#amatonormativity — Public Fediverse posts

Preemptive FAQ:

"But they don't mean it like that!" - You are the exact kind of person this post is about. If it doesn't bother you, that's a very privileged position to have, whether you realize that or not. A reconsideration for one word to be more inclusive is nowhere near the amount of effort and stress that those whom it does bother feeling like they have to keeo their heads down lest they become the next problem to soove again.

"I'm part of those groups and I don't feel that way." - Glad for you, genuinely. Please don't oppose those who do, we get enough to fight against already.

"What if we use 'people' instead?" - No.

"What drop-in replacement should we use, then?" - You don't. The whole point is to think about whom we include when and why. Feel free to look at Our profile for inspiration, though.

#amatonormativity #LGBTQIA+ #NoAI #LLM #slop #plural

"have you ever #thought about how #amatonormativity is so prevalent that it twisted the word "#relationship" to generally mean "a #romantic relationship" in normal #conversation. saying "I'm in a relationship" should be an inane #statement. everyone is in #relationships dipshit it came free with your membership card to a #social #species. but alas"

https://www.tumblr.com/nando161mando/790637057401896962

Wusstet ihr, dass eine Online-Blumenhandlung den 28.5. als Tag des Lieblingsmenschen ausgerufen hat? Wir haben ein paar Funfacts zu Feiertagen und ein paar unkommerzielle Ideen für euch, falls ihr Lust habt, euch das Datum als Feiertag der queerplatonischen Beziehung zu krallen.
#Aromantik #TagDesLieblingsmenschen #queerplatonic #amatonormativity

https://aktivista.net/2025/05/27/der-28-mai-ein-neuer-tag-des-lieblingsmenschen/

The publication pipeline has been a little slower for me lately but excited to see this journal article come out into the world! Thanks to Nicole Seymour for patiently co-authoring this baby with me.

This link is free access for 3 months, so grab it while ya can! Abstract follows.

This article outlines a theory of aromantic and asexual film aesthetics exemplified in a reading of the surrogacy comedy Together Together (dir. Nikole Beckwith, US, 2021). Contextualizing this analysis within the long genre history of the romantic comedy, the article argues that this film constitutes a challenge to the presiding atmosphere of compulsory sexuality in contemporary culture by focalizing a platonic intergenerational friendship, highlighting the quotidian charms and pleasures of that nonsexual and nonromantic relationship, and portraying it as both nurturing and finite. ...

#asexual #aromantic #amatonormativity #AroAceAesthetics #FilmStudies #RomCom #TogetherTogether

https://tinyurl.com/h73h59sf

once a person wrote of my rope workshop, in a slightly lamenting tone, that people were "too casually dressed and that it was technical, not sexy".

proudly.

my take on that is intentional. people who want to dress up and/or flirt and/or play can go to so many places.

people who could be sex repulsed or averse, or just not be in the mood, or just had a breakup (having a partner, if one wants, even for 5min, is a privilege not everybody shares), the socially anxious, people with concentration difficulties, or some of the above or even all, all can practice and learn their knots in peace.

my take on sex positivity is the same as anything else. inclusivity is less "all should be possible and who doesn't like looks other way" , but finding consensual group compromises to include more people.

some needs are better acomodated than others, also in queer circles. we need to have a talk about that (it is also normativity).

#bondage #aspec #amatonormativity #SexPositivity

There is a widespread #myth about that everyone will or should eventually have romantic feelings or engage in romantic relationship because that's "normal". The implication being that if you do NOT do these things, you are not normal, something is wrong with you.

This myth is known as "#amatonormativity". It is wrong. ❌

In reality, there is a wide variety of people in the #aromantic spectrum who destroy this myth every day by literally just existing. 😛

#ASAW #aro #LGBTQ

However as an #aro I didn’t like the heavy #amatonormativity since it’s ok to be single and you can be happy (like me!) #aromantic - you don’t have to defined or sad for not being in a relationship

As a side note to my last toot…
Did other #trans people whose egg broke later in life spent years having “not exactly a crush, I just want to spend all my time with you” on people of their actual gender and orientation?
(I wonder if the gender and orientation in question are a factor too, given #amatonormativity and #genderstereotypes.)
#transition #queer