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  1. Here are the #flowers that someone at work bought for me. I only realized a few days ago that the feelings that I have for him are the #asexual #aromantic equivalent of a crush: a #squish

    I'm not asexual or aromantic but the attraction that I feel for him is. I would also like to issue an apology to the asexual community while I'm at it: I have never understood asexuality before at all as someone who identifies as #hypersexual , but like many other members of the #queer community, asexuals and #aromantics suffer from erasure of their experiences and existence, as cisheteropatriarchy conditions people to ignore bonds and relationships that aren't strictly familial or allo/hetero/romantic. In hindsight I think I have experienced squishes perhaps a handful of times before but didn't understand what I was feeling or have language for it.

    I think I understood aromantics on paper as people who just don't "fall in love" but never understood that those type of feelings could exist without any romantic or sexual component.

    A lot of this stuff is tricky and complicated to communicate about precisely because our culture doesn't usually talk about this stuff and therefore doesn't have great language for it! All I can say is that I was confused and frightened about what my feelings meant in the context that they occurred until I properly understood them and realized that it's the actually easiest, most straightforward and most wonderful bond I've experienced in a really long time. I also think he understands our relationship as much as he's able.