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I done blogged again. Sorry.
This one's about masking. Specifically, why I think the discourse around it is a bit one-sided. Some of my masks are genuinely useful. Some of them I actively like. The entertainer one in particular has been putting in a shift lately.
https://theaardvark.co.uk/in-defence-of-the-neurodivergent-mask.html
I did it! I worked for 25 minutes on a task I'd been putting off. It doesn't seem like much but when it's tough to do anything requiring brainpower I'll count this as a win
#executivedysfunction #acutallyAutistic #audhd #adhd
After a long time getting stuck doomscrolling and not being able to stop that habit, I'm finally able to limit my time online.
The most important part was figuring out WHY I wanted to spend less time on social media, and writing a script for the arguments "tired-depressed-angry me" makes when I'm tempted to break my own rule.
None of the other methods like software blocks etc work when the person I become when I'm tired, depressed and angry doesn't agree with the reasons for changing the habit in the first place.
Scripts like:
"Yes, it's true there are good things about being online, and I can experience those good things from x to y time every day."
"I really do feel bad about myself if I've been online too much. I'd like not to feel that way. I have decided that for myself, I don't care what others think."
"I have a list of other things I can do that I enjoy when I'm low, and that list is right here, let's look at it."
As a teenager I'd often help sell donuts in the high school cafeteria at lunch time for charity
Looking back now through late realized eyes,
Great way to socialize without being social
Small number of interaction scripts
Repetitive routine
After university I volunteered on a crisis line. Later when I started training people I'd joke that many came to improve their social skills. I now understand I was one.
Today I got my hearing aids for my sensory processing issues!!
It's a microphone and a receiver that I can connect to my noise cancelling headphones. The microphone is designed to only pick up the sound of the wearer or the person it's pointing at, so their voice is amplified while the rest is filtered out.
It also has a "table mode" where it picks up sound from all directions for when I need to listen to multiple people.
I'm so happy, can't wait to try it out when I visit my family and for next semesters university lectures! :happy_flappy_hands_emoji:
@[email protected] #acutallyautistic #neurodivergent #disabilityaids
Something the people in my life struggle to understand about my experience...
Positive change is still change, and thus, often comes with a period of overwhelm, anxiety, and panic.
Excellent news can be as overwhelming as terrible news, especially if that excellent news results in a long list of changes to be made.
"I thought you'd be stoked." - I'm sure I will be, after I'm done collapsing under mountains of change. But first, panic, anxiety, and tears.
@AndorianSoup this is why I love keyword and hashtag mutes. I can enjoy some of a user’s content but filter things that wind up being not great for me to be spending cycles on or commenting. Once I see it the wheels unavoidably begin turning. #AcutallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #fediverse
I genuinely think my #aphantasia affects my ability to play go (and I guess chess) well. You sort of need to be able to visualise positions, and I can't do that. Any other aphantasics out there experience this?
@actuallyautistic #acutallyautistic
Newly self-DX. I find I cannot sleep well, or sometimes at all, with any music, TV, etc. Too much light will also interfere with sleep.
All that with the caveat that exhaustion can change that at a moment's notice. I was recently diagnosed with #AFib, so exhaustion is a thing. Other chronic conditions (such as #fibromyalgia) can do the same.
Realizing I am #AcutallyAutistic has helped with some things.
I see a question, and I want to help others and answer it.
After all, it was slammed into us as children in school to answer written questions.
These days I check first.
Did they ask the question and immediately answer it with a link?
Shake your head at them. And probably mute them.
If they have to ask the question, they shouldn't be providing the answer they expect.
There are better ways to get people's attention.
Ah #AcutallyAutistic fun times. I had to fill in a form "at least 5 days before my ADHD appointment." They rang last week to give me my appointment and said I hadn't filled in the forms. I explained that as I didn't know when the appointment was, how was I supposed to fill it in at least 5 days before?
Now, to me that's perfectly logical but I do realise that any day in the last 6 months would have worked. My brain simply needed to know the date so I knew it was definitely 5 days before. Fun.
Remember how yesterday I was fretting over a romantic prospect and the message I sent him?
It just occurred to me today that I infodumped.
Someone recently asked "how do we flirt as autistic people" and someone answered "we infodump." I was scratching my head... but yep... there it is.
I guess he got his first lesson in handling autistic people: deal with infodumps. 😱
It is definitely one way to show care. I care not to disappoint people. I care not to lie to them. So I infodump. When I match with someone, and we're chatting, I have less opportunity to infodump because I don't want to send messages that are walls of text.
However, this was on a forum, and we were sending direct messages, so I had plenty of opportunity to write at length.
What are some of your special interests that energize you, and that you could do for hours?
Do you ever find it difficult to resist the urge to info-dump on your friends about a special interest?
@KitB I wouldn't think so. (I never collated mine; they do vary in time, but then again I'm not #acutallyautistic, I only seem so often.)
Some of the wonderful neurotypes that, when all mixed together with a sprinkle of harmony, allow us to build a nicer world for everyone.
#ADHD #Bipolar #Anxiety #Depression #Stuttering #OCD #Autism #Tourettes #PanicDisorders #Neurotypicality #Dyslexia and
#PersonalityDisorders
#AcutallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD
maybe like other #acutallyautistic people, I have a whole bunch of things I'd like to research:
- growing algae in small spaces
- generative art
- how technology is used in Brazilian favelas
- Sudanese news
And trying hard to form habits:
- reading 15 mins before bed
- learning a language for 10 mins when I wake up
- playing a computer game after work for 30 mins
- exercise
@MistyMelanie @actuallyautistic @Tooden Only very mildly #snark. More #exasperation about keeping up with how to be #acutallyautistic the #rightway on #mastodon. One of my #autistic features is #followingrules. So if the rules changed, I definitely want to know.
Heute bei Wikipedia "drüber gestolpert":
Donald Gray Triplett (born September 8, 1933) is an American man known for being the first person diagnosed with autism.
Is this why so many of us prefer cartoons and anime?
#acutallyautistic
Lol
https://www.psypost.org/2022/11/autistic-people-outperform-neurotypicals-in-a-cartoon-version-of-an-emotion-recognition-task-64294
X: So, since you are #AcutallyAutistic / in #SoftwareTesting - you must be very detail-oriented.
yeah no
Intuition, patterns, strategy, and trends are my game.
We are all kinds of people.
Before I researched the #acutallyautistic tag I found it a little offensive, it played to my self doubt and imposter syndrome, now I understand it it applies to autistic person rather than the family and friends of autistic people it makes much more sense and I am happy to use it.
I wonder how many tags are misunderstood and misinterpreted initially.