#cisallies — Public Fediverse posts
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RE: https://eldritch.cafe/@Tattie/116979233461714226
Whether you're a GP, family, friend, acquaintance, cishet or whatever flavor of LGBTQIA+, do not do this to a trans person. Ever. It is so *extremely* difficult for most of us to get the courage to come out in the first place, especially in this day and age. Learn how to support properly in word and action, and do that. It could literally save a life.
#transrights #transgender #lgbtqiaplus #transrightsarehumanrights #cisallies
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I hope people find these articles useful, and if anyone has any requests, I’d be more than happy to help. As long as I have experience with it, I can’t write what I don’t know.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/supporting-your-loved-one-through-their-gender-transition-6356a7498249?sk=2e05697f84699367dbc5e0831a3fd0b2 -
What nobody ever tells you is that when the love between any two people is under pressure, communication becomes even more important than it already was. Even more important and infinitely more difficult. You’re both becoming different people, and you’re changing in ways that neither of you understands. It can be a scary, confusing and overwhelming time for both of you.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/the-importance-of-communicating-when-your-loved-one-is-transitioning-144ebbf475e9?sk=cbb29294fd967cb6cfd4064ccd50f93f -
What I didn’t know, what I had no notion of, is how much paperwork is involved in being #transgender! During the early stages of his transition, it seemed as though there were endless forms for him to fill in and research for us to do.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/so-much-paperwork-involved-in-being-transgender-54ed5fb51415?sk=23eaf4aebb81f84be828354d1de3be91 -
I worry like it’s my full-time job. I never used to, but apparently, with age and various trauma comes debilitating anxiety. So, there we go. Buckle up, kids. And, if, like me, you overthink like you’re getting paid to do so, there are a few things that can kick that into hyperdrive. Someone you love coming out as trans is one of them.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/coping-with-worry-about-your-trans-loved-one-cbdd1b190549?sk=c401da9c289fa26feb8e52911e2a99dd -
The two people I thought would cause the most friction became his biggest cheerleaders. And the one person I thought would be Ally of the Year turned out to be Wanker of the Week.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/supporting-your-trans-loved-one-through-rejection-f71db19d6bda?sk=103cd249d1f621e9b08cf8aa39954bb7 -
In this article, I will be talking about the changes I saw in my husband when he started taking testosterone. All information has been cleared by him, and he has given full permission for me to share it.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/testosterone-changes-turn-and-face-the-stranger-fbc7fe6302d7?sk=d3cf16d5fa1511692e850c59c7450c07 -
Support can be shown in weird and unexpected ways. It looks and sounds different for everyone, but there are some basic things you can do to support your trans loved one.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/what-support-for-your-trans-loved-one-looks-sounds-like-95e7034bb5d8?sk=14eea1b1cab72b6514b54a7f690755d3 -
Not everyone who asks you these questions is being deliberately hurtful. Some are, but not everyone. You will probably be able to spot the difference between these three groups quite easily. If you can’t, you’ll definitely learn.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/inappropriate-questions-comments-about-trans-people-33917d94f2c9?sk=8a2b592adf303beb4949817cba3a73c1 -
Some people leave clues, some don’t. There’s no right or wrong way to come out. People have to do it when it’s right for them and them alone.
If and when someone comes out as trans to you, try to make sure you...
https://medium.com/prismnpen/what-you-do-when-someone-comes-out-as-trans-to-you-08344b8284b1?sk=bde17edb1f802ac54d25cfeeac9e8e75 -
Since I came out as a trans man, my wife has struggled to find any help or resources for partners, so she decided to write her own support “guide”.
This is part of what she’s learned, in her own words.
https://medium.com/prismnpen/dealing-with-common-misconceptions-about-trans-people-600ec943fda8?sk=582fd15551fc66e75315413525f8765c