#communityliving — Public Fediverse posts

How to Evaluate and Review Insurance Coverage for HOA and Condo Associations https://downriverpropertymanagement.com/how-to-evaluate-and-review-insurance-coverage-for-hoa-and-condo-associations/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon #Insurance #HOA #CondoAssociations #RiskManagement #CommunityLiving

Espai Verd: Valencia’s Brutalist Co-operative Stairway

An idiosyncratic inventor pitches his dream project at a dinner party; a tussle between a bohemian community and…
#Spain #ES #Europe #Europa #EU #Valencia #AntonioCortésFerrando #architecture #brutalistarchitecture #communityliving
https://www.europesays.com/spain/62378/

‘The nourishing soil of the soul’: The role of #HorticulturalTherapy in promoting well-being in community-dwelling people with #dementia

#Gardening can help people with dementia feel more active, connected, and less lonely by improving their physical and mental well-being. The article highlights the need for more #Accessible gardening programs in the community to support social engagement and a better quality of life.

Summary:

"This article explores how gardening and nature-based activities can improve the well-being of people living with dementia, especially those in a long-term care community. Many individuals with dementia experience loneliness and a decline in their ability to engage in daily activities. Gardening offers a way to stay active, connect with nature, and interact with others. Which can help reduce stress, boost mood, and improve both physical and mental health. Despite strong evidence of its benefits in care homes, horticultural therapy is not widely used in community settings.

The authors highlight the need for more opportunities for people with dementia to engage in gardening, as it can promote social connections and a sense of purpose. They argue that making gardens accessible and integrating horticultural therapy into community care programs could significantly improve quality of life. By encouraging outdoor activities, people with dementia may feel more included, confident, and independent in their daily lives."

Source:
https://rootinnature.ca/research/the-nourishing-soil-of-the-soul-the-role-of-horticultural-therapy-in-promoting-well-being-in-community-dwelling-people-with-dementia/

Article [academic paywall]:
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/1471301215623889

#SolarPunkSunday #HealingThroughNature #SpendTimeInNature #CommunityLiving #AccessibleGardens #AccessibleGreenSpaces #LivingWithDementia #SpendTimeOutdoors

Here's something that I don't think can be said too often in the context of community living, you need to take care of yourself to live well in community. Taking care of yourself is your first duty, then go help others.

#selfcare
#communityliving

https://communelifeblog.wordpress.com/2022/05/16/taking-care-of-yourself-to-live-in-community/

🚗 Tired of your neighbour using your driveway as their personal parking spot?

You're not alone!

Here's how to handle it without escalating tensions: • Understand your rights on private property.

• Check if your driveway boundaries are clear.

• Have a friendly chat to express your concerns.

https://ukpavingtalkgroup.com/go/tswg

#DrivewayDisputes #NeighbourlyRelations #PropertyRights #Ely #ParkingProblems #HomeOwnership #CommunityLiving

Ashiana Housing Brings Back Award Winning Podcast ‘Adding Zindagi to Years’ with Season 2

#TycoonWorld #AshianaHousing #AddingZindagiToYears #PodcastSeason2 #IndianPodcasts #SeniorLivingIndia #ActiveAging #LifeAfterRetirement #RetirementLifestyle #SeniorWellness #AgingWithDignity #IndependentLiving #CommunityLiving #InspiringStories #MotivationPodcast #SelfHelpPodcast #IndiaRealEstate #SeniorCommunities #PodcastIndia #DigitalContentIndia

https://tycoonworld.in/ashiana-housing-brings-back-award-winning-podcast-adding-zindagi-to-years-with-season-2/

Primus Ganges at Srijan Ganga City: Luxury Senior Living Redefined in Kolkata

#TycoonWorld #Kolkata #SecondInnings #IntentionalAgeing #ActiveAgeing #HealthyAgeing #SeniorLiving #RetirementRedefined #IndependentLiving #AgeWithDignity #Healthspan #WellnessLedLiving #CommunityLiving #SrijanRealty #PrimusSeniorLiving #PrimusGanges #SrijanGangaCity #EasternIndia #RealEstateEvolution #ModernRetirement #LifestyleChoice #UrbanAgeing #AgeingWithPurpose

https://tycoonworld.in/primus-ganges-at-srijan-ganga-city-luxury-senior-living-redefined-in-kolkata/

#Capitalism #MentalHealthCrisis #SustainableLiving
#CorporateLife #OffGridLife #SelfSufficiency
#EconomicInequality #EducationSystem #AlternativeLiving #CommunityLiving
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https://open.substack.com/pub/zajey/p/my-journey-in-life-and-how-i-feel?r=7at94t&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

My latest article where I talk about Path 4.Human
#Zajey #ZajeyCi

#Capitalism #MentalHealthCrisis #SustainableLiving
#CorporateLife #OffGridLife #SelfSufficiency
#EconomicInequality #EducationSystem #AlternativeLiving #CommunityLiving

Manasum Senior Living Expands to Tirupati with Launch of ‘Mayura’ Senior Enclave

#ManasumSeniorLiving #TycoonWorld
#MayuraAtTempleTown
#Tirupati
#SeniorLivingIndia
#RetirementLiving
#ActiveSeniorLiving
#SeniorHousing
#AssistedLivingIndia
#IndependentLiving
#AgeingWithDignity
#LuxurySeniorLiving
#SpiritualLiving
#AndhraPradesh
#SouthIndiaRealEstate
#RealEstateIndia
#IntegratedLiving
#WellnessLiving
#CommunityLiving
#RetirementHomes
#HealthcareLiving

https://tycoonworld.in/manasum-senior-living-expands-to-tirupati-with-launch-of-mayura-senior-enclave/

ICYMI: What Condo and HOA Boards Need to Know About Insurance Replacement Costs and Code Compliance https://downriverpropertymanagement.com/what-condo-and-hoa-boards-need-to-know-about-insurance-replacement-costs-and-code-compliance/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon #CondoManagement #HOA #Insurance #PropertyManagement #CommunityLiving

ICYMI: Most-read HOA Resources – Stories of 2025 https://downriverpropertymanagement.com/most-read-hoa-resources-stories-of-2025/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon #HOA #HomeownersAssociation #CommunityLiving #RealEstate #PropertyManagement

Most-read HOA Resources – Stories of 2025 https://downriverpropertymanagement.com/most-read-hoa-resources-stories-of-2025/?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=mastodon #HOA #CommunityLiving #CondoLife #HomeOwners #PropertyManagement

What a Washing Machine Revealed About Community

About six weeks after I moved off the land project in Arizona, I got a text message telling us the community washer we used was broken and that we owed money for repairs. Not a conversation. Not a check-in. A bill. Here’s what it said (redacted):

“The washer you used is broken. It will be repaired and per our agreement you pay if you break it. We’ll let you know the cost.”

What struck me first was the tone. It framed the situation as a transaction, not a relationship.
A bill, not a conversation. And for the record, there was no such “agreement.”

Our last community in Ojai went through seven washers in seven years, so nothing about a machine breaking surprised me. What did surprise me was being held responsible for a community-donated washer six weeks after we’d already left. (Also—how does one even “break” a washing machine? You push the Start button and… broken?)

But it was never about the money.
It wasn’t even about the washing machine.
It was the shift—from trust to accusation, from community to contract, from relational living to transactional living. And transactional living is the quiet death of any community.

Welcome vs. Keep Out

I’ve lived in places where “Welcome” is more than a word—it’s an ethic.
Boulder Gardens is one of them.

Most private properties in this part of the desert are covered in No Trespassing, Private Property, and Keep Out signs (often justified as “liability”). But Boulder Gardens is different. Just today a friendly bicyclist rolled up and said:

“Yours is the only private land anywhere around here with positive signage. Everywhere else it’s warnings.”

He’s right. As you enter Boulder Gardens you see:
“Welcome to Boulder Gardens.”
Soft colors. Friendly lettering.
No gates. No threats. No barbed wire.
Just welcome.

Where people talk about trust but behave like” land-lords”, you begin to realize some places use the word “community” to describe what is essentially a work camp wrapped in spiritual vocabulary

A Sanctuary Built on Service, Not Ownership

Garth’s Boulder Gardens is a square mile of desert that slowly became a sanctuary because people showed up with generosity instead of rules. Garth didn’t believe in rent.

There are stories from the early days when he offered food, shelter, a place to wander, and a stocked communal fridge—and what he asked in return was presence, kindness, and maybe a little help around the fire pit.

And here’s a story that says more about leadership than any spiritual discourse ever could:

Once a week Garth would make his rounds across the property, stopping at every cabin, trailer, and tent. He collected everyone’s dirty laundry—ten people scattered across a square mile of desert—and hauled it all to the laundromat in town. He paid for every load himself with a pile of quarters, waited through the cycles, dried it, and returned it to each doorstep. Pickup and delivery. No charge, no fanfare. His generosity didn’t stop at the property line.

I once watched him in a supermarket when a stranger approached and said, “Garth, do you remember me? I need a little help for food.” Garth didn’t try to recall his face or make him prove anything. He simply reached into his pocket, pulled out the first bill his fingers touched—maybe $1, maybe $20, maybe $100—and handed it over without looking. Whatever it was, it was enough. Garth died with $202 in his bank account.

That is what leadership looks like in a real sanctuary:
service, not power;
humility, not hierarchy;
open hands instead of clenched fists.

Meanwhile, Back in Arizona…

Our deeper purpose on that Arizona land had been to help create a desert Sanctuary but quickly the current shifted, and we began to feel more like unpaid helpers or free labor. Our presence was needed, but our purpose wasn’t seen. When the washer message came, it didn’t begin anything—it confirmed everything.

I responded gently and clearly with a two-page letter. I explained the washer had been donated, that we’d repaired it several times already, and that we’d been gone for over a month with no communication. I said we wouldn’t be paying for repairs now that we were no longer living there.

When Worlds Collide

Community only works when everyone involved is living by the same principles.
If one person believes “shared” means collective stewardship and another believes “shared” means “use my stuff but pay me if anything goes wrong,” then you already have two different worlds trying to occupy the same land.

Eventually the truth comes out—in a washing machine, a torn-up garden bed, a disagreement about labor, or the quiet realization that you’re trying to build a sanctuary while someone else is building a fiefdom. Sometimes the whole truth arrives in a short message about a broken machine.

Communities reveal themselves in the signs they put out—
whether those signs hang on a fence
or arrive as a text message.

intentionalcommunity #gifteconomy #relationalnottransactional #bouldergardens #sanctuary #alternativeLiving #simpleliving #communityliving #degrowth #antiwork

https://redecker.vivaldi.net/2025/12/02/welcome-signs-and-warning-signs/

#Sanctuary #AlternativeLiving #antiwork #bouldergardens #CommunityLiving #degrowth #gifteconomy #IntentionalCommunity #relationalnottransactional #SimpleLiving

Sumner lived at East Wind and does video interviews--I do written interviews. Here I interviewed the interviewer.

#communes
#eastwindcommunity
#communityliving
#incomesharing
#makingvideos

https://communelifeblog.wordpress.com/2022/07/04/communard-interview-7-sumner/

Valencia by FivePoint transforms community living with innovative parks, 10,000 acres of open space, and interconnected outdoor experiences that foster connection and lifestyle enhancement. #CommunityLiving #OutdoorSpaces

Eco-village living and construction, global transformation and volunteer work aren't for everyone. For those who do want these things though, here is an option. Could a global cooperative of eco-villages help write the next positive chapter in the ever evolving human story? We think it can.

https://www.onecommunityglobal.org/one-community-membership/

#EcoVillageLife #CommunityLiving #RegenerativeCommunities #GlobalCooperation #SustainableFuture #IntentionalCommunities #VolunteerForChange #CollectiveAction #BetterWorldTogether

Building Communities, Not Just Homes

At Motherland Developers, we don’t just build houses — we create thriving communities. Our projects are designed for togetherness, security, and shared experiences. Because every great home starts with a great neighborhood.

Know more : https://www.motherlanddevelopers.com/

#MotherlandDevelopers #CommunityLiving #BangaloreHomes #LifestyleDesign #ModernTownships

We have come to a point in our history where we have the opportunity to create a place we can choose to live in integrity with every moment; choosing harmony with ourselves, our circle of friends and family, and our planet as a demonstration of living for The Highest Good of All. This article talks about how this would specifically benefit each individual, but will people do it?

https://www.onecommunityglobal.org/foundations-of-fulfillment/

#HighestGood #IntentionalLiving #CommunityLiving #RegenerativeLiving #Wellbeing

Have you ever wanted to live in an eco-village? Here are plans for 7 different open source models with details under development for how to build them all.

https://www.onecommunityglobal.org/highest-good-housing/

#EcoVillage #SustainableHousing #OpenSourceDesign #Permaculture #CommunityLiving #GreenBuilding #ResilientCommunities #VillageDesign #TinyHouse #SustainableDevelopment

Open source and DIY sustainable energy rollout plan for eco-village construction. Covers from 10 to 400+ people and is usable anywhere, including remote locations.

https://www.onecommunityglobal.org/highest-good-energy/

#EcoVillage #SustainableLiving #CollaborativeCommunity #GreenArchitecture #OpenSourceDesign #RenewableEnergy #EcoInnovation #OneCommunityGlobal #SustainableDevelopment #DIYProjects #CommunityLiving

WWOOF 🍀

Worldwide Opportunities on Organic Farms

WWOOF links visitors with organic farmers, promotes an educational and cultural exchange and builds a global community conscious of ecological farming practices! 🌿🍂

• No fee required
• Free food & accommodation
• Experience farm life and community

Did you know about it?

https://wwoof.net/

#wwoof #wwoofing #worldpacker #workaway #volunteering #communityliving #offgridliving #sustainableliving #slowliving #permaculture #homesteading #regenerativefarming #workexchange #free #gifteconomy

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Accommodation + Food for volunteering in community = Free Living !

Find such communities on this webpage :
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*Information listed is based on website data,
If you want to find more communities you can contact us for help.☮️

#communityliving #antiwork #gifteconomy #selfsufficientcommunities #selfsufficiency #diylife #selfreliance #offgrid #ecovillages #ecovillage #antijob #antimoney #volunteering #communityvolunteering #simpleliving #slowliving #sustainableliving

Letter To A Young Woman

Since last year, I have been attending a course on psychotherapy. During one of its modules, we students were supposed to explore a particular theme personally relevant to us. The theme I explored during that five-day module was belonging. The word first struck me when my peer mentioned it in a one-on-one session. As I heard it, I remembered how, until a few years ago, I had struggled to understand its meaning. So, when it was my turn in the session, I began exploring my connection with that word, and soon uncovered an underlying belief. I noticed that I tend to mix up belonging with codependency or something reductive and limiting. For instance, if I hear someone talk about their sense of belonging to their family, I tend to see that belonging as something that demands a no-matter-what loyalty — often extending to my caste, my religion and country. I seemed to hold the belief that belonging was equivalent to tribalism.

In the next peer session on day two, I continued exploring my belief and ended up with a perennial question: can we belong and be free at the same time? I moved deeper, and then something quietly surfaced. I came in touch with a part that is protective against a certain womanhood.

After that session, we returned to the main room. I looked around at my peers and remembered that they are all women except two. To my surprise, the moment I saw them as women, I experienced an aversion of sorts. Something in me murmured: How dull and predictable they are. Instantly, another part showed up and marked it as a prejudice. That was evident even otherwise, as they all were exceptionally self-reflective, therefore creatively evolving. It was also clear that the aversion I felt was not merely a private thing; it had something of a collective, and even an archetypal nature. 

While acknowledging all these, I wondered, where those feelings emerged from? Why does that part feel this way towards her?

I sat with that part in the next peer session, and another word showed up: Self-centeredness. It seemed that her self-centeredness is what makes me feel unsafe. As I enquired more, another word popped up – Womb. As I started sharing this with my peer, an analogy presented itself. It was about Dickheads and Wombheads. 

Let me explain.

A dickhead is someone whose thoughts and activities underlie a desire to sleep with women; often without any awareness of this motive. He has no deeper curiosity about her or about life in general. He likes her, he likes intimacy, but he doesn’t really know what that means. This man has a counterpart – a wombhead. She likes romancing, to feel all the feelings, which eventually and typically converge into having children. Like the dickhead, she is not always very conscious of all her motives. If desire tends to lead him, being desirable is her preoccupation. She is also not of much curiosity, including about the life that may happen to grow within her or the true scope of it. She cannot really say why she likes to have children; she just likes it.

Once this facile analogy came out clearly, I wondered about my real concerns hiding in this narrative. What do I really mean when I say dick-womb-headedness? I vaguely sensed that there is something limiting and reductive in that way of living. Then, the next moment, came the Light – it is that lack of a deeper curiosity and wonder about life that makes it limiting and reductive. That lack is what makes me feel not-so-safe. I can see how that way of living is natural. It embodies nature’s will to life – to procreate. But is that all there is to our existence? 

For me, it is evident that we all desire something deeper and substantial. But somehow, practically, a dull superficiality is running the show. Each time when I see a wedding ceremony, I’m in touch with both these aspects: there is a genuine intention for something lasting, and then there is a pretentious cluelessness. We settle into the latter eventually, and start to raise children in the same vein. We give those precious beings food, shelter, and some fun as we educate them to be workers and initiate them into the rat race.

As I have been exploring my trauma imprints in the last several years, I realize that the most traumatic experience in my life was the consistent absence of a sensibility from people around me. The absence of curiosity, a poetic tenderness, or a vision of life that is worthy of me. As I look around, I see the same baseness raising our children everywhere with few exceptions.

How do we keep ending up here?

Open-Hearts and Deep Wounds

In Psychology, we have developmental models that describe various stages of a human being’s growth. One such model says that between 7 and 14 years, children tend to be very open-hearted and feel abundant love towards everyone. However, being open-hearted is a very vulnerable situation. When children are not reciprocated with the same sensibility and sensitivity, that openness results in pain and even in humiliation. The consequence is the emergence of a protective-defensive shield that covers the open-heart, so that no more pain is experienced. Tragically, the same shield also dissociates children from their own deeper realms — too often, for a lifetime. We learn how to be with ourselves from how others are with us. I’m not suggesting that things tend to derail only during that particular phase. I picked it up, to make the point clearer. 

It appears that we are in a vicious loop — those who got emotionally stunted at some point in their lives, raising children in the same way. The devastating effects are everywhere to see – from depression, addictions and suicides.

Thus, it has become pertinent to ask what is more to our lives than being a comfort-creature. What is more to our love and sexuality? Why have phallus and womb been sacred symbols of human communities from time immemorial? What is the deeper intention of Nature, underlying our lives? What is the difference between procreation and creativity? Or, the connection between the sensual and the Sacred?

I want to explore these questions first by delving into certain universal conditions of man-woman relating. In that enquiry, I intend to keep women as my main reference. Even though I know that essentially there is no such thing as man or woman, and I want my readers to always keep that in mind, I make that distinction so that our exploration can be well-grounded. If anyone explores gender deep enough, one would necessarily touch upon something Unitive – that which goes beyond gender, relations and even the individual, where the heaviness of categories and conditionings drop. So, keeping that Unitive as a reference, we would later look into how identities tend to crystalize into rigid molds. Yet, we don’t necessarily go into the gender fluid, non-binary aspects of relating in detail, since that might take our discussion away from the key considerations of this writing. In the last parts, we will touch upon the possibilities of intentional communities, in the larger context of the decay of nuclear families. With some reflections on open-hearts, hidden wounds and healing, we shall conclude our journey.

I beg your pardon in advance for any mansplaining.

Sex and the Sublime

Women can get pregnant from sex. This is an enormously disproportionate distinction and challenge for women compared to men, with lifelong consequences. Nothing can be more personal, intimate and sacrificial than carrying a baby within. And after a very short period, there can be no undos and redos about it. Later, while giving birth, there is a real risk to her life. A mere act of sex can turn out to be fatal. Thus, in general, sex cannot be an incidental, spontaneous act for women as it can be for men. It naturally demands from her a deeper contemplation and an envisioning of her life, in a long-term manner.

However, once she decides to bear a child and a new life starts to bloom within her, she gets splendidly complemented by Nature – without this willingness from her side, there can be no human species. 

The period of pregnancy is a period of mindfulness. It demands an embodied, moment-to-moment, inner attunement even when she sleeps. It is a non-dual process too; there is no point of separation where the mother ends and the baby begins. Ideally, all these culminate into an orgasmic birthing of a new Universe, followed by the bliss of breastfeeding. As she intimates with something so tender and pure, she gets in touch with the same realms within – the realms too often denied to her by the world. It is not like the whole process is just rosy and good; instead, the pain, discomforts and even disgust merge with joy to become something inexplicable. All these deepen her, solidly connect her with the Mystical. She gets to experience the entire spectrum of life – from the scariest to the most sublime!                

Yet, to venture through all these well, it is ideal if she has at least one partner with her, devoted to both her and the baby. But unlike women, for a man, such a devotion and the sacrifice it entails is optional. There is no physical necessity that binds him to the mother and baby. If he is not doing it out of social pressure, it is his genuine love and moral integrity that makes him involved. For his sacrifice, Nature abundantly rewards him as well. His carefree naivety transforms into something grounded and mindful. He gets to experience the hitherto unknown poetry and contentment of life, from the heavenly skin to skin touch of the baby, to one of the most beautiful visions of life – a happy woman.

Viewed thus, it is evident that love and sex, made so desirable by Nature, is not merely about procreation, but an invitation to the deeper, higher realms of Being.

One and the Many

A woman can have only a limited number of offspring, if she wants both herself and her children to be healthy. On the other hand, a man can father many more. But if he cares to parent them well, he also needs restrain. 

In other words, there is a demand for discernment from both sexes by Nature; again, primarily from women. She must choose with whom she wants to have a baby. She must pick someone who would heartily care for both her and the baby for a long time. That means, she must take a virtuous man, rather than someone of fleeting excitement. 

To pick from many, she must know what is lasting and what is transient in life, in a nuanced way. She is not choosing just a caretaker, but also a mentor for the child, that is, for humankind. To choose such a mentor, she must know what it means to have a human life – its scope and vulnerabilities. And only when she herself embraces and embodies that wisdom, or is at least genuinely receptive to it, she earns the right to mother. Then alone can she rightfully demand the same from her partner(s). When she is with such a man, her inspiration to raise their child is greater, creating even more ideal conditions for the child.

Like women, Nature has demands on men too. With the natural constraints on time and energy, he must choose where to locate and channel them. And for that, he also needs to know what is lasting and liberative. He must know more than the charming and exciting, as he is also choosing both a mentor for a human being and his Muse. And only when he is self-rooted can he hold a stable space for a woman.

When such a man and woman of shared wisdom or vision come together, there is a possibility to belong and to be free at the same time. In all these, the intention of Nature is clear – it wants humanity to grow wiser, generation after generation. The essence of this wisdom transcends all categories including that of man and woman, and thus, Nature compensates for the differences it created between the sexes. To embody that wisdom is to embody a sense of Sacredness – the Unitive.

Instead, a life that lacks such a wisdom of the Sacred, is bound by the creature-instincts, and the habitual patterns of ego. In the context of man-woman relating as well as that of community life, the difference between these – an ego-driven life and a life based on unitive wisdom – is worth understanding, as here lies the crux of discernment demanded by Nature.

The Ego and the Unitive

Ego, the individual sense of self, has its roots in a unique body-mind. I am this body-mind says ego. There are fundamental consequences for this identification. One is that everything outside of that particular body-mind becomes – an other. Ego and otherness are inseparable – if one has ego, one has otherness too. 

A unique body-mind is something that is perpetually vulnerable. It is always susceptible to sickness, accidents or even death, not to mention failures and humiliations; everything is unpredictable about it. Therefore, an exclusive identification with a body-mind also results in an underlying, constant insecurity. Unlike this ego which is basically exclusive, the Unitive is inclusive of everything. It is The Common in all of us that makes the words us and we, true and meaningful. In spite of the said exclusivity of our ego, if it is aware of the Unitive, and develops an intimate connection with that, a growing openness and a sense of oneness result. As the ego identifies more and more with That – the inclusive and the lasting – both the otherness and the insecurities dissolve. A carefree joy natural to our Being – universally manifested by children – would shine forth.

A newborn begins to develop their ego – the individual sense of self, through the constant interaction with the community. That means, at some point of their growth, if the individual doesn’t get to develop a living relationship with the Unitive, that individual would solely be defined by the community. The individual would understand themselves – the meaning and purpose of their lives – entirely from the demands and expectations as well as the customs and rituals of the community. Here the individual will be incapable of differentiating themselves from the community – it is a codependent relationship. Such a person’s happiness is always at the mercy of the valuation or devaluation of their community and hence are bound to be a conventionalist.

In contrast, when the individual is in touch with the Unitive, they would derive their identity primarily from That. The community identity will only have a corollary status. The Unconditional would counterbalance all the categories and conditionings of the community; their sense of oneness would make them world-citizens, instead of the provincial. Such a person’s relationship with the community is that of interdependence. 

This dynamic of codependence and interdependence plays out intensely in man-woman relating. If one’s self-identity is primarily derived from the relationship with the other, one’s inner peace is also dependent on the other. Therefore, men and women of such relationship dynamics are inclined to please, control and manipulate the other, at the expense of their authenticity. On the other hand, in an interdependent connection, as they are Self-rooted, the dynamic is, to be and to let the other be.  

All these said, ego and its relational/community identifications are degenerative only when they blind us from our Greater roots and hence from our oneness. A human being needs a certain identification with the body-mind to protect itself from, say, a poisonous snake or a maddening world. Ego is a double edged sword – it can be our best friend or worst enemy. Likewise, we all are relational, community beings naturally, without which none survives. An intentional, caring‌‌ community holds certain nurturing ingredients for a human being which cannot be replaced by anything.

The Sacred Sensuality

We have started our enquiry, exploring the greater intention of Nature underlying the sensual, and how the sensual can sublimate to touch the Sacred in an intentional connection. As we moved further, we also gathered the many layers of discernment demanded by Nature, which qualifies us to have such an intentional connection. Now let’s dive deeper to understand love, and also to see how Nature envisions humans to form and sustain intentional communities. 

Love and appreciation, whether kindled by a flower, a starry sky or a beloved, can contain something vast and timeless. Through a unique relationship with something, we get in touch with the universal; a human being becomes an intimate point where the sensual and the Sacred meet and merge into a Whole. Sexual orgasm, a natural culmination of romantic connections, is an example of this embodied, unitive merging. Humans are born out of that orgasmic Wholeness, from a sense of freedom or contentment inherent to it. Viewed in this way, all love implies an innate desire for Union or the potential to realize the Unitive, and that we all want to love and to be loved reveals our source, path and destiny. To live is to love.

Yet, it is one thing to love, and totally another to know what it means to love. It is a pilgrimage from the non-conscious to the Conscious, and it is the discernment that guides us from the former to the latter. On the other hand, when love is instinctively enacted, without the understanding, it can become the most painful and divisive thing we can have, fundamentally altering how humans form communities.

Where There Is No Love, There Is An Institution.

Love is naturally pregnant with care and generosity; it contains its own sacred morality. We all contain infinite shades of love, and if we are free to explore and communicate them respectfully, the resulting communions would organically weave humanity into interrelated communities. 

However, when our love is controlled – as typical in egoistic, codependent connections, and social customs and rituals are built on such a control, instead of abundance and generosity, a sense of scarcity and insecurity descends on us. Love becomes something to be privatized and monopolized. It ceases to be a hearty affair, but a duty and an obligation. Then we would need governments, police and courts or religious dicta to enforce care or even basic decency among us. All our racist, religious, classist divisions are the outcomes as well as the perpetrators of this essential love-control. 

Women and Freewill

The constraints on love are primarily targeted towards women. Without controlling her body or freewill, none of the sectarian ideologies, systemic inequalities, and the narrow interests behind them can survive. Therefore, if we want to transform anomalies that plague humanity, we must start from ensuring that women are free to exercise their sovereign rights. 

But for that, certain material conditions need to prevail for her.   

A woman can be a mother at a very young age, and motherhood is a delicate, vulnerable phase. This makes her, compared to a man, more dependent on the community, including for food and safety of both herself and the child. The need to breastfeed her baby also keeps her close to home – to the relational field. Such needs like feeding her child every day and ensuring their safety continuously, invite her to be more mindful of things at a personal, individual level rather than of impersonal, abstract ideas like society. The same demands also keep her grounded and realistic. 

All these intimate relatedness and dependencies on her immediate community make her inclined to align herself with the given value system of that community. She would rather conform than rebel; she doesn’t have the time or even propensity to reinvent the wheel. 

In the natural order of things, her affinity, her ability to trust and assimilate her ancestors, is a great strength which makes her a natural holder of inter-generational continuity – a non-negotiable for the survival of humanity. But the same strength can be her sore weakness, once her community gets corrupted, owing to factors ranging from displacement by natural disasters to colonization. The loss of ancestral wisdom along with its universal values can be deranging for her. Her inability to feel restful in nature, and preference for urban jungles are, sometimes at least, symptomatic of such shifts.

Yet, what if she becomes aware of all these? She realizes that her (patriarchal) community literally owns her, and that for them her happiness is always secondary to societal customs. Or worse, they are so disconnected that they don’t know what true happiness is. She understands these, but then, where could she go? She cannot just leave her home or community and start sleeping on streets. What are her options? Should she leave the crude patriarchy and submit herself to the exploitive bourgeoisie, to have that so-called independence? In a bourgeois world where everything is a commodity to be sold or bought, there is no question of women being treated differently. That means, there are few actual spaces outside of patriarchy and market-morality that are safe, nourishing and spiritually generative for her and her children.

Women necessarily embody Nature’s will to life, including to procreate. But to fulfill that will in the said situation, she must get along with half-wits and internalize their malformed worldviews. As she – the primary educator, caretaker, and community builder of humanity, gets reduced to such folly, everything becomes compromised. Unless this situation changes for her, nothing else can be fundamentally changed. Even if we make great changes in other realms, if we allow her situation to continue as it is, her will to have children would necessarily pull back and entangle everything with the same regressive contexts. So that, transforming the world must start from ensuring that she has all the opportunities to take care of herself. That basically means the opportunity to be part of intentional communities living in actual spaces. Places where she can deeply, innerly rest, be in nature, play, grow food and flowers, have pets, be with mentors and just Wonder! It would be great if we can have women-only communities as well, for those who need a deeper rest.

When we have such communities, women would be free to choose or demand not just safety and comfort but also poetry and vision. Even for those women who may not join such communities, the knowledge that such spaces exist could be enormously empowering. Likewise, the knowledge that she can leave spaces of exploitation and join other communities if she wills, would itself encourage people to behave.

In the case of men, the constant pressure to feed one’s children (and partner), by participating in a dehumanizing economy, is both numbing and dumbing. There is no way for him to be an ambitious, competitive person from 9 to 7, and to be a sensitive, wise human, for the rest of the day and on weekends. Indeed, he is also in need of intentional communities.

It is quite difficult for a couple to take care of children without an earnest community with them. Exhausted, resourceless couples, often resembling teenagers, have been parenting too many of us for a considerable time. In the natural scheme of life, raising a child is the responsibility of a larger community of elders and peers and is necessary for the wholesome development of the child. Similarly, to grow in the abundance of Nature is the birthright of a child. There are things which children assimilate from Nature – silence, stillness, tenderness, abundance, beauty, vastness, in short, Magic – that no human systems can replace.

If we consider all these along with the free-ranging decay of the modern nuclear family, the relevance of intentional communities cannot be overstated. As mentioned earlier, all such communities can be sustained only when each member has a communion with the Sacred. Then those places could be the wombs of a new and ancient way of being and living, where self-care and common good are unified. However, to embody such an inclusive self-care, certain wounds need to be tended to and healed.

An Inclusive Self-care

If we understand the self only in terms of an individual, abandoning humanity, our self-care cannot result in something truly liberative. This abandonment happens due to many reasons. Following politics and current affairs can be (emotionally) overwhelming. One can feel so helpless and exhausted, that one might need to disassociate from all that to carry on one’s daily life. The language in which we usually discuss issues is also alienating – abstract, impersonal and statistical – like climate change or environmental protection. It also takes resources and skills to practically engage with things that concern us all.

But deep beneath all our apparent insensitivity and disassociation, it is likely that there is a wound covered by the protective shield which I mentioned in the beginning. It emerged to safeguard our open heart – tender, trusting and joyful, which can effortlessly sense our oneness – from getting hurt, in a harsh, abusive world. But the same shield also induces an overall numbness. Tragically, since the protective-numbing shield usually emerges early in our lives, we forget how the experience of life was, when we were truly open. Instead, the numbness grows with us and the resulting superficiality and narrowness becomes the normal.

Despite these, the inner-tender being would want to come out of that numbing shell, to once again feel its own glory. But in order to experience that, we may first need to feel and tend to the deeply buried pain and grief around what has happened to us. Pain or bodily discomforts are nature’s way of inviting our attention and presence to something we are unaware of. Nature would create all sorts of painful situations to make us vulnerable enough to get in touch with our underlying wound. It can be a divorce, a job loss or death. But if we try to distract ourselves from that pain or numb ourselves further with food, sex, work, drugs, social media, shopping, or worse, by hating and blaming people, the core crisis remains. It gets vicious, making us increasingly restless and miserable. If we continue not to heed, the crisis can even manifest as malignant diseases1.

The Magic is that our wound itself carries the cure and the Light. If we give our inner-being a kind presence, as we may give that to a distressed child, without trying to analyze or fix anything, the transformation begins2. One may also need to grieve for all that has happened, to feel all the feelings, without always falling into the loop of self-pity or victimhood. There is no trauma that is just private; each one of our traumas contains the imprint of traumas of all human beings ever lived and living. Hence, when we are healing our trauma, we are indeed healing the whole of humanity.

It may take time for things to show up, transform and heal. One may continue inner-listening, and abandon oneself no more, and one may seek resources – people with the same priorities and books. In that journey of recovery there can be lots of triggers. In my case, I notice that certain situations can trigger me easily, especially if I am tired. Once that happens, I tend to forget our innocence and react as if we are basically mean. However, triggers are messages from Nature, to make us aware of our (unmet) needs, conditionings, and unhelpful situations, so that our transformation can continue unhindered. Even our worst situations contain an underlying Grace that holds and mends. As we heal, that childlike serenity and sensibility would be more and more present. 

I started this writing by sharing how a certain womanhood makes me feel uncomfortable. It, in fact, has nothing to do with womanhood; it is the lack of a wholesome sensibility – whether it’s from man or woman – which invokes such feelings. When we lack that, we treat ourselves and others in a limiting way, which would make all of us feel unseen and unmet. When such situations persist, it becomes difficult to understand what belonging truly means. I tend to project my feelings onto women since as a man, she has a greater, intimate affectivity on me. I have no doubt that many women feel the same way about a lot of men, including me.

As I tread through this not-so-easy, triggering world, I keep a few open secrets close to my heart – our innocence and oneness. If I ever get confused by my own or others’ beliefs or actions, I remember these simple truths: Am I acting in a way that affirms our innocence? Am I doing things that would support and inspire us to embrace our oneness? It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it. One also needs to remember that it is essentially intimacy that the heart rejoices in. One has to ask: what are the things, situations or people that invoke intimacy – that carefree, playful rest within me? Am I letting myself be intimate with flowers, wind and vastness while melting into a Sweetness so much that I forget myself?

With love and reverence,

S.

1. The books When Body Says No – The Cost of Hidden Stress, and The Myth of Normal – Trauma, Illness and Healing in A Toxic Culture, both by Gabor Mate, are excellent treatises exploring these topics.
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2. See A New Earth – Awakening To Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart Tolle
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With the news that the Trump administration's proposed fiscal budget devastates disability assistance programs and would ultimately result in the institutionalization of more senior and disabled American, I expanded my thoughts on why that decision is heartless and evil, while placing it in the context of the overall monstrous eugenicist agenda of both the Trump regime, and the larger ruling Republican Party.

https://www.ninaillingworth.com/2025/06/06/nina-bytes-only-the-able-count-in-trumps-america/

Nina-Bytes: Only the Able Count in Trump’s America

"This ablest ideological plank is built around the idea that Americans who can’t work are not valid members of our society and represent an active drain on limited public resources, which by implication makes them irrelevant, if not an active hinderance to the capitalist order. None of this is metaphoric in nature; you can find numerous recent examples of the Trumpenreich openly acknowledging this relationship between the ability to make a rich person money and human worth. Consider HHS Secretary RFK Jr’s dehumanizing rants about autism and autistic Americans, as well as ongoing GOP attempts to defend the homicidal class war budget reconciliation bill they’re trying to ram through the Senate. These openly eugenicist declarations are always hidden behind a purely symbolic commitment to somehow protect society’s “most vulnerable people” in undefined ways, but the proof is in the policy pudding, and everything about the Pork Reich’s agenda seems to either ignore the existence of, or actively harm, anyone who cannot work even through no fault of their own – including aging and disabled Americans in the labor class."

PS: I apologize for the lazy lib-posting title; my editor was busy when I finished this up yesterday morning and by the time I got it back it was late at night and I was pretty burn out, exhausted, and just happy to hit publish forgetting I'd left that as a placeholder. I promise to come up with something better in the future; my bad, especial since I've used that phrasing a couple times already but sincerely, lol.

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“Without a dedicated agency to champion these programs, millions risk losing the oversight, funding and technical assistance for programs they rely on to live independently. We urge the administration to halt this reorganization and engage directly with the disability community before making changes that could jeopardize their rights and well-being.” https://www.disabilityscoop.com/2025/03/31/trump-administration-to-close-agency-promoting-community-living-for-people-with-idd/31384/ #Disability #AdministrationForCommunityLiving #CommunityLiving #USPol #MAHA #MAGA

Let's consider how our cities can better welcome everyone, embracing those with varying abilities and creating spaces for all generations. 📍 #InclusiveDesign #CommunityLiving

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Putting this out there for my cousin!

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If you’re looking for a random cause to support, why not community living in Owen Sound, Ontario?

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Compressed Earth Block Village (Pod 4) is a sustainable eco-construction project featuring a 2-story half-moon design with 50 living spaces, treatment rooms, classrooms, and communal dining for 1,000. This village promotes wellness, creativity, and the benefits of compressed earth block construction.

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#WorldWar3 No one knows when and if?

But what we can do is talk about it and work towards a peaceful & sustainable tomorrow in whatever way an individual can.

Join our talks.☮️

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Watch this to understand part of the concept behind modern consumerism; "conveniences that we can buy".

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Rubha Phoil hosted a 2 week #permaculture #natureconnection #creativewriting program recently. We had a great time.
Rabbit wrote this beautiful #poem from her #sitspot

Find out more about us: https://www.rubhaphooil.org
or support us https://www.earth-ways.com/projects/transferring-ownership

Our linktree is here: https://linktr.ee/rubhaphoil

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https://youtube.com/shorts/vjfAGrM5HMA

Take a 30 second break from scrolling and watch this sunset.

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This video of a Sunset at Rubha Phoil, Isle of Skye, lasts more than 1 hour. The perfect back drop for a quiet romantic dinner. Or just to relax at.
https://youtu.be/i-xxyGrIuic

If you want to own a piece of Rubha Phoil, click here: https://www.earth-ways.com/projects/transferring-ownership

Our linktree: https://linktr.ee/rubhaphoil

Why is understanding birdlanguage so important for a permaculture designer?
https://youtu.be/3PuA3zusw2Y
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CONFIRMED Outbreak

Facility: #CommunityLiving Central York
Type: #AssistedLiving
Unit(s): Site A
City: #RichmondHill #Ontario
Public Health Unit: #YorkRegion

Type: #Respiratory
Causative Organism: #COVID19
Onset Date: 2023-09-03
Classification: Confirmed

CONFIRMED Outbreak

Facility: #CommunityLiving York South
Type: #AssistedLiving
Unit(s): Site B
City: #RichmondHill #Ontario
Public Health Unit: #YorkRegion

Type: #Respiratory
Causative Organism: #COVID19
Onset Date: 2023-08-21
Classification: Confirmed

https://youtu.be/i6FYONphSjI
A day here at Rubha Phoil; a lot of connection (with human & non-human beings), creative writing, time observing the natural world, learnings about permaculture practices, & sharing time around the fire 🌀

Get involved & immersed in our community by visiting our linktree: https://linktr.ee/rubhaphoil
You can even buy a little piece of our Sacred Rock!

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Workers at the #CommunityLiving Association of #SouthSimcoe (CLASS) have been #reinstated after the #union #protested their #firings last week.On Tuesday, March, 7, between 100 & 200 #OPSEU union members held a rally outside the facility’s Allison location to protest the #workers being let go.
The three developmental service workers alleged they were #fired for raising #concerns about what they claim is a #dangerous #WorkEnvironment at CLASS.

https://globalnews.ca/news/9556057/ontario-service-workers-reinstated-fired-speaking-out-safety-concerns/amp/

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Saint Andrew laying down the case for a new definition of family (a new definition I'm actively pursuing! My family is looking for housing! and more family! Help us out? Join us? Pls?)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmqNSCe0w2w

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