#dadblog — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #dadblog, aggregated by home.social.
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When You See Yourself in Your Children
Late identification changes the way you see your children. There are moments where you look at your child and something in their experience becomes recognisable from the inside. Not because you're projecting. Because you actually know what it's like to be in that particular internal state. That recognition changes everything.https://journalingwrite.wordpress.com/2026/08/25/when-you-see-yourself-in-your-children/
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What You Want to Give Them That You Didn’t Have
There's a particular difficulty in trying to give your children something you had to build for yourself. When you give something that was given to you, you have a template. When you try to give something you didn't receive, you're building the offering from the absence. And the absence is not the same as the thing.https://journalingwrite.wordpress.com/2026/08/21/what-you-want-to-give-them-that-you-didnt-have/
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Saying the Hard Thing to the People Who Know You Best
You can say the honest thing to a colleague more easily than to the person you share a life with. Not because it matters less. Because it matters so much that the risk of getting it wrong feels significantly higher. The closest relationships are the hardest place to use what you've learnt. -
The Version of You That Comes Home
Every working day produces two versions of you. The version that goes out, calibrated and managed. The version that comes back, which is whatever is left after the day has done what it does. Your partner and children don't live with the first version. They live with this one.https://journalingwrite.wordpress.com/2026/08/14/the-version-of-you-that-comes-home/
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The Closest Relationships Are Where the Work Shows
The internal work was never just about you. You exist in relationship. The version of you that shows up for the people closest to you is the fullest test of what the work has actually produced. Not the journal entry. Not the self-knowledge. The version of you that comes through the door.https://journalingwrite.wordpress.com/2026/08/07/the-closest-relationships-are-where-the-work-shows/
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Parasocial
"Parasocial" is the Cambridge Dictionary's Word of the Year for 2025, defined as: involving or relating to a connection that someone feels between themselves and a famous person they do not know, a character in a book, film, TV series, etc., or an artificial intelligence I was somewhat familiar. I didn't clock a big uptick in the usage in the typical discourse. Of course, I have talked quite a bit about the problems of people falling into parasocial dynamics with AI. Photo by Lucas […] -
Third places
Third Places... refers to places where people spend time between home (‘first’ place) and work (‘second’ place). They are locations where we exchange ideas, have a good time, and build relationships. “Third places” as community builders from the Brookings Institution. It was coined by Ray Oldenburg. Before I became a parent, I had some third places: home bar for dart team restaurants where I was a regular bookstores / comics stores / game stores gym brunch group (we went […]https://polymathparent.wordpress.com/2025/11/13/third-places/