#elder-care — Public Fediverse posts

Tonight was an extremely shitty night in the elder-care department. Buckle in, this is a long rant I need to get off my chest.
#elderCare #careGiving #sandwichGeneration #narcissism #scams
1/19

I don't remember whether I've posted before about how Uncle's Adult Protective Services caseworker and the caseworker's supervisor both basically ghosted me, stopped paying Uncle's rent from his Social Security checks which they were managing, without notifying either Uncle or me that they were going to do that, and before doing that sent a rent payment which was totally the wrong amount for some hitherto unexplained reason.
#elderCare #careGiving #sandwichGeneration
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Both dogs at my stepfather's assisted living facility turned their bellies up and asked me for a belly rub. I could sit there and pet them for ages. One hand per dog. #dogs #eldercare

A hard thing about trying to care for Uncle from several states away is I need to rely on other people and people let me down repeatedly.
I repeatedly asked the people who promised to gather up Uncle's incorrectly unforwarded mail and ship it to me to search his apartment for mail and make sure to send me all of it.
Today after several months' hiatus I finally made it to Uncle's apartment and found multiple piles of mail they didn't send me.
🤦😡
#elderCare #sandwichGeneration #careGiving

Seventy-eight percent of older adults globally live where heat exceeds survivable thresholds. Millions of grandmothers who cannot sit in their own yards. That is not a policy abstraction. That is a sentence. The land is handing out the bill.

https://twp.ai/4hr1bi

#ClimateChange #HeatEmergency #ElderCare #EnvironmentalJustice #GlobalSouth #Survival #Trans #Queer #LGBTQIA+

78% of older adults globally in unsafe heat zones. Millions of grandmothers who can't sit in their own yards. That's not policy. That's a sentence. https://twp.ai/9OWGnm #Climate #Heat #ElderCare #Justice /|\ #Trans #Queer #LGBTQIA

In conversations with two dentist's offices' front desks this morning, I realized that some people who graduated from the US educational system have no clue how milligrams convert to grams. (A dose of 2g when the pills come in 500mg strength really threw them.) One didn't even have a way to phrase her question of how milligrams convert to grams. I guess if I had said 2000 milligrams instead of 2 grams, it might not have thrown them as badly. On the one hand, I despair of U.S. education. Didn't people learn about millimeters vs. meters like I did in a U.S. elementary school in the 70's? But on the other hand, I think there's something interesting here about math cognition. Maybe the more people work with medications, the more "milligrams" becomes just a high-frequency word, not related to the word "gram" at all. #eldercare #math #linguistics

Fun and games with #elderCare by the #sandwichGeneration…
Uncle missed a specialist medical appointment yesterday because the medical transport van scheduled to drive him to the appointment arrived an hour late, and by the time he got to the doctor's office, the doctor was gone.
Today I called to reschedule the appointment.
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I have an elderly uncle who lived on a farm and never got into using the net, and the most advanced tech uncle knows how to use is a prepay dumbphone.

My uncle has a storage locker with a local business that's just been bought out by a multinational. Who are replacing the existing cardkey entry with "smart entry" system requiring an app, which requires customers to own and know how to use either an iThing or an Android/Linux device;

https://noke.app/

FTS.

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#PolicyNZ #ElderCare

Spent part of the day trying to persuade my stepfather that he doesn't need to move every bit of detritus from his whole life to his room at the assisted living. It's hard enough getting rid of my mother's stuff (she died 6 years ago), it's harder trying to persuade a living elderly parent that he doesn't need to keep his 6th grade history report or all his non-working computers he used to play fun games on. I can imagine that for him it feels like his life won't have been meaningful if the mementos get disposed of. He's had his giant jar of pennies over at the assisted living for 4 months and hasn't tried sorting them even once. He's not going to actually do these things, but he can't admit that. In the meantime things at work feel very, very negative for the future, and the world is burning as is usual lately, with very direct impacts on some people I care about. I'm feeling pretty hopeless. Anybody got any tips for separating an elderly person from stuff? #eldercare

Most older Indians don't know they can take their own children to a tribunal for neglect.
Most families don't know maintaining their parents is a legal obligation, not a choice.
The Maintenance Act 2007 exists. Very few people know what's in it.

https://medium.com/@sivaprasadbose/senior-citizen-abuse-in-india-what-the-law-actually-says-c6070bad023a

#SeniorCitizens #ElderAbuse #IndianLaw #KnowYourRights #MaintenanceAct #ElderCare #SeniorCitizenRights #FamilyLawIndia #LegalAwareness #IndiaLaw #SocialJustice #OlderAdults #LegalRights #ParentsRights #IndiaAgeing

Managing chronic conditions in seniors takes daily attention, clear routines, and a strong support system. Practical advice for better days.
Read here: https://www.onecaregiversjourney.com/understanding-managing-chronic-conditions-seniors/

#SeniorHealth #ChronicIllness #Caregiving #ElderCare #HealthManagement #FamilyCaregiver

CPFF 2026 Review: Thank You for Banking with Us

Year: 2024

Runtime: 92 minutes

Writer/Director: Laila Abbas

Actors: Yasime Al Massri, Clara Khoury, Kamel El Basha, Adam Khattar, Salwa Nakkara

By Guest Reviewer Alexei Holloway

“Thank You For Banking With Us” (2024) is a funny and moving look at sisterhood and challenging the patriarchy. 

Noura (Yasime Al Massri) and Maryam (Clara Khoury) are estranged sisters with less than perfect lives. Noura is a beauty clinician who cares for their ailing father while Maryam is stuck in a loveless marriage with children she no longer feels connected to. When their father dies, the two work together to take their father’s money out of the bank before their absent and judgmental brother who lives in America comes along and takes the money and half the house (per Sharia law).

What follows is a funny pseudo-heist as the sisters bounce off of obstacle after obstacle trying to navigate a deeply patriarchal society and arguing with each other. While looking for help from every man they know, they are constantly shut down, told they are sinners and ungrateful daughters, and have no right to ask for that money. Yet, their brother never bothered to care for their father or check in on his sisters. It was Noura and Maryam who cared for their father, feeding him, cleaning up after him, checking in on him. Why should their brother get both the money and half the house when he did nothing? Why do male relatives, husbands, and lovers have the right to tell these women no when they’ve done nothing to help Noura and Maryam survive? 

            Clara Khoury and Yasmine Al Massri are a powerful and hilarious duo. When they are not cursing and arguing with the unhelpful men in their lives, they are arguing with each other, pulling up old wounds and half-remembered fights from their past like real siblings. Yet, when they see how the other lives and are betrayed by the men they are supposed to be able to rely on, they realize all they have ever had is each other. That will never stop them from fighting, but it helps bring them closer together and, with a little help from Maryam’s youngest son Ali (Adam Khattar) enables them to finally work together to get the money they deserve and to properly lay their father to rest. By the end, one hopes that their newly rekindled friendship can also prevent Maryam’s sons from turning into the very men who did nothing to help the women retrieve their rightful inheritance. 

Why measuring dignity matters in Canada’s long‑term care system
#Canada #LongTermCare #Dignity #HealthcareCrisis #ElderCare #Aging #AgingPopulation #SocialJustice #Health #HealthPolicy #CareReform #HealthMetrics #HumanRights
https://the-14.com/why-measuring-dignity-matters-in-canadas-long-term-care-system/

RE: https://social.coop/@jsit/116414143448939580

If I could have it my way, #productivity & #efficiency gains from #AI would pay for the #work that falls through the cracks:

* Support for #eldercare, family care.

* Relief of pressure on the #health system through reduced workloads, patient throughput, administrative overhead and wellness support. Enhanced social supports to prevent chronic health issues.

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Ohio’s nursing homes are dumping patients at homeless shelters

Long-term care facilities in Ohio are increasingly discharging their residents to homeless shelters, according to interviews and facility inspections.

#ohio #eldercare #neglect #homelessness
https://signalohio.org/ohio-nursing-homes-are-dumping-patients-at-homeless-shelters/

Last year NYC's Human Resources Administration (specifically, Adult Protective Services) took over receiving Uncle's monthly Social Security checks, paying his rent out of that income, and then sending Uncle the remainder via paper checks (direct deposit not offered as an option *sigh*).
#elderCare #sandwichGeneration (1/8)

⚠️Fear of falling? We got you.💪🏾

🗣️Grateful for another SPARTA Strength session at Heritage House in Malden, MA with Mystic Valley Elder Services — new residents dropping in, familiar faces showing up strong.

Balance. Strength. Power. And plenty of smiles.😅

It’s never too late to get active.👟

#seniors #eldercare #health #Boston #community #healthequity #fun #empowerment #aging #StrengthTraining #hiit #northshorema #balance #fallprevention #healthyaging

My brother and I took our stepfather's 40+ year old Atari and Commodore over to his assisted living, and got at least a couple games working on the Atari. These computers have moved to at least 3 states and several more houses/apartments than that. Just seeing them there will make my stepfather happy because it makes him think he'll play them in the future, but I'm hoping he actually will. #eldercare #computers

Today I was over at the assisted living that my elderly parent lives at. One of the residents tried to set me up (for a date) with one of the employees. She started off the conversation with "Are you married to a woman?" For context, I'm nonbinary, but female-presenting. She went on to say she thought I would be really good with one of the women who comes to work there. I had to disappoint her by telling her I am married, to a man, and I plan to stick with the person I'm with. I thought it was a really sweet conversation, and I'm pleased that an elderly nursing home resident, possibly with dementia, not only has no problem with gay relationships, but wanted to set me up with somebody. Sometimes I forget that people now in their 80's may well have been hippies and may still be open-minded hippies at heart. My husband also thinks it was a sweet conversation. #eldercare

Uncle had a doctor appointment Monday. I just found out he missed the appointment because the transport van took him to the wrong address. Either the transport company got the rides mixed up, or there were two vans picking up at Uncle's building and he got in the wrong one. 🤦 He's an unreliable narrator so it's impossible for me to tell which is the truth, and from past experience I know attempting to find out from the transport company would be a waste of my time. 🫤
#caregiving #elderCare

#Community, Connection, and Healthy #Aging

🗣️ Attended the Milano Senior Center’s annual Open House today in Melrose, MA. A great reminder of why senior centers matter.

Every class—movement, balance, strength, creativity, social activities—works together to support the whole person.

But the biggest benefit isn’t measured in reps or steps:

🎯Social connection.

It’s the foundation of healthy aging and what keeps people engaged, supported, and smiling.😅

#Boston #eldercare #fitness #life #fun

ICE Raids and Medicaid Cuts Put Both Caregivers and Their Patients at Risk

https://murica.website/2026/03/ice-raids-and-medicaid-cuts-put-both-caregivers-and-their-patients-at-risk/

The societal role of the family caregiver is vital yet often overlooked in our modern discourse. 🏛️🌿

I’m sharing a profound resource by Eleanor Gaccetta: "One Caregiver’s Journey." For those interested in the ethics of care and the personal narratives behind healthcare statistics, Eleanor’s work is essential.

Full details here:
🔗 https://www.onecaregiversjourney.com/book-one-caregivers-journey-by-eleanor-gaccetta/

#PublicHealth #Caregiving #EleanorGaccetta #Sociology #ElderCare #Advocacy

Today when I went over to the Assisted Living where my elderly relative is living, the saxophone player who comes once every 2 weeks was playing, and several of the residents, visiting family members, and staff were up dancing to the old songs the elderly saxophonist plays. It was a joyful thing. #music #eldercare