Mom shares how having active parents as a grown adult makes a huge difference
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Mom shares how having active parents as a grown adult makes a huge difference
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Boomer grandma says it's ‘okay’ to vacation with adult kids, while their spouses stay home
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https://www.europesays.com/2489091/ Baby Boomer ‘terrified’ kids will blow $80 million inheritance: ‘Odds aren’t good’ #AdultKids #BarefootInvestor #business #BusinessOwner #FashionLabel #inheritance #PersonalFinance #ScottPape
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Baby Boomer ‘terrified’ kids will blow $80 million inheritance: ‘Odds aren’t good’
The Barefoot Investor Scott Pape has given some hard truths to a wealthy business owner planning to leave…
#NewsBeep #News #Personalfinance #adultkids #BarefootInvestor #Business #businessowner #fashionlabel #Finance #inheritance #PersonalFinance #ScottPape #UK #UnitedKingdom
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Baby Boomer ‘terrified’ kids will blow $80 million inheritance: ‘Odds aren’t good’
The Barefoot Investor Scott Pape has given some hard truths to a wealthy business owner planning to leave…
#NewsBeep #News #Personalfinance #adultkids #AU #Australia #BarefootInvestor #Business #businessowner #fashionlabel #Finance #inheritance #PersonalFinance #ScottPape
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https://www.europesays.com/uk/495290/ Baby Boomer ‘terrified’ kids will blow $80 million inheritance: ‘Odds aren’t good’ #AdultKids #BarefootInvestor #Business #BusinessOwner #FashionLabel #Finance #inheritance #PersonalFinance #ScottPape #UK #UnitedKingdom
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Daughter Found Out She Has A Serious Hereditary Illness, But When She Learned Her Parents Hid It For Years, She Called Them Selfish And Went Low Contact » TwistedSifter
Pexels/Redidt Finding out you’ve inherited a life-changing illness is devastating enough, but realizing the people who sho…
#NewsBeep #News #Health #adultkids #aita #GB #geneticdiseases #huntington'sdisease #irresponsibleparents #lying #picture #Reddit #top #UK #unfairsituations #UnitedKingdom
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Congratulations!
Harry just told us that he got his first job offer. One month and six days after graduation. Excellent work, Harry! I think I am going to burst with pride!
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#adultKids #collegeGraduate #congratulations #Family #grownUpKids #jobOffer #Kids #Nikon #nikonZ5 #photography #pride #proud #proudStepFather #StepKids #workForce #z5
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Substack
Right folks, what are our thoughts on Substack? I subscribe to a handful of them but I only ever actually read stuff from the guitar player who used to be in The Blake Babies (and I’m just thinking that it is really getting to be time for another Blake Babies reunion record, don’t we think?) and one film photographer from youtube who lives somewhere in the wilds of New Hampshire. Truthfully, I don’t read every post from those two users but I read some of them. Sorry.
My first thought when I learned about Substack was nope, I’m too old for that shit. The Blake Babies guy is older than I am though… he’s also 100 times cooler and a lawyer (yikes) and his cred level is 100000000 times mine… though any number that quantifies your credibility is higher than my complete and total lack of credibility, right?
My second thought was… it’s an email newsletter. Anyone who would be dumb enough to subscribe to mine would mark me as spam within a couple of days of my pointless brain droppings.
Still… am I thinking about it? No… but… yeah, no.
What else, what else… new camera coming soon. The USPS tracking number says it will arrive on Saturday. That doesn’t give me any time to shoot and develop a test roll before I go on vacation, but I had already decided not to bring a film camera on vacation this time. I’m going all digital on this trip.
Part of my initial film camera attraction was using fully manual, mechanical cameras. I didn’t want any automation at all. I didn’t want anything electronic. This time? The new camera has autofocus. Oh praise be, it has autofocus! I’m getting blinder by the minute and manually focusing is a bitch. Wearing bifocals (well, progressive lenses) makes it so much worse. Now I am going to be able to autofocus with film and oh how the heavens will sing in gleeful glee.
What else? This is traditionally the longest week of the working man’s life. The full work week before a vacation. One day down, four endlessly long and painful days to go. But hey, there’s a new camera and a vacation at the end of it! There’s two carrots on the end of this week’s stick. The best part? Both kids are coming on this trip. We’re going as a full family. How cool is that? Both kids are in their 20’s and we can still get them to come on vacation with us. Life is pretty fucking cool sometimes, don’t you think?
I should join Substack and write a big article about it.
#adultKids #blogging #cameras #Family #grownKids #grownUpKids #StepKids #substack #Travel #Vacation
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Travel Plans and Parental Controls
Bellana came home late last night. Late enough that I was asleep. I woke up at 4:00am for some reason and checked the driveway and her car was there. Wonderful! My step daughter is home!
By 8:30am though we had dropped her off at the airport. She’s flying to Denver, meeting a friend, and then driving back to somewhere in North Carolina. From there she’s going to Atlanta and flying to Orlando where she will meet up with the rest of us for our Disney trip the week after next.
That’s a lot of traveling!
Her flight hasn’t boarded yet, but according to flightaware.com it is still on time. Safe travels, Bellana! We love you!
On an unrelated note, I think I need to set up parental controls on my computer. I think I need to block ebay. Yeah… I bought another camera last night. What the fuck, Robert? This one is a 35mm with autofocus. It has a 50mm lens too. Bonus! I still don’t think I will take any film on our vacation, but it is pretty clear my self imposed two month film hiatus isn’t going to last more than a few days. Oh well. I tried.
While we’re on the subject of film, I got a notification from the lab I sent the last batch of film to that it arrived. That was Thursday afternoon. I was hope hope hoping that I would receive word that the scans were available yesterday but I gots nuttin’. I doubt they’ll be working over the weekend, so hopefully early next week we’ll have the results. I’m optimistic that the five medium format rolls come out okay. Four of them might at least. One of them might be a smidge under exposed. I had the light meter app on my phone set wrong during one roll. Dumb ass. Everything else (hopefully) was free of user errors or dumb ass fuck ups. Fingers crossed.
#adultKids #destination #Family #filmCameras #filmDeveloping #filmPhotography #GearAcquisitionSyndrome #grownUpKids #StepKids #travelPlans
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Back to Normal
The cats were very displeased with us when we got home last night. They hid for a while before coming into the room with us but keeping their distance. By morning they were being super affectionate again. Actually, they seemed more affectionate than usual. Maybe they were just starved for attention. Two days without humans constantly baby talking to them must have seemed like an eternity.
Jen and I are both back to work. We’re both really tired. We were so busy this weekend that it feels like we need a weekend to recover from our weekend. I won’t be getting one though. This week at work has the potential to be pretty rough. Here’s hoping the universe takes it easy on little old me.
We have to put a pause on the celebration of my step son Harry for a day. Today is my step daughter Bellana’s birthday! Happy Birthday, Bellana! WOOHOOO!! A couple of weeks ago I was sad because I had a birthday that moved me from my early 50’s squarely and undeniably into my mid 50’s. Today sees a similar (though less depressing) thing for Bellana. She moves from her early 20’s squarely and undeniably into her mid 20’s. The poor thing. The poor, still very young, thing. Heh, sorry.
Apart from the birthday celebration everything is back to normal. I even looked at the long range weather forecast and as expected, it calls for rain next weekend. Of course.
#adultKids #backToNormal #backToWork #birthday #catRevenge #Family #grownUpKids #happyBirthday #homecoming #Kids #StepKids #Travel
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What a Weekend
We are home. Graduation weekend is over. Two things happened. One, my step son graduated from UVM and that is amazing and he is amazing and its all amazing. Two, rain. Constant, never ending, drowning, soaking rain. The whole time. Rain sucks.
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#adultKids #collegeGraduation #collegeKids #Family #graduation #grownUpKids #Kids #Nikon #nikonZ5 #StepKids #universityOfVermont #UVM #z5
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Big Event This Weekend
There is a big deal happening this weekend. It’s been four years in the making. I guess technically it has been 22 years in the making but it’s the last four that really count.
My step son, Harry, is graduating from college! The University of Vermont’s commencement weekend festivities kick off tomorrow and I am so proud of Harry that I legitimately fear that I am going to spontaneously combust. Like, ka-boom and stuff. He has grown up to be such a fine human. Brilliant, kind, a deep seated hatred of donald trump the orange shit clown. He’s a far better man than I am, and this weekend is all about him. A Bachelors Degree in Psychology. Good work, Harry!
We’re heading up to Vermont as soon as I punch out of work tonight. I can’t wait to spend the weekend celebrating Harry and his accomplishment. It’s going to be a great time… even though… the forecast is calling for rain during the Sunday morning outdoor commencement ceremony. That might suck. Everything else though, I can’t wait!
#adultKids #collegeGraduation #collegeKids #commencement #Family #graduation #grownUpKids #Kids #StepKids #universityOfVermont #UVM
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Rain
The kids are at a concert with their father and their step mother. Jen is working. I’m sitting in the living room typing this and looking at a sleeping cat or two.
I want to shoot film at sunrise but I can’t because New England in April means rain on the weekends. Not just the weekends, of course, it just seems that way. Every Thursday or Friday I start looking forward to the weekend and I check the weather forecast and it’s always the same. It is always rain. Rain and gloom. Even the Red Sox have been in a rain delay for the last hour and a half or so.
I wish I could have made it into the city to join in on the Hands Off demonstrations today, but the kids were here and I would rather be with the kids than almost anything so I happily stayed home. One of these days there will be a certain ridiculously tall old person with red hair in one of those Boston throngs, I promise.
Until then, here’s a photo of Lily that I took a few minutes before she jumped up onto the ottoman and curled herself into a ball and fell asleep.
https://www.flickr.com/photos/robj_1971/54432778705/in/datetaken/
I think Jen and I are going to do dinner via DoorDash tonight. It’s a special day for us so we need to do something nice to celebrate. 18 years ago today, on April 5, 2007, we went on our first date. As special days go, today is a big one. I love her so much, and it all kicked off 18 years ago today. Our relationship is old enough to vote, assuming the u.s. will still have elections… you know… nazis in charge and all. Oh shit, I just brought politics into my happy first-date-aversary message. Fuck me. Sorry about that.
#adultKids #Cat #collegeKids #Family #firstDate #firstDateAnniversary #firstDateaversary #grownKids #grownUpKids #handsOff #handsOffBoston #handsOffDemonstrations #handsOffProtests #iphoneography #Jen #Kids #Kitty #marriage #photography #Politics #StepKids #trumpIsAFascist #trumpIsANazi #trumpIsEvil
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Happy
The kids are here. They got here about 2.5 hours ago. We had dinner as a family.
I am happy. I am always happy when they come home.
#adultKids #collegeKids #emptyNest #Family #grownKids #grownUpKids #Kids
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He’ll be Proud
My step son, Harry, will be proud of me. I just finished watching Better Call Saul. He really wanted me to watch it. He was raving about it all the time. Now I’ve watched the whole series and he can finally talk to me about it without worrying about spoilers.
FYI, it’s as good as everyone says it is. Go watch it.
Subject change. I mentioned that I bought a few new guitar pedals over the last week. I haven’t had a chance to try them out yet. I’m debating whether I want to integrate them into the board I use at home, or should I make a brand new pedal board instead. I’m leaning toward a new board. Just for a while at least. Just for schnitzengiggles.
Subject change. We have a couch delivery scheduled for this morning. The delivery window they gave me is pretty long. It extends into my work day and it overlaps two scheduled meetings. Here’s hoping we get lucky and the truck gets here early enough to not mess anything up.
Subject change. Our mouse hunting cats had a target last night. We woke up in the middle of the night to see them chasing a gross little teeny tiny rodent around. At the time, the little bastard got away. We don’t see any signs of the prick this morning, but the cats are clearly still on high alert. We live in the woods. One of the biggest rivers in New England runs smack through our town. Mice are a part of life. Still… go get the little home invading asshole, cats. Do your job. Protect your house.
Okay. Time to go start the day. That delivery truck is going to be here… eventually.
#adultKids #betterCallSaul #Cat #Cats #collegeKids #couch #delivery #effectsPedal #effectsPedals #Family #furniture #grownUpKids #Guitar #GuitarGear #GuitarPedals #Kids #Kitty #mice #mouse #mousers #newCouch #newFurniture #pedalBoard #StepKids #Television
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The Day So Far
The car has new breaks and new tires.
A couch has been purchased and a delivery has been scheduled.
My step son is home safe and sound even though I’d much rather he were still here with us. The nest is empty once again. Boo.
All that remains is to go grocery shopping and to cook dinner. I think I’ll get started on that now.
#adultKids #collegeKids #emptyNest #Family #grownUpKids #Kids #plans #saturdayPlans #StepKids #thingsToDo #toDoList
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Good Morning
My step son is going to be leaving us pretty soon. I’m sad. The potential for a bummer mix of a day is pretty high. I’ll try to make the most of it. We’ll see.
We had plans for today but I think we’re going to scrap them, or completely alter them, or flat our replace them. I don’t know. Maybe I should just go back to sleep. That would be fun, eh? It’s almost 8:00am. Time for a nap! WOOHOO!
#adultKids #collegeKids #Family #grownKids #Kids #plans #StepKids #toDoList #weekend
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Missed Opportunity
Today is our last full day with my step son Harry in the house. He’s heading back to Vermont in the morning so he can go to work in the afternoon.
I’m sad that he’s leaving. I’m even sadder that today is an in the office day and I’m going to be away from home until dinner time.
Crud.
#adultKids #collegeKids #Family #grownUpKids #Kids #StepKids
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Plans Change… or I Got Them Wrong
I thought we were going to have both kids at the house until Sunday. Why did I think that? I was wrong.
Harry is leaving on Saturday. I’m not sure what time of day. Bellana’s leaving today. Boo. Sometime this morning she’s going to head back to Vermont to go to work this afternoon.
As always, I am sad when one of the kids leaves, but also really happy that they were here at all. They are adults now and both live their own lives and I respect that. I just love them both so much that I selfishly want them around all the time.
#adultKids #collegeKids #Family #grownUpKids #Holidays #Kids #StepKids #vermont
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New Years Eve Bonus!
The plan was to have dinner with the whole family after Jen and I finished work for the day. Then my step daughter, Bellana, was going to head back to Vermont. After that we, meaning me, my wife Jen, and my step son Harry, would ring in the New Year together by probably watching a movie or something. Harry was planning to go back to Vermont on Sunday so we’d have him here for the rest of the week.
Now things have changed! Bellana’s Vermont plans have fallen through and she is staying with us until Sunday too! BONUS!
Our Happy New Years Eve plans just got happier! Both kids are here for the holiday! Awesome!
#adultKids #collegeKids #Family #grownUpKids #Holiday #holidayPlans #Kids #NewYear #newYearsEve #StepKids #surprise
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Merry Christmas
Santa Claus came. Mostly. He still has a couple of things to finish before the kids wake up, but it’s 6:30am and there are presents under the tree for the kids.
The kids are both home. Bellana got here a smidge before midnight last night. We’re all here now and all is right with the world.
HoHoHo! Merry Christmas!
#adultKids #Christmas #christmasDay #collegeKids #Family #grownUpKids #Holiday #Kids #StepKids #xmas #xmasDay
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Last Christmas on Film
Just prepping myself for tomorrow by looking at some film photos from last year.
https://www.flickr.com/photos/robj_1971/52663792848/in/album-72177720301306543
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#adultKids #collegeKids #Family #filmPhotography #FUJISUPERIA400 #grownUpKids #KENTMERE400 #Kids #PentaxK1000 #PentaxM1250mm #photography #StepKids #xmas
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Xmas Eve
Are we all ready? Tomorrow is xmas. It is xmas eve. It’s time to get the last minute details wrapped up. Dot those holiday i’s and cross those holiday t’s.
I need to hit a couple of stores. One being a gas station and another being a grocery store. Good times. I don’t expect humongous, insane crowds or anything*.
My step son has been here for days. My step daughter will be here tonight, but not until super late. Maybe even after midnight. She has a gig in Vermont and can’t come home until after. Both kids will be here for xmas morning though and that’s what counts.
Now that the holiday is actually here, can I start feeling a little xmas spirit? I mean before it’s too late? I don’t know… tomorrow will suffice if that’s all I get. HoHoHo and shit.
*Yeah, that’s sarcasm. You could tell that by the context, right?
#adultKids #collegeKids #emptyNest #Family #grownUpKids #Holiday #Kids #StepKids #toDoList #xmas #xmasEve
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Cellar Dweller
My step son, Harry, is home! He was here when I got home from work last night and it was wonderful having him around. Having kids here makes me happy.
Him being home today means that I am working from the office desk in the cellar instead of the desk in his room. I am a cellar dweller again while he’s home. Today is Friday and I am working from home. Next week I will be in the office on Monday and then I am off for xmas eve, xmas day, and I took a vacation day for the day after xmas. So one day working in the cellar is all I need. I can handle it. Not that there’s any difficulty working in the cellar, I just like being upstairs more. That’s all.
I do have one thing planned for my lunch break down here in the cellar where no one can see me…
https://www.flickr.com/photos/robj_1971/54216645274/in/dateposted/
I setup a gift wrapping station. Let’s see how much of the remaining pile of presents I can get through while I eat my chicken patty and fries. Bring on the work day so I can get to it. Two working days left before Santa comes. Still much to do in that little amount of time. Let’s do this thing!
#adultKids #collegeKids #emptyNest #Family #grownKids #Holiday #iphoneography #Kids #officeSpace #photography #StepKids #workFromHome #workSpace #wrappingPresents #xmas #xmasGiftWrapping
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Holiday Traffic
Word on the street (pun intended) is that traffic is really crappy tonight. I still have almost two hours to go before I finish work and go out to brave the roads, but I am not looking forward to it.
What I am looking forward to is seeing my step son tonight. He’ll probably be getting to the house while I’m stuck in traffic. All the more reason to be happy about the commute situation (yes, that was meant to be very sarcastic).
I really want to go home now. One hour and 47 minutes to go.
While we wait, here are two pictures I took while putting gas into the car this morning… because that’s related to the overall topic, right?
https://www.flickr.com/photos/robj_1971/54214542838/in/dateposted/
https://www.flickr.com/photos/robj_1971/54214710855/in/photostream/
#adultKids #canIBeAPhotographyYoutberNow #collegeKids #commute #emptyNest #eveningCommute #Family #gasStation #grownKids #iphoneography #photography #stepSon #traffic #trafficJam
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Write Something
I feel this almost overwhelming need to write something today, but I don’t have anything to write about. Usually I when the drive gets annoyingly persistent I can come up with something to prattle on about, but today I am drawing a blank.
The Bruins won. That’s two wins in a row on a road trip that started out awful. I think the last game of the trip is in Edmonton tomorrow night. Can they beat the Oilers? I would say probably not, but I didn’t expect them to beat Calgary last night either so what do I know.
I keep seeing the Boston Red Sox mentioned as potential destinations for big name free agent players. Unfortunately I heard the same thing over and over again during last year’s off season and we landed exactly zero big name free agents. We’ve made a big trade to get a potential ace starting pitcher. Will that be a sign of better things to come this winter? Who knows.
Harry is coming to stay with us this weekend. He was supposed to be coming over on Friday at some point but now he’s coming on Thursday! For those of you reading this at some future date allow me to clarify by stating that Thursday is tomorrow! Nice! I am working in the office tomorrow so I have to move some of my stuff out of his room before he comes over. When he’s home his room is… ya know… his room. When he’s not home, his room is my office. The only thing I need to move is a backpack and some camera stuff that is sitting on the day bed, and a table I have been using as a gift wrapping station. All of that needs to move down cellar to the space I use as an office when he’s home.
What else… what else… anything else? I don’t know. My lunch break is over. I have a meeting in about half an hour. I think I need to wrap this one up. Will it scratch today’s weird “write something, you dope” itch?
Probably not.
#adultKids #Baseball #blog #blogging #BostonBruins #BostonRedSox #Bruins #Family #grownUpKids #Hockey #homeOffice #homeOwner #Kids #MLB #NHL #office #RedSox #StepKids #write #Writing
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Today’s Agenda
So Robert, what’s the plan for this fine December Saturday?
Oh nothing…
First I pick up the antibiotic cream stuff that was prescribed for the mess that is my left eye (ouch). Then I put some clothes in a backpack and maybe some gas in the car and maybe pack up some protein bars and snacks and water bottles. You know, like you do.
Then Jen and I hop into the car and mosey on up to New Hampshire to pick up my mother in law. Then we mosey on over to Vermont to meet up with the kids.
Then, later tonight, it’s nothing special. We just go to see my step daughter, Bellana, perform with the Vermont Symphony Orchestra again. They are doing a string of holiday shows this weekend and tonight’s the night for us. She’s in the chorus. You know, the Vermont Symphony Orchestra Chorus. Nothing special.
(Your humble narrator takes a moment to squeal with pride and glee)
I mean… is your step daughter in the Vermont Symphony Orchestra Chorus? No? Oh. Groovy.
Road trip!
#adultKids #classicalMusic #collegeKids #Family #grownUpKids #Kids #Music #orchestra #roadTrip #StepKids #Travel #vermont #VermontSymphonyOrchestra #vso
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Empty Nest
And just like that, our very full nest is an empty nest again. Harry left this afternoon and Bellana left a few minutes ago. They are both heading home to Vermont.
It was a wonderful weekend and I loved every second of it, but now I am sad. Jen and I will have dinner together and I’ll probably be pretty mushy and lovey (no spoilers) because I know she’s sad the kids are gone too.
Getting old sucks but it’s better than the alternative.
#adultKids #collegeKids #emptyNest #emptyNesters #Family #grownUpKids #Holiday #holidayWeekend #Kids #StepKids
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December
Good morning and welcome to December. Ugh. If I were looking on the bright side I’d say something like, one day closer to spring… but we haven’t even hit winter yet. December sucks.
Thanksgiving Part Two was a huge success. Dinner was fabulous, thanks to my wife. The xmas decorations are all up. I plugged in the lights on the outside of the house (that I never took down after last year) and a couple of short strands are out. I’ll have to figure out what to do about that. We had the annual Muppets Christmas Carol viewing. We did not manage to get a watch of Elf in, but maybe we save that for xmas eve?
Our kids are still here. They are both going back to Vermont today. One is going after breakfast, the other after dinner-ish. I love every second we can get with them here. I selfishly hate to see them leave but we are actually going to see them again next week. There’s something huge brewing in Bellana’s world and next weekend is when it hits. We’ll be there for it.
Until then, tomorrow I go back to work after a glorious five day weekend and I am sad about that. What can you do. I’ll be in the office which is making it feel worse, but oh well.
December is here. I put it off for as long as possible. Oh well, what can you do.
#adultKids #collegeKids #Family #Holidays #Kids #StepKids #Thanksgiving #thanksgivingWeekend #xmas
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My step daughter is here!
My step son is here!
Bellana and Harry are both here!
Literally everything is better now!
https://robertjames1971.blog/2023/12/25/the-kids-are-here-2/
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I bought 26 some black towels for the dorms when he started college. He didn't like them so they eventually ended up back here. Every time I would try to send him home with them, he would use it to dry off his dog and then leave it here. I had only one towel left and when he was out of town, I brought the last towel back to his house and cackled maniacally.
I returned home on a flight at 3:30 this morning and opened the door to find the black towels in the entryway. ALL OF THEM. 😡
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@ravenking89 and I are binge watching "craig of the creek," god this show is great
#adultkids #kidagain #CraigoftheCreek