#codependence — Public Fediverse posts

Here’s the part most people never see:
Traditional marriage — the structure, not the individuals inside it — is built on relational assumptions that naturally produce #codependence.
Not because anyone intends harm, but because the #architecture itself requires certain roles to function.

https://survivorliteracy.com/2026/05/15/traditional-marriage-as-a-codependence-architecture/

Here’s the part most people never see:
Traditional marriage — the structure, not the individuals inside it — is built on relational assumptions that naturally produce #codependence.
Not because anyone intends harm, but because the #architecture itself requires certain roles to function.

https://survivorliteracy.com/2026/05/15/traditional-marriage-as-a-codependence-architecture/

Dr. Stan Tatkin: “The purpose of a relationship is fundamentally grounded in safety and security: not love, not attraction, not romance. If you’re not providing that need to ensure each other’s sense of #safety and #security, it defies the whole psychobiological purpose of being with another person.”

#quotes #assertive #positive #self #selfStudy #learning #joy #disappoint #couple #intimate #relationship #relationships #friendship #support #empathy #protection #codependence #concern #Tatkin

Dr. Stan Tatkin: “The purpose of a relationship is fundamentally grounded in safety and security: not love, not attraction, not romance. If you’re not providing that need to ensure each other’s sense of #safety and #security, it defies the whole psychobiological purpose of being with another person.”

#quotes #assertive #positive #self #selfStudy #learning #joy #disappoint #couple #intimate #relationship #relationships #friendship #support #empathy #protection #codependence #concern #Tatkin

Hi, All!

I wonder if you would be willing to share any insights or experiences you might have navigating the following (boosts appreciated)

1. #Codependence / enmeshment within a romantic partnership and the resulting loss of self / self knowledge / being in touch with your own desires

2. Navigating partnership in which one person is dealing with chronic #disability

Thanks!
#askFedi

Hi, All!

I wonder if you would be willing to share any insights or experiences you might have navigating the following (boosts appreciated)

1. #Codependence / enmeshment within a romantic partnership and the resulting loss of self / self knowledge / being in touch with your own desires

2. Navigating partnership in which one person is dealing with chronic #disability

Thanks!
#askFedi

I'm trying so hard to work my way through The Artist's Way right now. *So hard*.

But I also have a ton of responsibilities to people who genuinely need support, plus it's the holidays and that's always stressful, plus this entire year has been a flaming shit dumpster, plus I have a deep-seated need to feel like a good person by sacrificing myself for others (apparently).

So that's all going great. 💀

#writing #anxiety #codependence #art

#20books № 13: OKAY FINE I've only seen the film BUT I think about it enough to include the #book here also what are you the 20books police get a life far out

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/17605621-behind-the-candelabra

#Liberace #narcissism #enmeshment #PsychologicalAbuse #autobiography #biopic #books #TrueStory #codependence #SelfObject

Can anyone recommend any books on #codependency / #codependence that don't mention the 12 Steps, God, or a higher power?

It doesn't feel like it should be a big ask, but every list I can find has this one book at the top that opens with a Bible quote... :D

Can anyone recommend any books on #codependency / #codependence that don't mention the 12 Steps, God, or a higher power?

It doesn't feel like it should be a big ask, but every list I can find has this one book at the top that opens with a Bible quote... :D

This afternoon, I have been researching #codependence, #domesticviolence, #substanceabuse, and what constitutes stalking in the state of California. My heart is completely shattered.I have also been looking into #burnerphones.

I can also include #homophobia, #bankruptcy and #borderlinepersonalitydisorder, but I am trying to keep things simple right now.

This afternoon, I have been researching #codependence, #domesticviolence, #substanceabuse, and what constitutes stalking in the state of California. My heart is completely shattered.I have also been looking into #burnerphones.

I can also include #homophobia, #bankruptcy and #borderlinepersonalitydisorder, but I am trying to keep things simple right now.

Is #Marriage Worth It?
Can long-term #do more harm than good? Where is the line between #intimacy and #codependence?

https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9kZmhfdmVyVg/episode/YmE0MzUwZjgtMzFiYS00MjdkLWI0ZmUtYTVmZGUxNGY1M2Fl?sa=X&ved=0CKkCEM-BB2oXChMImMin0obQggMVAAAAAB0AAAAAEAE

Is #Marriage Worth It?
Can long-term #do more harm than good? Where is the line between #intimacy and #codependence?

https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9kZmhfdmVyVg/episode/YmE0MzUwZjgtMzFiYS00MjdkLWI0ZmUtYTVmZGUxNGY1M2Fl?sa=X&ved=0CKkCEM-BB2oXChMImMin0obQggMVAAAAAB0AAAAAEAE

Sorry, this is paywalled content.

This describes both of my #EggshellParents and my childhood, along with #alcoholism (dad) and #codependence (mom, me).

I barely made it out alive, and didn't escape its destructive effects until my #marriage blew up and brought everything I'd repressed to a roiling boil.

#AdultChildrenOfAlcoholicsAndDysfunctionalFamilies #ACA saved my life in 2012 https://adultchildren.org/

https://www.stylist.co.uk/relationships/family-friends/eggshell-parents/789578

https://apple.news/AE3NOPEQESbaK6M_ajthsiA

PSA: Never attempt face-to-face breakup with #AI chatbot. #Bing #Microsoft #Codependence

Anne #Lamott: “We can’t arrange peace or lasting improvement for the people we love most in the world. […] Help is the sunny side of #control. Stop helping so much. Don’t get your help and #goodness all over everybody.”
https://www.ted.com/talks/anne_lamott_12_truths_i_learned_from_life_and_writing/transcript?language=en&subtitle=en #people #relationships #friendship #support #empathy #protection #codependence 🐻#benevolence #kindness #addiction #simpleEnglish #mentalHealth

#introduction, cont’d

My #Spiritual path has included #Addiction, #Codependence, and #Recovery, #Depression and thoughts of #Suicide, luckily punctuated my #OOBE #OutOfBodyExperiences proving to me anyway #AstralTravel is real.

I’ve practiced #Channeling, am a #ReikiMaster-Teacher able to Initiate others, former volunteer w #DistantHealingNetwork

I’ve been a moderator for #SelfInjury support groups, made a lot of friends diagnosed #DID and suspect I’m #Multiple too.