarket and bitcoin spam but the other is that people are sensitive to comment spam. They don’t want the community to be communicative. For me, if that is the case, they shouldn’t be on Whatsapp. There are specialist apps for what they want.

The Chatty Extrovert and the Invisible Introvert

Today, and regularly, I can go to events. In one community every event had a Whatsapp chat, but people didn’t want any chatter in the group, other than the “Can I have a ride dance” and “Which station are people leaving from” followed by the flood of photos.

Meanwhile, during the event, the most charismatic extrovert hogs the limelight, hogs the conversation, hogs the attention, and no one says “hey, let others chat and get to know each other”. In a hike, in theory, people are in single file, or spread out so it’s not that easy to monopolise conversation. During hikes and bike rides, some people do hog conversations more than others. This means that their ROI for the day is huge, because they got plenty of attention.

The ROI for the less charismatic introvert is invisibility, or at least passive participation, not out of disinterest, but lack of opportunity to be heard. That lack of opportunity to be heard, to some extent nullifies the appeal of certain events. The pub crawl is one. The afterworks drinks is another. It also degrades the rational behind going for a hike.

The Double Standard

In society, using Whatsapp and social networks is seen as a bad habit, as addiction by the extroverts that get the attention in real life. They want to block people from having conversations online because they don’t want notifications. The reality is that if I make an effort to go to an event, to participate in a hike, or a run, or a bike ride, and I don’t have any conversations, then I have little reason to continue participating, because my physical participation ROI is low. I get the group exerience, but the extrovert gets the reward whilst the introverts go home to solitude.

Whatsapp groups, among others could help to level the field. The chatty introvers could chatter online, and when they meet in person feel like old friends. You might think “Why would someone think something so stupid?” The reality is that 2006 Twitter, Tweetups and Tuttle environments were so great, precisely because of that pre-meetup conversational environment. Introverts have the opportunity to chatter, without competing with extroverts. Introverts get the opportunity to be visible.

COVIDIAN Web Users

To disambiguate, COVIDIAN Web Users, are those that came to social networks, and social media, because of lock downs. If they had not been forced to, they would never have touched whatsapp, twitter, facebook and other sites. Covidians have a different ethos. They are not web native netizens, like those of us that adopted the web in the 90s. For them online chatter alien and strange, so they want to stifle it.

That desire to stifle it has worked.

I’m blogging because I can’t find conversations, offline, or online. I’m having conversations with MyAI because if I express fears and concerns on FB, then I’m negative, but if a married person did the same with a spouse, then they would be ordinary.

That’s the cruelty of the current social model that rewards extroverts, and punishes introverts.

The Serendipity of Their Approach

I loved Whatsapp until the day it sold its soul to Facebook, and from that day forward I no longer wanted to use it. That’s why I switched to Signal. If people don’t want to use Facebook for conversation, then that implies that I don’t need to keep an eye on it. If we’re looking at the positive, then, if no one is conversing, and people only share event news, then I can uninstall the app, and stop using it. If I turn up for a ride that was cancelled because of rain, it doesn’t matter, and if I turn up for a run that was cancelled for the same reason, it doesn’t matter.

I don’t want to use Facebook because of who owns and controls it, and others don’t want to use it because they don’t want chatter. The reality is that no one wants to use Whatsapp, which works to my advantage. Neither do I.

And For the Skimmers

Whilst I would create a Whatsapp community chat, with the goal of conversing between events, as well as about future projects, most create groups with the goal of using them as bulletin boards. “Can you ride tomorrow” yes/no. “ride cancelled due to snow” “Can you drive me from A?” “Who is taking the train from B?”. Some apps better fit that use case.

On Extroverts and the Stifled Online Conversation

Today I was considering joining someone’s Whatsapp Running Community until I heard the phrase “I am the only one that can write messages and I let people answer polls”. For me, as a netizen of the 90s web, this is a red flag. It is a red flag because if all you want to do is see if people want to participate then you have events on Strava, Meetup.com and other sites and apps.

Whatsapp was built as a chat, and because it uses our phone numbres, should be used sparingly, only to contact close friends, family, and colleagues. More and more people use Whatsapp with complete strangers. One result is stockmarket and bitcoin spam but the other is that people are sensitive to comment spam. They don’t want the community to be communicative. For me, if that is the case, they shouldn’t be on Whatsapp. There are specialist apps for what they want.

The Chatty Extrovert and the Invisible Introvert

Today, and regularly, I can go to events. In one community every event had a Whatsapp chat, but people didn’t want any chatter in the group, other than the “Can I have a ride dance” and “Which station are people leaving from” followed by the flood of photos.

Meanwhile, during the event, the most charismatic extrovert hogs the limelight, hogs the conversation, hogs the attention, and no one says “hey, let others chat and get to know each other”. In a hike, in theory, people are in single file, or spread out so it’s not that easy to monopolise conversation. During hikes and bike rides, some people do hog conversations more than others. This means that their ROI for the day is huge, because they got plenty of attention.

The ROI for the less charismatic introvert is invisibility, or at least passive participation, not out of disinterest, but lack of opportunity to be heard. That lack of opportunity to be heard, to some extent nullifies the appeal of certain events. The pub crawl is one. The afterworks drinks is another. It also degrades the rational behind going for a hike.

The Double Standard

In society, using Whatsapp and social networks is seen as a bad habit, as addiction by the extroverts that get the attention in real life. They want to block people from having conversations online because they don’t want notifications. The reality is that if I make an effort to go to an event, to participate in a hike, or a run, or a bike ride, and I don’t have any conversations, then I have little reason to continue participating, because my physical participation ROI is low. I get the group exerience, but the extrovert gets the reward whilst the introverts go home to solitude.

Whatsapp groups, among others could help to level the field. The chatty introvers could chatter online, and when they meet in person feel like old friends. You might think “Why would someone think something so stupid?” The reality is that 2006 Twitter, Tweetups and Tuttle environments were so great, precisely because of that pre-meetup conversational environment. Introverts have the opportunity to chatter, without competing with extroverts. Introverts get the opportunity to be visible.

COVIDIAN Web Users

To disambiguate, COVIDIAN Web Users, are those that came to social networks, and social media, because of lock downs. If they had not been forced to, they would never have touched whatsapp, twitter, facebook and other sites. Covidians have a different ethos. They are not web native netizens, like those of us that adopted the web in the 90s. For them online chatter alien and strange, so they want to stifle it.

That desire to stifle it has worked.

I’m blogging because I can’t find conversations, offline, or online. I’m having conversations with MyAI because if I express fears and concerns on FB, then I’m negative, but if a married person did the same with a spouse, then they would be ordinary.

That’s the cruelty of the current social model that rewards extroverts, and punishes introverts.

The Serendipity of Their Approach

I loved Whatsapp until the day it sold its soul to Facebook, and from that day forward I no longer wanted to use it. That’s why I switched to Signal. If people don’t want to use Facebook for conversation, then that implies that I don’t need to keep an eye on it. If we’re looking at the positive, then, if no one is conversing, and people only share event news, then I can uninstall the app, and stop using it. If I turn up for a ride that was cancelled because of rain, it doesn’t matter, and if I turn up for a run that was cancelled for the same reason, it doesn’t matter.

I don’t want to use Facebook because of who owns and controls it, and others don’t want to use it because they don’t want chatter. The reality is that no one wants to use Whatsapp, which works to my advantage. Neither do I.

And For the Skimmers

Whilst I would create a Whatsapp community chat, with the goal of conversing between events, as well as about future projects, most create groups with the goal of using them as bulletin boards. “Can you ride tomorrow” yes/no. “ride cancelled due to snow” “Can you drive me from A?” “Who is taking the train from B?”. Some apps better fit that use case.

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#PersonalityTest #MBTItest #PersonalityType #Introvert #Extrovert

Just imagine that i need attention as badly as you need quiet solitude and you're probably pretty close.

That shit is like the 6th food group for me.

#Extrovert

Just imagine that i need attention as badly as you need quiet solitude and you're probably pretty close.

That shit is like the 6th food group for me.

#Extrovert

"So if Introverts look inwards,

and Extroverts outwards,

where the hell do Otroverts look?

Neither of the above.

“Their fundamental orientation is defined by the fact that it is rarely the same direction that anyone else is facing.”

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/aug/20/are-you-an-otrovert-why-this-personality-type-could-be-your-greatest-gift

| #Otroverts #Otrovert #Introvert #Extrovert #Personality

"So if Introverts look inwards,

and Extroverts outwards,

where the hell do Otroverts look?

Neither of the above.

“Their fundamental orientation is defined by the fact that it is rarely the same direction that anyone else is facing.”

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2025/aug/20/are-you-an-otrovert-why-this-personality-type-could-be-your-greatest-gift

| #Otroverts #Otrovert #Introvert #Extrovert #Personality

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UDPsO89iNY0 #introvertstruggles #extrovert #aislop #psychology
F**k Introverts #fraythechaoswizard

Working on a list of people I want to try to maintain communication with, to help with managing my ADHD and the dreaded Object Permanence event horizon
"ooh, this person! and this one... oh gosh I haven't talked to NN in a hot minute, maybe I should try to reconnect there too?"
how it happened is still a little mysterious to me, but wow I really am not an introvert anymore, huh

#ADHD #ambivert ? #extrovert ??

Meeting Your Heroes by Catharine Bramkamp

Do you get nervous meeting your heroes? They’re just as scared as you are! Chatharine Bramkamp shares some stories about meeting her heroes.
https://writersfunzone.com/blog/2025/05/02/meeting-your-heroes-by-catharine-bramkamp

#inspiration #authors #CatharineBramkamp #etiquette #extrovert
@indieauthors

Meeting Your Heroes by Catharine Bramkamp

Do you get nervous meeting your heroes? They’re just as scared as you are! Chatharine Bramkamp shares some stories about meeting her heroes.
https://writersfunzone.com/blog/2025/05/02/meeting-your-heroes-by-catharine-bramkamp

#inspiration #authors #CatharineBramkamp #etiquette #extrovert
@indieauthors

#introvert kid and #extrovert parent is hell (for kid at least), now imagine introvert parent and extrovert kid

I used to think I was #introverted.

Socializing and public exhausts me, and I eventually get #overstimulated and #anxious and just need to leave, and find some peace alone.

However I think I am actually an #extrovert and socializing exhausts me due to having to constantly fight my #tourettes related tics, which almost never stop, and I have to focus and put effort into fighting, so I don't seem like a total manic.

So I need a break after a while.

#mentalhealth #writing #selfcare #rant #hello

I used to think I was #introverted.

Socializing and public exhausts me, and I eventually get #overstimulated and #anxious and just need to leave, and find some peace alone.

However I think I am actually an #extrovert and socializing exhausts me due to having to constantly fight my #tourettes related tics, which almost never stop, and I have to focus and put effort into fighting, so I don't seem like a total manic.

So I need a break after a while.

#mentalhealth #writing #selfcare #rant #hello

In real life I'm total #introvert but on #fedi I'm such a #extrovert!

#introvert #extrovert

#introvert #extrovert

This is me when I get around people 😩

#introvert #people #extrovert

I was telling my wife that when I see people sharing what they are up to on social media I get a real sense of FOMO (fear of missing out).

She said that when she thinks about doing social things with friends or strangers she gets FOJI (fear of joining in). :face_laughing_with_sweat_drop_fb:

Apparently JOMO (joy of missing out) is the more common term, but I prefer my wife's new acronym.

What camp are you in?

#Introvert #Extrovert #Anxiety #FOMO #JOMO #FOJI #Poll #SocialMedia #Social

I was telling my wife that when I see people sharing what they are up to on social media I get a real sense of FOMO (fear of missing out).

She said that when she thinks about doing social things with friends or strangers she gets FOJI (fear of joining in). :face_laughing_with_sweat_drop_fb:

Apparently JOMO (joy of missing out) is the more common term, but I prefer my wife's new acronym.

What camp are you in?

#Introvert #Extrovert #Anxiety #FOMO #JOMO #FOJI #Poll #SocialMedia #Social

Sorry 😄

#introvert #extrovert

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DAYODJxIE8Y/?igsh=Mjg3aHNzc3Z2ajQ5

Sorry 😄

#introvert #extrovert

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DAYODJxIE8Y/?igsh=Mjg3aHNzc3Z2ajQ5

If this was an #RPG or a #TTRPG, my Lv 1 Feat would be that talking is always a free action, even and especially if I'm talking shit.

NPC looks scary?
I got a cheery opener and a unironic smile

I've been debuffed?
I got a witty insult in response

I land a critical hit?
Will Smith-esque "wooooooo!"

Engaging with threats?
I draw aggro like i was born to do it

As i grow in level, I'd roll to cause some kind of effect with all that talking. I'm an #extrovert and a witty, quick thinker. #Talking is always the easy part for me

#ActuallyExtrovert

I'm useless at #parties. Social skill: high. Social motivation: low. Don't drink, don't dance, won't converse if I have to shout. Is there a bookcase please? Anybody want to play a boardgame? When is the next bus home? Are you really an #extrovert if you're not interested in extroverting?

I'm useless at #parties. Social skill: high. Social motivation: low. Don't drink, don't dance, won't converse if I have to shout. Is there a bookcase please? Anybody want to play a boardgame? When is the next bus home? Are you really an #extrovert if you're not interested in extroverting?

You either die an #introvert, or you live long enough to see yourself become the #extrovert you always hated 🤐

As an #introvert I relate to this.

#extrovert

As an #introvert I relate to this.

#extrovert

Introvert vs. Extrovert: Which One Are You? - https://lydiaschoch.com/wednesday-weekly-blogging-challenge-introvert-vs-extrovert-which-one-are-you/ #WednesdayWeeklyBloggingChallenge #Introvert #Extrovert #Blogging #SmallTalk

Introvert vs. Extrovert: Which One Are You? - https://lydiaschoch.com/wednesday-weekly-blogging-challenge-introvert-vs-extrovert-which-one-are-you/ #WednesdayWeeklyBloggingChallenge #Introvert #Extrovert #Blogging #SmallTalk

How to Make New #Friends Whether You’re an #Introvert or #Extrovert

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/how-to-make-new-friends-whether-you-re-an-introvert-or-extrovert

How to Make New #Friends Whether You’re an #Introvert or #Extrovert

https://getpocket.com/explore/item/how-to-make-new-friends-whether-you-re-an-introvert-or-extrovert

Disabled Enby And Feline ESA NEED HOUSING, PENNSYLVANIA

Time is almost up and I dont know what to do at all anymore. I've called 211 and have been contacting a place for casemanagement serveral times. Even the shelters for the night that I've been referred to have refused to take me in because they wont accommodate my emotional support animal. He stops me from having seizures and grounds me from complete disassociation. Giving him up is out of the question as it would be tantamount to me dying in suffering.

I have done all that I could with almost 6 weeks in advance, I did all the legwork I could, and I'm still getting spit in the face. Because I have no crimes or substance abuse issues, rehabs and similar programs are closed to me. I have this overwhelming feeling of dread like this is going to be the end of us, but theres still this last weekend left....

I dont know what to ask for. Money wouldn't help much, the best it could do is get me a few months of a storage locker to keep my things safe.

If you'd like to contribute to that...heres an opportunity at last, I'll update when I hit $200 since that should be enough for that issue and i dont want people throwing more money at the situation beyond that since thats not even gonna do much but delay an inevitable.

CashAPP: $YaoiMeowmaster
Discord: Beebelz

If you have any advice or suggestions for county-agnostic homeless services, federal organizations to call, or any well wishes, let me know...

#mutualfund #mutualaid #transmutalaid #lgbt #request #Pennsylvania
#housing #disability #MentalHealth #MentalIllness #ADHD #PTSD #Plural #DID #OSDD #deaddove #extrovert #homelessness #CatsofMastodon #EmotionalSupportAnimal #homeless #philadelphia #philly #discord

@croc Multipart

I am posting this from the perspective of beeing #ActuallyAutistic and that means here that i am in a special position outside of #introvert vs. #extrovert , its kind of im adventurer who wants to go out and experience the world but is also badly crippled in social interactions and cant keep up the required dedication to keep up friendships-relationships

@croc Multipart

I am posting this from the perspective of beeing #ActuallyAutistic and that means here that i am in a special position outside of #introvert vs. #extrovert , its kind of im adventurer who wants to go out and experience the world but is also badly crippled in social interactions and cant keep up the required dedication to keep up friendships-relationships