#codependency — Public Fediverse posts
Live and recent posts from across the Fediverse tagged #codependency, aggregated by home.social.
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So my codependency has made sort of a shambles of my personal life, but I will say that I'm doing much better at work at not feeling like I have to be responsible for everything and doing things that are really other peoples' responsibilities to do.
So, go me. Feels good.
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So my codependency has made sort of a shambles of my personal life, but I will say that I'm doing much better at work at not feeling like I have to be responsible for everything and doing things that are really other peoples' responsibilities to do.
So, go me. Feels good.
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boy, the Third Agreement is HARD.
~ Don't Make Assumptions ~
(The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz)
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boy, the Third Agreement is HARD.
~ Don't Make Assumptions ~
(The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz)
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Learn about the difference between #love & #limerance.
https://anniewright.com/limerence-vs-love-how-to-tell-the-difference-and-why-it-matters/If you're codependent, you're much more prone to fall into limerance traps. When you learn the differences, you can avoid those traps, better ✌️
#Relationships #SelfAwareness #SelfImprovement #BeingHuman #Codependency
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Learn about the difference between #love & #limerance.
https://anniewright.com/limerence-vs-love-how-to-tell-the-difference-and-why-it-matters/If you're codependent, you're much more prone to fall into limerance traps. When you learn the differences, you can avoid those traps, better ✌️
#Relationships #SelfAwareness #SelfImprovement #BeingHuman #Codependency
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Ah, the classic tale of "my partner is my entire universe" 🌌, where #codependency is rebranded as romantic enlightenment 💘. Apparently, fulfilling one's social needs with a single person is now considered a relationship goal, rather than a cautionary tale 😅. Who knew #isolation could be so... encompassing? 🤔
https://andys.blog/the-best-relationships/ #relationships #romanticenlightenment #socialneeds #HackerNews #ngated -
Ah, the classic tale of "my partner is my entire universe" 🌌, where #codependency is rebranded as romantic enlightenment 💘. Apparently, fulfilling one's social needs with a single person is now considered a relationship goal, rather than a cautionary tale 😅. Who knew #isolation could be so... encompassing? 🤔
https://andys.blog/the-best-relationships/ #relationships #romanticenlightenment #socialneeds #HackerNews #ngated -
Some truths arrive in the body before they become language. This essay explores relational recovery, self-abandonment, and the quiet moment when knowing arrives before readiness.
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Some truths arrive in the body before they become language. This essay explores relational recovery, self-abandonment, and the quiet moment when knowing arrives before readiness.
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We’ve been taught to call it love, but what if it’s just another high? From “you don’t get me high anymore” to “I don’t know how to live without this,” the language hasn’t changed but the substance has. If you need someone to function, that’s not romance.
#Music #Pop #Songlyrics #DemiLovato #Phantogram #Psychology #Addiction #Dopamine #MentalHealth #Codependency #Neuroscience #ToxicRelationships
https://pablohoneyfish.wordpress.com/2026/04/24/the-neurochemical-architecture-of-desensitization-phantograms-you-dont-get-me-high-anymore-and-demi-lovatos-wasted/ -
We’ve been taught to call it love, but what if it’s just another high? From “you don’t get me high anymore” to “I don’t know how to live without this,” the language hasn’t changed but the substance has. If you need someone to function, that’s not romance.
#Music #Pop #Songlyrics #DemiLovato #Phantogram #Psychology #Addiction #Dopamine #MentalHealth #Codependency #Neuroscience #ToxicRelationships
https://pablohoneyfish.wordpress.com/2026/04/24/the-neurochemical-architecture-of-desensitization-phantograms-you-dont-get-me-high-anymore-and-demi-lovatos-wasted/ -
Militant activists are often driven by unconscious #codependency ~ it is easier to “save the world” than it is to work on your own #shadow and be content with #authenticity as a form of rebellion.
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Militant activists are often driven by unconscious #codependency ~ it is easier to “save the world” than it is to work on your own #shadow and be content with #authenticity as a form of rebellion.
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CW: trauma bonding, substance use, emotional abuse, gaslighting, addiction
I thought it was love. But my nervous system knew better.
If you've ever wondered why you can't just leave someone who's destroying you — this is why.
Full blog:
https://theembodiedpractice.co/was-it-love-or-mdma/#TraumaBonding #NervousSystemHealing #AttachmentTrauma #Codependency #MentalHealth #Healing
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CW: trauma bonding, substance use, emotional abuse, gaslighting, addiction
I thought it was love. But my nervous system knew better.
If you've ever wondered why you can't just leave someone who's destroying you — this is why.
Full blog:
https://theembodiedpractice.co/was-it-love-or-mdma/#TraumaBonding #NervousSystemHealing #AttachmentTrauma #Codependency #MentalHealth #Healing
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Crown
A #poetry threadi.
My Lady stood within an arch
and wore her weighty crown of stone.
She gave her hand and I embarked
on a great quest I should have known.As we walked, she steadfastly sighed
about the burden that she bore.
She dropped her veil and then she cried
that her long neck was tense and sore.🧵👇🏼
#poem #poemaday #potsdam #monochrome #blackandwhite #codependency #divorce #photography
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Crown
A #poetry threadi.
My Lady stood within an arch
and wore her weighty crown of stone.
She gave her hand and I embarked
on a great quest I should have known.As we walked, she steadfastly sighed
about the burden that she bore.
She dropped her veil and then she cried
that her long neck was tense and sore.🧵👇🏼
#poem #poemaday #potsdam #monochrome #blackandwhite #codependency #divorce #photography
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By middle age, I finally noticed how much of my life I wasted befriending narcissists and trying to reform toxic work environments.
Most of my twenties and thirties, really. Very eye-opening.
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By middle age, I finally noticed how much of my life I wasted befriending narcissists and trying to reform toxic work environments.
Most of my twenties and thirties, really. Very eye-opening.
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A quotation from Marcus Aurelius
Often have I marvelled how each one of us loves himself above all men, yet sets less store by his own opinion of himself than by that of everyone else.
[Πολλάκις ἐθαύμασα πῶς ἑαυτὸν μὲν ἕκαστος μᾶλλον πάντων φιλεῖ, τὴν δὲ ἑαυτοῦ περὶ αὑτοῦ ὑπόληψιν ἐν ἐλάττονι λόγῳ τίθεται ἢ τὴν τῶν ἄλλων.]Marcus Aurelius (AD 121-180) Roman emperor (161-180), Stoic philosopher
Meditations [To Himself; Τὰ εἰς ἑαυτόν], Book 12, ch. 4 (12.4) (AD 161-180) [tr. Haines (Loeb) (1916)]More about (and translations of) this quote: wist.info/marcus-aureleus/4378…
#quote #quotes #quotation #qotd #marcusaurelius #marcusaureliusmeditations #codependency #ego #insecurity #integrity #opinion #opinionofothers #reputation #selfassessment #selfesteem #selfimage #selflove #selfopinion #support #validation #vanity
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Brutally efficient, ‘A Trail of Blood’ is a great title of realistic psychological horror centered on the relation between a mom and her son.
Make sure you can handle the subject first because you will be shaken.https://mangaispolitical.noblogs.org/post/2025/10/15/review-chi-no-wadachi/
#absentfather #abuse #abusivemom #BigComicSuperior #Codependency #comics #drama #DysfunctionalFamilies #emotionalabuse #family #familypressure #feminism #Horror #incest #manga #mangareview #MentalIllness #mother #motherandson #motherhood #neurodivergence #OshimiShuuzou #patriarchy #Police #Psychological #psychology #review #Romance #school #SchoolLife #seinen #SliceofLife #socialsciences #Thriller #toxicmasculinity #Tragedy #trauma #suicide
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Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True "Break Free From Over-Functioning, Over-Delivering, People-Pleasing, and Ignoring Your Own!" Sale: $19.99 to $1.99 by Terri Cole Rating: 4.8/5 (1,715 Reviews) #Boundaries #Codependency #Books #SelfCare #Communication #PersonalGrowth #BookSky
Boundary Boss: The Essential G... -
Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True "Break Free From Over-Functioning, Over-Delivering, People-Pleasing, and Ignoring Your Own!" Sale: $19.99 to $1.99 by Terri Cole Rating: 4.8/5 (1,715 Reviews) #Boundaries #Codependency #Books #SelfCare #Communication #PersonalGrowth #BookSky
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CW: Mental Health Journey
Day 5 of being off of Trazodone after a month long taper. First time I’ve felt mostly normal in over 2 months.
4 sessions of #EMDR in the books, really getting to my core wounds now. Tough work.
Beginning to do the tough work of healing from #codependency.
I always thought knowledge and awareness of trauma and mental health would spare me pain. But I’m beginning to realize some things are just painful, and healing takes time.
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CW: Mental Health Journey
Day 5 of being off of Trazodone after a month long taper. First time I’ve felt mostly normal in over 2 months.
4 sessions of #EMDR in the books, really getting to my core wounds now. Tough work.
Beginning to do the tough work of healing from #codependency.
I always thought knowledge and awareness of trauma and mental health would spare me pain. But I’m beginning to realize some things are just painful, and healing takes time.
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Turnkey
A #poetry thread—
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I walked into a prison cell
and closed the wrought iron gate behind.
At first the place felt harmless — well,
my gentle jailer seemed so kind.Although I held a golden key
to turn the gate’s old rusty lock,
for years I knelt obediently
each time my jailer came and knocked.🧵👇🏼
#poem #poemaday #codependency #mentalhealth #monochrome #blackandwhite #photography
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Turnkey
A #poetry thread—
i.
I walked into a prison cell
and closed the wrought iron gate behind.
At first the place felt harmless — well,
my gentle jailer seemed so kind.Although I held a golden key
to turn the gate’s old rusty lock,
for years I knelt obediently
each time my jailer came and knocked.🧵👇🏼
#poem #poemaday #codependency #mentalhealth #monochrome #blackandwhite #photography
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A big part of overcoming (anxious attachment-style) #Codependency is knowing when to take a pass on other people and their weird psychic black-hole vibe.
Goes for groups, too. Maybe *especially* for groups.
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A big part of overcoming (anxious attachment-style) #Codependency is knowing when to take a pass on other people and their weird psychic black-hole vibe.
Goes for groups, too. Maybe *especially* for groups.
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How the US kept EU military small as a strategic
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYFpiwyTXcU#military #Europe #SelfSufficiency #Codependency #CripplingPolicies #DefenceCapabilities #Politics
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Rest in power, #MedodyBeattie. May your memory be a blessing.
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CW: CPTSD, trauma, family, "tricky families", codependency, recovery
short video on the codependent parent that doesn't leave a bad situation and teaches the child to submit and make-do with the bad situation: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/TmYZB018jss
these parents can often feel like "co-victims" with the child, and when the kid grows up, the kid might realize that this adult actually had power and didn't use it to keep either themselves or the child safe. this can result in a lot more mixed- feelings towards this "slightly more safe" parent (compared to the more obviously abusive parent), and that might require a lot more internal work to resolve.
i definitely had this dynamic in my house growing up, with my mom being the codependent that always urged me to just go along with whatever narcissist dad wanted (and she still does!). i once asked her how long we were supposed to play pretend and she said "until he dies". i say "no thanks" and live far far away.
my mom definitely taught me to be submissive and to manipulate to get what i needed from dad (who of course held all the $ and power in the family, despite being the most childish and immature member).
i can't help that she wants to play weird games with him, but i certainly don't have to be a part of that.
and a few years ago, i did have to accept that she wasn't a co-victim but was an active part of the family system (acting in the role of the codependent). it was painful, hard, and i felt a big sense of betrayal. but i'm glad i faced that and am now on the other side of it, able to see both my parents more clearly for who they are.
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CW: CPTSD, trauma, family, "tricky families", codependency, recovery
short video on the codependent parent that doesn't leave a bad situation and teaches the child to submit and make-do with the bad situation: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/TmYZB018jss
these parents can often feel like "co-victims" with the child, and when the kid grows up, the kid might realize that this adult actually had power and didn't use it to keep either themselves or the child safe. this can result in a lot more mixed- feelings towards this "slightly more safe" parent (compared to the more obviously abusive parent), and that might require a lot more internal work to resolve.
i definitely had this dynamic in my house growing up, with my mom being the codependent that always urged me to just go along with whatever narcissist dad wanted (and she still does!). i once asked her how long we were supposed to play pretend and she said "until he dies". i say "no thanks" and live far far away.
my mom definitely taught me to be submissive and to manipulate to get what i needed from dad (who of course held all the $ and power in the family, despite being the most childish and immature member).
i can't help that she wants to play weird games with him, but i certainly don't have to be a part of that.
and a few years ago, i did have to accept that she wasn't a co-victim but was an active part of the family system (acting in the role of the codependent). it was painful, hard, and i felt a big sense of betrayal. but i'm glad i faced that and am now on the other side of it, able to see both my parents more clearly for who they are.
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#NowReading “#Codependency No More” by Melody Beattie.
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#NowReading “#Codependency No More” by Melody Beattie.
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It’s not yet been a month since I stopped talking to my #family after the election.
Got a text from my mom today asking if there’s time we can talk, “…I feel like that I would at least like to be able to talk to you before this goes any further.”
I gave them several months notice that this would happen prior to the election. I hate the #manipulation and guilt. There was no apology in the text. More of the same. I don’t think I’m ready to open this door.
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It’s not yet been a month since I stopped talking to my #family after the election.
Got a text from my mom today asking if there’s time we can talk, “…I feel like that I would at least like to be able to talk to you before this goes any further.”
I gave them several months notice that this would happen prior to the election. I hate the #manipulation and guilt. There was no apology in the text. More of the same. I don’t think I’m ready to open this door.
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Hotel, hostel (🧵10/10)
Even now that hooking hotel calls,
a sultry siren who woefully wails
and summons her guests — or thralls? —
to deep sleep in her heavenly jail.#poem #apoemaday #poetry #writing #mentalhealth #addiction #codependency
🧵✋🏼
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Hotel, hostel (🧵10/10)
Even now that hooking hotel calls,
a sultry siren who woefully wails
and summons her guests — or thralls? —
to deep sleep in her heavenly jail.#poem #apoemaday #poetry #writing #mentalhealth #addiction #codependency
🧵✋🏼
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Children of parents who have a mood or personality disorder, marital discord, are addicted, or overwhelmed with stress can feel lonely, invisible, and unlovable. It happens even when a parent is involved but not emotionally attuned to their children. This trauma leads to shame. #adultchildren #adultchild #acoa #childofaddicts #affectedothers #alanon #mentalhealth #feelings #trauma #shame #guilt #codependency #struggling #neglected #familyoforigin #neglect #emotions #selfesteem #boundaries
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You're not supposed to hate Cain the story. You're supposed to look at him through the eyes of a grieving mother who believed that he was the answer to all her problems.
You can relate to Eve, because we've all put our trust in something and had it fall apart on us.
#theology #codependency #problems #bible #torah #genesis #Eve #mother #grief
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CW: CPTSD, trauma, family, recovery
Sometimes I wonder why I have a pretty low sense of agency, like, I don't have confidence in my ability to make things happen in my life.
Part of that is certainly being beaten down by ye ole capitalism over and over. And living in a shack that I can't really maintain, and watching it slowly fall apart around me, that can't help.
And then I remembered something my mom told me before I got my current job, when I was really quite down and wondering if I'd ever have financial stability... She looked at my lackluster attempts at being an artist and said "well, I guess you'll just have to find a rich man to marry!", as if rich men are clamoring for nearly-40-year-old women who live alone in the woods.
But that's her attitude. She's a boomer lady from the former USSR. And that's what I grew up with - her own sense of powerlessness (from the culture she grew up in and years of being put down by dad and shitty jobs), and her projections of that onto me.
Obviously it doesn't explain everything, and someone's sense of agency is a complicated question, but it helps to remember what a lifetime of parenting by a codependent will do to you, especially when they train you up to be a codependent as well. 😭
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Can anyone recommend any books on #codependency / #codependence that don't mention the 12 Steps, God, or a higher power?
It doesn't feel like it should be a big ask, but every list I can find has this one book at the top that opens with a Bible quote... :D